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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 10/11/2008 8:33:50 PM | | Look at it this way,trust me when I tell you that you being the third wheel are looked up to.I go out with all my married friends and there miserable lol,they wish they were single or in a good relationship.Be lucky your the third wheel ! I love it! I see how pathetic men r and how some of the wives treat them like shit! not for me,I actually like being a third wheel,that way I make fun of all my buddies lol.On a serious note,being single allows us to see what we dont want,just dont forget it! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 10/12/2008 12:14:39 PM | I feel the same way. I got divorced because I was very unhappy. I happy to be out of that relationship, but I am sick of being single.I am a good person, but no luck.
I have dated a few guys, but nothing. Where are the decent men? | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/4/2009 2:00:19 AM | i am starting to think that now, i have been on here a while and i have never actually been on a date with anyone from this site, i dont know what it is the reason i havent been on date with someone from this site as i do tend to message a few women but i dont get that many replies ok things have improved that i have made some friends but only messaging them on here, it would be good to actually at least have a date from someone.
I really do feel that i am going to end up a alone forever the trouble is i am one of those nice guys and it is true with that saying "nice guys finish last" in my experience there has never been a truer word spoken than that. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/4/2009 7:54:34 AM | | ive been singel for two years now and the last girl i was with had a kid to another guy after making me think it was mine for 6 months i lost a lot but oh well thats life | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/5/2009 6:38:32 AM | | Yes I feel like this alot, but one thing I've learned is it's better to be alone than to have a relationship with the wrong person just because your lonely. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/5/2009 8:24:35 PM | | Yeah I know what you mean. I feel like I'm going to be alone forever. It's not easy for me to just stop looking cause I already feel like I don't meet enough guys. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/6/2009 2:48:40 PM | How many times have I thought this? My friends try and remind me every day that I don't HAVE to be alone. I could be with someone who I didn't love or treated me poorly by I CHOOSE not to do that. So, maybe being alone is a bit of a choice we make? It doesn't feel that way most days. I often feel a little awkward hanging out with all of my married friends and it seems like the only single guys in our group are a lot younger and interested in adding a knotch in their belt? It is hard. I think most of us are on here because we want someone to connect with. We need someone to recognize the good we know is there! All the little pep talks..."your time is coming" ..."you could have any guy you want"....the right one just hasn't come along sounds like blah,blah,blah after a while. The best thing I do for myself is work on me so that when I meet someone I can feel confident in who I am and what I have to offer. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/6/2009 8:46:10 PM | | Tried being married 3 times and you are alone, again. I love being alone. Sometimes I prefer to being alone as oppose to be married with someone I am totally unhappy with. The time will come when you world can't stop spinning and you are having the time of your life. I have 2 kids and they are the joy in my life. If it wasn't for them, I'd be where you are too. Trust me, you are not missing anything yet. Good luck though. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/6/2009 9:51:09 PM | didnt read all the posts, but my gosh, I like a lot about being single, freedom to be yourself 100% of the time for a while! dont let your lonelyness cloud that too much.
its the time to improve yourself [you dont have a choice if you want to start attracting people]
I went through that stage too, but [long story short] I started going to book stores a lot, bought a lot of cookbooks [cooking was very good therapy for me, have way too many cook books] Anyway I stumbled across a good relationship breakdown help book [works for many other trainwreck type of things too]
you have heard most of it before, but it helps to read it too!
can I post a book on here? | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/7/2009 4:13:19 PM | | hi im kathy im in a similar situation to u ive had 3 serious relationships one of the guys i was actually married to for 8 yrs then he walked out on me and the children for another woman ,he told me that he didnt want me in the first place that he only went out with me cuz he felt sorry for me now after 8 yrs of marriageim going thru a divorce which is sadly coming to an end he said to me that he was dating other women while he was with me and that i knew anyway cuz i just had that feeling he was seeing other women in the end he left us at twenty to twelve at nght with no money or food in the house and he has never been back since he sed that he knew this other woman for a while now,he hardly texes me never phones,only sees his daughter twice a month he never takes her to school and he deserves what he gets cuz his car broke down three wks ago what goes around comes around | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/22/2009 10:22:53 AM |
Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
44 pages i'd say is a pretty solid consensus on, a "yup" answer on that. Except for a time frame of 7 years when i was with the wrong person , i have been alone all of my life. Yup, that 7 year relationship was me taking the first thing that came along. When your always alone, its a hard not to make that mistake.
The thought of being alone forever, is a really hard one to swallow, but as time goes on, it is a thought that is inescapable. I think the thing that bugs me most, is when people say, "there's someone for everyone out there" or "for every jack there is a jill" or "you always find them when your not looking", i think all that is a load of horse crap. It's just something people tell themselves or their friends so they don't lose hope, when maybe, thats precisely what you need to do when your alone.
My thought is this, and its flying in the face of Murphy's Law. IF (yeah, big if), it's really true that you always find them when your not looking, then the only way you'll *really* stop looking, is if you truly believe there's nothing out there, and nothing in it for you. Sound really pessimistic i know. Along these lines, ive been struggling with this thought for many years now. That thought being, "For some people, some things are simply not meant to be". I think the sooner i can finally accept that, the happier I'll be. I'm pretty close to it, and i'm just starting to not care anymore. Nobody said life was fair, and thats just how it is. Now there's two sides to this coin:
Heads: If it's really true you find them when your not looking, i guess you'll find out first hand, and be honest with yourself about it. Sometimes even when your not looking, your looking, because you still hope. When you finally let go, you truly won't be looking.
Tails: On the other hand at least you have the satisfaction of not having BS'ed yourself and have stopped waiting around and wasting your time on something that isn't going to happen. Life goes on.
Now despite what i just said, there isn't any harm in keeping a profile up. I think finding someone is a lot like playing the lottery. Your chances of winning the lottery are a fraction of a percent, but if you want to win, you have to play. "Playing" in this context, is simply keeping a profile up in case all hell freezes over, trumpets sound, the sky falls, and the apocalypse is at hand. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/22/2009 12:18:31 PM | I'm single. I'm not alone. It isn't a disease or a mental condition. It's a state of romantic status.
And I'm just too awesome to be single forever LOL! So there...not worried about it. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/23/2009 11:13:10 AM | I've decided to quit trying to find someone.
Because I'm disabled I can't get out and meet peple IRL. I've been trying to meet someone online but I can't even get women to reply when I contact them. Even if they're not interested it would be nice if they at least acknowledged the email. Between this website and a few others, like eharmoney, I've contacted over 300 women in the last 2 years. Only 2 have bothered to reply and those were "thanks but no thanks", which is better than receiving nothing. A couple of others I was able to start a conversation with through the forums but nothing bacame of either. One I emailed because her profile was confusing. Had 'looking for a man' at the top but 'seeking a woman' below the picture. I emailed her to let her know. (She'd been wondering why she was getting emails from lesbians. LOL)
I'll keep coming here to read the forums because I enjoy them Otherwise, I give up.
Doyle | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/23/2009 12:55:28 PM |
I'm single. I'm not alone. It isn't a disease or a mental condition. It's a state of romantic status.
And a misleading one at that. Alone is literally not possible unless you're in confinement somewhere or choosing not to be social. Alone means not with ANYONE, not just an SO.
And single till the end is bliss compared to involved with the wrong person...anyday. I like my own company WAY better than I would someone I wasn't really into if I had to choose between an SO and no one. Luckily I have friends and family, so I don't have to make a choice like that.
I assume most people also have friends and family too, so "alone" isn't exactly accurate. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/23/2009 2:22:41 PM | Yea I felt that way before... I was 235lbs not huge but heavy and my best friend is the type who can get any girl he wants and a bit of a player... It made me feel like crap 24/7 and being shy didn't help. Then one day I meet the girl of my dreams literally she was perfect in more ways then I knew. She was 5ft tall petite with the perfect body she turned heads every where she went and for me to be with her I mean wtf how did that happen! lol Her personality was so dinkish yet uplifting and refreshing she was a child at heart and for 8 months made me the happiest man alive! 
However, who ever said it is better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all is full of shit! She cheated on me 3 times and gave my best friend a BJ (he was her ex so what ever expected I guess) We even had a ring picked out and I had bought her a $600 dollar promise ring. I can tell you this much I wish to got i never met the girl and I was still a V because now that its all said and done my lifes destroyed I cant sleep I cant eat I'm 180lbs and dropping I lost my best friend over this girl and my heart will never be the same.
I know I just had a bad experience but still maybe being alone is for the best at times... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/23/2009 7:00:39 PM | If you asked me that question several months ago, I would have burst into tears. Now, however, I am at peace with my future.
Like you, everyone I know - and I mean EVERYONE! - is spoken for. However, I CHOOSE to adopt a happy and content attitude because I am responsible for my own fate.
I have wasted too much time feeling sorry for myself as to why I am the only one I know who is not in a relationship. Instead, I now concentrate on living my life to the fullest. In my case, that means embracing hobbies, exercising, volunteering, getting together with friends, and learning new things - both personally and professionally.
I also practice MAJOR gratitude for what I do have ... no matter how small. For example, I'm grateful that I have the gift of movement, the gift of sight, the gift of hearing, the ability to give myself a hug, to take care of myself, to plan for my future ... and so on.
Ultimately, I can't control the future, which means I can't predict if - and/or WHEN - I may meet someone new. I am, however, obligated to make the most with what I have and to make a positive difference in each life I touch.
(P.S. - I'm also tapping out my response to you on a Saturday evening. And ... I have a smile on my face!) | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/23/2009 8:02:38 PM | its not self esteem issues...i like you feel the very same way and believe me i have a very high self esteem about myself...i am smart, funny and although i dont have a models body i feel beautiful and sexy but come night when i come home from work and finish my homework there i am...all alone...and as great as i may be that doesnt fill that emptyness. I've come to see it this way, maybe if we are confident and on top of that succesful men get intimidate because then we are more independent therefore it is harder for them to approach us. dont give up, love will come your way when you least expect it and it wont be mr right now, it will be mr right....and never for a second think that you need to change the directon of your dreams for anyone. hang in there  | |
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