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Posted: 10/18/2007 2:58:32 PM | | Its as simple to me as a preference, some men like larger women, other small, some women like tall and slim while others want a teddy bear... I do not think it is something you actually decide, atleast for me it is not. Growing up the only black man I knew and was friends with was about 2 inches shorter than me and a bout 20 lbs smaller, he was fun and was a friend... When I got to highschool and saw a world of difference in age and ethnicity...I have been attracted ever since. Its my preference, it means no disrespect to other races, including my own, I have dated outside of this attraction, due to personality or connection but as I have fine tuned what I am looking for (as I get older and more serious about settling down), I find my main attraction is to a specific type of person. I have narrowed the search is all. I know what has worked in the past, what I liked and loved; for most of us this is not uncommon when it comes to personality traits, why not physical ones as well? How is this so different or confusing? I had a great interracial relationship for five years... I do not see color in life or friendship, I do not judge others on religious or political beliefs, but when it comes to me and what I am attracted to, regardless of the small minded individuals of the world I have encountered, I still like what I like... the guy likes the BBW, the woman likes the tall and slim, I like the BBM (beautiful black man)... to each their own. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 7:44:25 AM | | is there really just a white person, black person, hispanic any more?, We are such a multi-cultural society these days that it is hard to believe this would still be an issue. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 8:24:08 AM | | I like women. I guess I like the female race then lol! Of any ethnicity or racial background. Sometimes people have preferences for people of a certain body type or skin color. Sometimes due to narrowmindedness, but for the most part, I think the attraction and then the staunch preference is based on previous experiences due to physical attraction and cultural affinity. Some neighborhoods of where I live, interracial relationships are the rule rather than exception (especially white woman with black man). Some of those white women grew up as a minority, in a predominantly black neighborhood, so that is what they grew up with, had their first crushes on, first dates with, etc. While I myself don't have such a preference, and sometimes being my race means I am not an option for a woman I may find attractive, it is not mine or anyone else's place to judge or change those preferences. If someone doesn't like me because of my race, it is not much different than someone not liking me because I am only 5'8 instead of 6'4. Sucks sometimes but that is life. I don't equate racial preference with racism, though, on occasion like I said, people's preferences do come from narrowmindedness, but I honestly think it is very uncommon for a racial preference to be racist in origin. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 4:24:59 PM | | Personally, I don't care what race a person is, but I do care about their culture. I'm as white bread as they come and if I feel like I'm going to have to fight her brothers and all her exes every time I see them...I have better things to do with my life. Then there's mama telling her to find a nice Italian/Greek/Jewish/[insert creed here] boy. No matter. If she likes me, that's my main concern. Hopefully we won't have culture issues. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 5:13:49 PM | | Personally, I can't see why someone would exlude a person of a certain race, but I guess to each their own. I've dated mostly black women all my life but will never exclude any other races. I've never really bought the excuse of one race treating you better than the other. I believe everyone is their own unique person and cannot represent a whole. | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 7:08:55 PM | lol.... ummmmm.... Hrdtoget1 (tooooo funnyyyyy... true... but angry women in general is not generally a good thing ...lmao)
As for dating "within" or "outside" ones race... I don’t think it is a "racist" decision (not at all, at least not for most people)...
It has a lot to do with the culture and environments one is exposed to.... and lets be honest, it is a GOOD thing we all have our own preferences.... I accepted long ago that some women and men are attracted to blonde, oriental, the exotic wild type (just like short/tall, bald/long, big/small, etc...... just as we are all unique, so are our preferences...
We can NOT help who we are attracted too (lol)... it just is... :-) We all have our preferences ...I know I do... (mischievous grin)... :-P
As for me, I am an other (coffee + cream = Caribbean + German… hahahaha )
PS…
(I do think that some people are possibly thinking WAYYYY to much on this issue... possibly in fear of it being racially bias by not trying out another race... ) | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 7:38:43 PM | For purely Darwinian reasons, I wish to spend time with someone who is of my own (or better) socio-economic/intellectual status, and from whom I can obtain some (useful, or at least interesting to me) information. Beyond that, my discrimination ends.
That said, I have; however, noticed that (generally speaking) the fellows who fit into the aforementioned paradigm are usually of Caucasian or Eastern Asian ancestry.
Whaddiyagonnado? | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 10:11:39 PM | The way this topic should be looked at is....what person makes me complete? If that person is of another race to me so what, it's their heart I"m after and only that | |
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Posted: 10/19/2007 11:26:16 PM | I think most people who do this like the fact that interracial dating "disarms" you of a lot of your reservations, even those you have about the opposite sex. You don't expect them to treat you like the same-ethnicity SO's you've had in the past. It's a special connection that no one else (at least those who aren't in interracial relationships) understands. You feel more free to love the person for who they are.
I think there are attractive features about every race though ... to men, just ignore the women's beauty magazines. Those mags are made so girls will feel insecure and buy cosmetic crap anyways. To women, don't have prejudices against men, saying this kind of race will treat you this way, and this one will treat you another way, if you've never dated someone of that race. To people who group humans as African, Caucasian, Asian ... give it up. There are too many races on this planet to count ... probably at least 20 in Africa alone, at least 5 in Europe, probably 30 or more in Asia and 10 in the Middle East. And then there's America. No one is a representative of any one race, or of perfection/attractiveness in general. We're better known by our names.
Or which do you think I would prefer: that white boy or (my name)?
... and also the frat parties when people are drinking,color doesnt come into play when any guy is seeking a womans phone number be she red , purple or green.
A "green" woman at a frat party ... I bet that describes 95% of them.  | |
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Posted: 10/20/2007 3:47:41 AM | I don't have a preference when it comes to racial dating.
I have dated African, Tunisian, Italian, French, and Lybian guys.
Sometimes though Faith comes into the equation. An ex of mine, who is Muslim, didn't drink and had the whole Ramadan thing to deal with lol... I couldn't do it and hence, moved on.
The Lybian guy I dated, had such family morals instilled in him by his family and his culture that he was still in love with his ex wife....... and told me so..... repeatedly......in bed. Not a good sign haha. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2007 4:14:46 AM | | Well, to answer...only from my perspective. Many of us generally know what we like or want. I know what's or whom is appealing to me, and I see no point in pretty much wasting my time along with someone else's. It certainly doesn't mean that I am prejudice towards any other race, shape or form of a person. I happen to find caucasian men most appealing, but I dont limit myself there. It's just a simple preference...nothing more. | |
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Posted: 10/20/2007 4:49:37 PM | | Race isn't a factor to me. I have dated black men before. . If a man is decent looking, has a good personality, and we share some common interests, then that is good enough for me. Some other people might prefer a certain race because that is what they are attracted to and they might have more in common with a certain race. That is fine. | |
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Joined: 8/21/2007
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Posted: 10/20/2007 5:28:39 PM | | I'm not sure that it has anything to do with anything other than attraction. Some people find certain things attractive in others therefore they tend to look for that in a partner. There are certain things that I find attractive in a man and I do tend to look for them, but I certainly do not limit myself to that only. Again, I think it's just an attraction. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 9:51:08 AM | well it all depends on the look. I used to be attracted to the exotic, but the culture can be a huge turn off, and it was.
For example, I dated a muslem, Indonesian. so good lookin exotic, but had zero respect for women, treated me like a sex object lied and lied.
he used his, good look to mask the culture of treating women like trash. SO I am more cautious now. much more.
Then I caught him in another lie, no word from him for 3 years then he says he wants to see me. I said get lost.
B astrd
I am ok with people that are close to my culture, and religion.
Color does not bother me, actually I am attracted to different culture but after what I mentioned I am a bit racist u can say. No more muslem men for men.
If someone else wants to that is fine, not for me.
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Posted: 10/21/2007 2:09:38 PM | | Ok I can only speak for me, so allow me to put it on the block... I have dated , sexed and loved and I can say for me it isn't a dislike for my own race of men or environment, blah, blah, blah. I like white men.. I love the smell, the texture, the willingness to do things ( despite the freakiness), the hair or lack of and the contrast of black and white turns me ON. Despite the myth, there are white men out there who are blessed also ( if you know what I mean) and they know how to use it. phew its getting hot in here..gotta go. | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 6:35:59 PM | Some people are prejudiced, others just are attracted to certain features over others. Those features happen to be of teh same race.
The real questions come to be: What's it to you? as well as ... all these who judge others biased on their preferences in attractiveness being of the same race, are they being just as prejudiced as well? | |
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Posted: 10/21/2007 6:45:58 PM | My opinion... it is hard enough to find love - why limit oneself to a particular type, race, look...
I guess this does not answer the question. I don't know why people do this. I once dated a guy who would only date Latinas. It still makes no sense to me.
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Posted: 10/21/2007 6:47:11 PM |
The real questions come to be: What's it to you? as well as ... all these who judge others biased on their preferences in attractiveness being of the same race, are they being just as prejudiced as well?
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Posted: 10/24/2007 3:29:47 PM | Ok i can answer this one!
Ive never thought of dating outside my race. Not for any sinister reason, i guess race never was an issue just i never got approached or thought of approachin anythin other than white british.
However i met a guy called jimmi couple months back.
He was asian, yes race issue came up for me but i thought sod it i like him he likes me.
My parents were not happy, i was told u date him get out of our house. I was livid.
However , he dumped me. He told me dating a white woman was worse than anythin he could do even illegally to his parents.
He admitted he was ashamed and made me feel like a second class citizen.
I think it really very difficult to date outside your race.
It wasnt a nice experience.
To understand their religions if they practice etc, to understand the way family works to them.
I know what i mean!
I personally, after that experience wouldnt date someone of a different race again, its far too complicated for me. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2007 3:53:19 PM | I have no problem with Interracial dating as long as people don't feel they have to change their entire personality, way of speaking, ect.....just because they're with someone from another race.
That's just sad, when people base their entire existence on who they're f$&king. I've dated both within and outside of my particular race, but I've always stayed the Same Person. | |
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Joined: 6/29/2007
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Posted: 11/6/2007 1:10:19 PM | From what I have seen, usually, white women will prefer to date a white man. Other ethnic backgrounds, like italian, greek, black, whatever, they will be more open to dating someone of a different race. Im not saying all white women are like that, but a good majority of them are. I think it's racist....because you are projecting a stereotype onto someone based on some preconceived notion.
For example, that show the Bachelor. When are they gonna put an Asian guy, or a black guy? They won't, because they know that white women watch that show and they want to see a white man as their "dream man". It's sad but true! | |
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