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Posted: 4/14/2007 12:43:56 PM | | I believe a person should date whomever they desire. If you're a black guy dating a white lady,be proud of her and if you're a white guy dating a black lady,be proud of her. Too many people are worried about what others are thinking of their situation. As long as the two of you are happy,who cares what others think. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 12:59:44 PM | Color is just that a color. It does not define a person. When dating you should find the person whom makes you happy. Find the real person and make your choice than and only than. If you are just looking at color than you are missing some wonderful people and maybe your future someone. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 1:15:55 PM | | Some individuals unfortunately will not date their own race, because they have do not love themselves. They only see other as beautiful. This is rather unfortunate. I don't have a problem with interracial dating, but as a black woman, it is offensive when I see black men on POF say 'I date Mexican, Asian, and white women ONLY'. Read between the lines. This is another type of racism, just reflected against one's own race. It is unfortunate in this world that this type of occurrence goes on. People should be viewed on the basis of their character, not their skin color. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 12:28:10 AM |
I think everyone is the same... whether they are white, black, hispanic.... and so on....
Congratulations! You have one the "I Am More Politically Correct" award. You now have the right to look down your nose at whoever does not share your views. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 1:45:50 AM | I prefer Asian men......it's simply a matter of liking the way they look. I don't KNOW why; I only know that I like slender, more feminine guys with black hair and brown eyes. And yes, if a caucasian guy had those features, I would find him attractive as well.
Culture may play a part in it too. I find Asian guys to be less macho and quieter than Caucasian guys. I really, really REALLY dislike the "macho man" culture that says men have to be agressive and domineering.
I'm an Alpha female, so that just makes it very difficult for me to date an Alpha male. :) | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 2:04:57 AM | | Different races have different cultures as well. Its no different than someone who likes opera dating someone who likes country western. Its different tastes, different things in common, different likes. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 6:28:07 AM |
Too many people are worried about what others are thinking of their situation. As long as the two of you are happy,who cares what others think.
Yep, in a nutshell, thats the answer to this thread. Do what works for you. But dont judge others if their preferences are different. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 7:38:15 AM | Some people think there IS a difference, others don't. I myself have dated whomever I was attracted to, however, those have mostly been men who were not black. Has nothing to do with me not liking black men (I do but the ones I tend to be attracted to are not attracted to ME). Also, I tend to attract black men with drama and I don't do drama. White or European or Latin men tend to ask me out more and we happen to enjoy the same fun things, foods and places. I grew up in multicural neighborhoods and have interracial marriages within my own family. I get "hater mail" on dating sites from black men A LOT who condemn my choice and I fire right back at them that I seriously doubt they are sending that same garbage to the black men who are seeking and dating white women.
Date whom you like and enjoy yourselves. Nobody else's business. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 10:54:59 AM | Weird, I just read a column on Interracial dating recently..
(From the column) by John Tierney
Readers responded to my last post with lots of theories and personal reports on people’s preferences in interracial dating. Also some complaints that I seemed to be asking for comments about only whites and blacks — an impression I didn’t mean to give. Researchers have been studying other races, too. They’ve found that theories and anecdotal evidence aren’t a very reliable guide to these questions: some of the common stereotypes don’t match the data.
Some of you did get it right, like Dan, who hypothesized that Asians are relatively more willing to date outside their race. David predicted that black men are more likely to date white women than white men are to date black women — which is right, although not for the reason many people think. It’s not that white men are more reluctant to date non-whites; it’s that black women are less willing to date someone of another race.
At least that’s the picture that emerges from studies of online daters and speed daters. Men are generally willing to date someone of another race, but women are more reluctant, especially African-American women.
Consider “Racial Preferences in Dating,” a study of more than 400 graduate and professional students who participated in speed dating sessions at Columbia University organized by Raymond Fisman, Sheena S. Iyengar, Emir Kamenica and Itamar Simonson. The researchers conclude: “Even in a population of relatively progressive individuals who have self-selected into participation in a multi-cultural Speed Dating event, we observe strong racial preferences.”
There’s also a clear gender divide, as the researchers note: “Women of all races exhibit strong same race preferences, while men of no race exhibit a statistically significant same race preference.” You might think the gender gap is the result of different dating goals: perhaps the men are more interested in short-term flings, whereas the women are looking for a lasting relationship and are concerned about potential complications from cultural differences. But the researchers conclude otherwise after looking at the data:
“Since older subjects (who are more likely to attend the Speed Dating sessions in hope of starting a serious relationship) have a weaker same race preference, this gender difference is unlikely to result from differential dating goals between men and women.”
The researchers found that most women speed daters said yes (meaning they’d like to see a man again after the four-minute speed date) less often to men of another race than they did to men of their own race. Here’s how much less interested they were in the other races, as compared with their enthusiasm for men of their own race:
African-American women said yes about 30 percent less often to Hispanic men; about 45 percent less often to white men; about 65 percent less often to Asian men.
White women said yes about 30 percent less often to black or Hispanic men, and about 65 percent less often to Asian men.
Hispanic women said yes about 20 percent less often to black or white men, and 50 percent less often to Asian men.
Asian women didn’t discriminate much by race (except for showing a very slight preference for Asian men over black or Hispanic men).
After noting who said yes to whom, the researchers analyzed a confounding factor: the men’s physical attractiveness. They found that the women of different races generally agreed with one another in rating the various men’s attractiveness — and that they were less willing to date a man of another race even when he was just as attractive as a man of their own race. When the researchers controlled for the men’s attractiveness, they found that white, Hispanic and Asian women generally showed about the same level of same-race preference, while black women showed a significantly higher preference.
These results from the speed dating experiment roughly jibe with the study I cited in the earlier post about height-income tradeoffs. In that analysis of more than 20,000 online daters, split roughly evenly between Boston and San Diego, men didn’t show much preference for same-race partners. Women did, and African-American women showed the most pronounced preference.
The researchers, after controlling for all other attributes (height, weight, attractiveness, etc.), calculated how much extra income (relative to the income of the average online male dater, $62,500) a man would need to overcome the racial barrier. Here are some of the estimates (there weren’t enough data to do all the interracial permutations) of how much each extra income a man would need to be equally appealing to a woman as would a man of her own race:
For equal success with an African-American woman, a Hispanic man needs to earn an extra $184,000; a white man needs to earn an additional $220,000.
For equal success with a white woman, an African-American needs to earn an additional $154,000; a Hispanic man needs $77,000; an Asian needs $247,000.
For equal success with a Hispanic woman, an African-American man needs to earn an additional $30,000; a white man needs to earn an additional $59,000.
For equal success with an Asian woman, an African-American needs no additional income; a white man needs $24,000 less than average; a Hispanic man needs $28,000 more than average.
I’ll leave you with two questions: Why do women have these preferences? And what might prompt them to pay less attention to a man’s race? | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:03:52 AM | Aliens are completly out unless they look like Gary Conway from Land of the Giants... Or Superman - AKA Christopher Reeves!
Sorry but my family would be intolerant, bigoted and would be disturbed at the thought of my relocating to the planet Krypton! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:03:56 AM | people can have a preference, everyone does wether it is height, weight, finance, appearance, dress, build, shape; it does not bother me, as long as the person does not hate or despise the other race.
some people will prefer certain things , an its all based on our exp, desires, turn ons; race is no diff... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:17:57 AM | Hmm do you work with people? All kinds of people?
Ive seen people of other races have more temper tantrums and hold grudes a lot longer than many black women I know
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:23:33 AM | | As some have eloquently stated previously to this effort on my behalf to be likewise, the color and culture that comes w/another human being is an attraction that I don't ignore or find disagreeable for being something for me to explore further, but the interracial opportunity has yet to arise for me. With that shared, I also don't go about trying to break down the boundaries of differing color and culture because I find a woman to be exotic before I might find her in accord w/ how I care for others of the human race ...that really is not a race. Interracial dating? Absolutely, if her mindset is n't unlike mine for being w/ someone who truly cares for more than 'booty'. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 11:23:51 AM | my exwife is half black,ive had many black ,and latino gfs,also white gfs,the color of your skin doesnt get in the way of love. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 1:31:32 PM | ntbtsf: I'm assuming you are saying what you said because you just don't know any better. That's just the most ignorant answer I've seen on any of the interracial dating threads. I prefer caucasian men, and I know for a fact that your statements are not true. Dating out of your race exclusively is not racism. It's a matter of personal choice. Black men, white men, black women, white women, etc., have a right to choose who they want to date.
People who feel as you do about who others date have some sort of self esteem issues themselves. Otherwise, why would you care? How could you possibly believe that it means they don't love themselves? It's very unfortunate that there are people who think as you do! Men or women on POF, or any dating site, should state exactly what they want. Why on earth would it be offensive to you? | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 5:41:22 PM | well i'm probally the only one here that doesn't date other colors, i'm not a racist person. i just don't have an attraction to diffrent colors of people, i'm pro white and my children are white, there is not on person of color in my family, my family doesn't believe in mixing race. i treat every one equal, it's a prefrence.  | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 6:30:47 PM | | people have and will find people of other races attractive at one point,i have seen one of the most prejudice people at my place of employment lock his lips at an attractive woman of color on more than a few occassions and also the frat parties when people are drinking,color doesnt come into play when any guy is seeking a womans phone number be she red , purple or green. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 7:41:39 PM | | As a biracial women I dated blk man and a few hispanic men prior to getting married. I married a blk man which lasted for 14 years and ended badly. After that I wanted the complete opposite so i dated white men and had a 2 yr relationship which didnt work out. I have learned men are men and it doesnt matter what skin u put them in. I now date a person depending on their personality more and race less. One difference I have found in dating different races is that when u are with someone for a while it is not just you and him against the world. This I found out from my relationship with the 2 yr relationship. He had family and ex who stated they "dont believe in interracial dating". Also in going to certain affairs or activities of each person tended to be more people of one race or the other which can be rather uncomfortable for a person. So anyway I would say there are no differences about people just circumstances you encounter in life. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 1:32:02 AM |
ntbtsf: I'm assuming you are saying what you said because you just don't know any better. That's just the most ignorant answer I've seen on any of the interracial dating threads. I prefer caucasian men, and I know for a fact that your statements are not true. Dating out of your race exclusively is not racism. It's a matter of personal choice. Black men, white men, black women, white women, etc., have a right to choose who they want to date.
RussetAutumnRose, NTBTSF's point is valid, and well taken. I don't think that she is saying that everyone who chooses to date outside of their race has issues against their own. It's been a known fact since slave times that there are those who have been brain washed to think that there is something wrong with their race. They are in denial about who they are. The recent posts regarding the Imus incident is a good example. One of the posters said to me that his Black former assisstant, in a sense, wanted nothing to do with other Blacks and considered them beneath her. She went so far as to laugh with him about a Black man who she said looked like a gorilla. This woman was full of self-loathing to be so bigotted against her own people. Color struck is a term I'm sure you're familiar with. Like you, I date mostly White men because that's my choice, and that has been who more available in my city. But I am also open to dating all other races. It just depends on who I'm physically and emotionally attracted too.
hard2get1:Ever seen a black girl get mad???.......
Too funny, hardwget1. My question for you is, just how hard are you to get? :yay:
well i'm probally the only one here that doesn't date other colors, i'm not a racist person. i just don't have an attraction to diffrent colors of people, i'm pro white and my children are white, there is not on person of color in my family, my family doesn't believe in mixing race. i treat every one equal, it's a prefrence
Chance darlin, not dating outside of your race does not make you a racist. You continue to be 'pro white' I'll continue to be 'pro human'. As long as we both treat one another with respect, it's all good.
Lonestardaddy, YOWZA! You're a hottie! | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 3:25:31 AM | At a DNA level most people are already have a mixture of 'race'. There are a few exception of 'pure breeds' but they are in the minority these days. In a few hundred years time the chances are most humans will be of mixed race.
So it's really down to physical attraction and fear. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 7:43:08 AM | | raerae59; Her post implied that she meant everyone who dates out of their race. Period. I can only go by what she said and you really can't say that she meant any different. We are not mind readers. Usually what people write is what they mean, and it was an ignorant statement. | |
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