| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 5:48:34 PM |
What I do wish is that PoF allowed us to upload video clips. I think hearing and seeing one talk would be a good idea.
It's not the same thing, but you can use webcam with IM, and it includes audio. Next best thing. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 6:24:48 PM | | k im superficial in some ways..attraction is a must so yes i look at photos..how someone poses for their photo says a lot besides the obvious....im not here to argue with plus size women but if it doesnt excite you why lead someone on...friends come in all sizes tho.....what someone writes can reel someone in better then any photo sometimes so read all profiles , i find that a closed mind doesnt have much in it | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 6:37:42 PM | i look at the location (since i live in a pretty rual area)
second i look at religion, if she is not a christian i am not interested since i would like to be married again sometime
then the pics, but honestly most women have something attractive about them even if they are big etc. and its all about the look on her face in the pic not necessarily her overall beauty. if she is hot but is giving you the evil eye its a total turnoff but if she is mediocre but gives you a confident grin then i am in ;)
one more thing, spelling i can understand to an extent (im not the best) but if her profile has terrible grammer i am out | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 6:39:51 PM | No trophy, but there is not point in going out with someone you do not find attractive.
If you are looking to validate "It is what is on the inside that counts!", then there is no clear answer.
It is different for everyone male and female included.
My personal taste is finding someone attractive (not a trophy) who has a great attitude, likes me, not brainwashed by feminists, flexible and more fun than a kitten.
It is safe to say that the search continues!
Your standards seem to be a little high...
first date... will sort it out if things get this far...
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 6:47:11 PM | Picture: Reasonable attractiveness draws me in.
Location: If she is close by, that sparks my interest even more.
Personality: If what is expressed in her profile is fairly close to what I'm looking for, I'll try to arrange a meeting with her.
Trophy: I have no need or desire for "arm candy". | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 7:15:47 PM | If looks werent important, we`d all have posters of Mama Cass hangin on our walls. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 8:45:23 PM | I guess they are.. I for one am also found guilty on the charge, but I do believe that after looks, personality plays an important role too. Somebody can be as beautiful as your dream woman and still lack personality. Either way if somebody is beautiful but lacks personality then the relationship is doomed anywayws.
So yea looks are important in conjunction with personality. Did I spell that right, cause I'm Dutch and i'm not an English expert. LOL | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 9:22:47 PM |
When you look at someones profile what is the first thing you look at? the picture? or what they have to say? I'm not sure it would be physically possible to read an entire profile before glancing at a picture.
What a woman looks like does have some importance.
What a woman is like on the inside has more importance.
What she writes on a silly little profile doesn't usually mean much at all. They don't often say much about a person, I find.
But if it makes you feel better, start looking exclusively at profiles with no pictures at all. Those guys will be thrilled to have the attention. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 4/9/2007 9:29:40 PM | Looks are only good until the person opens their mouth. I live in a place with a LOT of pretty women and I can tell you that their looks don't get them far when it comes to getting a good man. Don't believe me? Ask a bunch of professional models how often they get dates. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 7:34:09 AM | | picture first - everything else is ancillary. If she's not attractive I move on. Women do the same thing. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 9:38:44 AM |
Hi there Lynz, just thought i'd add to your question, we are all the same when it comes to looks, if i see a bloke and he "doesn't float my boat" picture wise as moon said i pass him by
I disagree, not all of us are the same when it comes to looks. People are quick to generalize and to state that "if someone says looks don't matter, they are lying" but there are a few people out there (me included) that really do rate substance more highly than looks. Do you fall in love with someones looks or personality? What happens if you are with someone for their looks and they are involved in an accident, do you leave them because they don't look good to you anymore?
I don't make judgements on the way a person looks, I don't even read too much in to profile content because some people find it hard to describe themselves in a couple of paragraphs. That is why I respond to all messages, chat and really get to know someone before judging them.....to me its all about inner beauty, a good personality, sense of humour, and connection. Some people may be satisfied with the trophy at first, but if they have bad personalities then whats the point? .......might as well get a barbie doll  | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 9:49:47 AM | Depends what I am looking for. If it is long-term I am seeking, I just look for a physical attraction first. I find a fairly wide range of women attractive. So even though looks are a must and a first, step, I don't rule out most women right away.
Then I will look for deal breakers (constant smoker e.g.) and other things that might not work. If I don't find any, time to read the profile.
I also tend to read profiles when they are short, just for edification purposes. I am not always browsing just to find a long-term relationship etc. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 11:24:11 AM | So hippocritical. If looks weren't important to you you wouldn't be single. There is no doubt that some unattractive men would love to date you and you will find one who is bright and has common interests.
The need for physical attraction is the most natural thing in the world. Men place much more emphasis on looks but we are naturally programmed this way. Blame god, not us. Of course if the guy is smart he will also require a brilliant mate. We are only looking for equals. Equal in physical beauty, intellect, morals, etc.. but you must have these 3.... 2 of the 3 does not cut it. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 11:31:46 AM | | lets see if the women sparks my interest in the looks I will contact her. If she has no pic and has a funny headline I will read it. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 11:54:13 AM | It's all about WHO they are.
Sure, looks are nice to have... but they're not important.
Beauty comes from within. If your personality attracts me... I don't care what you look like.
I'd say there's plenty of men who think the same. Ones who aren't looking for a trophy... but for an equal. Someone to share the joys of life with. The highs and lows. Someone to support and lean on. Someone laugh and cry with. Someone to love and cherish and respect. Someone to be proud of, and make proud of you. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 1:17:30 PM | Looks ARE that important. But if that's all there is, it is nowhere near enough! At least for me.
Very few people want to date someone they aren't attracted to - it's that simple, and is true for meeting online or off. Offline, there may be a small chance for attraction to grow over time, if you have frequent contact with someone (e.g., through work, or a club, etc.), but that's about the only difference.
EDIT: That said, I have met several women during my dating days who did NOT have a picture. I'll take a chance on someone if I think they are otherwise compatible. | |
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Posted: 5/18/2007 1:29:12 PM | I happen to think "Looks" are very important to me. But what I consider pretty in my opinion differs from other peoples expectations.
I want a woman that looks pretty to me.
But to go with the looks must be a good personality. I figure chemistry makes the woman look even prettier. So she doesn't have to look like the Goddess Athena, but be someone I am attracted to. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 2:19:23 PM | lynx18 (OP),
Yes, everyone looks at the picture first. It's human nature, even if you're scanning as to whether they have kids or not, are separated or not, etc.
Pictures rule people out. Standard method that I think most of us use: You look at the picture, and if they seem attractive (or close to it for some), you move on from there and read their profile and what they wrote about themselves. Something selected/written about their profile may rule them out if their picture doesn't.
A great personality can't overcome abhorent looks. It can, however over time, make that person physically more attractive in one's eyes if there's an uncommon personality match. In the case of viewing profiles, I could see some guys who feel a strong need to find a woman with certain personality traits run into one dead-on, but her picture's "not that attractive but not ugly", but write her since she seems like a rare catch. But I don't think it's terribly common, tho.
Looks are a very important factor. For everyone. For you, too. Looks being important doesn't mean someone's some hollow, shallow individual looking for a trophy wife. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 4:32:03 PM | "When you look at someones profile what is the first thing you look at? the picture? or what they have to say? Are someones looks the be all and end all?? Or do you find the personality and what someone has to say is the thing that draws you to a them?"
The picture is the first thing you LOOK at, of course, because it's a quick way to tell people's age, health, perferences, etc. After four billion years of natural select, we're ALL pretty attractive, things like bad health aside, so that's not much of an issue. The first thing I'm really filtering people by is their attitude ([preferably lack of] ****iness, consideration for others, intelligence and understanding, etc.), and then the rest of their personality (interests, etc.)
"Are there men out there that dont wan a trophy on their arm?"
No. But are there men out there who are quite happy with an ALMOST perfect woman who isn't also a trophy, or can learn to consider the almost perfect woman to BE a trophy? Of course! :)
Good luck in your search :) | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 5:20:41 PM | OP
Picture of course.
Why do you think they have pix at top half of the profiles
Not concerned about a [ trophy], but a face and overall build that is easy on the eyes and pleasing to me.
Anyone that says it doesnt matter,,,,,, I would question there honesty | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 5:33:06 PM | I hope this isn't shallow but I'm going to list what I look at naturally.
It's what my eyes go to and the order they go through.
Picture
Age
Height
Smoker
Religion
Job
Drugs
Children
Interests
About me Section
I'm not saying I wouldn't be interested if they weren't a smoker or had children, it's just what I find myself looking out in that order. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 5:36:46 PM | SuiteRockerBoy on 4/9/2007 9 47 PM
Subject: Are looks that important??
Message: If looks werent important, we`d all have posters of Mama Cass hangin on our walls.
 TOO FUNNY
So true | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 5:38:02 PM | Profiles are big for me.
Think about it this way:
How many people post in their profile "Dur dur dur I like shopping and drinking and having fun and hanging out with friends dur dur hat goes on foot!"(Minus the sarcasm)?
If you're just going to mention all the things that 99% of the population already likes, and you're not even using proper grammar or spelling, I pass unless I want to message to make fun because I'm feeling mean. I mean, beauty is common. Tell me about something that makes you worthwhile. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 9:31:16 PM | | I glance at the pictures and then read the profile. Looks are a nice bonus for me, (but not the single determinant) but I am more interested in seeing what profiles have to say. Too many are generic or short to the point where it makes it hard to find out what to ask first. | |
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| Are looks that important??
Posted: 5/18/2007 9:47:54 PM | | As I've said before its alot easier to fake a profile than fake a picture. You can set up the angle, the lighting etc, but in the end its still your mug going in the photo. A photo is alot more honest than someone describing themselves with the motive of impressing the opposite sex. | |
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