| What Do You Think Of Mixed Marriages
Posted: 10/1/2007 8:15:37 PM |
whom should mixed race/bi-racial/interracial people date and/or marry?
Good question. (BTW: I hope you read my later post.) Obviously the answer to this question and the question from the OP is not always black and white. There's a lot of grey area. As time goes on and the gene pool gets more homogenous, I think the whole question will fade into obscurity. The sooner the better. | |
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| What Do You Think Of Mixed Marriages
Posted: 10/1/2007 8:50:15 PM | your statement.....
*******How dare two people of differing races, colours or creeds marry and refer to it as a marriage.********
you then went on to say....
****We still have a lot to learn about tolerance! *********
YES YOU do dont you............ | |
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Posted: 10/2/2007 9:42:41 PM | | I couldn't agree with you more sgtspock. I dated someone of a different race. Almost every time we went out, I sometimes was treated as is if I wasn't with him. We were once standing in a store and he was purchasing something for me. The sale girl was telling him how he had such good taste and the woman he was buying it for was a lucky woman. I was standing slightly behind him but close enough that I could've fit inside his pants with him LOL. After he paid for the purchase, she asked how she could help me. I told her she already had. I guess with me being black and he causasian, she figured we weren't together. I believe in order for interracial relationships to work each person has to not give a damn what anyone think about it. Sometimes feeling may be hurt but after all you're the only one who has to sleep with em. And if they float your boat so be it. Just my opinion. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 9:11:49 AM | wah wah wah here we go
another why cant we get over the color bull shit
first and foremost im not against
but if black dated white guys i wouldnt be as hardend to it
see this is what i dont get why r white girls so easy to do it and black women keep ot real
why is that when easy white girl decides to date the brophas she crys booo whhoo my family is against it or people look at us funny
heres a thought hey stupid u made your choice why force it or demand everyone around u accepts it why
simply put
its my god given right to like u for whatever reason what ever reason i deem
i cant murder u and get it away with it those days r gone
i cant hurt your quality of life those days r gone
so why **** and moan get the **** over it easy white girl who makes this choice and stop wanting everybody to accept
in my house im always right if u dont like it DONT BRING YOURSELF OR BROPHA OR KID to visit that simple nough said | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 9:12:29 AM | wah wah wah here we go
another why cant we get over the color bull shit
first and foremost im not against
but if black dated white guys i wouldnt be as hardend to it
see this is what i dont get why r white girls so easy to do it and black women keep ot real
why is that when easy white girl decides to date the brophas she crys booo whhoo my family is against it or people look at us funny
heres a thought hey stupid u made your choice why force it or demand everyone around u accepts it why
simply put
its my god given right to like u for whatever reason what ever reason i deem
i cant murder u and get it away with it those days r gone
i cant hurt your quality of life those days r gone
so why **** and moan get the **** over it easy white girl who makes this choice and stop wanting everybody to accept
in my house im always right if u dont like it DONT BRING YOURSELF OR BROPHA OR KID to visit that simple nough said | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 9:21:30 AM | It's always the children who are hurt .....and they are the innocent ones who had no say in this choice.
What two consenting adults do is nobody's business but their own....but in my opinion they should think VERY carefully before they bring children into the world.
Two of my dearest friends...now both deceased...were a black/white couple. The older daughter married into the "Black world" where she was NOT accepted. The younger daughter chose the "White world" when she married and was NOT accepted either.
All of this happened in the eighties but I see little change in public feelings twenty years later | |
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| What Do You Think Of Mixed Marriages
Posted: 10/3/2007 10:22:00 AM | Reenie, that would be sad, except that there is no "black world" or "white world." Your acquaintance's children either married into families of asshats or were themselves unpleasant or oversensitive. Sooooooo many people could care less what anyone's "heritage" is, and they are black, white, and everything else and in-between.
BTW, generalizing about an entire shade of skin because of a few individuals has a name. It's 'racism.' You may want to cut it out.
Cheers!
Vulf  | |
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| What Do You Think Of Mixed Marriages
Posted: 10/3/2007 10:33:23 AM | It's always the children who are hurt .....and they are the innocent ones who had no say in this choice.
BS...I hate people who speak for mixed children that aren't mixed themselves. That's a wive's tale. Mixed children are still children, and are resilliant - and when I grew up things were much more segregated. I did just fine. It's WAY easier today, unless you live in an area that's still living in the 50s. Don't believe that "do it for the kids" crap. As I said before, if anything being mixed gave me a sense of understanding from both sides and a feeling I belonged anywhere. I think it made me more well balanced, and took my focus off color and instead I dealt with people as individuals.
What DID hurt me was the type of parenting I was subjected to and an absentee parent, both of which have nothing to do with race.
Reenie, that would be sad, except that there is no "black world" or "white world." Your acquaintance's children either married into families of asshats or were themselves unpleasant or oversensitive. Sooooooo many people could care less what anyone's "heritage" is, and they are black, white, and everything else and in-between.
Exactly. Doubtful that those children weren't accepted for race as much as the people they're dealing with were less than classy. Happens all the time. If you're smart, you realize that and you don't let it bother you, regardless of race or background. | |
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Posted: 10/3/2007 4:07:02 PM | To Msg #63:
I totally disagree with you and will retain my opinions as I see fit.
Who in Hell do you think you are to make comments like "you may want to cut it out" when you know nothing about the situation I described and I had a "front row seat"??
Talk about cojones....yours must weigh you down.LMAO. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 6:35:20 PM | Personally, I don't condone mixed marriages. And it seems with a black/white marriage, the first thing that is going to happen is she going have one in the oven.. and that poor child what faces them... but it is the parents fault for bringing a mixed child into this world. It looks to me like the black men are trying to breed the black race out of existence, when in fact 90% of them are having babies with blond white women.. coincidence??? I think not., since their genes produce a whiter pigment. It seems that everyone wants to be white... Lordy, I don't know why!!I have studied the teachings of Dr. King, and Malcolm X extensively, and find that Malcolm Little was also a racist, and his teachings suggests... can the Ethopian tiger change it's spots?? Yes, he can, and basically that is what Malcolm Little wanted for the black race. However, Coretta has taken issue with Dr. King's notes being for public view and asked they be locked away for the next 50 years. Wonder why?? Maybe they would tarnish his name?? Maybe wait until we have his name on every building in every city, then release the notes!! No damage done!! It's like society trying to force the issue on me to accept black/white marriages, or the government telling me what to think.. as that is very close to socialism. No need to wave that word"racism" in front of my face, as they have been doing for years. In fact it was a word "coined" by the black race, to relplace the word prejudice and now everyone uses it freely.
But on another note, I would welcome a relationship with an Latino, Asian, European, or any other race, if they could prove their lineage to be pure. | |
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Posted: 10/6/2007 6:54:23 PM |
What two consenting adults do is nobody's business but their own....but in my opinion they should think VERY carefully before they bring children into the world.
While I can see where some people state these things, but I so don't agree. I'm as white as Casper, my exhusband is Portugeuse. He adopted my son, we married and that meant we all share a last name that appears Latino/Hispanic/Spanish-Portugeuse. Based upon our last name alone, it's assumed we are of a race other than Irish/German (my son and I.) How silly. There have been issues, comments, and one time the Aryan Brothren made my son and I a target for some nasty comments, threatening movements and even threw stuff at us. PFT on that.  We are probably more white than they were. This topic makes me ill.  People are just people. My son certainly did not suffer by loving a man who loved him back, yet gave him a perceived "ethnic" last name. I kept the last name post-divorce out of respect for the man who so loved my son, yet I have been questioned as to heritage....that's simply ridiculous in my mind.
In my family, we have the League of Nations. And since some of my Mormon cousins have found having biological children impossible, we have added three nations in one chunk via adoption. They are just children. If adults don't fill children's heads with these notions, I doubt the hate would continue. Children don't wake up one morning with racial thoughts ~ they are taught those things. JMO  | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 9:45:36 AM | To verygreeneyez:
I was commenting on the OPs post regarding Black/White unions. What on earth has that got to do with a Portugese ex-husband or your Mormon cousins' adoptions??
And my apologies to Msg#63......that was a typo. My post was meant for Msg #83......and when I tried to corrected it, the service wouldn't allow me any more posts because I already had the "last 2" at that time. LOL. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 1:09:47 PM |
To verygreeneyez:
I was commenting on the OPs post regarding Black/White unions. What on earth has that got to do with a Portugese ex-husband or your Mormon cousins' adoptions??
What does it have to do with you? You stated that someone should think carefully about having children who may be interracial. I was attempting to explain that "interracial" is sometimes perceived even when it is NOT the case. I'm sorry you missed the reference. In addition, sometimes quoting someone may indicate the entire post was intended for ONE poster, when in fact, one may be posting to the thread as a whole, not to just one person.
~OT~ Marry the person, not the color. Have children if you prefer to have children. My opinion is that I live my life and my life only ~ who am I to judge who has children or who marries who??? Unless it's happening in my house, it's really none of my business. JMO | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 1:19:13 PM | | i have no problems with different races of people marrying each others or dating if thats what this post is about.even myself when i look for someone to date i dont care what color or race they are.i would totally date a black,chinese,spanishs women or any other races.to me race or color doesnt matter at all.actually i find womens of other races very attractive but unfortunately i live in a town where different races and color is very rare so most of the choices are white people lol.its really too bad tough.not enough diversity in my town. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 2:23:22 PM | I prefer dating outside of my race...
Growing up I was referred to as 'oreo' and other such comments...they've made me stronger.
My ex-husband was native...my family accepted him without question...
My nephews are all mixed and gorgeous...
What right does someone have to judge what's right and what's wrong...?
Frankly...I don't give a rat's behind what others think about my preferences...they don't have to walk in my shoes or live my life...
At the end of the day...it only matters what makes you happy and fulfilled...
Just be supportive...
**those who matter don't mind...those who mind don't matter... | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 2:44:16 PM | I think mixed marriages are a brilliant idea, its always best when its a man and woman.
That said same sex couples are a fine thing too as long as the love is there and the promises kept.
The above being true....what the hell does race matter? | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 3:08:12 PM | Love is not defined by "color" or ethnicity. If some are ignorant enough not realize this or belittle another because of their "differences", then I genuinely feel sorry for them.
Some may miss out on experiencing love in its purest form because they fail to focus on the things that truly matter.
I'm sorry to hear your niece had to expereince racism at such an impressional age, and in this era. | |
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Posted: 10/7/2007 3:51:55 PM | I had the honor of being married to ( in my opinion) the handsomest , loving man with carolina blue eyes. We went through alot and his family made sure I did not mistake their tolerance of me for kindness. But I loved him and cared for him until cancer took him. No one should pass up love because it didn't come in the package we are accustomed to. Real Love in this world is not easily found. Those who speak ill of children who have two cultures inside their veins will always be mean. Unfortunately the children will always be hated because those children are a testiment to what we as society are capable of if we would just stop treating each other harshly for a color we have no control over. whether we are brown, white, red or purple...we need to love and be loved | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 8:33:38 AM | | God has and always will have the final say,and he knows everones heart, those people will be held accountable that speak ill will against any of his children. | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 8:39:14 AM | If they prove successful...then who should care about the differences?
I thought we'd gotten over this decades ago... | |
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Posted: 12/29/2007 11:55:38 PM | I'm going to answer this question with a question. Has anyone (male or female) experienced anything like this?
I'm a white male. For most of my life, I worked in a majority-black organization, and many of the offices I worked in were majority-black. Not a problem. But THIS was:
Some of the black people in the office thought I was racist because I wasn't interested in dating black women. Some of them practically made me out to be a Klansman! It really p***ed me off. I consider myself a liberal on social issues, including race relations. But I've never been attracted to black women. Does that make me a hypocrite? | |
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Posted: 12/30/2007 2:09:56 AM | Well, I think marriage sucks, so that should explain my thoughts on mix marriages. Is it worse due to race? Not intrinsically. You'll have to deal with more societal BS though.
Funny how some think you're supposed to marry the same race, but they are often the same ones who are against the same sex marriages. Wonder if they choose the same eye color or not in spouses. After all skin is just an organ, like the eye is an organ. If you need organs to be the same, date the same sex, same eye color and race. | |
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