| | does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?Page 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | Forget about how to meet people. You meet them all the time every day everywhere you go. The real question is "why are you not getting dates"?
Since age 40 I've been pretty successful at dating. What I'm about to say applies to both men and women. So here it is:
1. Focus on getting out and making new friends. Dates will naturally follow.
2. Have a job (any job) and like it. I can't stress enough the importance of this and the reasons should be self evident.
3. Be fit. You don't need to be buff but at least be fit enough to go for a bicyle ride, round of golf, or take a long walk in the hills\beach\woods\museum.
4. Be on good terms with your family. Nobody wants to get involved with somebody who can't get along with other people.
5. If you have vices then moderate them. Smoking, drinking, gambling, shopping are ok in moderation. But all are warning signs when over done. We've all worked hard to get where we are in life and we don't want somebody else's problem to become ours.
6. Have a life. By age 40 you should be a fairly well rounded person with friends and hobbies. Nobody wants the responsability for entertaining you 24x7.
7. Be balanced. If your job or child is "everything" to you then chances are you don't have much left over for anybody else. Experienced daters know this and avoid you. Inexperienced daters will find out the hard way and leave you. Sorry, life is unfair sometimes.
8. Take accountability for your current situation. When we meet somebody who is optomistic and has a plan for bettering thier life we want to cheer for them... we want to see them succeed. On the contrary, Nobody wants to hear your sob story about how everyone else is to blame for your lack of success. If you are down on your luck then have a plan and be optomistic.
9. Don't bad mouth your ex's. Blame can usually be shared in a failed relationship and if you are still denying that basic truth then you have OBVIOUSLY not learned how to deal effectively with problems and are a risk to repeat them.
10. RELAX! Don't take things so seriously. The world does not hinge on this date going well.
11. Be open minded. Give up your biases and try somebody who is different from you. Different race, religion, what ever! It's just a date . | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/12/2007 7:09:58 AM | Re Frame and Bastonnais:
Frame, I don't understand the reference to "other 19"?
Bastonnais, Great words of wisdom, only thing I can add, is remove message restrictions on here, you have no idea who might have info about or who or where the person might be located that you need to meet. We all would love to find that person within 75 miles, but if they lived 78 or even 578 miles away we would find a way to deal with it. A great new friend of the same sex is probably also welcome in any of our lives. A message restriction (even though most can be over ridden with work) might just keep them from contacting us. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/12/2007 10:59:09 AM | All BS!!! Life never ends regardless of dating no matter how old you are. It's totally all in your head! Work on yourself, be the best person you can be - and you'll meet like minded people. And dogs/cats are not synonymous with giving up on your life. Don't listen to people who say stuff like that. Do what you want, and tell them to live their life, not yours.
I'd just like to know where my 20 guys are?
Tell me about it - although I suspect they are all men I'm not into - that might be the irony. No thanks, single's better. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/12/2007 4:46:59 PM | I sure hope life doesn't end at 40! Life sucked rocks in my thirties. (No relationships at all: none, nada, zip.)
Where to meet a woman after 40? Try a hospital. I know a lot of single women who work there, me included. All you need is an excuse to go there (hopefully you won't hurt yourself to do it  , although what other reason would you need to go to a hospital I don't know...maybe to visit a friend or relative who is recovering from something?  ) Talk to a few of the female staff there, and I am not refering to nurses or care aides, most of them are all taken. Talk to the support staff and others in the background. You would be surprised how many single women there are. Hope that helps.  | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/12/2007 7:32:33 PM | Forget the clubs,bars, dancing lessons and yoga classes - the answer for me has been "retail"...... Every lady on this site, and indeed in the free world, visits a supermarket at least once a week; Single, employed ladies generally shop between finishing work and going home (5.30 - 6.30pm on a weeknight); wander the aisles looking lost between these times and you are bound to find a smorgasbord of women of all ages, many of whom are more than willing to share their shopping expertise with a "dumb" male lost in "their" environment........"Would you mind helping me please, I'm completely lost in this place - where do they hide the ......." will always get a reply.
Conversely, if you prefer to come from the "high ground" try a hardware store on a weekend. The vast majority of women alone in a hardware store are living independently and many are seriously in need of assistance and advice....... " You look lost. Can I help you with something, I practicaly live in this place!" usually starts a conversation.
Obviously the reverse holds true for ladies wanting to find men.
I have met quite a few interesting people this way, it is completely non threatening, casual and relaxed. If the conversation develops there is usually a cafe on site wher you can continue. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/13/2007 9:14:45 AM | I didnt read all the posts so if this has been covered sorry.They are saying that the new 40 is now like being 30.Im in good shape because I work out 3 to 4 times a week . I have alwas worked out my hole life.So I never let my self go and have taken good care of my health by not smoking and drinking heavy.
My mother stell looks young because she alwas did the same and didnt go fry her self in the sun.And my father is in good shape too and they are both over 70.And they stell have sex.I call before I come over because when I moved out when I was a kid I made the mistake of not calling.I walked in to there house to hearing some loud sounds coming from the back of the house.From that day forword I alwas called.They have been together for 46 years.I think it has do to with gens and good healthy work habits.
Im alot like my mom and dad I have a good healthy sex drive.My last girl friend was 34 and she told me Im like and 18 year old in bed with lots of stamana.So for a 40 year old man to have great sex and keep a lady happy is very much in reach.I for one plan on having great sex up intell Im 90 years old.My grand father had 3 wives and he out lived 2 of them and his last wife would tell us that he made her feel like a 16 year old girl in bed hehehehe it would gross us out but I thought it was cool.
So for me I think my life is just really getting started.My kids are almost grown and if I meet the right lady I think I can have the time of my life for the next 50 years. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/31/2007 8:15:14 AM | | Oh dear heaven's I hope life doesn't end in your 40's !!!!!! I'm 52.....I find it hard to find men my age or there-a-bouts....seems like everyone is married, creepy or gay.....lol....although I know this isn't true, it can sure be frustrating at times. I'm in good shape for my age, so I tend to date men between the ages of 45+....maybe you should look into expanding the age range you're considering for a partener | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/31/2007 8:59:21 AM | | Women start out wanting relationships, so they want a man at first, because you can't very well have a relationship by yourself. Then they decide they don't want to be with the man full time, and they end the relationship. From then on they prefer keeping their single life intact and dealing with men only sometimes and on their own terms. The older you get the fewer women want a traditional relationship. I would not say the good life has ended. Life can be good either way. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 8/31/2007 10:03:14 AM | Women start out wanting relationships, so they want a man at first, because you can't very well have a relationship by yourself. Then they decide they don't want to be with the man full time ........
Please don't lump us all together, there's nothing I'd like more than to have a good and loving relationship....someone to spend the rest of my life with....I do want a traditional relationship, maybe I'm just an oddball...???? | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 9/1/2007 12:04:56 AM | I know that at 41 I feel that i have just entered my adult life...I have never been more accepting of myself physically and emotionally....BUT I havent found anyone thus far that is able to taket hings at MY speed...I meet men of all ages that either want to hang out and be buddies ( i have no issues with that a girl can never have too many body guards) or I find ment hat want to strip me naked in 15 minutes and have their way with me. I want a happy medium.
I really hate to stereotype men int heir 40's but my research has shown that men of that age are searching for someoen to complete them...meIm whole all by myself i just woudl like some icing on my cupcake! I just wish that i could get that icing at my own speed. I dont want to get rushed becasue they seem to have this need to prove something
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 10/28/2007 7:12:13 PM | I am 53, not rich, 5'6" in height...and hardly would win the Charles Atlas Look-Alike contest...but I have no trouble meeting and dating girls on the dating sites. Women around 40 are much more interesting to me than girls in their early 20s.
I think women in their late 30s to mid-40s still have youth about them, but a lot of maturity as well. There are any number of women in their late 30s and early 40s who are VERY physically attractive, and not all women that age are golddiggers--trust me.
As for places to meet them...POF and a couple of paid sites have worked fine for me. Otherwise, church might do. Or some kind of volunteer work. Believe me, life doesn't end at 40...nor even at 53. I've found plenty of quality women who don't think I'm a candidate for a nursing home, so hang in there, OP. | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 10/29/2007 1:57:52 PM | I'd not want to do the 30's over ~ I was way too stupid.
As far a where to met women ~ the answer is
everywhere! ~ but it will do you no good if
you are not ready
what does that mean?
Just looks alone won't get the job done.
Just the trappings, car, horse, cloths or money
won't do it either.
You must be open ~ and approchable
That means no addittude ~ just charm and good health
Be yourself ~ and yourself needs to be healthy in heart, mind and body.
This increase your odds dramatically ~ Be the kind of person
that you yourself, would like to know.
Sounds simple ~ but this is very , very difficult to pull off.
All this and some soap and water ~ and a trip to the barber every 3 weeks min.
I'd start at Walmart ~ place is like a salt lick ~ dar | |
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| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 11/21/2007 2:55:07 AM | My suggestion is that, once GUYS hit their forties they put up with a lot les crap from the females, that they used to when they were younger..
You are meeting just as many women but you arent putting up wiht the duds the way yo used to. No reason you should either.
And the good women were snapped up long ago. Their husbands appreicate a good woman just as much as you do and they are sticking with them. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2007 6:32:03 AM | The good life is yet to be. As to meeting someone.... I met my late great husband in a dance hall, where I mentioned that he looked like a good guy to my dance partner, who introduced us. I was 44 and he was 47.
I met my current SO on the internet almost 3 years ago at the ripe old age of 49.
He is just now turning 48 and we are having a blast. He doesn't mind my age, so why should I?
Only my knees remind me that I am no spring chicken. | |
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