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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 7:26:54 PM | | Really if you think about it... it is very simple. Look at the build of a man. Everything on a man is mean to give. Look at a woman, everything on a woman is meant to receive. Women express their love in a more emotional way and by receiving. Men express their love by giving. Not only that but you can get spiritual about it as well. Men are commanded to love their wives unconditionally because that is where we have trouble or even fail. Women are commanded to love their husbands physically cause that is where they are challenged. A man can easily say "why are women so materialistic" a woman would say not so... women want security. Sex is not meant for the woman to manipulate but to motivate and protect her man emotionally. To restore what the world takes away daily in his fight for security, or materialistic gain. The most twisted and deteriorated workings of this kind of relationship is prostitution. The proper God created way, is a mutually fulfilling relationship where boths needs are met. Preferring one another over themselves. Deep meaningfull and intimate. Stive for this with someone who also is striving for this and you will never ask this question again. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 7:33:15 PM | | # 101 - I know he didn't - You go for it with that attitude, honey - because the best sex is between two people that truly care for one another. Sex at its best is a silent language, by touch showing the other person just how precious they are to you. I hate to be crass or rude, but I wonder if you will ever experience the sex the man God sends me is going to have. Read the Book of Solomon - Some people prefer to wait for the best and that is me - sexless relations - not at all - I don't care for wham-bam-thank you mam' - I want the good stuff and it is called Delayed Gratification. Kinda like passing up Hardees for a grilled steak. I usually don't come on this strong but it is all that hidden passion - waiting for a man with some morals. Take care and I hope you are very happy. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 7:37:49 PM | | # 102 - what you said was sweet, 'but women are challenged in wanting the physical?' - go to the gym honey - all the endorphins and hormones we get from working out????? We were just socialized to not be so forward and we ARE emotional and want an emotional connection - If we women have that and the security you are talking about - then watch out and see if you can keep up and handle it. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 7:48:10 PM |
A man can easily say "why are women so materialistic" a woman would say not so... women want security.
Wow, you really believe all that stuff you said? Well, you're young, lol.
Yeah, I want security. That's why I started a business. That's why I have a career, a brokerage account. But that's never been why I've had a man in my life.
I love men, I've been married half my life, but for companionship, love, adventure, even lust . . . not for security. Maybe THEY needed the security, since I made most of the money.
I've never been a vessel for anything in my life. If my husband and I were making love it was a mutal thing. The stuff you're spouting sounds like something from 2,000 years ago. Trust me. God did NOT create me that way.
Man, first penises are muscles, and now this. 
A lot of educatin' needs to be done 'round these parts.
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 7:56:55 PM | | I do think a lot of women want emotional security - and I think far fewer women care about a man's finances than men think. I wasted my life on the poor boy for a year while the secure one wanted a relationship - The poor boy treated me like crap and the other one treats me like a queen. Go figure - I didn't go seeking it, and he is a hunk, to boot - | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 7:59:50 PM | OP's profile MAIL Settings (the gateway to contacting her):
Male
Age between 20 and 28
Live in United States
You get what you ask for or allow. You've neither of the 'intimate encounter' blocks in place, yet you're annoyed at being contacted about having sex by us?
a) those seeking intimate encounters, are being attracted to your wide open settings, and,
b) the rest of us, figure that's your preference, so it's the theme we're likely to choose when contacting you
btw, I think your topic's mis-named. We don't only care about sex, but, we do (or many of us do) mostly care about sex. Doesn't mean we're going to get it. But, really, if we weren't so keen on sex, would you really be all that interested in us? | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 8:28:39 PM | Sex is a human need I thought 4 both men n women when the chemistry is there n the time is right 4 them-THAT IS NOT TRUE WITH THE MEN I HAVE MET ON HERE alot r interested in a real relationship /friendship /movies/dance/karaoke they r fun --they r so nice//wonderin who it is u r meeting?  | |
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Posted: 5/4/2007 8:35:53 PM | | Men do as a rule come on here and expect sex be it cybernetically; via cellphone on your minutes that you paid for; perhaps even after or during a date. But you have to be the leading lady and set the stage. .. don't be bitter there not all bad. Still be honest and realize your worth. No woman has to do anything they don't want to. There are still good men out there. If you stick to your commitment to yourself they'll follow your lead. Personally I think there are more single women in the country single middle aged than ever before. "Why by the cow when you can get the milk for free" If they love you they will wait. I believe if they spoke for themselves unless they were "just not that into you" you are worth the wait. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 8:43:53 PM | | ya read my profile.. no not every man has that on their mind first.. yes it is a plus but i feel like it's not any good without some emotion behind it.. and if there's no emotion just as well hire a prostitute instead of going through the ritual on here.. I prefer to do without prostitutes, too dangerous now a days.................. Anyways ma'am.. I have been propositioned a few times and i know or i found out that woman are after it too, I got dumped because that was their intentions.. and my profile clearly states that on first dates. I wrote that after i found out i was just being used to get another off of her mind.. It was a first date and i realized what she was up to and it was the last date,, she got nothing, i got hurt.. please check yourself....... but i know men are notorious for it, i just never expected it from woman.. I am new to dating.. guess i should have gotten out more | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 8:51:03 PM | Hmmmm... because they have a Y chromosome??? Speaking as a guy that was taught right,,,, MOst of us are, as one of the ladies aforementioned posted,, are "PIGS" .. Not all. And Woodstar, been there done that.. and among even us old hippie types , there is the occcasional "good guy" that is looking to please the lady.. and respects the Friends idea. I love to cuddle and love,, but can keep my small head in the shorts. learning what "no" means and sticking with it. I do wish that sweeping generalizations can be avoided.
Take care all. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 8:54:14 PM | Ok, hello by the way...
If you look closely its not just men that pursue sex!
Its all the mammal males on this planet,its primal, the animal kingdom fights for supremecy sometimes to the death, just to be the one that has sex with the females.
You would have to ask mother nature for the answer to why do men only care about sex..
I am embarrest to be a male at times coz theres so many cavemen out there that dont seem to understand that sex dissapears with age, what you have left is touch, stays till death... ...men are studs the more women they use and women are whores!!! bet it was a male that come up with that one! and what about woMAN, feMALE???huMAN... | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 9:07:42 PM | Wow reading through all the comments to your post was less than enlightening.
You are correct that many men are only interested in sex. Even many who do take the time to actually get to know you, are shortly off to the next conquest once they have gotten through your defenses, so to speak.
I am 39 and have had three long term relationships over the years (7 years, 5 years and 2 years) with lots of dating in between and I agree with you, sex is a bonus.
It's also something that should be earned in a respectful way.
I think the real problem is too many men don't know how to treat women as friends and equals. Even many of the "nice" ones ultimately just want someone to meet their physical needs. Too many women don't know how to act like friends and equals either.
Watch out for men who have no significant platonic relationships with women who are not relatives. Also watch out for men who don't talk about the women in their lives (past, present and future) in a respectful way.
Oh yeah and having sex with someone doesn't make you a whore, it makes you a slut. A whore is someone who has sex to get something in return, like money, and financial security, jewlery, ect. A slut is someone who has sex when she wants to, with whom she wants to, because she wants to. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 9:27:08 PM | Where you fish , how you fish ,when you fish and your bait determinds the kind of fish you catch.
These are all things inside your control. You don't like what your catching ~ change something.
Yes it's true most young men really want to mate up quickly ( it's the way young males are hard wired ) ~ my experience is , the girls do too if they are really keen on you. ~ and then there is a few that will play it out,~ a little while , testing the water, before they jump your bones.
I take it that you are neather of these two?
Whore is job vocation, a profession ~ like any job, you must have some grip on the subject ~ and preform at a high level of proficiency. They are good at what they do. They fill a huge demand that takes some pressure off of young ladies like yourself that don't want to give any up. So there is no need to think disrespectful of them.
I don't think anyone in their right mind and know the facts will ever mistake you for a
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 9:47:01 PM | Oh, come on then... It's genetic. Do some reading already. It's not what "all men want from you", it's just the first thing we think of courtesy 100,000 years of evolution.
It's all very simple really.
Stay tuned for my next post entitled: "why do women like shoes?" | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 10:05:43 PM | Is this a real serious question? Why do guys care about sex?
At 20 this is IT. I hope in another life you become a teen-aged guy or
20-something dude and experience what it's like being us guys. Our
bodies are flexing it's.....muscles....at the most inappropriate times!
It's beyond our control so either try and understand it or give up
on dating until after your 30's because more often than not, you'll
become increasingly disappointed in us when you're unwilling or
incapable of understanding men.
I'm over 40 now and look back - and thankfully I came out of my
early life in one piece. It was chaotic to say the least. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/4/2007 10:37:17 PM |
Is this a real serious question? Why do guys care about sex?
No, you read it wrong. It do men only care about sex. Since the premise is false there's nothing to actually debate. Men, even the 20 year old boys, obviously have other concerns in life. If we didn't, we'd just be breeding stock and probably kept in pens. (Ok, I do know of a few that need those pens. But not all of us.) | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:28:08 AM |
Men, even the 20 year old boys, obviously have other concerns in life. If we didn't, we'd just be breeding stock and probably kept in pens. (Ok, I do know of a few that need those pens. But not all of us.)
There would be food bins in those pens.......right? Where do I sign up? | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/5/2007 2:54:44 AM | | Well, not all of us are like that! I haven't read every entry in this thread, but I just had to reply. I agree that most guys I've known as acquantentces or friends think that way. But for myself, I am more interested in the depth of the woman I am attracted to. I do think that sex is an important part of any healthy relationship. But without the basics, what good is any of it? So keep the faith, there's a select few that are looking for more than just the "prize" between your legs. Some of us actually want the same things you do. | |
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Posted: 5/5/2007 3:47:20 AM | | "men after sex" you know you might be on to something here? Men only after sex,,,,,, I never really thought of that but you know you could be right? MMMMMMMMuh, yup, men after sex, uhuh. Brilliant! | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/5/2007 3:55:59 AM |
What a piggish, shallow, and self-righteous response.
What a prudish, disingenuous, and hypocritical response. | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/5/2007 4:52:01 AM | I am 66 years old and have an 8 year old son. I want and need a sex partner. I haven’t had sex since I filed for divorce in 2002. After a long custody fight the divorce was finalized in 2004 and I started dating. I had one quick opportunity. But it was too quick and I was not potent. I recently dated a 40 year old woman who liked to play tennis with me, chess and other board games. Also she enjoyed hugging. I told her on our first date that I was interested in a long term relationship that included sex. We had about 4 dates over a 4 week period. I told her that she was becoming very special to me and started talking about the future. Our last date was a Saturday night dinner date. She was very warm to me and we did a lot of hugging and kissing. She told me that she was a very touchy feely person but she was enjoying it too much. She lingered a long time before saying good by. Sunday afternoon I called her to tell her how much I enjoyed Saturday night. She told me she did not want to see me again because she enjoyed it too much.
My point is that the main reason I am dating is I want to develop a long term sexual relationship. It is easy to find a tennis partner or someone to talk to or someone to hug. Is it wrong for me to be up front on the first date? | |
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| why do men only care about sex???
Posted: 5/5/2007 4:58:43 AM | misty76: A girl with my scentimental thoughts.
Cowboy, ill have you know at 50 I have had more younger men approach me for sex than when I was in my 20's. Why, because men know that older women want sex and can enjoy sex more than women in their 20s and also are better and more willing to please a man. Wait until you turn 40 the big light goes on. | |
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She said she didn't want sex *right away*!!! Big difference! Damn, I hate stupid people who can't read! 