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Posted: 9/12/2009 1:04:46 AM | I kind of know what you mean to a point. I've written to some caucasion women in the past who wrote back to tell me that they only date black men. I don't understand it myself. For one thing, most black men to me are very ugly. There are a few handsome black guys, but not many. No offense to anyone, just personal preference. I've seen very attractive white women who are with a black guy or who have a black kid and I just wonder what's wrong with her and what she was thinking. Personally, I have usually dated just white women because I'm white and that's what's attractive to me. Yet there have been a few black and spanish women that I would've dated if I could've.
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Posted: 9/12/2009 2:00:02 AM | I prefer my own race of men because of our shared race, skin color, history, oppression, subculture, connection with the mother land (that being Africa), and I consider them my brothers - literally my relatives.
When my people were taken from Africa, people who were related to each other were split up and went to different places - US, Carribean, South America, Europe and other places. Those people had children in whatever places they landed. We are immediate descendents of Africans. By 'immediate' I mean everyone comes from Africa, but we are the most immediate descendants, having been in these other places for less than 200 years or about 4-7 generations.
But notice I did say 'prefer' and not 'limited too.'
As for why people only date someone of another race only (and I emphasize only) - here's my theory
Because of self-hatred mainly. A lotta white people do it because they don't like being white. They think being black or dark is cool, urban, exotic, strong... and either that';s what they want to be or that's what they want to date. And some like it because it pisses off other folks. Pissing someone off because you're dating a black person helps some people feel good about themselves. I've seen that mostly with white women who get a kick out of making white men or black women pissed by 'taking a brotha' or 'dating a (N-word).'
For blacks - it's because they have learned no appreciation for blackness or their own black skin. Many black guys have been teased for having dark skin by sisters but white women love it - so they start dating white women and hence develop a preference for them. Some black people date white people only because they say their own race is lacking or not good enough. Black women have said that white men treat them better than black men. And black men have said that white women are more docile and accomodating than black women.
Black and white men have also dated Asian women only because they have said that Asian women are more accomodating and docile than either black or white women.
I think Asian women who date white men only do it because white men presents a bit of prestige, honor, and money. And even through older Asians prefer that Asians marry other Asians, whiteness and white features is very much worshipped and sought after in many parts of Asia - including India, Japan, and China.
Now notice I did say - those who date a certain race ONLY. There are many who have preferences but are open to either their own race or another if they find the one they are looking for. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 2:10:10 AM | I kind of know what you mean to a point. I've written to some caucasion women in the past who wrote back to tell me that they only date black men. I don't understand it myself. For one thing, most black men to me are very ugly. There are a few handsome black guys, but not many. No offense to anyone, just personal preference. I've seen very attractive white women who are with a black guy or who have a black kid and I just wonder what's wrong with her and what she was thinking. Personally, I have usually dated just white women because I'm white and that's what's attractive to me. Yet there have been a few black and spanish women that I would've dated if I could've.
Ed
I read between the lines very well. And you don't have the guts to ask a black or hispanic woman out so you want to put down black men because white women want to date them - and you even put down their children! (I'm a softee for all children). White women like black guys - so what? What does that have to do with you and your inability and desire to date someone not white?
Do not be offended if you have messaged a white women and she says she prefers black guys. You seem to take that personal and feel that you are lacking because you're white. There are still PLENTY of white women who date white men and only white men, and many of them very attractive. I understand you got your feelings hurt over a seeming racial slight (or racial injustice it may seem to you) but all hope is not lost.
And get some guts for heaven sake. You wanna date people of color, make eye contact, smile - and if you get a positive response play up on that. It's not that friggin hard! However nice you would approach a white women you can approach black women or other women of color the same way. But your lack of guts and penchant to put someone else down just shows your insecurity, and that doesn't look good. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 8:12:13 AM |
And get some guts for heaven sake. You wanna date people of color, make eye contact, smile - and if you get a positive response play up on that. It's not that friggin hard! However nice you would approach a white women you can approach black women or other women of color the same way. But your lack of guts and penchant to put someone else down just shows your insecurity, and that doesn't look good.
That goes for dating all men and women. Grow a back bone, make a connection and, if it works, that's great. If you get turned down, move on. I I get hit on and I hit on others. I get accepted and rejected. I don't take it personally. If you are not someones type you aren't. It's cool. There really is someone out there for just about everyone.
Ed, your comment about just not seeing most black men as attractive is how I feel about most white men. It's not that there is anything wrong with white men. It's just not what gets my motor reving. I mean, there are certain people that catch out eye accross a crowded room and make us go yummy. It's very rare for that to happen with a white guy for me. It has happened, but it's unusual. Who knows why? Just wired that way. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 1:30:03 PM | It's okay to have preferences. I don't have a preference for one race over another.
I do have a preference in someone who is skinny. Like 4'9" - 5'6" and 100-125 lbs. Overweight is unattractive to me. I'm skinny so I prefer someone else who is as well.
One man's junk is another man's treasure.
What I don't appreciate is people who brag about their preferences as if we're supposed to care. Or people putting down one's race to justify why they do.
Because frankly, that shows the weakness in you, as well as nobody actually giving a shit. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 1:32:42 PM | Its a choice or do you not understand that?What a person does or chooses is none of enybody elses business.If you wanna disgrace you and your family,go for it.I dont see eny since in crossing races,its pathetic and a degenerate lifestyle.There ya go,my choice.Works well for me and those around me.  | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 1:45:52 PM | I don't think the choices other people make are anyone's business but theirs. That's like asking why some men prefer blondes, or why some women prefer tall men, etc.
Preferences. Seems to me it's not all that hard to understand. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 2:35:29 PM |
If you wanna disgrace you and your family,go for it.I dont see eny since in crossing races,its pathetic and a degenerate lifestyle.There ya go,my choice.Works well for me and those around me.
Talk about disgracing one's family.
Oh, Mississippi, now I get it. You are all that. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 3:10:37 PM |
Its a choice or do you not understand that?What a person does or chooses is none of enybody elses business.If you wanna disgrace you and your family,go for it.I dont see eny since in crossing races,its pathetic and a degenerate lifestyle.There ya go,my choice.Works well for me and those around me.
The only thing I got from that poorly constructed post was a disgrace to my eyes. Take a writing class, please. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 5:28:22 PM | | Some people open their mouth or, in this case, start typing and manage to disgrace their families with their words. It would not matter to me if I dated black, white, indian, hispanic, purple or martians. I still would not date anyone who held such provincial and separatist views. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 5:43:18 PM | I have dated men from my own race and also outside of my race. I don't see "race" the way some would and I've been told time and again that I am a rarity in that. I do have a preference though...I love men who are physically strong without being gymrats, who have nice eyes and a warm smile. I can be in love with a man who is compassionate, sensitive and has confidence in himself.
I suppose I probably cannot answer your question or help you to understand any better because race is not the issue for me, it is and always has been the person...who he is, not what he is that matters to me.
Its a choice or do you not understand that?What a person does or chooses is none of enybody elses business.If you wanna disgrace you and your family,go for it.I dont see eny since in crossing races,its pathetic and a degenerate lifestyle.There ya go,my choice.Works well for me and those around me.
This is a man I would never consider dating.....buddy you have some serious issues.......get some help because you are a disgrace to the human race! | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 5:51:39 PM | | Your just f***king youself if youd dismiss someone just because of the color of skin.Cultural differences ?maybe.For example im kind of mellow and love rock/metal.So id never get along with a black girl(no matter how hot) if shes like"yo yo yo!" and totally into rap.But then again id never get along with a white chick who was boisterous,and totally into country either.I believe check out everything that comes your way because you never know. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 8:37:01 PM | I like the fact that people take issue with others saying it's a bad thing to cross races. WTF do you care? They have their choice too. Just like some of you.
There are just as many people who are against IR that would hate people that do. Same with people who are for IR and hate the ignorance in those who refuse to do so.
Don't hate on others for there choices. Live and let be. Life is much more peaceful that way. | |
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Posted: 9/12/2009 9:22:37 PM | question about interracial dating ...
Posted: 9/12/2009 4:04:46 AM
I kind of know what you mean to a point. I've written to some caucasion women in the past who wrote back to tell me that they only date black men. I don't understand it myself. For one thing, most black men to me are very ugly. There are a few handsome black guys, but not many. No offense to anyone, just personal preference. I've seen very attractive white women who are with a black guy or who have a black kid and I just wonder what's wrong with her and what she was thinking. Personally, I have usually dated just white women because I'm white and that's what's attractive to me. Yet there have been a few black and spanish women that I would've dated if I could've.
Ed
Your personal view is very offensive....My neice is married to a black man and they have two beautiful daughters.....AND there is nothing wrong with her. You cannot help who you fall in love with.......You would have dated a black or spanish woman....You donot make any sense...Which is it? Most black men are ugly? OMG.....Do you wear a sheet too........as in your words....sorry, no offense to you......rme | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 9:51:27 AM | Race is an imaginary concept that segregates people into distinct social groups. Usually based solely on the color of their skin. When we seek to find the things we have in common with others, the differences seem to disappear, or become less important.
Racists who out themselves are far easier to live with than those that move amongst us keeping their dirty little secret from the world around them. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 10:37:32 AM | "Same with people who are for IR and hate the ignorance in those who refuse to do so."
So now people with a preference against IR are ignorant? While you are at it, are they homophobes because they are straight?Gee, PC BS has no boundaries...
"Race is an imaginary concept"
Anthropology and biology are not my areas of expertise, but I object to your statement. What's next? The skin tone is an optical illusion? Acknowledging differences and classifying things, animals and people is not wrong. In fact, that is how science is done. It looks to facts and data rather than wishful thinking. You will have some work ahead of you to 1984-adjust the word 'race'. | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 10:49:58 AM |
Race is an imaginary concept that segregates people into distinct social groups.
Hard concept to grasp, for most. There has been some research that suggests there is far more genetic variation found within a race than between different races. But I'm not smart enough to understand all of the science of it, makes my brain hurt to think about it too much.
But race does seem to be judged mostly on a socially constructed phenomenon based primarily on visible physical differences.
When we seek to find the things we have in common with others, the differences seem to disappear, or become less important.
Great approach to opening one's self up to a variety of people!
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Posted: 9/13/2009 11:45:30 AM |
Its a choice or do you not understand that?What a person does or chooses is none of enybody elses business.If you wanna disgrace you and your family,go for it.I dont see eny since in crossing races,its pathetic and a degenerate lifestyle.There ya go,my choice.Works well for me and those around me.
OH HELL NO OH HELL NO OH HELL NO
You want to talk about degenerate and pathetic? You should maybe look in the mirror. I know the concept of mating outside of your family unit is probably foreign to you, but HOW DARE YOU spew "I dont see eny since in crossing races". Besides the fact that your kindergarten education has taught you well, your ignorance is laughable at most. Also, like anyone but your cousins would date you. Please by all means, stick with your own kind, cause I can't see how anyone else would want you. You know looking at you, you seem to have a nice dark tan there. I think you got a few drops a a "crossed" race in you. Welcome to the club Brother Gump!  | |
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Posted: 9/13/2009 6:49:19 PM | OP it's really about values. And the preference for those values over the values of other cultures that is the attraction and preference. For example in my culture women seem to want to party and are generally more shallow than in other cultures due to the way their generation were raised, so my values contradict this.
That and the lack of gender roles in this generation of my culture means a woman rarely knows how to cook the native foods of my country nor does she have any incentive to learn. So what you have is a woman who was raised to have a shallow belief system, has no domestic skills to count on when considering raising a family, and expects too much in return just for giving you sex.
Other cultures have more substantial values that are worth pursuing them for if the attraction is there. That's why most won't date within their own race, that and it would not be socially acceptable to date outside your race. | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 12:32:34 PM | INTERRACIAL DATING?.......someone please tell me where the NON-HUMANS are??? can you search by category for them? are they any cooler than their human counterparts? (perhaps better endowed, or mannered?)  seriously....are any of you not of the human race? | |
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Posted: 9/16/2009 12:51:31 PM | Its a choice or do you not understand that?What a person does or chooses is none of enybody elses business.If you wanna disgrace you and your family,go for it.I dont see eny since in crossing races,its pathetic and a degenerate lifestyle.There ya go,my choice.Works well for me and those around me
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