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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/14/2005 7:09:45 AM | yes kristine i know what u are feeling right now cause i'am the same.........
i hate being the 3rd wheel also.....
but i do know 1 thing kristine don't settle for anything less than what u are looking for......i won't........
and try to keep smileing..........and maybe someday he will come along
till then i read watch movies and just try not to think about being alone
take care
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/14/2005 10:46:56 AM | | well ifeel like as long as i live i will be alone because if a woman wants to have intercorse with me or you know when the time comes i am not able to do the nasty with any female due to testical cancer surgery left me with damaged nerves put it this way i can not get it up if i had sex are not i would feel that a woman would be unhappy being with me.....so what do you all think? | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/16/2005 12:59:53 PM | Ok so I rented movies on friday. Sounds like fun huh. By the end of the night I was in tears. So many happy familys. People getting married. I just kept thinking why dont I have that. Why dont I have that movie romance that leads to a happily ever after. I guess my friends noticed i was feeling down so the next night they took me out dancing. I had fun, but at the end of the night I came home to an empty bed. I hugged my pillow and cried myself to sleep.
You know its getting hard to watch movies ot tv and see all these happy couples. HELLO WHERES THE SHOW ABOUT A LONLEY SINGLE MOM WHO CANT FIND ANY 1! AND WHO HAS REAL PROBBLEMS THAT CANT BE FIXED IN THIRTY MINUTES | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 8:12:49 AM |
kristine, I know exactly where you're coming from. All my friends are married and/or have kids...as much as i'm happy for all of them, it's depresssing. School does take up a lot of my time...im a very dedicated student and it's the only thing I got goin for me right now, but I dunno why I cant find anyone or why no one wants me. Like yourself, im not looking for mr. right now...I want someone to be in a serious relationship with, BUT I cant seem to find that....
Boy, I hear that... both my sisters are married, most of my friends are...
I want the same for me but I just havent found the one girl who wants the same things I do...
... granted its tough when you're as shy as I sometimes can be, but while I have thought at times that I'll always be alone... I dont want to be | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 8:15:42 AM | | y'all are speaking my mind again...im just trying to focus on school right now..not the fact im single...hell i dont even go out much anymore...since my married friends have different priorities than i do now...while im soooo happy for them...it kinda puts a knife in my heart..i wanna be the one thats w/someone...everyone keeps telling me 'he' will come ...but how will i know..offline im very shy...i dont approach guys..and sometimes my shyness comes off as being snotty which im not..so i dont get approached by guys either...it just seems like a winless situation...im happy w/my life...but i feel like something is missing.... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 9:14:52 AM | Defintion between being alone and loneliness, anyone?
I enjoy having my space and my time alone but, I've never have I felt loneliness. I am very comfortable with myself and my esteem.
Perhaps some do look too hard to find that special someone and all the time, he/she might be standing right in your path. Something to consider whilst you look around and beyond 'that person', to view others..
Anyway... good luck to all...
Peace! | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 5:13:34 PM | @princess864
but at the end of the night I came home to an empty bed. I hugged my pillow and cried myself to sleep.
You know its getting hard to watch movies on tv and see all these happy couples.
I know exactly how you feel... Try doing that for 36 years of being alone. Try living with social phobia/anxiety, which prevents me from even approaching someone. Just the thought of it freaks me out. I want and would give up everything that I have to be married to the one that I love "till death do us part". Hugging my dog, doesn't satisfy the need for a warm embrase from a woman who loves me as much as I love her. For me, this quest is life and death. This may sound stupid, as some probably just don't understand how intense this need is for me to find "THE ONE" who will be my wife. This is the main reason for my depression, and need for drug therapy, such as prozac. It is funny how my friends growing up would say, "when you don't look for a girlfriend, that is when they will find you". Well I have kept an open mind for 36 long and lonely years, and their theory has not worked yet for me. I am either too ugly, or just seem to be unaproachable??? Don't know why, probably never will. I don't know what I would have done without my dog, sounds kind of strange, but he has been a GREAT companion, and temporarily fills the void. Why is this so darn hard for some of us, and others have no problems at all finding mates. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:20:14 PM | Uhmmm.. well, if I may say so..I did take a look at your profile ^^
My opinion; I don't care to see pics of anyone posing beside beautiful animals shot dead... maybe that's what some ladies don't wish to see... again, my opinion only.
Good luck in your search, Last_Chance | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:33:38 PM | | Everyday I feel that way. I have been divorced over a year and my heart is still broken, I keep it inside, but its always there. I don't tell anyone except here for the first time, because I made a mistake and called my Ex's number. I talked and got the freeze treatment and now hurt more than ever. I have not talked to her for over a year and have done all the things you are supposed to, I thought, to get over her. I am a good person, love my kids, and try to be a good person, but what about the pain? When the love of your life leaves and you are left with the hurt. It is easy to say I would take physical pain to replace the anguish inside my heart and soul. I feel that desperate desire to feel that flame for someone new and hide the pain as best I can, but it is a situation that has to get better. I still no matter what have hope for that new person to come along and for the flame to be kindled again. I can say that living like this would a horrorable thing to deal with for an extended time and hope time will dull the ache and longing inside. I know that person has to be out there for me and I will be waiting, to ride into the sunset on my motorcycle w/them | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:38:44 PM | Hiya, Boothie...
I don't feel we ever 'get over it' ( hurt and pain ) but, we try to deal with it the best way anyone knows how...
Time doesn't heal but, what one chooses to do with that time, heals....
I feel for you, Boothie...one day at a time...one thing at a time.... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 6:43:17 PM | | I know and I appreciate what you say. I am trying to do the right things ad am working on it. I am not doing all the distructive things people tend to do, but realize that it is not a good thing to dwell on the past. It was just me calling and realizing what was lost and wondering what is gonna happen in the future, but thank you for your thoughts | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:01:47 PM | Hang in there.....you're doing what you can to gain some sense of stability, reality and control...
One minute at a time.. one hour at a time...sometimes that's all one can handle....
You're healing, Boothie...  | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/17/2005 7:44:15 PM | @Belfast Child
My opinion; I don't care to see pics of anyone posing beside beautiful animals shot dead... maybe that's what some ladies don't wish to see... again, my opinion only.
To you and everyone that is offended by those pics, I am sorry. I don't want to deviate from the posted topic, or make excuses for myself, or start up a debate on the whole hunting ethics. I come from a long line of "hunters" and where I am from we pose next to dead animals all the time. It is very common to see that. There are several large stores such as Sportsman Warehouse or www.Cabelas.com that I frequently shop at "sporting goods" type stores, that have photo's of hunters and fishermen posing with thier kill. Or even mounted animals on display around their store. It is too common among the community where I live. My family and friends all have trophy animals mounted on display in thier homes, again very common where I am from. Guess if you see it all the time, you become desensitized to it. Not to mention, this is who I am. Could you immagine the look on my mates face if she saw all the animals on display in my home, if she didn't know this about me ahead of time? It is better to see that now than latter and hate me for it, right?
Again, I am sorry to those who are offended. I won't deviate from the topic posted again.
Peace!
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/18/2005 11:25:35 AM | Hi Kristen!
I know what ya mean! I have looked and looked for my soulmate.. In the search I ended up marrying 2 of the biggest losers on the plantet!! Very abusive type people... Now that I have became loserless once again (at 38 years old) I find that I am very very lonely.. I really do not like being alone.. I am having to learn how to enjoy life all by myself! So far it has been pretty much okay... I definatley don't have the drama in my life that I had before!  But... I still would like to find the perfect someone for me!! Someone that I just click with!! I really don't think that there is someone out there like that because now that I have survived the 2 biggest losers on the planet I find that I am kinda picky and worried that I am pickin yet another big L ... For now I will just try to enjoy having fun and meeting new people!
I hope you find what you are looking for and keep being happy with yourself!! | |
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| I have been alone forever?
Posted: 5/19/2005 5:08:26 AM | 36 years might as well be forever... Been living it already. It totally feels hopeless in trying to find somone... To be honest, I can't wait for "my final curtain call". Does anyone know what it is like to go to bed every night hoping that you die in your sleep. It is just like the lyrics in Fade to Black by Metallica... " I cannot stand this Hell I feel" "emptiness is filling me to the point of agony" "Growing darkness" "I need the end to set me free" "why should I even try". It is amazing how that song was written about me, and exactly the way I feel. It is hopeless... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/19/2005 12:31:36 PM | There are times .... then I realize that anything could happen and usually does... You need to realize all these thoughts run through your mind when you are alone and feeling left out. that usually happens when you are around other couples ....
We all are going to go through this thought ... but realize life will not allow anyone be alone for the duration of their life .........
Ican4U | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/19/2005 6:30:06 PM | There is a difference between being alone and loneliness. Being along is...well, what I am now. Typing this meesage to you.
Loneliness is a whole different story. I feel lonely a lot, and I am also quite comfortable with myself. That to me isn't the issue. The crux of the thing is that as much as we like to say we don't need others they made two different sexes for reason. Somebody wasn't just fooling around. And the feelings that come with being with another are also there for undeniable reasons.
Being alone, without that other person who would share your life, your experinces, your...everything leaves me a bit cold. Sure, we can be happy alone and many people prefer it. But I see it as an unfinished part of myself. Something that needs tending to.
An itch I can't scratch alone.
Just my $0.02. Good luck all. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2005 12:25:51 AM | | kristine, i feel like that alot, i think most people have had this feeling at one time or another.Funny though it seems that alot of people around seem a bit unhappy in their relationships.So i think well maybe the grass is greener on the other side? When i was married it seemed like everyone was single. now its the opposite. yes it does get me down. Well hang in there you seem to be a nice person im sure there is someone out there who will appreciate you. G | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2005 7:28:19 AM | | Well I can tell you I feel lonely especially when I go out with my friends who are involved and see them having a good time. BUT, then I think about the people who are involved and still lonely cause their men cheat and lie to them. Been there, done that, and I'd rather be alone then to go through the pain of losing someone I love again...... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2005 8:01:16 AM | | Pixie, I here ya, and agree with what you said! It is hard even watching movies with couples having fun or TV or just going to the mall and seeing happy couples, and wondering when is it going to be my turn!!! Life just isn't fair sometimes... | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2005 1:27:57 PM | | It's funny how people always say to " quit trying and it will all happen for you", what a load of shit! I really think that most people are too shallow to accept the real thing when it comes their way. It seems that they are somehow intimidated by the idea of a relationship, even if it is what they claim to be looking for. I'm used to being alone, but why should I have to be alone every day when the liars and cheats always seem to have someone by their side. I've dated women who would prefer to be with liars,cheats, and men who beat them; then to give me or someone else a reasonable chance. I would rather be alone forever then to have to put up with some of the crazy women I've dated in the past. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2005 1:37:45 PM | bulldogmedic wrote: Not everyone finds someone. I work Alzheimer's, and you'd be surprised how many people never get married, never have kids, and die alone.
This is what I really can't understand, why people don't learn from this. They want a good life with a great guy and complain that they can't find him. And then they will waste an entire life away looking because they are so concerned about age. I'm a great catch, intelligent, educated, want kids, would make a great father, full of life, fun to be with, but because I'm 5 to 10 years older than what they think they want, or because I live in Kansas, I might as well be an axe murderer.
People need to learn to give a little on what they think they need, they are looking for that needle but it just might not be there, they might have to suffice with a pin and push the thread thru by hand, do it and get on with enjoying life. You only have one life don't waste it. In my book every year alone without kids is about 2% of a useful adult life wasted. | |
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| Ever feel like your going to be alone forever?
Posted: 5/20/2005 11:38:14 PM | | i simply take all the downtime that i have and use it to make myself into a better person--if i look at myself and say im alone because of my shit locker-thats when i get on a fitness kick--often times i simply said to myself if had made more money it would be easier to find a woman--so i concentrated on my career--at the end of the day even a blind squirrel can find a nut sometimes--and quite frankly when i did meet the odd woman it wasnt because i lost 10 pounds or added an extra zero to my bank account--it was just fate and timing--but keeping busy in between kept me sane and it made me feel like i wasnt wasting my time-and on top of those things it gave me confidence when i did meet someone--im no different than you guys--im writing this note at midnight on a friday like everyone else--but what i didnt give up was hope--in closing--use your alone time constructivly and keep a positive disposition--if you dont it will eat you up | |
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