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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:30:07 AM | Well lets see broward, Im single and I don't want to be dating a married man. Makes sense to me. I like to have a social drink, but the drug part im not into. I really don't think that is too much to ask, not a lot of restrictions there. Many men who are single and do not do drugs....that is not the problem... thanks for your post. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:40:10 AM |
Here's a huge secret for you: it's not that which makes folks jaded. It's how they choose to view that and react to it that makes them jaded.
Exactly right! You always have the best advice/remarks, CG; if only you were closer...but since you're not, can we at least clone you...or get you to teach a class for men and women? | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 8:41:42 AM | Shame on you Broward..... lol!!!! Married and drugs... geesh.. that would be a real winner.. every ladies dream. (Psst That is sarcasm in case you missed it) HAHAHAAHA!!! Nothing like going out with a man and getting pulled over and as he is arrested for possession of a controlled substance.. he turns and asks you to call his wife to post bail...... YEPPERS.. THAT IS THE MAN FOR ME!!!! NOT!!!!! | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:49:20 AM | I think it's clear that the guys you are interested in are not interested in you, or they would contact you.
So why don't they write back with a polite "I'm not interested" ?
Hard to say- perhaps some aren't going to take the time to do this, don't want to take a chance on getting a response like the op did (which was way out of line), or possibly that is the way things are done in online dating. I have had the same experience of writing to people and hearing nothing (and not just on this site, but the pay sites as well), which I always take for "not interested", and those people far outnumber those who send a polite note. And I'm sorry to say, although I usually send a nice note that I'm not interested, or thank someone for their interest, I know I've not always done this myself.
I don't think there is anything wrong with your picture or profile. I think it's the nature of the dating situation, online or otherwise. It always seems the people you are interested in are not interested in you and vice versa. Still, if we do run into that person that we are interested in us, and we don't die of shock- that they are interested in us , too, well, that's what I think many of us are here for. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 8:57:35 AM | Thanks for your comment. I am quite aware now not hearing back from the men I contact that they are not interested. What I can't figure out if not only have they viewed my profile, but they have added me to their favorites list...lol...awwww well, the dating scene hey... | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 8:59:21 AM | Hey Charlene, thanks on that one!! Your too funny Girl!! I love a good sense of humor.
Yep, just what all of us single women are looking for, a married man who does drugs...hey can't get any better than that now can it....yikes | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 9:16:25 AM | For message 5, maybe you shuold have sent her 50 bucks and told her to have dinner on you. It would have been cheaper than actually going somewhere with the email thing.
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Posted: 4/13/2007 9:24:10 AM | I hope this posting is allowed. *no I didn't check the FAQ first. Shoot me*
It's just too cute and appropo for the topic at hand 
http://youtube.com/watch?v=dHvLsh-h0NM | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:24:26 AM | Your criteria are too strict...
"must not do drugs"
"must not be married"
I mean, dang, we're not perfect, you know.
Now how is that criteria too strict? I wouldn't want some damn cheating man who is a freakin druggie. Anyone who wants that must be desparate. lol
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:26:01 AM | | Hesitant or, even not sure what to say when you respond. In an effort to be polite, I try to respond to all of the e-mails I receive, but at times it is difficult when you don't know what to say. How do you respond to "your pictures sure are pretty", "you don't look your age", "are you sure those pictures are of you"? Or, to "I agree with MOST of what your profile says"? I try to keep it polite by saying thank you for the lovely compliment(s) and to the remark about my profile....I politely told him that it a profile about "me" and that we all differ in what we like or don't like. The sad thing is the guy who wrote me about my profile just keeps writing back and explaining yet again.....that he doesn't agree with some of it. Help!...smile. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:35:38 AM | | I only reply to messages that actually say something meaningful. Guys commenting on my looks, poor spelling or just someone I am not interested in ~ I don't reply to. I myself also do not get replies to a fair number of e-mails I send out. Anyone who takes it personally worries far too much about it! | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 9:36:25 AM | | Well ladies all I can say is I'm sorry some of us are jerks but please don't judge us all because of a lousy few. Most of us are not like that. When a woman does respond to my emails (which is rare) and says "no thank you" I usually thank them for at least replying and not ignoring me and wish them the best. If I ever do get an email from a woman (so far 0 in 4 years here) I am not interested in I will try give a polite no thanks. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 12:03:55 PM | Dang! The guy was JOKING about the drugs and married thing. I can see why some people are single. They don't know when someone is serious or joking, and then they get all mad for no reason. I have met several women from here who were like that. They take everything as dead serious and then try to psychoanalyze you on the basis of something that you didn't even mean or said in humor.
Get a sense of humor, LOL! And stop analyzing so much! You will be happier women. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 1:00:02 PM |
Get a sense of humor, LOL! And stop analyzing so much! You will be happier women.
Was that a call for attention... Any man who will decide on a whole what will make women happy.... Ummmm CERTAINLY shouldn't be on a dating site... because if he understands women so well he would CERTAINLY HAVE a lovely HAPPY lady in his life...... *Lip quivers in mirth... Eyes watering with laughter* So what does FOOT taste like ?
For a man who is saying NOT to analyze, your taking a stab at it yourself.. so please allow me..YOU sir are associating your OWN experiences with women and their responses to your possibly off shaded humor to this conversation... that is projecting.... *Bites her lip as she smirks* Some just have a dry sense of humor.. and some may be missing it.. but.... such a broad statement... TSK TSK..... | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:12:00 PM | I have a Great sense of humor Rp,
Im very light hearted and its too funny to see the way people react to these things.
I just don't understand the mentality of some men is all...lol | |
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Posted: 4/13/2007 9:06:17 PM | I agree with rpburnsusa ... broward was obviously JOKING about the married and drugs comment. That was pretty obvious to me when I first read it.
But ... it's obviously not just women who have to lighten up and not take things so seriously. If that were the case ... why did the OP get that message in the first place. Obviously the man who contacted her was taking things WAY TOO seriously. He was obviously offended by her very polite "no thanks". OP ... I would have done the same. You try to do the nice, polite thing, and he reacts so rudely as to tell you that you have your head up your a$$. Well, I can't imagine with that attitude that he's made it to many "favourites" lists ...
Really ... we ALL need to lighten up ... and not take the dating scene so seriously. Go into it with a positive attitude that you will meet people from ALL walks of life ... find the good in them, enjoy their company ... and if romance should spark ... all the better! The least you can do is make new friends!!!    | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:12:43 PM | Yes. Don't be so quick to think someone doesn't get the sarcasm. Given there are so many opportunities to not misunderstand. Take for example this: He IMed me and wrote "you're hot. You're sexy". I checked his profile and he was looking for "long term" with a woman. Without going into the details of what he proposed to me, aside from he showed up on webcam - first time I knew THAT was an option on IM! I wrote "Do you want what you just wrote to me to be posted on the forums? Perhaps you need to adjust your profile to be in the Intimate Encounters section".
He went off line.
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Posted: 4/13/2007 9:16:17 PM | LOL!
You are right browneyesz, it is funny to see some folks replies on these forums.
I don't see anything wrong with your profile. I would think you should get many "hits," haha. Hang in there, I'm sure you will do fine and find the right man who can make you happy. It is all trial and error. Remember, you have to shift through much sand to find the nugget of gold. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:37:00 PM | @browneyesz
I couldn't understand why no one was responding to your e-mails either, so I checked your profile. Its really too bad that you don't want to try bungy jumping. I would have contacted you except for that ...and the fact that you are 3500 miles away. Being where you are and having been there myself, you may want to make the distance limit a bit farther and let those luck-to-be men do a little driving. Hang in there...there is a reason this is called "plenty of fish".
@Pamela1
*taking a bow* No extra charge for the humour. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:53:27 PM | Interesting, I generally get no answer but most of the ones I get are rude. I usually just ask if the women if they have any interest in me and if so we can communicate, most answers are rude and one read " how dare you contact me you **stard" no idea where that one came from as I had never contacted her before and now won't, for any reason.
Men are not the only rude people on this site, or others for that matter.
I've even consider forgetting women and taking up drinking as a hobby, less BS and no rejection , not the best answer I can think of but it just gets tiring getting nasty responses from women.
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