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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:23:42 AM | The good life really is what you are willing to put into it, is it not ?
I enjoy men who still feel like they are kids and will be as happy going out to the pool hall or bowling alley as they will eating in a fine restaurant. At any age, being open to new ideas, willing to try new things and most of all letting things happen slowly and naturally, is the best approach to dating and having fun.
If you want quality, you have to offer it in return. For me at 42, I do kwo that I do not want men who have baggage and bitterness, I do not want self absorbed men who relate everything back to themselves. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/17/2007 7:33:27 AM | The good life most certainly does not end in the 40's. I think it truly begins there. We know now what we wished we had known "then". That applies to our likes and dislikes, our wants and will not put up withs and pretty much anything. I have to say that I, personally, prefer this age to anything less.
Where to meet women? You just did 
You simply have to know what you really want...not the stereotypical form answer of "must be good looking, smart (as if you'd date a brick), cook like Julia Child, design rockets like NASA, etc..." Set realistic standards and never ever ever compromise your values. EVER! 
So...the fun begins 
Ciao for now, hope some of this helped!
VW
PS As for the Latin dancing, well as romantic as that is...do you really want to do it?
My suggestion...do what makes you happy and comfortable...a pic won't hurt either if you want someone to respond  | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/17/2007 2:03:59 PM | | Well I am 45 and can still date 20 something women but choose not to as we dont really have much in common and I am not into the club scence or going out all the time, unfortunately I have found that age does not mean anything as last person I dated from this site was 41 with a son and man she has more issue then some of the younger ones. Some 40 something women and men seem like they are trying to relive their 20-30's all over. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/18/2007 1:39:00 AM | | Ok one woman in the post put it correctly. Women over 40 do not want to settle for just anyone. This is why I am still alone. Yes I was married once. but only once. I would be a man that a woman would just settle for. I think I am kinda cute. I am a great dad and I work hard to support my children, but in most womens eyes I would be a settle. Not a proper selection. as far as where to meet the women, I thought that is what we are doing on pof. I thought we are supposed to browse profiles, find someone we think we would like, send them an email and start getting to know them? Apparently this is no longer appropriate as all of my emails keep getting deleted. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/18/2007 8:54:02 PM | | just because someone is not working, and has no car or house, that doesn't mean they don't deserve to find someone. i've had ongoing depression for years which makes it difficult to find and hold work. and i'm living with my parents right now until something comes along. no, this isn't a sob story. but it seems (from experience), that when you're at a low point, women don't want anything to do with you. love isn't about love anymore. it's about if you're working and how much you have. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/20/2007 4:54:13 AM | | Listen dude, I got a cat last Haloween. All it does is eat, sleep and ****. Kinda like Peg from Married with Children, but alot hairier and not nearly as shapely. Ditch the cat. Get a 14 gold plated car or something, haha. Seriously though, the pickin's are pretty slim out there, but if you find someplace where you do meet a greater M:F ratio let the rest of us know where to look in our areas. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/20/2007 1:54:13 PM |
once you're 40 is you have to be in great shape and have money. This is because women are happy to live the rest of their lives without sex and companionship unless they can get a man who is in great shape and has money.
Dear Lord in Heaven above!! (as me mum would've said). That's beyond sad. If you really believe it, and aren't just stirring the pot so to speak.
I got married at 42 to a Chinese student who had the clothes on his back. Period. We came here, and he was eventually corrupted by the goodle American way so we ended up owning stuff, after all. That lasted 12 years. The next fella was a disabled coal miner. The last was an actor. He had a lot of "stuff," but I went through bankruptcy with him. And in fact, it was the best relationship I've ever been in in my life. Had he not died, I have no doubt it would have been the final relationship of my life.
And I don't think I'm in any way special. The women I know on PoF are not looking for much more than: He can support himself and the plumbing still works. They are getting pickier about the State of the Souls that they wish to hook up with. "Fun guy" just doesn't do it any more. Nor do Harleys, nor boats, nor big hotshot cars. . . . Nor bank accounts.
Now, of course, if yer fishin' in the baby pool, all bets are off
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/21/2007 2:31:41 PM | i feel exactly the same way that you do. And I have noticed that myself. I had my profile on another site and the only responses i got were from women that lived in Russia. I finally had to leave the singles site to get away from them. But anyway I have been in the Birmingham Ala area for about a year now and still have not had the first date. I have talked to a lot of beautiful women but they all seem to be looking for the PERFECT guy. what ever happened to giving a guy a chance before you decide NO he is not for me. Most of the time I feel like we are under a microscope and I don't feel like that is fair to the nice guys like us that do want that long term relatonship. I will be 41 May 8th and I never have felt soo alone as I do now.
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Gavel
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/22/2007 4:07:10 PM | The count down begins....I'll be 40 in July.
Can't say it hasn't started to wig me out a little bit..........
Always thought I wouldn't care; but looking forward to the next 20 years, the last 20 went by so fast.
I don't mind going out to pubs once in a while, not usually clubs anymore...........even though I love to dance. Seems wierd dancing among kids that could be my kids.
Hopefully, I will get rid of my hangups before it strangles my ability to still have fun.
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/23/2007 2:58:17 AM | Dancing lessons and social dances are a great way to meet more women. It has worked for me, and I am on the high side of fifty.
Concerning the purported shortage of women in their forties, it is a myth. If anything, the sex ratio improves for men as we mature. Men who are on the ball, realize that they are surrounded by not a shortage, but an abundance of single women. We cannot rely on only an improving sex ratio, though. Stylish dressing, physical fitness, developed conversational skills, and positive personality, all play an important role.
I once imported a South American girlfriend, but that did not work out. There are plenty of domestic women. But we have to make an honest effort. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/25/2007 7:52:41 AM | | Life does not end in your 40's. I have experienced more in my 40's than any other time in my life. I think this is prime time for us. I am also haveing tough times meeting men my age with out major bagage and mental issues but I have not given up hope. It is hard to know where to go to meet people our age for sure. I think to meet ladies our age would at a gym for sure. I've been at one for years and at our age fitness is a big thing. And for me, I'm joining a 4x4 club. Men and their toys are just big boys, lol. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/25/2007 11:34:33 AM | let's see....does the good life really end in your 40's? hell no, it only gets better...that is once you guys are done chasing the teeny boppers in their pieces of fabric that covers nothing but their hootch and hiney. while some guys and girls are chasing the women and men of their dreams that may be about 10+ years younger than them there are those that are just sitting back and watching the children play. once the children are done playing house or teasing each other they're bound to say enough is enough and start looking towards their own age or preference.
now, any suggestions on where to meet a woman once you're 40? just open your eyes....there are plenty of nice, honest, respectable men and women out there. sure they may not all be a super model or a perfect "10" or even mr. universe but they are people that others have thrown away or turned their backs on. look at the person not for what they look like but for who they are. look at their eyes.....the gates of their souls. just imagine how impressed you would be knowing that you passed up the one that could have loved you for the rest of your life as well as been the best thing for you.
open your eyes and you would find the person that you're looking for..... | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 4/26/2007 9:30:18 PM |
Shame on you, Jumbo! This IS the 21st century for hell's sake! Just FYI, I make my own money... and great shape? Not a requirement... Now, for me personally, I have to admit that obese just doesn't do it for me, nor does butt-ugly... or bad hygiene... but until I look in the mirror and see a Sports Illustrated swimsuit model, I'm not going to require "great shape" for a man to "get me".
I am so sorry you've had such a negative experience... but lumping us all together like that will just guarantee you future negative experiences...
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