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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/10/2008 10:17:33 PM | you know...being alone is not so bad...
I have a lot more things than guys my age, who have kids and a wife, have. I have a 26" widescreen LCD tv, with a surround sound system, with a computer and PS3 connected into it. Along with a big dvd collection...I see it as money I've been able to use, saved due to not dating and being single for so long.
I am about to get a BA in art and have a set goal to go and teach in japan next year, something that could've been ruined if I would've had a gf or would've already had a kid, like a lot of other attractive guys with gfs have done.
I've accomplished a lot , being a single guy...
i know i am ugly, to a lot of lady's eyes I am, and yet....this one ugly dude has had a lot more good things happen in his life than any other pretty boy out there, who can get lots of sex has had.
and for that!! I am happy | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/10/2008 10:36:52 PM | Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/23/2005 8 34 PM
don't get wrapped up in the trap of needing a man.
trust me i dont need a man! i dont need a man for anything (cept maybe sex lol)
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Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 4/23/2005 8 38 PM
klo same here...guess im just gonna be smart and alone forever
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WOW...how sad. You have no idea what you are going to miss out on life with those kinds of thoughts...Sad.
No love
No husband
No children
No life
No grandchildren
No laughter with children..
No family
All alone......
And old....
probably wearing diapers..
Like monotone singing..
With hard soul..
lonliness ringing...
alone and old...
NO LIFE
Humans love to be loved...touched...cared about...they need it..If they do not seek it...they will become hard and cold and without real laughter...At least I would.
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/10/2008 11:50:42 PM | | i totally get that but for me its not Saturday it's almost ever night. all my friends have kids, or serious relationships or there are my friends that are way younger then me and are still totally in to the whole bar scene. not that i have anything against it i still go out every now and then but not on a nightly basis. don't get me wrong i don't have the feeling that I need to have a boyfriend, honestly I just miss the relationship factor that when I was married of when you come home at night someone was there and when you go to sleep at night there is that comfort of knowing that when its cold there is someone there to snuggle with. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/12/2008 12:51:20 AM | I've been in that place myself. So I know what you mean. In fact I remember that a couple of years ago during the holidays, two of my best girlfriends had steady guys that seemed crazy about them. And I still had no one. I was kind of busy working two jobs, and didn't have the time for a relationship anyhow. But I still felt lonely and picked over, and wondered what my friends had that I didn't . As it turns out neither of my friends are with those guys anymore, because they turned out to be losers anyway. But it just goes to show how sometimes other people's lives look better than they actually are, and our lives are blessed in a different way that we don't always see.
I'm still not in a relationship per se. But I have friends, belong to a couple of groups, and go out on Sat. night. This weekend for example, I'm deciding whether or not to go to this club I went to a couple of weeks ago, or to a swing dance. It's something I've been wanting to learn anyhow. And I'm even seeing someone. We don't have a relationship. But I'm simply having fun spending time with him and getting to know him better, and seeing where that goes. And I'm also keeping my options open, and dating other people if those opportunities come along and I'm attracted.
I guess the point is, that you seem like a great person with a lot to offer. The more you work on yourself, the more likely you will attract the right people (as friends, or perhaps something more) Most importantly, focusing on what you do have rather than what you don't is the key to contentment I think.
Best of luck to you. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/12/2008 12:54:09 AM | I've been in that place myself. So I know what you mean. In fact I remember that a couple of years ago during the holidays, two of my best girlfriends had steady guys that seemed crazy about them. And I still had no one. I was kind of busy working two jobs, and didn't have the time for a relationship anyhow. But I still felt lonely and picked over, and wondered what my friends had that I didn't . As it turns out neither of my friends are with those guys anymore, because they turned out to be losers anyway. But it just goes to show how sometimes other people's lives look better than they actually are, and our lives are blessed in a different way that we don't always see.
I'm still not in a relationship per se. But I have friends, belong to a couple of groups, and go out on Sat. night. This weekend for example, I'm deciding whether or not to go to this club I went to a couple of weeks ago, or to a swing dance. It's something I've been wanting to learn anyhow. And I'm even seeing someone. We don't have a relationship. But I'm simply having fun spending time with him and getting to know him better, and seeing where that goes. And I'm also keeping my options open, and dating other people if those opportunities come along and I'm attracted.
I guess the point is, that you seem like a great person with a lot to offer. The more you work on yourself, the more likely you will attract the right people (as friends, or perhaps something more) Most importantly, focusing on what you do have rather than what you don't is the key to contentment I think.
Best of luck to you. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/12/2008 1:04:49 AM | no i HAVE been alone foreva
t hehe
just live everything ATTITUDE is everything
lighten up n enjoy every day as the gift it truly is
some day when the grim reaper is knockin on ur door u will understand my attitude
kathi | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/12/2008 1:44:41 AM | | No love you won't - we all feel that way from time to time. One of the things that keeps me getting out of bed in the morning is the endless surpise of the day - gifts come when least expected and sometimes in our darkest hour. keep the faith. = suzanne | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/13/2008 12:43:58 AM | | I very fortunate in that I live with my son and daughter-in-law and that we get along beautifully. They are wonderful company, but we each have our own side of the house so there is privacy also. I never feel lonely for this reason. Now, at times, I definitely miss being in a loving relationship. But as 'genuineinharrison' said, it is better to be alone than in a bad relationship. I remember the pain of being in a marriage that was going badly and I never want to experience that sadness and loneliness again. I would like to meet a man that I can see occasionally, instead of constantly. For me, at this point in time, that fits better into my lifestyle. Perhaps I'll feel differently later on down the road. But for now I am content with my life the way it is. I have some excellent male friends that I see and that works out great. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 9/13/2008 12:50:16 AM | That's exactly where I'm at. After 18 years of marriage realizing that
it's not worth keeping. It's false. And now, facing being single and alone
is very scary. But, I have my kids. I have my family and I can have my
sanity back. That is what is important. Also, I never want to lose my
ability to love and be loved.......he was incapable. Learning to be alone
is something I want to do. Being about myself and not focusing all my
energy on an alcoholic who was mean anyway. Life can only get better.
Yesssssssss!!!!!!!!! To being alone and getting alot more done! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 10/9/2008 12:44:06 PM | Wow Aventine,
You just described my life! Sometimes I look around at couples and one or the other treats their partner with such disrespect or flat out contempt and yet they always seem to have mates. Its enough to make you wonder, "what's wrong with me?" Oh well, I guess I see 27 cats in my future. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 10/9/2008 3:50:34 PM | for a while after my last child left home....that 'empty nest' thing sure got me down....mourning 'moments' in time....missing all the characters that once filled the house...feeling lost, sad and lonely.
Then I began to realize all the little moments that a new found freedom brought...
decisions in an instant without considering anyone else first......WOW!
Soon.....I was well adjusted....feeling stable and secure in my new life and I've actually enjoyed my 'alone' times. I've friends and family and love. Of course, at times I'd like to feel that special "In Love" feeling......but, I certainly don't want to fill all that stuff that comes when it turns all wrong and NOT be Love at all.....Nah....life is good....and living a good life and being happy with what I've already been blessed with will be enough.....IF I never am afforded the opportunity to share 'the good pillow' again. It's all good. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 10/9/2008 8:45:51 PM | I know how you feel, I'm 57 years old,never been married or had any children.
Never met the right man, if I ever do I'll be the happiest woman in the whole
world. The right man has never come along.
Friday nights and weekends are the hardest, all i have for company is my
computer and TV. Would love to hook up with someone and go for a ride,
that would be fun,I give it all to the Lord, if its met to be, it will happen
when its the right time.May all of you have an awesome weekend.
Pat | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 10/10/2008 7:33:13 AM | I now what we should do, us single people, we should join a singles site and make lots of new friends - maybe even see if we can find a date for the long lonely Saturday nights. Maybe make some same sex friends so there is the chance of going out just as single mates rather than staying in all the time.
Now that's an idea, anyone know of a good singles site we could all start making new single friends. B R I L L I A N T I D E A !!  | |
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