| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:35:12 AM | to msg 15
.... "I have so many men viewing me, but never contact. What gives?? "
Remove a couple of filters from your profile and perhaps among the increased trash you will receive you may get that elusive email that will spark your interest .
Good luck and don't give up.
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:50:33 AM | Dang! The guy was JOKING about the drugs and married thing.
Or maybe after he found out that was the wrong thing to say he just backpeddled and lied about being single....
Don't you see how that kind of thing is the problem? If someone says they are married and then hear that that makes them off limits, suddenly they were "just kidding". How can you believe ANYTHING they say after that?
I try to not use words like "most", "all", etc... but there are MANY men here who are looking for something on the side, and the main qualifier is that it is any female who is not his wife. I am sure women do it too, but this post is about why WOMEN don't always reply to emails.
And the answer boils doen to "Because there are too many married men here lying to increase their chances of getting laid."
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/14/2007 8:42:01 PM | There a few valid reasons why individuals look at profiles and do nothing or do not respond to emails.
1. They do not smoke....you do.
2. They have no children...you do.
3. They don't know how to spell...you do.
4. They do not live in Salmon Arm....you do. ( or Sixpack Kentucky, take your pick) all this means is they do not live close enough.
I'm sure there are other reasons why individuals do not reply.... maybe it is as simple as they are waiting for a more handsome/pretty one to come along....or they figure they have an ocean to choose from....In any event, these things happen the way they should and even though we have all put ourselves out there for scrutiny by strangers, I think we shouldn't be overly distraught by virtual rejection. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/14/2007 8:54:47 PM | I just checked your profile and I'll make #7...you are a ringer for Reba....you should go into the business of being her double at events...you'd make some $$...like all the other impersonators...
As for the subject of the 'reason women are hesitant to respond'....for me ...sometimes it is just difficult to find words to tell someone you aren't interested...we all have egos..some are more fragile than others... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 8:27:22 PM | Thanks for your response Luv, I agree that it's just not that easy to tell someone you are not interested in them for some reason or another.
LOL...well I don't think I could be a double for Reba, but thanks anyways
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:30:57 PM | thanks for your post sosaysodo, appreciate the advice and i hear ya!
the one thing is that I only look at the men within a certain vicinity. Gosh I don't know If i would want to meet someone from the other side of the world>>>lol but ya never know. Am I too picky? | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 10:22:59 PM | eastsideedie is not alone in his beliefs and you just have to read the forums to know that, so .. maybe we should be pettitioning the admin to add a check box to the profiles along the lines ... "[] please no e-mail from wife/husband".
I'm not really worried about "browneyesz" eventually finding someone so I won't even dwell on it. She's just hit some bad luck. You hang in there "Reba-browneyesz" (I'm #8)
I have, however, found in the past that that the profiles which claim to be "seperated" are the least likely to respond. I like their train of thought though. I read that as not liking the relationship they are/were in, but not enough guts to get the divorce. (Oh, I'm going to get some hate mail for this) | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:16:39 AM | | I am wary about meeting most people. They clearly are only looking for sex. That's a big turn off to me... I have had a few bad experiences where I felt uncomfortable with talking to the people and their nosy questions. I won't be meeting anyone unless I'm comfortable with the idea.. | |
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Joined: 11/9/2006
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:56:18 AM | | I do think people should respond to an email if they aren't interested though there are some valid exceptions, but I don't get angry or lose sleep over it if they don't. If you are worried about the person saying something rude, then block him/her after you say something like "Thanks for emailing me, but I'm not interested". | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/18/2007 4:18:38 PM | i try to take something from their profile and use it in my initial contact. something we have in common, not just mentioning their looks or body. usually i get a reply. not always. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/18/2007 6:01:07 PM |
I am wary about meeting most people. They clearly are only looking for sex.
So let's see, let me go out and subscribe to a computer dating systen where anybody who chooses to can be anonymous, lie about their age, height and weight, post fake photos and fantasized biographical info....
Ms Spock, logic doesn't dictate.....
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Posted: 4/18/2007 7:47:47 PM | THREAD: The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Last half of the posts have been about one womans lack of contacts, not the reason women hesitate to respond. The OP used an example of a stupid approach being responded to politely and a flame resulting, as being a valid dis-incentive for women not to respond. I am wondering if any other women have any other reasons for being hesitant to respond. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 12:28:07 AM | LOL.. That is amusing BlueShadow...
Yeah you are really older than he was, he sounded like he was 18.
Even "Scams" are longer than 1 liners. I got a Scam email tonight, it was an entire paragraph. I would have felt honored except that I know its their standard greeting and email to pick up men.
No wonder women fear replying to us guys, These one line wonders come in with sloppy emails and stupid responses when rejected.
Might try this ladies.. If the guys are too "Lazy" to type at least one paragraph don't even bother with them.
And for some of you guys who may have typed one single sentence and suddenly found the woman removing you off her list. Well, maybe she is fed up with One Line Wonders and hoping to find a man willing to Communicate Properly. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:06:48 AM | I do not get a lot of mail I do not respond to, but if all the man focuses on is sex, etc, I am not that likely to answer. And I sure have no idea where/how LTR could be confused with intimate encounters-*big* difference! And if it is an underaged boy looking for sex with an older woman, no strings attached, you can bet I will not respond to that, either. Aside from the fact I am not interested in being Mrs. Robinson,
I am looking to date, not have casual sex. And I really don't want to end up in jail, either...Other than that, I do respond to reasonable messages/mail. Thanks for asking! | |
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Posted: 4/19/2007 12:17:06 PM | You write:
a women send me an email saying she would 'like to chat more' and she added me to her favorites.
I replied 'I would love to chat more'
her reaction was to read and delete my email and remove me from her favorites.
I had a 'what's the deal' email typed out, but hit delete instead of send. Maybe I'm too polite?
My reply:
Goes to illustrate, men do not corner the market on incivility... Your experience does not surprise me... | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 1:59:26 PM | I'm sure weird messages are the bulk of the reasons why women don't respond to emails... but that's beside the point. Here's my 2 cents to everyone:
If you aren't attracted to the person & their email and don't wish to chat with them -- DON'T EMAIL THEM BACK.
Those who send emails out to someone can already see if other person read the message -- why would you want a response that says "No, I'm not interested"? Actions, and lack thereof in key situations, speak louder than words, so reading it and not sending something back speaks for itself. How simplier could it be? For the whiners who demand responses -- They're not going to tell you the *actual* truth as to why they aren't interested unless you were a total wackjob in what you wrote. Do you really think they'll respond with the same honesty they'd tell their friend when it came to sizing up your profile & pictures? "Seems like a self-sufficient guy... but that nose makes him look unattractive. And he could really use some better clothes, other than ones on sale at K-Mart. And what's up with all those pictures trying to show off his slightly-above-average car? That's such a red-flag..." People who demand responses have serious self-esteem issues.
I think it's actually impolite to demand responses from a stranger who obviously isn't into you, don't you think? | |
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Algy
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Joined: 11/3/2006
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:30:58 PM | | I think it's boorish to reply to a rejection in an angry manner, and I agree that none of us should have to deal with that. However, I've been the recipient of a few flaming retorts and I'm not about to let that stop me from responding to the others. MOST of the people I've communicated with have been very understanding. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:04:01 PM | There are men and women who will want a bit of a side order to spice up their lives or who are only wanting to do a horizontal folk dance for a short time with someone they meet.
It takes all kinds and the old days of meeting someone, slowly getting to know them and taking things further are now over as we have the internet, IM and of course email where that lost art of conversation is almost over.
If I send and email it is more than 3 lines long and yes I can spell as well. Spelling goes a long way in an interesting profile but also remember the ratios and and another posting I mentioned about a buffet dinner - where if there is an over supply of dishes you can choose what you want - on a limited selection there are only so many.
Some women I know cop terrible emails from people who are unable to either communicate or a too busying typing one handed but it goes both ways - I have had a couple of "looking for a good time emails" from women who are just not going to click with me. I send a nice response and I get a rude email saying I am too picky.
No I am not picky - a little bit of class goes along way and I think you can save that for your private situations rather than an opening email.
Oh yeah I don't thinking telling me that Plastic Wrap is what you wear for underwear is going to make me want to ask you out for a drink either.
Roll with the punches and North American / Canuck girls - come to Australia where the men are "Downunder" waiting for you.
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:28:16 PM | A real lame one....
No need for me to even send this to you cuz i wont EVEN get an email back....
HOW DO THEY KNOW???
WHO are THEY to JUDGE me????
YUCK!!!
If you men think that is a compliment....THINK AGAIN!!!! THANK YOU!
It makes us feel cheap, lazy, and slutty..... | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 9:26:04 PM |
Is there something wrong with my profile, my pictures? They all seem fair. I have so many men viewing me, but never contact.
What gives??
I have a theory that the men here won't contact a woman who is 50 or over....at least not to "date". | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/19/2007 10:59:08 PM | | If you think every guy is going to respond like that because one or a few have then you will never meet a nice guy because you never gave him a chance. | |
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