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Posted: 7/28/2009 8:36:05 PM | I wish I was color blind
Coffee black and egg white
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Posted: 7/28/2009 9:39:36 PM |
I have a dream that one day all men would be judged not on the color of their skin but the content of their character.
I used to put down that I would only date men who were Black (meaning middle class with class all American grade A church going deep cocoa brother who I can talk to and listen to.) White (really meaning 3 or more generation God loving American Irish military Air Force being the biggest plus manly man who makes me laugh so hard I can't breathe and sings so sweet I could cry.) Asian (really meaning built round faced Christian Chinese American with work ethic not a workaholic just focused) and Native American (really meaning from one of the NE coastal tribes who has no self pity or want to drag me into the wood for insane camping trips but will hike with me and sit in the sun with me mediating on all the wonders of the All Father) because I am a BICN - American. I like the men from my tribes I think they are fun to hang with. My daddy was the best and watching him and my mom made me want a guy who was like him.
After 25 years of dating guys who were one or more of my tribal background and never wedding one of them I do not put a preference anymore. After 5 years dating guys who was not anything like my dad too I can say that it is different but not bad at all. Still not married to any of them either. | |
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Posted: 7/29/2009 2:09:00 PM | I have foot fetish.
Most black and Indian (from India) girls don't have feet that I like. They tend to have different color between the sole and foot top. It turns me off.
Too bad for me, because the black girls hit on me more often than other girls. And I find some of them attractive, the buttery skin and the butt like no others. | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 2:38:33 PM |
I have no problem with interracial dating except that I am not attracted to black women. I have really never felt an attraction to a black woman and the times that I have had contact with them, the cultural differences are huge. They always seem so angry and always pissed off about everything. Most black women are so big and fat and angry that I find it hard to imagine that anyone would be attracted to them.
It is hard to imagine that I feel less cultural differences between a latin or Asian woman who was not even raised in this country than a black woman who was raised here. I don't understand ebonics either so I also have a bigger communication problem with black women that I do someone who has only spoken english a short time.
Thats being a bit stereotypical, dont you think? Maybe that is because of the women that you personally have been in contact with... However, the color of a persons skin should not matter, but the person inside should...thats how I think, at least... there are angry women of all races out there...why play to the stereotype? | |
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Posted: 8/6/2009 3:22:39 PM | I love women based on what their abilities and character, not on something as superficial as their skin color.
That said, I've dated a few black and mixed girls and from what I can tell, they're generally on average tighter and firmer where it counts. This was backed up in another another thread I saw where a gynecologist said it was because black women have narrower pelvic bone structures and store more body fat in the area making it firmer and giving em that perky butt. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 8:08:29 PM | | i typically date black men----its nothing other than being attracted to a darker skin color---always have been--I would date someone of other nationalities also--if they were a darker color---just as some people prefer blondes--its what starts each persons motor | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 8:44:56 PM | | The very simple answer is that we live in a very superficial society. Too many judge based on outward appearance. Physical attraction can make for a great night of sex, but for love to build there needs to be more. I believe that someone who says that they will only date a certain ethnicity (whether there own or different) is racist. | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 9:08:23 PM | Niceblkguyohio said:
"Man I have dated both black and white females but i wont date a white female who only likes black guys.The reason is because I want somebody who wants me for me and just because I have black skin isnt enough too just date me.I have a friend who is a white guy who is very cool but he asked this white girl out and she said she only dated black guys and that was dumb too me to judge him on his race instead of what he had to offer date wise."
Good points. Usually, but not always, these are the ones with a red flag. They were probably hurt by their own race and carry baggage or scars from past relationships. Also could be a 'revenge' or to 'get back' at family/friends for something.
I don't understand when women had a bad or a few bad experiences within their own race, they close their own race off completely and go for the exact opposite. I mean a few bad apples are going to make you shut off your own race???????
(Scratching my head here)
BTW, I made sure to say usually or some women and not always. Maybe it will cut down some flak I may receive...... | |
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Posted: 9/1/2009 9:27:09 PM | Oops, one more thing:
I could probably see myself marrying a White/Asian or Latina lady the most out of any, and it will probably be 90% just cause.
I like to keep my options open 'cos you just never know..... | |
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Posted: 9/2/2009 11:59:05 AM | YES,, many a night, all i have dated in my life so far is black women.. i love there food they make... i had a black women from west africa get so mad one time, not to sure why she got mad , but you know there made when thy do the tooth suck sound, then follow the crackle sound with the tongue... she ripped my clothes from my body , hit me with my xbox 360 , kinda helped i needed new one anyway 3 red lights.. then i run out the door and jump into my car ... 2 seconds later she jumps on my roof yelling at me in african , triing to climb through sunroof.. so i back up do hard rockford 180 (rev 180) send her flying cart wheel style from top of car landing her on grass stumach first,
drive off yelling through open roof you crazy **** , ya those were the days, but you know what .. i really love that girl , always fun times...we broke up 1.5 years later , now its been 6 months since break up and she is mad again,, she thinks she still owns me i guess, i started dating a very awesome south african girl, west meets south... | |
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Posted: 9/2/2009 4:22:02 PM | i perfer one race...and it is not my race...i have a son who is bi-racial...my nieces and nephews are bi-racial...it is not a big deal for my family
it is the person...i have dated white guys and hispnic guys
but i prefer one ethnic group...no big deal
there are more issues to worry about it...if i am happy
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Posted: 9/2/2009 5:06:06 PM | | Race doesn't matter to me one bit, so long as there is some attraction. Not even something I really think of, being the product of an interracial marriage myself. I'm always surprised to see that it still appears to be an issue with many. | |
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Posted: 9/2/2009 6:25:59 PM | The way I see it:
People who are color-blind (within reason) and/or open to dating people of any race are progressive and open-minded.
People who only date within their race are closed-minded, albeit excusably so.
People who only date outside their race are fetishistic and/or have an unhealthy relationship with their own race. | |
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Posted: 9/3/2009 9:53:24 PM | | It amazes me the importance that some people put on skin color. It looks like we just have a bunch of mindless people who put way too much importance on physical attraction. It's just skin color people...Get over it! Stop judging people based on skin color. You would think that attraction is some cosmic force that no one has control over it. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 2:40:38 AM | "It amazes me the importance that some people put on skin color."
When y'all are done KUM-BA-YAHing, answer me this: is it really just the color of the skin? No other differences whatsoever? I have seen tanned white people that were darker than light black people. If we don't do the ostrich and only talk PC, perhaps we would find more differences that have a bearing on relationship decisions. But I cannot give you any examples because freedom of speech is relative and too many people here are not logical.
Here's an idea (as read about in another thread): Date in a dark room. If what you say is right, you'll never know the race and therefore it is not an issue. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 8:11:01 AM | wolftxus, I am rarely attracted to light skinned black men or tanned white men. Actually, I find a dark tan on a white guy not good at all. But, I think that focusing solely on the skin color aspect of it does not make sense either as a lighter skinned black man is likely to attract my attention more than a white man. I think features play into it as well. My ex is white but his facial features where atypical. I also date Latinos some of whom are light skinned at well but their facial features appeal to me. Not saying I date every black guy on the market or every latino but you are more likely to find the little things I find attractive in the face in those features.
Face it, we all have things that just work for us. It might be eye color, hair color, facial construction, breasts, butt, a broad pair of shoulders, thick, thin, ect..... Those aren't the only things that matter but we are more likely to look for partners within the people who have that set of features that just works for us. That's absolutely ok. Nothing wrong with that. Doesn't make you somehow less because physical attraction matters in a relationship. This is especially true in a new relationship. As we get to know each other, personality and other things may overcome changes in appearence but, lets face it, nature meant for us to find each other physically attractive in order to pair off. Calling that shallow just seems silly somehow. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2009 9:37:56 AM | | Kthyg, thanks, you are making my point. Pick who you choose, but to say that the skin color is the only difference (like the poster I referred to - and many others - stated) is simply not accurate. And your post still focused on features - I am sure that there are other, behavioral differences, be they inherited or formed during the upbringing. | |
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Posted: 9/11/2009 5:33:26 PM | Race doesn't matter to me. My last boyfriend was Jewish and my first was Taiwanese. As long as the man is a man from birth until now, I am good!!! | |
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