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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/30/2009 5:52:24 PM | | I'm supposed to be in a relationship, yet she is drunk, im alone in my flat too. I wish i could find someone who isnt abusive. Maybe being alone is the best thing to do, who can you trust? | |
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Sorg85
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Joined: 2/22/2009
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/30/2009 11:35:15 PM | I can't really relate with you guys, since I grew up alone so I'm really happy when I'm by myself.
I don't think being alone is bad, you can do whatever you want without having to deal with a nagging significant other. A part of me would like to have that special someone, but I don't think it will happen anytime soon so I'm in no hurry.
I wouldn't let it bring you down, it's only natural to go through a period of time being alone so you can pull yourself back together. Even if you feel ready and can't seem to find or connect with anyone just wait. There will always be new people you'll meet or bump into. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/31/2009 4:37:19 AM | I agree with sorg. I'm a middle child, and I just seem to be really used to spending a lot of time by myself. I'm currently living alone, and I'm enjoying it. None of my brothers are currently living alone.
If I die all alone, I'll be entirely unsurprised. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/31/2009 5:37:45 AM | It sound like you are feeling sorry for your self, and that in it self makes you feel alone. There is no Mr Right every one has faults its how we see and deal with them that counts,
i have been alone for many years now one by chose and the other by circumstances but at the end i don’t feel like i am at the bottom of a dark hole make the best out of the worsted situation . and been with some one just because you feel this way all the wrong reasons .
Jet a job if you haven’t got one and job , that gets out and interacting with others, do some thing that you would never have thought that you would do (do a list of things to do and go out and do them little steps not giant leap) and so on and at the end you have a great time and when you get home you don’t feel so alone. Plus you have had a great time.
I hope this helps yu a bit
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/31/2009 9:59:11 AM | | I choose to be alone. People are beginning to piss me off. I've had too many people who I though were friends of mine but they just use me in one way or another. I've decided to work on myself and be happy with myself first. If I meet someone in the meantime and it works out, fine. If not, then also fine. Sometimes it's better to be alone than with someone and unhappy. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/31/2009 10:20:23 AM | | It does feel like forever!!! I was with someone for 12 years and now it’s been a year and a half living alone, even when I was with her I feared of dyeing alone, but sometimes it’s good to be alone. You get to know who you are and learn a little about yourself. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/1/2009 7:48:24 AM | Yes seems i can't seem to find anyone that's really wanting anything real. all about the games and bull crap, and i'am really at the point in my life i think i'am going to be alone forever. why does it have to be like this??     | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/1/2009 1:12:55 PM | | I was married and divorced and I stayed alone because I did not want to end up with another bad relationship.I got a computer and people said to me you should find someone it is time so I did and that one lasted a few years and ended.I was new to dating and alone a long time and the dating was so changed it was shocking.and I ended up with a bad man.I was better off alone after my divorce to late.Now I am looking again and this time I will not settle or hang in the relationship waiting for things to get better or the person to change.I am sick of the bad men I am a nice lady and I want to find a good decent nice man.I was told by my doctor to go to church he meet his wife there and I always had a strong faith and I always liked going to church so I have been going.I do not like being alone but it is better then being with a bad person.So I keep my self very busy .And I know god will send me the right person when it is the right time.I wish god would hurry up (Ha Ha)It is summer and I want to enjoy it with someone. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/2/2009 3:15:12 PM | Trutfully anymore I don't think about it. I have learned to live one day at a time. I'm more concerned about getting a job than a woman. Even being unemployed doesn't bug me because I have learned to not get upset at things I have no control of, and that is including being alone forever.
Don't sweat the small stuff, because it really is all small stuff. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/3/2009 4:47:20 PM | I always feel alone. I have not had a relationship in 10 years. As I get older I get more scared that this is how it is going to be forever. Reading this thread made me feel a bit more hopeful as I am not the only one to feel like this.
I am working on finishing school so once I do and start looking for another job maybe things will change. When you are not looking is when you find someone they say.
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/3/2009 8:30:43 PM | yes I do.
I'll be the lone picture on an old thread page that makes you think "my God I do not want to be that person" whose still on here after all the others from then have vanished. (I don't mean that negatively, like I'm saying I'll likely be there)
Many of my friends are long distance so I'm here and find new, long distance friends!
(I do have a bunch locally but we are not around each other a lot)
So alone forever? oh ya, I believe I've planned it out already! I'm going to become a lawyer so that men will be afraid to date/marry me and at least make my loneliness Work For Me!!!!!
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/3/2009 10:19:28 PM | | I feel the same way you feel. I went for a coffee date today and it was horrible. We had absolutely no chemistry and it was uncomfortable. So i know that i am turned off once again from this site so i will just stay home like you and drink my aquafina. There is still hope people have told me so.... do they see something for me that i don't see.... | |
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Sorg85
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Joined: 2/22/2009
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/10/2009 5:47:43 PM | Don't understand why people are so afraid of being alone. There is people all around you, and not having a significant other is perfectly fine.
perfectpru - this site does get me discouraged as well, but that is fine.. Like my grandfather has said "There is always the next train coming!" | |
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Cheba
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Joined: 4/10/2009
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:10:42 PM | constantly. then i flip open Hungry Planet and look at photos of people starving around the world and reopen my organic chemistry text book and start studying my little butt off.
yeah being lonely kinda sucks but there are other issues in the world and my loneliness is nothing compared to the true suffering out there.
it still would be nice to have a cup of coffee with a fella who wants the same things though
(drifts off into a daydream) (reopens organic chemistry text book). | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/10/2009 6:48:36 PM | hey gal,
he doesnt know what he is talking about, I am older and wiser. believe me guys say one thing and mean another. this past weekend a guy was going to meet me and stood me up. when I was young guys were at my door, now I feel I am going to be alone forever. Guys are liars, cheaters, and dont want to spend their money on a woman to get to know her. they are very selfish, and say anything for just one thing, do you want that. Keep it real. ok. thx.    | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/10/2009 7:17:01 PM | | No, not all guys are jerks. Some of us are sweet and yes, at 42, I feel lonelier than I ever have. But I have resolved to not allow myself to get bogged down in bitterness or discouragement. I wasted most of my 30's doing just that. Right now, I want to better myself and make myself BF material as best I can. I know if I don't try, I will regret it on my deathbed, which feels SO close at this point in my life. I love being in love, and yes, it's difficult, but I have to try and keep trying. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/11/2009 1:04:25 AM | | i feel the same way as you kristine.........don't settle, i have done that so many times in my life & i always regret it after we breakup. i think you are holding out for the best...& i am 41 and finally doing this in my life. ...it has taken me a long time to stop going for bad boys. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/11/2009 3:14:04 AM | I feel that way quite often. I'm also a very positive person and, like you, it's mostly people who are near my parents' age who add me to their favorites or contact me. I've been where you are on countless occasions. For a couple of years, I had an extremely enjoyable illusion that I had left that place behind forever. Now, I'm right back at square one again. Stepping back and looking at the stupendous odds we face in our search for a truly life-long partner, you can start to wonder whether those people with less scruples have the right approach afterall. They always seem to find someone all too willing to overlook that and shack up with them.
As someone who has experienced a great deal of loneliness over the years, I can't say that I have discovered any profoundly successful approach to it. I tend to turn to a good book or movie, go through email and such seeing if I can perhaps be of any good to others, listen to music or loads of documentaries, or visit the online chat communities where I belong to see if anybody's up for some stimulating talk. Not very original, is it? If I have a major project moving along, I tend to forge ahead with it. That doesn't work when writer's block strikes though. Although quite enjoyable when you're already in a good mood, I certainly can't recommend turning to alcohol when you're not. It might seem like a good idea but I've made that mistake before and it's definitely not. You end up feeling worse.
If there's one thing I've learned from my experience with love, it's that we gain from our searching even when things don't work out. It's the only lottery in life with such low odds of lasting success that's worth playing. Keep engaged and hang in there. I know how damnably hard that is when time seems to stretch endlessly in front of you. Good people are out there for all of us. It's simply a matter of connecting the dots somehow and trying to do as much good as one can along the way. Sorry I can't offer anything more profound here but that's the best answer I can give you at the moment. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/11/2009 3:14:23 PM | | I think we all have thought the same thing at one time or another even the ones that say they want to be on their own. It gets fustrating dating like being on a job interview selling yourself and also being rejected. Our emotions change daily some good days and some bad days and for me it seems to pick up all at one time and drop just as fast. I can't remember the last time I was told "I Love You" (besides my family members) probably when I was still married. I try to keep a positive attitude but then there are days I am bitter. I know I am not ready now to be in a relationship and as the saying goes when you least expect it you will find that person when the time is right. Just take one day at a time and try to keep a positive attitude. Good Luck. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/11/2009 3:33:13 PM |
Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
One can only hope.
No, I'm only HALF kidding. Given some of the drama, damage, and just plain effed up in the head behavior I've seen both online and in real life, being alone don't look half bad.
I figure, if I'm meant to find a satisfying and worthwhile relationship that has depth and meaning, it will happen. I can only put myself in the way of meeting potential candidates. If there is not a strong mental and physical attraction, I'm not going to pretend there is, just to "be with someone".
Cindy O | |
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