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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/18/2008 11:48:50 PM |
Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
All the time. I have a buddy who just got married, another one who's been there for almost two years, every gal I do know who I would date has a boyfriend, and it doesn't help that I'm pretty anti-social. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/19/2008 6:29:59 PM | | yup, i always feel alone. to make matters worse im a truck driver, the shitty thing is that i've grown to accept the fact that i'll always be alone. even when i do find someone it always seems to be the town nut!!!! oh well thats life i guess. keep the faith im sure you'll all find someone special. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/19/2008 7:13:34 PM | | You know what, on my profile, I have a song on there by Daughtry, and if you listen to the words real closely, its about not giving up and a past relationship that ended that made him the person he is now and he found the woman he wanted to really be with and it wouldnt have happened had him and his ex stayed together...listen to it....Maybe that will help | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:17:53 AM | | I've been feeling like this a lot lately. Women all say they want a nice guy, which I've been told I am, but then when it comes down to it, they really don't. They'll go on 1 date w/me, if that, then nothing. Not really sure what the issue is. And all my friends are married or near married and some have kids. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 3:56:51 AM | No one has to be alone and everyone can find that special person to share their life with. But sometimes you have to find that person in the real world and not on the computer. Believe me sometimes it is not always to meet someone as you can be severely hurt and still end up alone. I met my true love and soul mate on this site over a year ago, we fell in love, we promised each other that we would fight to be together and would always be true to each other. But that person had issues and a insane ex and of course the result was that i was always pushed away and the ex took my place. Well i stayed in the background with that person for over a year, giving all i could and fighting for us both and not giving up on having a future together. Hell, she even thanked me for not giving up on us and her and said we would be together when she found the strength to get rid of her ex. A cycle appeared where i was pushed away and ignored, then we would get back in touch and start again and it got worse everytime.....god it was hard but i stayed strong for both our sakes. Then when the ex was gone i was told i wasnt loved enough to be with, they were not going to chance being hurt and they wanted to heal.....and that was that. She went and is now back on this site looking for men to date and i am left alone and broken. I am one of those very rare people that if i say i love someone and i promise that no matter what happens i stick to it through thick and thin. You may take a few knocks along the way but if you were true then what you promised and pledged would still be strong inside. I do think people say words of love and committment without ever really meaning it. Anyway i am going to be alone for the rest of my life and it kills me. I have had a string of really bad relationships where i have been badly abused by each woman i met (so it is not only men who abuse) and i know that this person is the only one i want and can be with. The old cliques of times a healer, plenty more fish in the sea etc are just words and do not have the ability to heal. You minds tells you all you have lost and will never have and the heart aches and dies that that person isn't with you to give you that kiss, smile or touch. And it bloody well hurts to see them looking to date on this and other sites so close to supposedly being with you.
Therefore you can find someone to stop that loneliness if thats what you want. I personally wouldn't say that this is the best place to find that special someone and i do think there are alot of people on here nursing wounds, have issues or are lying to themselves that their ready to be with someone. Im here for friends only as i know i cannot get close to anyone again. And to be honest i do believe that alot of people on here and other sites are not really after a meaningful relationship but after something more casual or just sex. Why do all the 'good looking' woman have hoards of faves (especially the ones looking for sex) but others none......hmmmm i wonder.
If you don't want to be alone then go out and find them. Don't use sites like this as there are far too many people hurting and reaching out and the chance is you will meet someone who really doesn't want you, but when you realise that it's too late to stop the hurt.
Lifes a gamble, you roll the dice and see what comes up. Like i say i fished in this pond and i got not only the girl of my dreams but also ended up having them leave me because they needed to heal and come back here to hook someone else (such a long story). Can't see how being with other men is healing but hey....
So ultimately its up to the individual....be alone or not. Sometimes a person has been too hurt or has so much love for someone that is not returned but which makes you unable to find someone else. Some can go from person to person without much effort and some just need to look elsewhere in the real world. I have spoken to a few people on here and to be honest they all have had issues which they need to shed before looking for someone as it just isn't going to work. Sadly alot of lost and lonely people come on here blind thinking they have no issues or in an attempt to heal and feel wanted but ultimately just hurts others. Thats why i have made sure people know im here for friends only....no flirting...nothing.
I have no doubt POF and other sites can find you good people to befriend but unless your one of the very few lucky ones who do find mutual true love, i don't think you'll find anyone on these sites that is here for all the right reasons. Too many people with issues and broken hearts; peoples need to fulfil the loneliness/void in their life; a silly attempt to heal their issues by coming on here and being with other people which is not healing, too many people who are really looking for a quick fling and too many people coming here who are lying to themselves.
I urge everyone caution on here and do hope that if you meet someone then get to know them VERY well before getting into a relationship. Make sure you don't get burned. If you want to be with someone then look outside your door and not into a world of the lonely and hurt who come together in broken union.
Good luck to you all and i wish each and everyone of you happiness, long life and joy. I had mine even though it was for such a small amount of time | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:23:05 AM | At one time I may have thought I'd be alone forever, but all that did was make me more desperate, and that doesn't get you what you want. It just encourages you to lower your standards, just to find someone.
Depending on how things go I won't be "alone" anymore. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 4:33:04 AM | My "baby" cousin just announced that she's pregnant - and that just made me feel MORE pathetic! I mean, I recently came from a family cruise and it really hits home that I'm alone when everyone's paired up for dinner and there I am - sticking out like a sore thumb all by myself. That didn't stop me from having a good time, mind you, but at certain times I just wanted to cry - especially when I look over and see a cousin rubbing the arm of her husband or they're holding hands and all I want to do is be with someone I love just as much, if not more, and do the exact same thing.
I ended a 7-year relationship back in '04 because we simply fell out of love for each other and I want so much more. There are times I feel like that was my one and only chance and that now I won't have another relationship - ever - that I blew it! I don't want him back but I certainly don't want to go the rest of my life alone, either.
So, to answer the question - absolutely, I feel like I'll be alone forever! I pray that isn't the case, though! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 1:13:52 PM | My Glass is always Half Full ..lol you never know when you can meet someone but sometimes i do think that since iam 49 now no kids im settled in most of my ways but i should be a good catch own a nice home have my shit together ,,So when i do i do ..i did meet someone a month ago and was over that quick only 1 month aprox she just was not the right one for me,,so be that as it may someone told me about this site,,and so far not much luck but you never know.made contact with a beautiful women today ,might meet this sunday possibly she seems real nice , so just cross my fingers and go on thats it...LIFE IS GOOD!!
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 1:43:10 PM | | I dont have a girlfriend but i wish i did have someone.Ive been alone now fpr quite a few months and i was going out with someone not too long ago and she took her ex boyfriend back and then i heard she had found someone else and she is sleeping with him. I am getting my number switched cause she has called me up to tell me that she is having sex with some guy from saint john which is where she lives at. I believe myself that you dont need to have sex the first time you see someone. Im starting to forget about her anyway cause i wasnt even with her for a year. I have a job and i have gottne myself a motorcycle to go out and go travelling on to see some other cities and towns. I know that i will find someone else eventually. It takes time i guess. Just dont let it get you down . | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 1:44:26 PM | | oh I totally relate,and feel the same...why? because it's true. Basically we decide whether we'll be alone forever or not.Forget all the crap about fate and destiny..we choose to be withsome or choose to be alone (even if that choice is a by product of wanting to be with someone ie: being too picky) Listen missy,everyone has flaws,quite waiting for a perfect human being to come around,because they only exist in novels,and television/moving picture shows. Stay happy, and realize everyone picks their nose when no ones looking,and find a normal flawed guy that might surprise you...or stay alone forever,the call is yours - daz | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2008 6:43:52 PM | Yes, I’m beginning to think I’m probably going to be alone forever, and, yes, to some extent that is a choice. But it isn’t about not realizing that “everyone has flaws,” and I think there’s almost no such thing as “too" picky– especially for those of us looking for a long-term relationship that works and is mutually satisfying.
The fact is that we are living in a very different world than we were 20 or 30 years ago, and lifestyles and circumstances have become so incredibly diverse that it’s difficult for two compatible individuals who live close enough to date to even find each other. And sure, it’s also due in part to the ideals of “perfection” and instant gratification promoted by the media that lead some people to believe the next best thing is just around the corner, and they're going to miss out if they settle for less.
Still, every time I read posts written by people who are hurt or discouraged by rejection, I wonder why on earth anyone would want to be with a person who doesn’t want him or her anyway. Even if those who reject us were to drop some criteria or settle for less than they want to give it a chance, it would eventually lead to unhappiness and resentment for both parties.
I guess this is one area where my introversion is an advantage – I actually enjoy my solitude most of the time, even though I would like to find someone special to share some time with, too. And even in those moments when I do feel alone, or like I’m the last one left without a partner, I think there is probably no lonelier place to be than stuck inside the wrong relationship. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/9/2008 3:21:30 PM | Well.... I've only ever been in a relationship once, in high chool. I met her in summer school, we talked bit, went out on a date an continued dating for about a year, till we realized we were better as friends, an broke up mutually. We've been best friends ever since.
I've been single ever since, too. And lonely, miserably lonely. There's definitely days where I think, "Will I always be like this?" And it hurts.... 'sighs" | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/9/2008 4:08:24 PM | | Alone forever...yeah, sometimes. Lonely...hopefully not! I start thinking sometimes that if I were really meant to be with someone, it would have happened by now. And, since I haven't ever been married, I am not even in a situation in which I am relishing my solitude. I have had solitude all my life -- yuck! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/13/2008 12:58:26 AM | Definitely. Alot of people I went to school with are getting married en masse. I've wanted to get married for so long and I just got out of a painful 3yr relationship. I am not sure I can ever trust another guy and get past my fears that the relationship has given me. I don't want to go thru another bad relationship and let myself get close to someone who's just going to up and leave without a word, or cheat on me. Right now I see all guys (sorry, I know you're not all like this but I can't help it) as a threat. I def wish I could meet someone who's like me who's not looking for a booty call or fk buddy, and I wish I could learn to trust. But sometimes I wonder if I'll end up watching all my friends get married and have kids and I sit on the sidelines. I hope not! But I was burned pretty badly by my ex and I do worry that I may never find 'the one'. =/
I think alotta people feel this way. Esp ones who've been in bad relationships. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/13/2008 4:59:52 PM | | Yes...I feel that way all the time. I am a nice guy and I know I have a lot to offer, but it doesn't seem like any women, despite what they say, really WANT a nice guy. The best women I know are with guys who treat them like crap. I don't get that at all. I send messages on here and get no response...daily. The few who do reply disappear after one or two emails. Everyone I know is married or otherwise attached and that makes it difficult (for me) to do things with them as they are all paired up and I am always by myself. Even when I'm with a group of people, I still feel "alone" in a way. I keep having my (married) friends tell how they would LOVE to be alone. Easy for them to say. Sure it's nice occasionally, but when it's all the time it just sucks. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/13/2008 5:07:40 PM | | Yes I feel that way to. Here lately the only emails I get are from men over seas telling me they love me and want to spend the rest of their lives with me. and that is on the first email. or they only want sex but there is someone out there for you and me. we will find them. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/14/2008 9:43:54 PM | Everyone who is single has tried, and failed. That doesn't mean that we give up.
It just means that we have to find entertaining ways to fill our time, so we aren't lonely, doing the things we love. If you do what you love, the time alone doesn't seem as lonely. How does that saying go?..."if you can't enjoy your own comapny, how is anyone else going to?"
I think the key is to keep believing in a bigger force....
Let the force be with you!
Hugs! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/14/2008 10:53:06 PM | Oh, yes, I do; and the reason why, is that the older I become, the more, "picky" and "selective" I become; not, saying that I am shallow, I have just dealt with a lot of "bad" relationships in my past, where I was not particularly discriminative. And, today, I am paying the consequences  | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 7/15/2008 10:20:15 AM | nah i dont and even if i was to be alone forever that'd be ok
ohhh this reminded me of this song
Just give it on up to you
'Cause there are some things I won't do
And I'm not afraid to tell you
I don't ever want to leave you confused
The more you try
The less I bite
And I don't have to think it through
You know if I'm into you
I don't need a man to make it happen
I get off being free
I don't need a man to make me feel good
I get off doing my thing
I don't need a ring around my finger
To make me feel complete
So let me break it down
I can get off when you ain't around
Oh!
You know I got my own life
And I bought everything that's in it
So if you want to be with me
It ain't all about the bling you bringing
I want a love that's for real
And without that then no deal
And baby I don't need a hand
If it only wants to grab one thing
The more you try
The less I bite
And I don't have to think it through
You know if I'm feeling you
I don't need a man to make it happen
I get off being free
[ I Don't Need A Man lyrics found on http://www.completealbumlyrics.com ]
I don't need a man to make me feel good
I get off doing my thing
I don't need a ring around my finger
To make me feel complete
So let me break it down
I can get off when you ain't around
Oh!
Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey...
Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go (Let it go!)
Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go (Baby...)
Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go (No, no, no, no...)
Let it go, let it go, let it go, let it go (Let it go now baby!)
I don't need a... I don't need a man, I don't, no
I don't need a man to get me through
Cause I'm doin' fine I feel brand new
I don't need a... I don't need a man, I don't, no (let it go!)
I don't need a man to make it through
Cause I'm doin' fine without you!
I don't need a man to make it happen
I get off being free
I don't need a man to make me feel good
I get off doing my thing
I don't need a ring around my finger
To make me feel complete
So let me break it down
I can get off when you ain't around
Oh!
I don't need a man
I'm over you, yeah!
I don't need a man (Oh oh I'm over you)
I don't need a man
I'm without you
I'm over you
Oh! I don't need a man
I don't need a man (I don't need ya, I don't need ya no!)
I don't need a man
Oh! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 8/14/2008 5:17:16 AM | I understand what your talking abt, i'm living proof of it, it's worse when you have a companion like i do and still feeling lonely, it's easier being alone and feeling lonely, but when you have a companion and you feel invisible, there's nothing worse. Hang in there, dont be too anxious and dont try too hard, you'll find that someone.  | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 8/14/2008 12:40:02 PM |
I understand what your talking abt, i'm living proof of it, it's worse when you have a companion like i do and still feeling lonely, it's easier being alone and feeling lonely, but when you have a companion and you feel invisible, there's nothing worse. Hang in there, dont be too anxious and dont try too hard, you'll find that someone.
No, it is not worse, you already have someone. If you don't want to be there leave. Don't screw around behind their back. Stay with them, until you "think" you find someone better. People that feel lonely in their relationships should try putting forth some effort into fixing things, instead of being on a dating site, whining about how alone you feel when you have someone there that probably loves you very much. Oh boo hoo for you. Lord!
I think I posted somewhere way earlier in this thread. But yes I do feel like that sometimes, but I am happy with my life, so if I do end up being alone forever, I am okay with it. Happiness is within. | |
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