| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/12/2009 2:51:06 PM | All the time and it's downright terrifying. I've got to the point where I can't even get a date now. Even if I hook up with someone I don't hear from them again. I don't know if it's me, the men or society in general. I'm 31 and even ten years ago I used to be able to meet men. The only date I've had in the last nearly two years was on internet guy I never heard from again.
Does anyone else ever wonder if there is something seriously wrong with them? | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/12/2009 8:42:29 PM | Yup I feel that way also. But I am still in recovery (from a broken heart ) 3 months .
so I know it will take time. I know I need to "get a life." but it so much more fun to have a male companion. Time will heal me | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/14/2009 1:48:40 PM | From time to time, I do admit the feeling does take over me but I usually don't let it bog me down.
While I would like to be in a relationship with someone who is compatible, I'd hate to go with whoever is available just to be able to say I have a significant other when asked by my friends/peers. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/14/2009 2:05:03 PM | Again , I seriously don't think about it unless I see this thread. When I am living life, I live it on a day by day basis. If I am meant to no be alone in the future than it will happen and if I am, I am ok with that for many reasons.
I am getting my business as an Anxiety Life Coach going as we speak, and not having that special someone around gives me even more time to work on it, and keep my mind occupied.
Not worrying about things like this and learning how to be anxiety free has made me a lot happier person, with or without that relationship.   | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/14/2009 2:50:08 PM | I don't feel this way at all. I know there is someone for me. Someone that values a relationship as much as I do.
Funny, I read some of the profiles and wonder if some of you really want a relationship! Nothing in some of the profiles say you do. Some have so many must haves that you narrow the field of possibilities considerably. Example: Her hiegth is say 5'8" and she says the guy she wants to date MUST be 6 foot plus! Now I know we all have our own deal makers and breakers, but come on! You mean a good looking guy at say 5'11" won't due even if he is everything else you want? Or even exactly your height or maybe 5'9", 5'10". And this from a girl that says she has failed inthe romance department. No wonder! And this thread is about being alone forever. Then why in hell does the profile say "DATING"? Why not be up front and say what you really want? Say that you want a long term loving bond.
Then some of you brush it off like if it happenes, it happens but you are OK if it doesn't. I won't even write a woman that says she is happy as a single! If she is happy as a single, then she does not need me. Is that really the way you feel? I doubt it. Some of you will be alone for a long time for not being open as to what you really are looking for here.
As for me, my profile makes no bones as to who I want to meet what I want and yes, even need. I am being pro-active and know I will find that one lady I'm looking for. May have already done that as a matter of fact.
As I write this, my profile is hidden from searches. Don't even know if those in FORUMS can click on it to see it. not sure who it is hidden from. The reason that it is hidden is that I met one woman that for now I want to focus all my attention to. I do not date more then one woman at a time. Right or wrong, that's my way. I have her attention andshe has mine. I don't do the competition thing with a woman that dates several guys at a time either.
My last relationship was with a woman that did not need or care if she was in a relationship. Stupid me, fell in love with her anyway. Lesson learned the hard way.
So for those of you that worry that you will be alone forever, all I can say is you will be until you come clean with the truth about who you want to meet andwhat for. And if you are a happy single, you will not attract someone like me that hates being single and living alone. Not a bit afraid to tell it like it is. Gee, I guess with my attitude, the only ones I'll attract are those that feel the same way, and are not afraid to say so in their profiles.
I would much rather read about what is important to you about why you are here and who you really hope to meet, then read the same boring BS about all the places you traveled to or want to travel to. (a dine a dozen typical profile script.)
I could care less abot your favorite music or books. Just tell me about who you are and what you are looking for. Tell me what you want to do with the person you meet here. Share a piece of your heart. Damn, anybody want to stay home with a man that loves them?
So if you feel like you are going to be alone forever and don't like that thought...do something about it. There truly is someone for everyone out there. Just take your walls down open up and be real. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/14/2009 3:58:28 PM | I can definitely understand your feeling. Broke up with the man of my dreams at least I thought that, it was horrible still feel the pain. Sat night all alone I was watching movies on LMN quite addictive, then cam the movie "uptown girls" got me in tears thinking how alone I was when they mentioned about losing a parent brought back all memories and all I could do was feel the pain and cry, I wished I had someone I could have hugged, who could have felt my pain and cried with me. I am a very strong person but sometimes u have to let it out. It's ok to be alone until the right person comes through. I could have been anywhere out with whoever but that's not what I want. I want to be loved the way I am capable of loving, someone who I am the world for not who is using me. I would rather be alone then go through the pain n misery of being abandoned by someone u actually loved.
Wish all this was simple, wish my destiny was waiting to hold me in it's arms.
OOPs just realized you wrote this in 2005. I hope u found the one. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:22:53 AM | To add my 2 cents into it. I have been afraid of being single forever and ever. To be honest, I've never been single for longer than 2-3 months since I was 16. I've always been in relationships.
The problem in it is that because I had this fear, I've always depended on my relationships to complete me and not the other way around. I am actually finally going into therapy for this. I've ruined all of my relationships because of this.
So yeah, to the people who are happy just being alone. Kudos to you! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/15/2009 6:45:54 AM | JMO, there are sooo many married people out there who as an individual are possibly more un-happy than you are as a single person. I do believe that "Having Someone" is not always the best aspect of your self asteem.
Most recently I broke my singlehood to venture out and meet someone, the woman I met was from this very site. She is a wonderful mother and woman, who would make a very good partner for anyone on any dating site.
My son is away at college in Florida and requested that I return to the Orlando area to help him financially as he completes his up coming senior year. The person who split the costs of the condo and expenses is transfering to another school . Re-locating again is more of a family challenge for me because my Mom is in poor health here in Pa.
My son is as much my blood as my Mom is, and the fine line to walk is so pricarious. The challenges of being 1,200 miles away, God forbid something should happen rips at my heart and concience. Begining a relationship with a great person and then having to end it has been very difficult to do. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/15/2009 8:19:06 AM | Dallas:
Excellent point about the fact that there are so many more married people out there who are miserable hence the 60-70% divorce rate.
At the end of the day, they are back at being single and years have gone by. I was recently engaged and I broke it off because I know I wasn't at the place I needed to be whereas my fiancee was 100% ready. That wouldn't have been fair to her and fair to me. All my friends are happily married or in the process of, but I had to do what I needed to do.
My destiny is my own and I have to be accountable for it. I am alone now but I am finding it to be a relief right now. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/15/2009 10:52:27 PM | yeah, ive got to that point now, ive been on my own for just over 3 years, after leaving a 30 yr long marriage, i wasnt heartbroken, id wanted to leave for years, but i waited till my 4 girls were settled with their own lives and homes. even though im still on good terms with my hubby, i couldnt go back.
ive had a few 'dates' but nothing came of them, until i did have a year long relationship which ended in january, again we remain good friends. im beginning to feel thats all im ever gonna be, 'a good friend'. maybe some of us are just destined to be alone, id like to think not. am i alone in this, or do other people have the same problem. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/16/2009 7:50:05 PM | My shrink told me after my love died that I had 10,000 days left to livc. I don't want to live that many days. I try to cut it shorter however I can. Nothing left to live for , nothing left to lose. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/16/2009 9:59:39 PM | | Strangely enough, I have had the fear that I would be alone forever since I was like 16. Mostly because I was very depressed at that age. I do not want to be alone, no one does I suppose. I am looking for mr. right too and not mr. right now. I have had the opportunity to hang out with a few different guys lately, two of which I thought there could be potential. But it doesn't always work out. When love knocks you down just get back up when it knocks you down, Keri Hilson. I have been listening to that song a lot lately. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/16/2009 10:21:16 PM | | Kristine Just wanted to say been there and I feel you. I have been there myself and am going through what your going through. Even If its not the right person by your side you can still feel lonely. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/16/2009 11:16:48 PM | "My shrink told me after my love died that I had 10,000 days left to livc. I don't want to live that many days. I try to cut it shorter however I can. Nothing left to live for , nothing left to lose"
Really? Nothing else to live for? I feel for you if this is the case. Seriously. Total compassion for you. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/18/2009 8:52:55 AM | | yes i do feel like that its like one day you have someone and the next day you don't and you just want to die because the pain won't stop all my friends have a life and i have no one just do what i do throw yourself in work who knows we may both find that mr right for us some where out there who knows just takes time i guess | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/18/2009 6:16:23 PM | | If it does, then so be it... There are things in life that I want to pursue if marriage life isn't for me, missionary will be my next project rather than being a catholic sister. I could meet more and help people this way. And I will ask for guidance on this. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/19/2009 5:28:42 PM | | I feel this way! I understand entirely!!! I jsut hate it when I vent to my frineds (all with someone) and they say things like..Don't feel bad...someone will come along... It makes me even more frustrated. And I have a perticular friend who is very well meaning but everytime we are around single men she starts selling me like a used car. Then I get the pity looks from the poor guy who was just ambushed by this friend of mine. Not to mention embarrasing! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/19/2009 8:49:38 PM | I seem to find only that type of guy.....The cheaters, liars.....Flying sola for over three years, its kinda of boring......Really lonely ....... I just started to do something about my size also....... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/19/2009 11:26:36 PM | Yes.
I've been alone my entire life, and that being the case, it's difficult to imagine myself with anyone and impossible to picture how life might be like if it were different. Could I describe the taste of cherry custard without tasting cherry custard?
Honestly, when thirty odd years are spent alone, a part of me starts to wonder what is wrong with me...and some nights it is more difficult to live with than anyone who's ever had a relationship can imagine. It gets so bad that sometimes I think to myself, "I want a woman to dump me, just to know what it feels like...Just to feel something different than what I'm going through right now." That sounds crazy, but I'm sure it makes sense to anyone who has never had anyone.
Then, when morning comes, it's time to patch up the continuously broken heart and go on with life.
But anyone who thinks that one cannot have a broken heart without having a relationship doesn't know what he/she is talking about.
Well, I'm off to Saturn to fight giant alien monsters. Anyone who wants to come along for the ride is welcome, but my ship only has room for two occupants...the rest of you will have to cling to the shuttle's hull. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2009 7:12:09 AM | Pretty much the way i feel . it's so hard getting out here only to be shot down by some female that says you don;t look like a million dollars and kicks you to the side. what the hell is the problem here anyways?? i feel like i'am just as good as anyone else, and most times the females don't look like a million dollars their selfes.    | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/20/2009 8:16:51 AM | | yea i feel that way every freekin day, esp. now, im 44 but i look 30 and the young guys just use me and say baby when they want somethin then im alone again, the sweet ones live too far away or they are ugly or old, i dont want no dam old man ya know?? | |
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