| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/22/2007 3:03:35 PM | Todays message was pleasant:
Original Message YOU sent on 4/22/2007 2 08 PM
I am not hateful I am blunt. Some take me the right way some dont. It is apparent you chose the later.
Well in my my book, I wanted to be a friend but you are way to bitter of a woman to treat people right, I'm sorry if you have been hurt in the past, but realize I had nothing to do with it, so if you wanna continue being an ***hole, you have the floor, and PS: you aren't as goodlooking as you think, so if I were you I would do some work on my attitude......I don;t want to heare from you again, you savage hateful woman, no you are not a woman you are a menase to socioty. I wash my hands fron you, you are a little hethan................ | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/22/2007 3:59:23 PM |
Well in my my book, I wanted to be a friend but you are way to bitter of a woman to treat people right, I'm sorry if you have been hurt in the past, but realize I had nothing to do with it, so if you wanna continue being an ***hole, you have the floor, and PS: you aren't as goodlooking as you think, so if I were you I would do some work on my attitude......I don;t want to heare from you again, you savage hateful woman, no you are not a woman you are a menase to socioty. I wash my hands fron you, you are a little hethan.
Is this from a 12 year old? Allow me to translate for those of us who speak English.
Well in my my book, I wanted to be a friend but you are way too bitter of a woman to treat people right. I'm sorry if you have been hurt in the past, but realize I had nothing to do with it, so if you want to continue being an ***hole, you have the floor.
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You aren't as good-looking as you think, so if I were you I would do some work on my attitude. I don't want to hear from you again, you savage hateful woman. No, you are not a woman you are a menace to society. I wash my hands of you. You are a little heathen.
Whoever wrote that originally, please take note. If you are going to tell someone off, do it with at least some indication of intelligence.
Isn't the internet and the anonymity it provides a wonderful tool for the immature and ignorant among us? You think this loser would say that to your face? Absolutely not. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/22/2007 4:29:19 PM | @Pamela 1
Sup?
Ooops, what I meant to say was "hi, my name is Bolond. How was your day? Sup?
Sorry, I just couldn't resist. Pamela 1 will understand the joke ... I hope. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/22/2007 5:02:08 PM | | I'm sorry, but i had to respond. Sounds like myblueshadow is a closed minded woman who hasn't had enough of her childhood perceptions crushed. Unless he was to young or he had the profile of a moron. Honestly, he may have been right. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/22/2007 9:41:03 PM | I've only been here about 4-6 weeks and it's been interesting watching people communicate on POF. My experience so far hasn't been bad, just different from my expectations. There have been many who have not responded and I've received a lot of short one-liners back from e-mails I've sent out. No one so far has been thoughtful and engaging. I admit it is sometimes disappointing when I don't get a response, but no reason to get frustrated. I see an interesting experience ahead for me and a good way to adjust and tweak my communication style.
I guess you have to open a lot of oysters to find a pearl!
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Posted: 4/22/2007 9:52:14 PM | | now i thought i was the only one who had that happen to them, tw61, i even had a message with a phone number and was asked to call ,well i am sure they had been onto the alter wine all afternoon ,i had to do all the talking and then i was just hung up on did email asking if we had been cut off as it was thunderstors all around at the time ,never even got a reply to say no i dont wish to talk to you ,so i just deleted everything from them , why bother being rude it just makes them out to be in lala land to me | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 10:38:23 PM | sorry to jump in so late on this forum post but i've noticed the same thing towards some of the other posters, such as you send mail yet you either get a read/delete or just nothing at all, here i'm thinking wow i've got a stable job, my own place, my own ride .. ok where is the problem here do i need to fix my profile or what ? or is it even my profile .. like i just don't get it, friendly suggestions would be great, yet i know i'm probaly going to get flammed so thats okay i'm ready for em'  | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 11:21:29 PM | Hi there, Pamela
I'm Peter and I've sent over 100 e-mails to all different women. I have asked each of them questions about themselves. I have told them a little about what I like to do for sports, recreation; and I have let each of them know that I am attracted to them. There is no genuine reason that almost none of these 100-plus, women I've written should not, or could not have sent me a 5-minute reply note. I am hurt beyond imagination because I know I have good grammar, good punctuation, and a warm heart. Yet all these women could care less that I took 15-minutes of my day to personally write them. I am tired of reading "Laugh Out Loud" in so many of these female Profiles. What do these rude women expect us gentlemen to be laughing about w/ the treatment so many of them are giving us? I do wish you a great week. Would enjoy further dialogue w/ you. Peter A.  | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 9:34:58 AM | ^^^^^^ (TennisFun)
They shouldn't write you back if they're not interested and don't know you. You're hurt beyond imagination... why? It's not like you were starting to date them *and then* they refused communcation after the fact... that's rude, and that is what warrants a response by them.
I think it's impolite for any guy or girl to demand a response from an email sent to someone you don't know, let alone answer questions you send them. You obviously don't need a "no thanks"... you can already see if they read and/or deleted your message.
You were pushed aside... it's not their fault, and if you presented yourself well, it's not your fault. They're not leaving you hanging by not responding. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 10:06:20 AM | What I don't understand is how a complete and total moron from hell even owns a computer. Must of stolen it. Some guys think it's hip to write like a chimp having a bad hair day. I mean a happy contented chimp could use English better than that! Makes me amazed that we're the same species, probably.
In any case women can be notorious for being unresponsive regardless of the circumstances.
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Posted: 4/23/2007 10:43:29 AM |
What I don't understand is how a complete and total moron from hell even owns a computer.
Well, it's not NECESSARY to own your own device, not when many public libraries offer computer/internet work stations.Then there are Internet cafes, which offer PCs, not just WiFi hotspots. And this in no wise is meant to imply that those who choose public internet access over computer ownership are moronic or indigent. I personally have used public or internet cafe to check/answer email and other important internet tasks when I'm on the road or on vacation. I used to have internet access on my cell phone but it was a pain in the *ss to use. I'm sure that some of the other wireless communication devices might be easier to work with and most are not as expensive as a PC.
And here's another option, it's not that difficult to pick up an inexpensive 2ndhand PC or laptop, (thru newspaper classified or postings at the local supermarket) that is perfectly adequate for basic tasks and internet access, for less than $300.
Computers are no longer just for the well off and well educated...
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/23/2007 10:49:38 AM | You're not kidding there either.
I learned I can be my own worst enemy,no one else is at fault.It is my responsibility,and mine alone.period. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 9:51:20 AM | Here's a recent event that happened to me. I received an email from a guy, very well written and interesting. His user name struck me as familiar, but there was no photo attached to the email.
I replied, and in the body of the email asked if he had written to me in the past. I also asked him if he had a photo. When he wrote back to me his user name was changed, and he told me he didn't remember if he had written to me previously. AND he attached a photo.
(Can you guess where this is heading?)
Yup, he had written to me before. And claimed in that email that he was the "perfect" guy for me. I quickly put an end to that little delusion.
Back to present... I wasn't sure how to respond, I didn't want to hurt his feelings, and yet it was clear that he was trying to pull the wool over my eyes.
Fast forward two days... I get another email from him, and boy is he pissed!! Accuses me of being shallow; of thinking he's ugly, and then says: "For someone who's only average looking you shouldn't be so picky" or something like that. Goes on to say I didn't think any woman would ever want to date him, etc.
Well, I was a little shocked. I first used the excuse that I did have a life and perhaps didn't have time yet to respond to him, and when I pointed out our previous interaction, and the fact that I was hesitant to respond, he became even angrier. He said he knew I had been online many times since he wrote me (wtf, how does he know that?), and probably had plenty of time to write to all the other guys who had written me (not bad for someone who's ONLY average looking, huh?).
Long story short, for the first time in my history on POF, I blocked someone.
Wolves in sheep's clothing. I will be more hesitant in the future to whom I correspond with. This came totally out of the blue; he obviously has issues of his own, and decided to blame me for them.
Stupid to give a complete stranger that much power over you. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 11:13:53 AM | Well I just had one today that had written me the other day and I answered him back and said hello I'm good and you? and wrote back he would be be better if we were dancing together. Well I've had a lot going on in my life including the loss of my 19 year cat and a murder-suicide here at work on the SAME DAY, so since I didn't respond to his cheesy reponse in a timely manner, he sent me a message today saying that I must think I'm too good for him and that I 'may think my caca doesn't stink but it does"
Well I sent him back a reply asking him why he attacks me like that since he doesn't know me and I had a lot going on in my life and don't always get back to people right away and that I could see why he was single and then I blocked him. I mean what the hell gets into people that they think it's okay to talk to other people like that?
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Posted: 4/24/2007 12:20:13 PM | "Well I sent him back a reply asking him why he attacks me like that since he doesn't know me and I had a lot going on in my life and don't always get back to people right away and that I could see why he was single and then I blocked him. I mean what the hell gets into people that they think it's okay to talk to other people like that?"
Sounds like the "aircraft mechanic" to me.
VERY paranoid, and i went out of town, after he said hi to me ONE TIME and he did the same thing to me. ONE TIME of being friendly , trying to answer a note.
I think some peepz just have problems that will take way more than a relationship OR a little piece, to FIX......
and i spoke to him about that.
Dont worry about it, Pamela1 . You sound like a great gal to me! Some peepz just have issues and they dont need to be dating to begin with, ya know??? | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:23:50 PM |
suggestions would be great, yet i know i'm probaly going to get flammed so thats okay i'm ready for em'
Hey DJN23
I read your profile... maybe you can get into a bit more detail, for instance, you mention being on the same page. You dont mention what you mean by that.
Otherwise, you have decent photos. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 1:27:09 PM |
Well I sent him back a reply asking him why he attacks me like that since he doesn't know me and I had a lot going on in my life and don't always get back to people right away and that I could see why he was single and then I blocked him. I mean what the hell gets into people that they think it's okay to talk to other people like that?
I have a question for you on this guy. I just looked at your profile and you look extremely young for your age which is listed as 43. You easily look late 20s. How old was this guy? His response sounds very juvenile. | |
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| The reason women are hesitant to respond!
Posted: 4/24/2007 1:57:58 PM | Bolond
Back in Msg #58 you said that "separated" just means they don't have the guts to file for a divorce (or something to that effect). I am "separated" because I have been waiting for paperwork. Our lovely legal system which produces lawyers that charge an arm and a leg to do nothing but delay things says also that I cannot report same delaying to the state bar association. "Before filing charges against a lawyer, discuss your problem with them." WHY? So they can charge you more money to still do nothing? I have been separated for 2 years now. Quite a long time for a non-contested divorce if you ask me. But what else can I put in my profile? If I put divorced, then anyone that shows interest thinks I am a liar when I tell them I am just waiting for paperwork. But I have not been truly "married" for over 2 years now. So if I am not married, not divorced and not separated, then what am I?
Sorry for hijacking the thread, but that one gets to me. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2007 3:01:53 PM | A couple of months ago I received very limited hi-how-are-you-have-a-nice-day correspondence from a guy and then all of the sudden I got a message with the "Footprints" story - you know, the one about two sets of footprints turning into one set in the sand, while God "carried" the author? I sent a polite reply back saying something like "Thank you for thinking of me, but I am not a particularly religious person and wouldn't be the best recipient for those types of messages." He wrote back and said he didn't realize that it was religious and it was the first time he had ever seen it. I wrote back and pointed out that the story was about God, and that it's a commonly published story. His reply was something to the effect of "Well, I was raised in the church of the Hell's Angels because my mom committed suicide."
I hid for a couple of months. Quick, someone look and tell me if he's gone yet! | |
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Posted: 4/25/2007 4:06:01 PM | randywest,
Your screen name is the same as a famous porn star from the 90's. Did that have anything to do with the paperwork taking so long? ;)
In all seriousness, I don't think you'd be lying by saying you're divorced if you hit the 2 year mark in a non-contested divorce separation, and if during this whole time you've lived away from her. For all practical purposes, you're divorced -- that's what matters -- even to folks who refuse to deal with people 'still separated'. Just as long as you spell it out to them when they ask 'how long have you been divorced?' | |
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