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Synnie
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Msg: 1251 | |
| | Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?Page 51 of 60 (20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26, 27, 28, 29, 30, 31, 32, 33, 34, 35, 36, 37, 38, 39, 40, 41, 42, 43, 44, 45, 46, 47, 48, 49, 50, 51, 52, 53, 54, 55, 56, 57, 58, 59, 60) | Truth be told, ALOT of people feel the way you do.
Its not that our self esteem is low, or we need to work on ourselves, its the simple fact that some of us are truly kind hearted people who deserve that "complete" happiness, not just alone but with someone else as well. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 3/29/2010 1:55:21 PM | | If any woman in and around my area doesn't want to be alone forever I would be extremely happy to fix your (and my) problem. My standards and requirements aren't ridiculous or unreasonable. Yes I'm failing on the financial front but that's subject to change and NO I don't want your money. I just want someone to be happy with. I'm beyond tired (you really have no idea). Most people would've 'lost it' a long time ago if they lived through my circumstances. I'm not asking for the world. Don't tell me I'm going to spend ANOTHER summer alone.....something has to give before I give out.... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 3/30/2010 9:40:18 AM | Yes I actually know I will be alone forever and am OK with that.
I don't see it as a disaster. I'm on a spiritual path this lifetime, and
that means lots of alone time. For some of us, life is
more innerly spiritual.
I think of our little blue globe, spinning in the vastness of the
black universe, and I'm just a tiny speck which will soon be gone.
I sit on the beach alone, thinking my thoughts which would be
uninteresting to most, and am content. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/31/2010 8:22:40 AM | | Yes, when I've had more first dates than relationships, and the ones that I wanted to work out (have the first date progress into a second date, etc) said we didn't have enough chemistry, or that they didn't feel that attracted. Definitely started late in the dating game. .as I didn't start actively dating until a couple of years ago. . I wish I knew how to be ok with being alone, but still trying to get there. . . | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/1/2010 1:39:49 AM | With my last guy, I remember thinking during it, if I can't make it with this one (keep the relationship going), then I can't do it with anyone. He seemed like the sweetest and most considerate guy I had ever met. He hopped off the pedestal. We parted, and I still sort of feel like, well that was a good shot, but now it's time to give up on the whole idea of finding someone. Other times, I feel like there must be someone out there for me. I guess I'm still getting over him. I don't really feel like I want anyone else. I suspect that feeling will pass in time. But I am feeling lonely. Not that I don't have great friends, and family. The romantic relationship is just a completely other thing for me, so I do feel it's absence. It seems like such a waste. I have so much love to give, and all I want to do is give it to one person, but because we were in an intense romantic relationship, it feels like he's the one person who won't have anything to do with me (right now). My favourite person won't talk to me (though at least we're not on really bad terms...we just need the space right now). I realize that some people will never get married, never find a life partner. Am I one of them? Pairing up never seemed that important to me when I was younger. But now the idea of me being one of those people who never do seems so strange. Perhaps even if I was one of those people, it would be better to keep the hope alive. What good comes out of accepting the idea? It's a dismal thought. And you never know what'll happen.
So I guess the answer is yes, I feel that way sometimes, but it seems like a dangerous thought to dwell on. Dangerous enough to justify even forcing yourself to maintain (possibly false) hope. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/21/2010 7:15:36 PM | Hi Sweet Kristine,
I was divorced after 23 years of marriage then had a 10 year common law relationship that I ended a few years ago....then like you, I wonder if I ever will be alone forever. I totally enjoy my new found freedom...but that is because "been there done that" . I look around and there are so many people unhappily married....holding on to their relationship because of finances, kids etc.....some do not have the courage to "escape". Some others settle for less. I have come to a point in my life that having gone through these bad relationships, it has made me stronger and more definite on what I want and do not want in a relationship. I admire your intelligence Kristine. You have probably sub consciently seen the sadness around you and won't settle for less. There are quite a few happy relationships out there but look around you,....your friends and acquaintances...how many of them are truly happy? Would you switch place with any of them? I would rather be alone forever than have to endure a relationship that traps me. Have not found my sweetie yet but there are good men out there...you just have to take a chance and "let life happen". I don't regret my relationships. I look back at these as life's experiences. I have learned from them. If you like yourself and who you are, hats off to y0u. At least you are not willing to live up to anyone's expectation by your own. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/21/2010 8:59:16 PM |
Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Forever? nah
Until it's time to pass away? yep. But i'm ok with that. I've been through way worse realizations than that in my lifetime thus far.
Plus, long time couples don't usually die together... one passes away before the other and one ends up lonely as a result. If you live long enough, being "alone" is inevitable.
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Crisro
| | Joined: 12/10/2009
Msg: 1259 | |
| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/21/2010 9:00:28 PM | | All the time, I'm used to it and don't let it bother me because it really is something that's out of my hands. If I'm destined to be alone all my life so be it. If I happen to find someone who truly wants to live life with me, even better. I won't change who I am or lower my standards just to have someone's company. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 6/22/2010 10:13:58 AM | yes I do sometimes feel Im going to be alone forever..
maybe it's more realistic to turn that statement around.. sometimes I think I WON'T be alone forever.. most of the times I think I'll be found one day in my appt.
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2012 7:08:23 PM | | So many replies to this, why not network here as long as the communication lines are open which of you feeling so alone live near each other? Why not reach out, if not for a relationship then perhaps the opportunity of just sharing your lives instead of sitting alone? Just a thought. I haven't looked through all 40+ pages of this topic so I might not be the first with this brilliant idea. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2012 7:46:39 PM | No, it doesn't get me down.
Life is interesting. Living is interesting. I find myself interesting.
So, if there is no one MORE interesting around me, I still enjoy myself.
In essence, we are born alone, we die alone ... and in between those two times we need to be comfortable with being alone. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/18/2012 9:42:11 AM |
No, it doesn't get me down.
Life is interesting. Living is interesting. I find myself interesting.
So, if there is no one MORE interesting around me, I still enjoy myself.
In essence, we are born alone, we die alone ... and in between those two times we need to be comfortable with being alone.
Yes! Well said...I agree wholeheartedly. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/18/2012 11:14:20 AM | jpd, I give you full marks for logic, but unfortunately geographical proximity and "it just makes sense" doesn't always carry much weight with Adventures in Modern Dating. People who DO choose partners by that criteria quite often find a "sensible" relationship without the aid of PoF or any other dating site.
then perhaps the opportunity of just sharing your lives instead of sitting alone?
Oh, you mean just get with whoever happens to be handy even though you feel nothing but mild liking for them? Would YOU form a partnership with the plus-size single lady across the street for "the opportunity of just sharing your lives",even though you have no attraction to her?( Not intending to pick on the OP,men,plus size people,etc, but sometimes you just can't word everything according to by-the-book political correctness.)
And, a lot of these folks are hardly "sitting alone". They may be very active with friends, family, social dating-since this is the "broken hearts" forum there is no age factor to speak to-but a lot of mature single people have quite a bit on their plate with parenting and working-I bet a lot of we "currently unpartnered" people TREASURE the opportunity to "sit alone".
No, I'm sorry, but for a lot of us "networking" with other singles just because we live near each other, and "pairing up" with no motivation other than avoidance of "sitting alone", would feel way too much like forcing a relationship into existence rather than trusting that the Universe is unfolding as it should.
I do not disagree and it is not my intent to be dismissive of the difficult adjustment it can be to go BACK to being single after a relationship fails or a partner dies. I think that this is where a lot of the "sensible local relationships" get their start,and contribute to (so I've heard) the near 70% failure rate of 2nd(or more) marriages. We have very little method to really track failure rate of nonmarriage committed relationships, but I would hazard a guess that the failure rate is high for those as well.
I'm more inclined to agree with rosehips and WIP.
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/18/2012 12:06:30 PM | | when you feel like this lay off the grog/booze its a natural depressent.some of us like curves.you putting pressure on yourself no need. whats meant to be will be,mr right? lot people got boxes to tick,narrows it down(im to old apprently lmao).you may have mr right but will you meet him in this life.?. if find someone treats you well with respect,loves you for being you,look after em treat em well. leave drama,arguing,bad boys to one side. i know what your saying most scences couple orintated,you can feel lonely in room full of people. x | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/18/2012 11:41:13 PM | Sometimes I do, but the idea isn't scary any more - It's sort of soothing. One poster wrote that she was certain she would die alone. Everyone dies alone. Even if someone is holding you as you go, you go alone...
When I was married, I wasn't technically alone, but man oh man was I lonely.
Alone is better than tied to the wrong one. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/19/2012 6:29:25 AM | Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Oh hell yeah but really, Who cares. I mean sure It would be nice to build a future with someone special and share good times with that person but sometimes that special person just ain't out there.
I don't think I'll ever get the chance to get married and have kids, Ill most likely be dead before that will happen. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/19/2012 6:45:34 AM | | yeah i know the feeling ive had two dates on here who have used me for making themselves feel better after breaking up with their boyfriends, one i saw for four weeks she then said she wasnt ready and got a new boyfiend the next week | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/19/2012 7:49:37 AM | | Right now I'm on a serious dry spell, Been single for over 3 years. Dated a girl who was 3 years older then me that wound up using me for sex. :( It seems that this dry spell will not be broken anytime soon so **** It! Might as well except the possibility of being alone forever. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/19/2012 6:59:25 PM | | Why not. Don't you deserve a real relationship? I think some girls act like they want to hook up because then guys will be interested, when they really want to be loved and understood. Starting out with random men doesn't equal relationships and the other leaves emptiness. In the mean time a lot of guys are happy. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2012 7:04:36 PM | | I ca not say that I feel lonely but, I am alone. I agree with you it must be the right person I will not settle for less than a decent human being. I find it difficult because I see right through the piles of BS some woman and just people in life try to pass off as truth. I am to intelligent to except those people in my life I would be sad and alone if I did. So my advice would be to find other places to meet potential significant other if that is what you want to be with someone regulary. I agree it is nice but, finding someone whom you are compatable with isn't easy especially when your a very intelligent person. This means you tend to think things through, your analytical and if you have a very high IQ then your in a very small percentile of people who think and act at your level. So start changing where you go, who you associate with, change your surroundings and I would be willing to bet you will create more opportunity to meet Mr. Right. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2012 7:34:41 PM | | Yes, having a kind heart makes it very difficult to settle for something less. I often joke with my friends in a synical way about life and all the users and abusers out there but, it would be very nice to find someone who also has a good heart and is thoughtful of others, not just themselves. Better to be alone and happy than with someone who makes you unhappy most of the time. | |
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