| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 7/8/2007 3:50:37 PM | | Its actually pretty sad that a woman or man for that matter, in order to get "lots of dates", has to lose weight. I have seen big women and men who look absolutely spectacular. We've become such a superficial, visual world......its pretty sad. I'm overweight and not happy about it....working on it, but its hard work. I'm doing this for myself, not to get more dates. As my profile states: I am who I am and either you like me or you don't. C'mon ladies, if you're truly not happy with yourself, then do something about it. On the other hand, if YOU like who you are.......let it show......strut your stuff. SEXY is SEXY in any size! | |
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| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 9/10/2007 5:25:35 PM |
Its actually pretty sad that a woman or man for that matter, in order to get "lots of dates", has to lose weight. I have seen big women and men who look absolutely spectacular.
They look absolutely spectacular to you because you have a female standard of attraction because you're well, a female. The male standard is different, that's all, theres nothing morally wrong with it. I've seen women that practically had nails in their faces but had a thin figure so men went nuts for them. These tendencies and preferences are perfectly natural. They have almost nothing to do with culture. I don't care how much cosmo likes to "promote" a certain body size, they can't tell me when to get an erection. You're just not getting the way men think because you're not trying to get it. | |
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| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 9/10/2007 5:28:29 PM |
Well the fact is liking chunky gals for being chunky is a bit rare. It is possible to be liked for your other qualities and have your chunkiness accepted to get the rest of you. Lets face it, half or more than half of all people here are chunky. Guys have to look past it sometimes or be one of the 75 guys trying to pick up the one skinny girl. You see that on here sometimes. If you click on an attractive girl, she has about 75 to 150 people who put her on their favorites list. Every guy wants a hot girl but most girls aren't hot. It shouldn't be hard for you to find one that realizes this.
OK here is my advice.
You can't go around constantly aware of your chunkiness. Guys can see you are chunky, you don't have to talk about it or how you need to fix it, or how you wish it wasn't so. Just be upbeat about the things you have to offer. If you are depressed, forget keeping someone new. It's worse to be depressed over your body than to have a body to be depressed about. If you feel that way, keep it to yourself. Maybe the feeling will fade when you are accepted.
Good insight and advice joeintheburbs. | |
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| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 9/19/2007 5:08:18 PM | You are going to find that some guys care about the size of their women. Honestly though, there are just as many who do not care. Whether your thin, thick, large...guys like women to be confident! From the way your are talking about yourself, I can tell that you aren't comfortable in your own skin. Everything starts at being ok with yourself! You don't want to settle, because your standards are fuzzy. Take your time. Don't push it to hard. Also, if your profile views are slow, go out and look for them. Most guys have no problem being approached by a woman. Actually, they like it.
Look at your page from a strangers point of view. What do you think your profile implies? How do you want to be perceived? Make the adjustments, and check back into it in a few weeks.
Either way though, you'll be ok. Being single can be lonely, but I would rather be lonely than settle for someone because I didn't have enough confidence to tell myself to walk away.
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| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 10/1/2007 6:19:19 AM | It really is about who you are and not who you think you look like.
What is really interesting is how some of the "larger" women actually rate their body size.. I have met some so named "big and beautiful" that were actually only MAYBE 20#'s overweight,,and had a great shape..On the other hand, I have met some that profiled themselves as "rubenesque" shaped and I think they flunked their art history course...They were not rubenseque but hippopatumus sized...Now, don't get mad and misinterpret what I'm saying here.. What I AM SUGGESTING is that they be a little more honest with themselves in how they portend to protray themselves to others.. I would like to see a guide to body shapes that is a little more case specific... I mean, some might call me obese because that is what the AMA journal designates for someone who is 50#'s overweight. In reality, I AM 50#'s overweight but so is 80% of the national football league. (no one dares to describe any of those ATHLETES as OBESE) I don't look it, but I am obese by definition. I choose to say a few extra pounds..Now, maybe you will say that I am a liar...but I did not use the description, as some would, "avereage". My picture is a reflection of myself taken 25# heavier than I am now.. All who have met me say I look just like my picture and better...I feel good about the reception I have received from the ladies on here. I think, again, it is all about honesty--being honest with yourself and others.. A suggestion that I would like to see all do is , as follows: Have a picture that shows an entire body shot and don't waste your time or others by pretending to be someone you are not. Reflect who you really are and not who you want to be..
When a woman says in her profile ...."if you are looking for Barbi e keep looking" I respect that honesty. It says that they are comfortable with who they are...
In closing, Missy, YES there are men out there who like CHUNKY gals...now, describe CHUNKY to us all....
I got the chum in the water and my hook has fresh bait on...where are the fish?
Art
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Posted: 10/2/2007 11:55:25 AM | I've pretty much given up on dating for personality. It's not gotten me anywhere.
So, now I am an egotistical prick. It seems to be working.
PS. I don't do "chunky." I workout, I stay in shape, I expect the same of someone I am with.
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Posted: 10/2/2007 7:56:53 PM | First of all missy gurl30 ya gotta stop selling yourself short. Before you look to someone else for love, you gotta love yourself. Good luck . You're beautiful through and through | |
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Posted: 1/4/2008 10:49:34 AM | males are attracted to women who are healthy and look like they could bear children. it's instinctual.
they've done studies. also, people in general are attracted to people with more symmetrical faces.
if you're chunky, but it's in the right places, men are attracted. you just have to exude your own self worth for them to make it worth their time.
what makes me upset it when the song "i like big butts" comes on and all the guys are like "oooh yeah!" while their skinny no-ass girlfriends try and jiggle their jokes of a butt. they like big butts and they can not lie? eeehn. it's a lie. | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 7:59:04 AM | I have read all the posts on this subject and I agree with a lot of what was said. I am honest and in my profile I say I'm a BBW (I hate the term chubby chaser) and have current pictures of me. I too, have dated all types of men, all sizes, and I have found someone can be the most unattractive person but they might have the best personality and I like them for the person they are on the inside not the outside. I look for that in a man, someone who can like me for the good person I am and not what I look like. I find a lot of men online who say they like larger women, but I have yet to be approached in public by any of these men (except when I'm at a BBW party). I find this pretty odd, where are all these guys and how come they never approach me???? I give off a lot of confidence (I have been told) and I know I'm a great person. I still have yet to find someone to share my life with. I think a lot of people have an "ideal" person in their head and if you don't meet their qualifications, they write you off. I give every man a chance, you never know, someone can be the one you are looking for but if they don't fit your mold then you lose on ever getting to know them. I think everyone needs to be a little bit more open and accepting to what's out there and stop being so picky!!!! That's my two cents. Thanks for reading this...... | |
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Posted: 1/7/2008 8:06:56 AM | | One more thing I want to add is that my ex-husband was a typical man who only dated thin women, but when he met me it was pretty obvious it was love at first sight (for both of us). Now, we are good friends and he has admitted that since me, he has a thing for larger women. By the way, he is an extremely thin man!!!! Weight had nothing to do with our break up. | |
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Posted: 1/10/2008 10:47:49 PM | | I have been attracted to "larger" or bbws for as long as I can remember even back to middle school. They just seem more genuine. I found the first real love of my life on here, but we have since broken up, nothing to do with weight either, just like the other poster, guess things got dull for her or to the friends level. She was a beautiful person to me inside and out, despite weight issues. And it's only an issue if you make it one, and her losing weight wouldn't have affected that at all for me. | |
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Posted: 1/22/2008 9:30:15 AM | Hey Missy! I'm Milus and I'm from Lansing. I have the same problem for I am husky built myself but I like chunky women and if you would like to get together some time and go out and have fun and be treated like a lady than I would be Honored to take you out dancing or kareokeing and you don't have to worry I don't drink so if you do Ican be the desegnated driver I'll even take a chance and give you my phone number it's
(517) 482-7306 give me a call and get to know me than you make the decition ok I'm up late thank you ma'am!
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| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 1/22/2008 4:37:42 PM | what makes me upset it when the song "i like big butts" comes on and all the guys are like "oooh yeah!" while their skinny no-ass girlfriends try and jiggle their jokes of a butt. they like big butts and they can not lie? eeehn. it's a lie.
Okay that was funny, gotta love the humor.
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Posted: 1/26/2008 8:17:05 PM | | I am a thick woman and do I have a problem with it?? Nah. I honestly have dated some awesome guys in the past...to me they were drop dead gorgeous. But I find alot at this site that people are just too picky..am I one? In a way yea..there has to be some kind of attraction. But what really gets me is being a plus size woman, some guys that would most definitly interest me..hear the plus size and suddenly their not interested. What's going to be interesting is this...soon having the lapband surgery due to health reasons..and not from the weight either. I have degenerative spine and hips..so the weight hurts the bones. But going to be interesting to see if the sane guys that turned their heads when I am plus size...suddenly look in my direction if I get skinny. Honestly will want nothing to do with them. So to myself even at plus size ..and a pretty confident woman which scares some men lol have to be am a short woman. I feel I am just as sexy plus size and I will be skinny. It's all in how you feel about yourself. Beauty is inside..so is sexiness . I can go to a bar, mall etc and start a conversation with a guy and normally they wouldn't even look at plus size women, but we get talking and either go out or a friendship forms. | |
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Posted: 1/27/2008 8:55:20 AM | Sexy is sexy. I like big butts, but only a small number of "chunky" or bigger women wear it well. You can be big and sexy, or you can be big and a slob. Slob is never sexy.
If you chose to be confident about yourself, you will be attractive and guys will want you. If you have a poor self image, then others will feel the same about you and you will have a long road to finding a mate. Usually one who is also very uncomfortable in their own body. The two of you will make a perfect mismatch. Your not right for each other, but stuck in a relationship that is not good for either of you.
I'd prefer a curvy woman over a stick girl any day. I do ask for a pretty face. An attractive personallity is the big draw though. | |
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Posted: 1/29/2008 5:11:27 AM | | I find women who are larger then most are the most confident and can be real .So I would just for giggles but it works go a weight watcher meetinng that has single men,or early walks on a beach in the winter you never know who esle is feeling like you and you can say Hi! Also if you can dance they love women all sizes who can cha cha!If you know what I mean!L | |
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| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 1/29/2008 7:11:54 PM |
Accept yourself, and you'll find other people will accept you for what and who you are
while i agree that self-acceptance is important, to say that all one has to do to be liked is to "accept yourself" is saying that there is no racism, no discrimination against the disabled, no discrimination against those with facial deformities, etc. there are many people, even some who post frequently on this forum, who are biased against heavy people without even knowing them. | |
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| Are their any guys left who like chunky gals?
Posted: 1/29/2008 7:44:24 PM | | No, you can't change the world. But those people become less important to you and their opinion less meaningful. And your happiness and self worth does not come from the world. It comes from you. People hate to hate, it has nothing to do with who or what you are, so my point is, don't change to make everyone else happy. Make yourself happy, if change is included in that. Accept yourself because you're the only one who needs to. The people who matter will accept you, the ones who don't matter, well you don't need their acceptance. | |
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