| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/10/2007 7:05:47 PM | i think your view is ignorant and judgmental. there are plenty of factors that come into play when it comes to weight issues (whether they be under or overweight) that don't necessarily mean that they don't respect themselves.
for me, i'm overweight partly because of a side effect of medication. i exercise an hour a day, and still i'm overweight. i've come to accept myself, and so have a lot of guys. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/10/2007 7:16:24 PM | Jokster...
You are correct that obesity increases one's risk of developing conditions.
There is a huge difference in stating that we have an obesity problem... and in stating that obese people have NO SELF respect!!!!
Children in the US are more obese then ever.... | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/10/2007 7:53:25 PM |
Jokster...
You are correct that obesity increases one's risk of developing conditions.
There is a huge difference in stating that we have an obesity problem... and in stating that obese people have NO SELF respect!!!!
yes it's true ... self-image and body-image are seperate from each other | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:30:33 PM | | Why do people think that fat people in general aren't aware of the health risks? Believe me, we are all aware of them. Some people just don't care enough to get into shape and some try but struggle with it. But it's a little ridiculess to say that ALL fat people are unhealthy. I swim for at least an hour three times a week and I have a treadmill at home that I use at least twice. PLus I have that stupid DDR game (silly but it's amazing how much of a sweat you can work up). But I have to say that I hate using the term BBW...personally if there had been an option that said "Fat Chick" instead of BBW I would have taken that one. And OP...no you're not a jerk...you're not into fat chicks just like I'm not into muscle heads or pretty boys, it's all attraction and preferance. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:40:17 PM | Wheel chair AND extra weight here.
I must be very unhealthy, low self esteem, and don't care about myself.
Wow, what else will I learn about myself on PoF? | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/10/2007 8:55:32 PM | Well first of all, No matter what size the woman is, a woman takes care of herself. A lady can be 300 lbs, but she still takes care of herself. People love to eat. Theres nothing wrong with that. Every person is beautiful no matter what they look like. They shouldnt be judge based on their weight . Some people who are overweight are overweight because it runs in their family. I know plenty of women who are overweight and care more for themselves then the skinny little twig women (who throw up to stay skinny).Just becacuse your big does not mean you dont take care of yourself. As for the part of your question as to are you a jerk? Seome people would say yes, some people would say no. I fall within the people who say "yes". | |
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lxboy
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Joined: 1/17/2007
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/10/2007 9:06:11 PM | OP you are not a jerk. I feel pretty much the same way, a few (and I do mean a few) extra pounds are okay, in fact I prefer a woman who is not a stick. But I am just not attracted to someone whose waist is larger than mine (unless they have the height to go with it, but that brings up a whole nuther issue).
Sorry to all the people this may offend, but if you are honest with yourself (and us) you have to say that there are people in this world you are not attracted to based solely on looks.
I was gonna venture a guess as to a dress size limit, but then I realized that that would be asking for trouble.
Try not to stress over it, some people aren't gonna like you and some people are. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 6:49:19 AM |
you have to say that there are people in this world you are not attracted to based solely on looks
Agree poster above... I saw some of the replies on a post last week asking why women prefer tall, dark and handsome. Most of them just wrote... because we do. It wasn't considered offensive on the whole either.
We like what we like. If you like somebody that doesn't find you attractive because of your colouring or your height, you're pretty much stuffed. If it's a weight issue purely then at least most (not all) people can do something about that, may not be easy but it is possible. I imagine most larger ladies wouldn't be interested in somebody who's not interested in them anyway so don't really have to make that choice! | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 6:59:03 AM | | Yes, I’d have to agree with you, lxboy... you and OP are not jerks, just lack life experience. As to OP’s comment about it coming “down to an issue of health and self-respect”... I think that enough has already said to put him back in his tiny box. But, go ahead, enjoy your current opinions of women and their shapes and sizes... as the years press on, so shall your opinions change. You just may discover that true beauty only lies within... that your soulmate (for lack of a better word) may look completely different than what you expected, desired, or ever considered. Whether a size 2 or 20+, I just believe that everyone deserves a better break than an impersonal notice of the outside package. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 7:07:54 AM | Yep, I think saying one isn't attracted to overweight woman (or men for that matter) because of health reasons is bit of a smoke screen.
Does that mean when you see a heavy woman from across a room you say "Hmmm, I'll decide if I'm attracted to her or not once I find out if her excess weight is due to poor lifestyle or some condition she has no control over."
If you're not physically attracted to overweight women, just admit it.
You are not required to find anyone attractive no matter what your reasons are. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:02:05 AM | I imagine most larger ladies wouldn't be interested in somebody who's not interested in them anyway so don't really have to make that choice
That about sums it up! Here's how it works. I'm a larger girl and seeing some of the guys talk in here, if I turned around tomorrow and lost 50 lbs, I wouldn't give them the time of day. Why? Not because I felt slighted as a bigger woman, but because their attitudes bite the big one. I couldn't care less if a guy doesn't find me attractive because I'm not a size 2...but why be rude about it? Why go out of your way to insult someone? Why tell someone because they are fat they are basically sloppy seconds? It's an attitude problem. And fat or thin...I don't care for people that think and act like that. And alot of women would agree with me...whether they are fat women or thin women. Not to mention, I wouldn't introduce some of the jerks in here to any of my thinner counterparts, based on their attitudes alone. And guess what? All of my friends are beautiful young ladies, alot of you would just love to get to know. You make your own demise, but us ladies thank you graciously for showing your true colors upfront, so we don't have to dig around to find them.
There is a thing called Unnessessary rudeness. See what a poster wrote below:
OP, I agree with you 100%, my views exactly.
Had he left it at that..there's nothing offensive about his post, however he added the following:
Welcome to the Jerk Club....really its the best club to be in, see the sign "no fat chicks"
"See the Sign....No Fat Chicks". Why be rude about it? It's no longer an opinion or a preference it's downright rudeness..and for no reason whatsoever. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:02:27 AM |
OP, I agree with you 100%, my views exactly.
Welcome to the Jerk Club....
Count me in too.... and, yes, I've had some really nasty responses from women for my preference.
I had one email me with a really nasty note. Sheesh. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:16:37 AM | " A lady can be 300 lbs, but she still takes care of herself."
HAHHAHAHAHAHA, no.
"then the skinny little twig women (who throw up to stay skinny)."
anger and resentment anyone? with a side of jealousy? | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:39:56 AM | | First dont Judge a Book By the cover....You Dont think a girl is attractive because She is a lil Over Weight..Well Theres alot of "over Weight" Models out here Who I think are The Most Beautiful Women out here.. and another thing just because a woman is some what over weight dont mean they dont take care of themselves you know what i used to be Bigg.. and guys like you would always bring me down.. But yet when i lost my weight they wanted to hollar at me.. I think not.. If you gonna go by someone because of their weight.. ur totally missin out.. Maybe you'll find out when your wiser.. you yourself isnt gonna look like that forever, you could go bald.. Get fat too .. how would u feel if a woman judged you from that? think about it! | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 10:47:11 AM |
If you gonna go by someone because of their weight.. ur totally missin out..
Comments like this totally amaze me! Do you seriously think that he's missing out by not dating women he is completely unattracted to physically? Gawd almighty, would anyone want a mate who wasn't physically attracted to them? If you're interested in the sexual part of the relationship, you better damn well have a good dose of "wanna jump his bones he's so hot" going on. Otherwise, I'd say that those of you who keep claiming this? aren't interested in the physical part of a relationship at all.
Weight, height, skin color, age, foot size...whatever....makes no difference to most of us when making friends. But a lover? There's not a one of us who don't have certain things that make us go "oh yeh" and others that make us go "no way in hell." | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:07:47 AM | Wow, another I don't like fatty women post. OP-date whoever the hell you wanna date, no one is gunna care. I mean seriously, if you don't wanna bag a heffer, don't.
Everyone has preferences, and everyone is entitled to them. Contrary to what someone said earlier, you don't have to justify them, to the people on POF, or anywhere else for that matter. If someone started this thread by saying, I don't like blondes, does that make me a jerk, would anyone care? Nope. Suddenly, when weight becomes the issue, everyone has to jump on the "It's good to love bbw's-fat girls-whatever the term for today is", bandwagon?
I'm chubby, so don't think it's me being one of those awful skinny girls hating on fatties. I could stand to lose 25 lbs. Am I going to blame it on a myriad of health problems? Nope. If I really wanted to do it, I'd work out 5 days a week instead of three, and only drink light beer. :) | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:26:11 AM | Well honestly, since I have become more health conscious and more active, I have also become less interested in overweight/unhealthy men.
Mostly because I still do like unhealthy foods occasionally, but I do not want it around constantly...and because I would like someone who would like to enjoy going to the gym with me and have the stamina that I have.
So I do not think it makes anyone shallow or a jerk for not wanting to be with someone who is of a different lifestyle, or even of a particular appearance. Some people are just not attracted to particular things. Why force it? Nobody, not just an obese person, would want to be the person you had settled for. | |
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lxboy
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Joined: 1/17/2007
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 11:39:58 AM | Love your attitude smileygirl. Attraction based on physical appearance plays a huge part in finding a lover, along with a myriad of other things. To the people who say it doesn't matter, I'm calling you out! Can you honestly tell me that you never see someone and think, "Man I wouldn't want to have sex with them, they are not attractive at all!"
We are not saying that physical appearance is the be all and end all of what makes a mate desirable, but for us it is important, maybe more so than it is for you. But hey what kind of world would we live in if everyone felt the same way about these things, or anything for that matter. We are all different, and that's what makes life so interesting.
As I said before, some people will like you and some will not, and that's their prerogative.
"If you've ever needed proof of intelligent life in Outer Space, consider the fact that they've never been to visit this planet!" Anon.
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Joined: 11/9/2006
Msg: 96 | |
| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 12:59:31 PM |
Get fat too .. how would u feel if a woman judged you from that? think about it!
There are a lot of women who wouldn't date obese men. There are even some women who wouldn't date a decent looking man that matches most of what she is looking for because he doesn't have "GQ looks". Some obese women need to be less sensitive. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 1:05:38 PM | | ^^^Actually, I'm one of those. I'm attracted to certain body types (don't have to be buff and don't care for huge muscles), but I've never seen a human face I thought was unattractive at first glance. We're all attracted to different things. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 5:08:57 PM | This guy comes into where I work and he is in his 40's he is NOT a small guy... he likes em young.... and skinny.. half the girls he talks about I tell him he better check their ID.
Whelp, I think He want's to join YOUR club OP! Someone else and I were talking about one of the gals was pregnant. So this guy jumps in and he says "maybe she's just getting fat" I said No she's not gaining weight in her face or any other part of her body... just her tummy. He said "I ask all the fat chicks when they are due!" I told him that could really hurt their feelings because someone asked my roommate when she was due and she wasn't pregnant... she cried and cried. He said. "I figure if I ask when they are due... and if their not pregnant... maybe they'll do something about being fat!"
So I looked him up and down... and said "hmmmm so how does it work for men? I mean what are we supposed to ASK U? " 
You can be attracted to whomever you want..... nothing wrong with that. I just have a problem when people want to JUDGE others... Make blanket statements about the fact they must not have self respect for themselves. | |
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| I'm not into overweight women, am I a jerk?
Posted: 4/11/2007 7:06:04 PM |
Last night Sara and I visited the Body Worlds exhibit at the Science Museum of Minnesota in St. Paul. Before we entered the exhibit however, we viewed The Human Body Omnitheater show. We both enjoyed the Omnitheater show and agreed it was a good “warmup” for seeing the anatomical displays of organs and how they are positioned in the body. The movie gave human body parts “motion” and explained operations, while the exhibits were purely static (although the way the 25 or so full size figures were positioned was often to convey motion). The movie noted that the human body is made up by 65% water, around 25% carbon, and contains traces of gold, among other interesting facts. The exhibit itself was very interesting and informative. I was particularly interested in seeing how the lungs of a smoker, diseased kidneys (excessive alcohol), and other avoidable health risks affected internal organs. The exhibit showed white fat on cross-sections of a “healthy” weight individual (120 pounds, presumably female) and an obese individual (300 pounds), and emphasized the unhealthy internal burden the organs bear in the case of the obese individual (who died of a heart condition around the age of 50).
http://anatkinson.com/2006/07/13/body-worlds-at-science-museum-of-minnesota/ | |
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