lily78
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Joined: 4/5/2008
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/13/2008 11:11:53 PM | | well we're never alone. Look how many people post on these forums. When i can't sleep which has been a lot lately then i come here. So we may want that guy to cuddle to yes, and all women long it who are alone no matter how happy you are. But never alone on here. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/14/2008 2:28:55 PM | | Yep. I feel I am happy with my everyday routine. I love my work, love my home, and love the everyday routine of cooking, cleaning, dishes, laundry and shopping and watching movies, and just getting my mail. I feel I am happy, so if someone comes along, it would be great.... but if God has not lined up anyone for me, then it will be great, too. It's a win-win situation! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/14/2008 5:37:38 PM | Oh yes. Its been hard. I broke up with a guy that I never want to see again about a year a go. He's made life rought by being in and out trying for me to come back. He lost that battle...and what a battle. From livign with him and breaking up with him has been so exhausting then dating right away....I wasn't ready for that....but at the same time, I felt so lonley. More time has passed but you're right, friends with boyfriends, husbands, and the ones that were single are no longer....so yes, another saturday night alone, except Im with my wine! I go out and do the oneline dating and the real world dating. How are people who are single one minute taken then single and taken again!? Its been two years and no fish have bitten.
Being a 3rd Wheel is never any fun! I know! and being set up by friends is a disaster! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/14/2008 7:38:42 PM | Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
It is kind of odd. After the initial split from my ex, I figured I'd be in another relationship relatively soon. As the years rolled by, and situations changed, I found myself feeling less and less enthusiatic about getting involved with someone. Now it's past nine years of being alone, and I really don't see anything changing for me. I'm happy enough being single, but I miss the days when my marriage was at its best. If things keep on going the way they have been, my tombstone will say "He Never Settled" (LoL?)  | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/14/2008 9:07:04 PM | In a perfect world, everyone would happy, and no one would ever be lonely. This world is, unfortunately, very imperfect.
So, where do you go from here?
Realize you will never be satisfied with someone else until you are first satisfied to be yourself, then say hi to new people to make friends as the goal. One of these days you and one of those Friends will be married before you know it!
Love is shy! Cupid's arrows on;y make a direct hit into the unsuspecting: case in point being, that everyone I know who said they would never ever marry always wind up married within the year! so ironic sense of humor the universe has.
Everything will be alright. Have faith:-)
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 11:43:02 AM | I believe that all good things will come to people who wait take time make friends with people you do like an you may be suprised someone may be interested in abye making you a lifetime long term relationship comitment to you . My dear old mom said women an men who start as friends an sometime that takes yrs make the best marriage partners i think mom knows what she talkin abt her an pop been married over 40 yrs an were friends 6 yrs before they marrieds.  | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:21:57 PM | All the time...it's been a good 4 years since i've been in any form of relationship. Not much luck out there in the dating world, so thats why i'm here i suppose. Trying to get into this forum thing I guess
It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who feels lonely! Theres so many of you out there that are in the same boat as me, and that's very re-assuring.
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:39:14 PM | | Look at it this way , the third wheel can easily be the lead wheel... some of the loneliest times I can recall were inside a broken relationship, now it is just quiet times, there is a difference, loneliness can be cured with a friend or activity. I think the hardest part is letting go of the ties involved with the previous relationship and moving on to a single life. Once you do that and embrace it as a lifestle it can be awesome, like I say I was lonely (and often hurt)before too, now at least i have a cure...... | |
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PeterC
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Joined: 3/6/2008
Msg: 860 | |
| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:42:41 PM | Im 29 have chronic i'll health, live with my parnets, dont have a job, never lasted more than a few months in a relationship.
I think im doomed to a life of failed relations and casual hook ups. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 1:56:00 PM | | well ..i felt the same way as u..after my divorce ..i too thought i would be in another relationship soon...but it never happened and now it has been almost 5 years and i too realize that i am not really sure if i want that anymore..at times i think i do..and i guess if i could ever really trust totally someone....i would probably be more open to the possibility....but i think i am becoming resigned to the fact too, that i am happy enough being single...life still goes on and there is much to do yet .....and i guess if God has someone that would make my life brighter...then he will send him this way..if not...He still has good things in store...let's just enjoy life..until we get to the tombstone part | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 3:32:12 PM | | I'm suprised to see i have anything in common with anyone on this site. I have this problem and its called real life. I work 70+ a week with no spare time yet somehow my life is going backwards and in a state of decline??? Maybe this country isn't for me.... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 5:27:41 PM | | Yep. I know that feeling all to well . But I try not to think about it too much. Just makes me very sad. Most people I know believe I'm a happy person 24/7. I guess I put on a good front. But deep down inside I am lonely. I miss the touch of another, the hugs and kisses...the cuddling...I thrive on giving and receiving affection and when there's no one in my life, I can't express that and it really hurts. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/15/2008 8:59:00 PM | | As the years roll by I realize more and more that I will most likely be alone for the rest of my life. Just have to accept it and go on. I miss having someone in my life so very much all the time but when winter turns to spring and then summer and the sun is shining and it's a beautiful day I feel terrible loneliness. At times I feel like I could cry a river but it's been quite awhile since I cried, only makes me feel worse SO the answer is YES I do feel like I will be alone forever. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:37:40 AM | After my divorce, I thought it was going to be soooo easy to meet that special someone but 3 years have now gone by now,and for the last couple of months I have become BURNT out on even trying....So ya,do feel I may be alone forever,and accept it....Maybe MY wants are unrealalistic,but would rather be alone,than settle.Ignored the RED flags last time,but not again...
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:53:55 AM | Im the same as a couple of posters above. Before my marriage it was easy come easy go, was never alone for long. Since my marriage ended over 6 years ago I've been single apart from a couple of short term romances.
I've started to accept the possibility that I'm not going to find the right person for me. Dating and writing to people used to be fun, but it's starting to feel like a waste of time.
I feel like pulling the plug on trying to find someone now, but I'll keep my rod in for a few more weeks in case its just a phase I'm going through. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/16/2008 9:07:34 AM | Geez, (Eagle), "Thanks for the advice"... ...
Do I feel like Im going to be alone forever, "Nah, "My daughter needs her Daddy all the time"...
Geez, I hope I dont end up some crotchety old fart mad at the world ...Jus take this ole horse and put em down..
There is someone out there for each one of us...I jus hope I did not use up all my allotment tickets too early..  | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/16/2008 1:08:10 PM | | I sometimes think that I am going to. I am looking for that perfect woman and know there isn't one out there. I let things turn me off about a woman when more then likely in the long run they wouldn't be any big deal. On the other hand, the older I get I won't just settle either. If it turns out that I am, so be it, even though I know I don't want to be, but I just won't put up with the shi* most people do in this world. Would much rather be alone than deal with all that. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/16/2008 8:20:34 PM | | Sure. But there alot of girls my age who get trapped into that need a man thing. Some even try to find dates for me or always ask if there are any new prospects. But the b/fs and husbands they have I wouldnt look twice at . So Im content just to wait for the better things in life amd find my one and only on my own time.Even as a teen I never felt like I "needed" a boyfriend to validate me as it seemed so many gals my age did. I much rather be on the hunt for a cute pair of shoes than get stressed about searching for a b/f. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/17/2008 9:31:07 PM | | Not only feels like it..but knows already that I will be single from now on...no man will ever get in my heart and soul again. Most men wouldn't even try... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/24/2008 6:03:43 PM |
After my divorce, I thought it was going to be soooo easy to meet that special someone but 3 years have now gone by now,and for the last couple of months I have become BURNT out on even trying....So ya,do feel I may be alone forever,and accept it....Maybe MY wants are unrealalistic,but would rather be alone,than settle.Ignored the RED flags last time,but not again...
BURNT OUT?? Boy am I sick of this crap!! Being alone forever seems to be the only choice there is. There isn't anything else possible I can do about it. What I find funny is guys claim to have the same problem but they don't give anyone a chance. They see someone that may not have a perfect body over 40 and think they can find a 18 year old that will not be looking for an old guy to take care of them and give them what they want and wonder what is wrong with women.
I don't understand why it has to be so hard to only find someone HONEST or not playing games. This over 4 year search has been more time and effort than a second job with the time and all the work I have done to try to get is right. I have wasted so much of my time looking for something that obvioiusly doesn't exist. I would rather be alone than to settle, but there has to be at least one person on the planet not playing games - looking for a one night stand or married looking for something they can't get enough of at home.
The kind of people I have met, only makes me see how much better off I am alone than to trust that I am in a steady relationship with someone who isn't being honest with me. It doesn't make me think that I will ever be able to trust anyone is being honest, because of the percentage of people I have met who obviouisly aren't. I look at the couples I see and wonder does she know he is sneaking around on her, no matter how much he tries to show her he isn't. It is all a big cover up with everyone leading double lives, because I must have talked to every married man in the GTA by now. The single guys are never looking for a long term relationship that requires meeting someone more than once, no matter what they claim to be looking for. | |
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