| |
| |
| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 11/28/2007 3:40:07 AM | I don't have any suggestions on where to meet women, but I definitely do not think that the "good life" ends at 40. I am actually just starting to live my life at 41.
I have "come into my own" as you would say...comfortable in my own skin and with who I am as a person. My children are growing up, and watching them mature into soon to be adults is very satisfying as a parent.
Rather than seeking out places to meet women, why not seek out things that interest you....Join a club of some sort (not sure what your hobbies are?)...then allow a natural process to take place. You are more likely to attract those women who are similar to you in interests etc. that way. | |
|
| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 1/10/2008 9:15:20 AM | Learn to dance, just simple stuff, like two step, triple step, and the waltz. Dancing has been the best thing in my life to get women to pay attention and enjoy my company. After a while you can add CW swing, polka and others. I basically taught myself how to dance, I watched other guys and then got a willing victim and tried to imitate. Normally the willing victim was somebody that also wanted to learn and I said I would teach them. And it worked, we both learned. If I made a mistake they didn't know, at least I don't think so. Great for the self confidence. That's the hardest thing to get over in learning to dance. It helps if you're surrounded by friends in the first place. So maybe find a group that wants to learn. I dance a little differently than everybody else. I have modified what the dance teachers teach as the "correct" way. Dancing is done with the man leading, and most dances are easier for the men than the women, men moving forward women moving backwards. Try skipping backwards sometimes.... I have learned to dance backwards and do a few other things "wrong" to make it easier on the women and make it easy for them to learn. All they really know is that it is much easier to dance with me than other men and they like to dance with me. I have reduced dancing to a very simple mechanical thing they can count and I often count with them at the beginning. The 2 step is normally done forward and backward, I teach the dance sideways to separate the movement around the floor from the dance movement. I also explain how they can think my way but dance with somebody else that doesn't dance my way. I start by explaining the the step count, and dancing with the hands but feet not moving, then start dancing in place sideways, then after they have the rhythm, we add some floor movement with me leading going backwards so they are going forwards. Triple step and waltz is done the same way, just different count. Add some spins and some swings toward the end of the song and when your walking of the floor somebody says you looked great out there and she is grinning ear to ear. 3 minutes ago she said she didn't know how to dance and now she get complemented how good she looked. You now have a new life long friend. Make sure you recognize a waltz, it's the only song that really you have to know and recognize, almost every other song you can do many different dance steps to by double timing it or some other "bastardization" and still be with the music, but a waltz can only be waltzed to. The waltz is one of the prettiest and most enjoyable if done correctly. Actually a polka waltz is my favorite, Mr. Bo Jangles is a Polka waltz song.
Keep it simple so that she can follow you, be very good at leading and letting her know what your are going to do by how you move your hands, talk to her and tell her what to expect right before you do it. Your not trying to impress her on how well you dance, you're trying to show her how easy it is to dance with you, that will impress her more. I once won a country western swing dance contest with a gal that had never done it before. The contest was starting and I just walked in the door, I grabbed a willing gal that I had never met before, friend of a friend thing and she had never danced country western before. She was very athletic though, and I taught her during the contest. Out of twenty or so couples that many have danced together for years, some that I had taught. We won. Don't worry about what other people say is right or wrong the only important thing is having fun. Dancing is something that you can do well into retirement, if you can walk you can dance. | |
|
| |
| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 1/10/2008 12:36:23 PM |
what I have noticed is the 40 something guuys are not interested in us 40 year old women and go chasing the 20 years old girls......... there are plenty of the 40 yr old women around
Well, there are plenty of fat, boring, lifeless, emotionally damaged 40 year old women around. It's not just their cute little asses that make the 20-somethings so attractive. Sorry if it makes me a bad person to say it, but it's true.
This goes both ways of course. We're all over the hill at some point, some quicker than others. C'mon, admit it! The further up the age ladder we go, the slimmer the pickins.
I prefer a woman my own age (40-ish), who still has a youthful spark, an adventurous spirit, an active mind, and a great bod (which itself is a sign of other desirable personality traits). In our 40s, the gap between the spunky and the dumpy seems very wide indeed. | |
|
| |
| |
| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 1/13/2008 11:58:13 AM | They say if you smile at the world, it will smile back at you.
Stop looking, and go out as much as possible, and enjoy yourself, try different venues, but you are only as old as you feel, age is just a number, who cares how old you are, it is you inside that counts most.
The more you show negatives vibes, men will pick up on this, be positive and you will meet positive people, know yourself, know your own mind, and you will attract likewsie people into your world. | |
|
| |
| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 1/18/2008 10:54:40 PM | You have the right idea there. What ever you have a interest in is where you can find that special someone. That's where common interests get started. I have had my fair share of not putting myself out there to be discovered in a bar because I don't really like to drink. I do family oriented things since I do have kids/ grandchildren. I always hope to meet someone and fun at the same time. Go where your heart tells you to go and the rest will follow ~ I know I am 41 and having fun!! | |
|
| |
| Bachelor vacations
Posted: 1/20/2008 3:45:05 PM | Do what I plan to do now that I am almost 40- travel overseas!
Unlike the USA where women refuse to date older men, in other countries like Thailand and Phillipines, young women don't mind an older guy at all.
American women tend to have zero interest in sex and just want money and a man to take care of them. At least if you make a trip
to the Phillipines and Thailand you can find a nice lady for love and fun.
I am planning this after all the bad dates last year and rudeness to me from American women. I have yet to meet a decent American woman in San Diego who wants a decent man such as myself. When I was in Japan and Mexico it was easy. Do it!
There are 40+ women in the USA but most have kids, been divorced 2+ times and have a major chip on their shoulder and are bitter!
Not all but so many. That is why they are online and not meeting guys in real life. OK I probably will get flamed for this post but oh well. | |
|
| |
| |
| does the good life end in your 40's?
Posted: 7/30/2009 3:14:18 AM | 40... is just the beginning.....
=============================================
This is because women are happy to live the rest of their lives without sex...]
then you are picking the wrong women!
==============================================
American women tend to have zero interest in sex and just want money and a man to take care of them]
not all of us........ | |
|
| does the good life really end in your 40's? Any suggestions on where to meet women once you're 40?
Posted: 7/30/2009 8:04:20 AM | I'll say this.
If you're 40+, out of shape and expect to have any success in dating, ummmmm, I have bad news for you. You will have a much more difficult time than people who have taken care of themselves physically.
Look, I don't care if you're 20 or 60. We're all still attracted (for the most part) to people who take care of themselves. For women who've had kids it's understandably more difficult to stay in shape than for women who haven't. I'll never argue that, but you can do things to help stay healthy.
But I mean, seriously. If you let yourself go (which is a reflection on your own self-esteem) then don't expect people to be overly-eager to date you. Unless you have overwhelming confidence, charm and are hilariously funny. Then you might have a shot.
Sounds brutal, I know. The truth usually is.
The best part about this is, if you take good care of yourself, your dating pool opens up. And often times age become much less of an issue for both men and women. So just because you're 40 doesn't mean you can't find someone 10 years younger or, in some cases, 10 years older :) | |
|
Home
login 
I'm with auburnvixen on this one!!!!
