| Depression and how if affects us all.....
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:26:02 PM | | great topic....there are so many of us that do suffer from depression. As my Doctor told me it is no different than any other disease eg diabetes. I have always had a real problem with medications and he knows this ...so it was a experience for me to take a pill every day. But it works...I have weened myself off the meds but was smart enough to realize that I changed once I was off them. It is not that they are a magic cure but I handle things better while I am on them. It is truly hard for me to accept that fact. I truly hope one day I won't need them.. I do feel a stigma attached to it and I find alot of others do as well. So thanks for opening the discussion... | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 9:30:02 PM | Hey "chipper4u"......welcome to this thread and thank you for replying to it! It does take alot to talk about "depression" but as the doctor said , it is no different than another disease except for the fact that it is controllable....not curable but we can control it! It is very difficult to talk about and come out and say that I am a sufferer of DEPRESSION! BUT....there is nothing to be ashamed of...nothing to hide...If someone do not like me for who I am...what I am...hey, It is their loss.... A person is like a book! You will not know whats inside unless you take the time to find out! I hope that there are more people that join in on this topic and talk openly in here. For anyone who suffers with depression...DO NOT feel bad...DO NOT be ashamed...DO NOT hide...you are not alone. There are more out there that suffer with depression than we are aware of! Please take the time to reply concerning this topic.........
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Posted: 4/21/2007 5:31:49 PM | You're so right, cindy, what a sweet and sensitive woman you are! I'm so glad to know you! You've found a perfect way to be a positive influence in other's lives, with your smiles and happy attitude. A smile may hide your tears, but I'm sure it has removed many tears from others' eyes. Just seeing a smile on your face will put one on the face of the ones you smile at. Good for you, cindy! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2007 4:07:03 AM | I am just "ME"  but I am someone who has been there and knows what it is like....if I can put a smile on even one person's face...It makes it all worth while of a day!
Behind a person's face one may hide
As everyday can be a different ride
Whether there is a cloud or the shining sun
It doesn't matter...it could be anyone
It can happen at the drop of a pin
Whether or not it's invited in
Doesn't matter who you are
Or where the ride takes you or even how far
So if I can make that ride alot more fun
I am willing to do it....for anyone
Not only am I helping the person on the passenger side
It also helps me when I go on that ride.....
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Posted: 4/22/2007 5:10:54 PM | Welcome preettyvegas28....thank u for adding in here.....I agree ...it is hard ! I to have suffered with panic and anxiety a few years ago...sometimes I go through it now but I can control it pretty good and yes one has got to push through life! It would be so easy to give up BUT where the heck would we be then! I shudder to Imagine that....I hope that more people will add their thoughts or personal experiences to this thread....I know it is hard to do but hoping to be able to give a little encouragement by starting this thread......
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| Depression and how if affects us all.....
Posted: 4/23/2007 4:39:31 AM | | depression hit all of us in one way or another, and we all have our own ways with dealing with it. it helps to talk about it with someone who knows and/or understands it. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 6:14:06 AM | Woo Hoo....Welcome FrogFreak to the thread of ups and downs A.K.A "depression"..... and you are so right with what you said but there are still a lot of people that can not come out and talk about it, as it is to hard..... but it helps alot to talk and the people that have been there and can relate......understands a whole lot more!!!!!
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Posted: 4/23/2007 8:51:17 AM | Depression and anxiety disorder seem to go hand in hand.At least in my case it did and I didn't even know I was depressed.I honestly thought I had a brain tumor.I had the DR's send me for cat scan's/mri's etc...No way was I believing that my mind was doing this to my body.
When I finally accepted after 3 lonnnng month's that I was clinically depressed and also suffered from anxiety disorder."The panic attack's were the hardest to deal with but in time I came to learn how to control them and not let them control me".
When i finally stopped fighting the DR's.The relief for me and my family was overwhelming.
That was over 18 year's ago.I still have bout's of depression but I no longer take med's and haven't for 4 year's now.I'm not saying to go off your med's.Some people will be on some type of anti depressed for life.I was one of the lucky one's and had the tool's with-in my-self to learn to cope with panic and depression.
Ok starting to ramble here lol.Just a bit of information on my own personal story. | |
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Posted: 4/25/2007 6:15:40 AM | Depression and anxiety...panic attacks...they are joined at the hip ! Before I was diagnosed with depression I to thought there was something wrong that I would soon die from....We all do have some shape or form of depression but of course we are all different and we deal with "situations' differently...Some with medication...some without ! There is another thread in here called " would you date someone with a mental illness"...I was to say the least, "flabbergasted" with some of the posts in there! It is pathetic how some individuals think and react to different things! For one thing ...ANYONE who suffers with an illness of any sort, what they need is SUPPORT ! Im not saying that it is easy for some one to live with or be around someone who has depression or any kind of illness for that matter but......people who are not sufferer's should try putting their sleves in someone's shoes and imgaine what it would be like............
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Posted: 4/27/2007 1:00:34 PM | I don't know if phamplets would help my grown children understand what I am going thru. But I am glad they helped your family to understand.
They are very against me taking meds for it. I went off them for a # of reasons but know I have to go back on. I can feel it. The doc wants me too also. I am thinking that I need something other than what I was on. I guess we will work all that out.
Trying hard to fight back, but keep slipping back. I tend to sleep more when I am depressed. Then I get sore from that. Viciuos circle sometimes.
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Posted: 4/28/2007 9:08:12 AM | Hi dustie13.....Depression is very hard for anyone to understand ! There are phamplets on depression, information from the internet, on it goes...but there are still some things now that I do not understand and I am a sufferer of this Illness. I have struggled with medications on and off...thinking I needed them then feeling that I didn't....like a rollercoaster ride! After I was diagnosed with this illness I got what ever information I could on it for my self and for family and friends to try and understand it..You say you went of meds....This is just my opinion but If YOU feel you need to go back on them, talk to your doctor and go on them.....talk with your grown children and tell them how you feel and why you need it. Even if they don't want you on medications and they don't understand it, you may need to go on them......Depression to some is an embarrassement but it is a chemical unbalance on the brain...some don't need meds. and I think that is great but some of us do....to balance out the unbalance ! Vitamin b12 is another factor that can cause depression....it has all the same symptons as depression...fatigue...no energy...not caring...no interest in anything....might be a good idea for people to get their b12 checked. I have to have a b12 injection every two weeks for the rest of my life! Thank you for posting on this subject dustie13 and good luck as it is hard for family...friends or even strangers....to understand what depression is all about unless they go through it their selves.....
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Posted: 4/28/2007 5:30:39 PM | | Hi all,,, in my opinion depression is a very complicated topic to talk about, although I do believe that most people have experienced it at some point in their lives.I myself have been depressed before and it took awhile for it to go away, when it hits you it is like you become paralyzed, and everything becomes out of control. My way of dealing with this was for one I did not express how I was feeling I would pretend that everything was going fine in my life, but one day you finally realize that you can not live like that anymore, and it is time to do something about it. I Depression is a lot more common than what people choose or would like to believe, and once I started talking to close friends about it I realized that I was not the only one going through it and having people supporting you and on your side is a great way to deal with the depression. Now that I have gotten through that I remind myself of the reasons that I was feeling that way and that helps because in order to fight off depression often major changes in life have to be made (my situation anyway). I personally think that people are foolish to believe that they are exempt from depression!!! | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 11:51:38 PM | Hi Cindy great topic. I have also suffered from depression. I went many years wondering what was wrong with me. I never told anyone the way I was feeling,until one day one of my friends told me how sick I was looking. she was just concern about me.I keeped many thing bottle up for years,and never told anyone. I had a mask on protending I was happy,but really I was hurting inside.Then one day I went and got help from a doctor.He said I was suffering from depression,and started to treat me with medication.That was about 10 years ago and today I can honestly say I am pretty happy and enjoying life to the fullest. But I do have my bad days,I am only human like the rest of us.with the help of my doctor and the medication I am living today. Happy fishing everyone.  | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 1:57:21 AM | Hi sweetmuchlikechocolate and jjcole2007....Thank you for posting in here. Some people may find it hard to talk about depression even when they are doing good and they're in control of it...You are the first guy to post in here. I hope there are more that will share with all of us...So one should feel ashamed or feel they have to hide there Illness. Depression...when one is feeling at their lowest they do wear a mask...a mask that can deceive anyone as I to used to own one just like you jjcole2007 ! Always smiling...happy...pretending....until one day that mask became visible to others...and to myself ! I fortunately noticed myself that how I felt was not right and went to the doctor on my own but......It was a long time of suffering of being depressed before I did ! It was also a very hard struggle from that time in 1998 - 1999 till approximately 2002 - 2003.....There is alot of what I went through...some of it I won't post in here, not right now anyways as I know that people would look down on me because of my experience...but I will say that because of my depression I was treated like a criminal...not as an individual suffering with an illness ! I am on medication...yep an everyday thing...I am a much happier person than ever I was. I believe in "live life to the fullest"..."do for someone that can't do for themselves"... "If you can put a smile on someone's face, do it...It makes all the difference" and "by opening up I may be able to help someone else that is where I used to be with depression" ! ! ! Everything happens for a reason...I have suffered a lot when I was really down but it is what makes me the person I am today! I to still haves the "DOWN" days but hey..."everyone does" ! ! ! ! ! !
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| Depression and how if affects us all.....
Posted: 4/30/2007 6:20:29 PM | Walking is always always always a good thing! stroll if you don't like the brisk exercisy way! In any environment walking is available, not necessarily comfortable (check the weather lately?) but it's cheap, easy and we have the most wonderful and SAFE place on earth to do that. I'm lucky I have my own space and time as my kids are practically grown but even the moms with younguns can take them in the stroller or in the lil reg wagon or by the hand! My sis has a 3 yr old and takes him with her all the time! Don't know how she does it, work, home, 3yr old yikes! but she does.
I like ladymara idea of helping someone ....... as our mothers were oft to say 'someone always has it worse!" | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 7:20:43 PM | apparently they say that exercize releases endorphins into our bloodstreams which are like our own built in antidepressants,....while it may not be a cure,.. i agree that it is a very good thing.
even tho u may have to lite a fire under yourself to get yourself to exercize because of the lack of energy and interest in doing anything. | |
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Posted: 5/1/2007 7:56:17 PM | | Any form of exercise usually releases endorphins, or something as completing a difficult task well, or good ol' sex too. I can relate to those who said they just shut down and pretend everything is fine when it clearly is not. I've done it before. It was kinda tied to just shyness in my case, so now that that is disappearing, things are good! :) | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 4:12:51 AM | Hey...two more guys, commenting in this thread ...thank you both...It is very hard for some to talk about how they feel whether its depression...their feelings towards someone or something...and so on...In my opinion I think it is harder for a guy to talk about being a sufferer of depression than what it is for a woman ! I look forward to everyones comments whether they suffer with this illness or not !
As for walking...well for me I do enjoy walking ((when I do)) but when I am feeling low I needs more than a fire lit under me to get me out...Even when I'm in between feeling good/bad...it is harder to go out in public and walk! Well ((((and no sarcastic replys )))) I find talking to be a good thing to and as any of you can see I'm not often stuck for something to say ...It all got to do with ""what one feels isbest suited for them""......But I do think that keeping things inside and this goes for anyone and everyone....only eats at you and makes you feel alot worst than what you would if you opened up and talked. I've been there with that, not opening up...not talking...jsut keeping it all bottled up inside of me...its not a good thing to do ! I hope there are a lot more who posts their thoughts...experiences... in here....
Here's to all who may have had a bad day
I'm doing this rhyme as I just want to say
When your day is going awful or there is a cloud
Reply to this thread and be really loud
Let out all of your feelings no matter what they are
For all members are near but they are really far
So let go of the frustrations...let go of the pain
Believe it or not there is alot that you'll gain
Don't worry about what someone may think of you
Do what feels right...do what you got to do
When you read this I hope that you'll post here a thought
Trust me...I've been there...it will do alot.....
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Posted: 5/5/2007 1:33:02 PM | Hi everyone,
Want to say thanks for starting this thread Cindy. I am quite sure there are a # of us that can benefit from something like this.
I am having a real problem trying to get my grown children to understand that some people need to take meds to help with this disease. They both believe differently and will not budge on the matter. I used to believe this too, until I hit a real all time low and had to take them in order to survive.
I live with my daughter and, 7 year old granddaughter so that makes it hard, but still plugging away, or trying to.
Recently the doctor is putting me back on my pills, little by little, as I went off of them all. I did not go off them all at once. I weaned myself off. The doc is also making an appointment with a psychiatrist for me. I haven't had one in a while and when I did I only seen him twice.
I just moved back from ON last Aug. and am finding it hard to find all the types of things I am looking for. I can't find groups of any kind that would help, mind u it's the getting out of bed thing I have to fight as well, to even be able to go to groups.
I have been looking for groups on depression and also looking for CMHA.
Does anyone have any ideas where I can find them??
Thanks for reading this and I appreciate any help u can give me.
e-mail at : dustie13@hot.........
Thanks,
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Posted: 5/7/2007 8:22:10 AM | Hi,
I am feeling better today. Thankgoodness. But I guess with this illness, that's what it's like. Hard to tell day to day what I am going to be feeling like. I could be up one day and down the next. ( or even up one minute and down the next)
I have been feeling like I have a bit of energy the last couple of days. I like that. 
I hate it when I stay in bed all day, but can't get myself to get up and out of it.
I also had a good day yesterday.
I am feeling up enough that I actually was able to phone around and get some information, and get myself some help.
Thanks for reading,
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Posted: 5/7/2007 8:35:15 AM | Hi "dustie13"....That is the frustrating thing about it one minute one feels like they are on top of the world and the next the floor falls out from in under them! When you do feel good..that is the time to make a move to go forward with getting help as you have done...good for you, that is a big step in the process of getting back on the right path....It is a lonf road and an even longer journey depending onthe stops in between......I would suggest that you try and get or tell your family members to try and get as much information on "depression" as possible. It may help somewhat to understand it. I did the same thing at the beginning and read it and re-read it as much as I needed to try to understand it. It did help quite a bit! There are still some things that I do not understand about this illness and perhaps I never will but there are many things that can help a person be in "control" of it...What ever anyone feels help them...I say go for it ((((((as long as it is not illegal of course ))))))Talking to some one does a lot for people to...being open with others.....and yes "medications"....Some do need that to stay in control.......Good luck to you dustie13 and anyone else who is a sufferer of depression......All the best! 
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Posted: 5/8/2007 7:42:33 AM | | just found this thread today.....ive read right thru it....i did have to stop and take a breath a few times as a lot of it is so familiar to me....i am one of the lucky ones....a few short months of meds and i was back on my feet again.....my cause was also a string of events that happenned to me,that i didnt have time to heal mentally from....i too hid it from all my friends and family because of the stigma ascoiated with it....sure i still have my days....but who dosent.....im sure lots are reading these posts that do have or have had depression but are still ashamed to respond....to those people....one day at a time...even now i was reluctant to even reply here...where i am anomonious to all but a select few....guess my secret is out to them now too...lol....oh well,its all in the healing....cindy...good topic....god luv ya....youll do fine...i can feel it in ur words. | |
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Posted: 5/8/2007 8:00:19 AM | Hi "Immarried" and I will be the first to welcome you to this topic! More so because of the fact you are a "male" ((or at least I assume as I haven't seen you J/K on the man part)........I'm glad to hear that you have made it through that rough spot of being depressed..... good for you !
DEPRESSION...Each and everyone of us has some sort of depression....some just don't realize it as it isn't as major as others......and yes there are still alot out there that are ashamed to respond in here...talk to someone outside ot here...and so on! That has a lot to do with the fact that society does look down on individuals who suffer with depression! It would be such a difference if some of society would take the time to read...get it from the internet...or what ever it takes....to learn a little more about depression, then they may be able to help someone they love with "depression"...
I took a chance in starting this thread, in hopes that people who do know ME will not look down on me because they now know that "I AM A SUFFERER OF THIS ILLNESS"
#1...I am not ashamed
#2...I do not have anything to hide
#3...I am in control ( most of the time) LOL
#4...I am me...like me for who and what I am...not for someone who somebody might want me to be!
#5...If someone does not want to get to know ME hey...it is THEIR loss 
I could go on with the list but..... I still have my down days...days I can't deal with situations...days of feeling low and well just not giving a $h!t.....
But...we have to do for ourselves in order to do for some one else......
Thank you immarried for your kind words at the end of your message....sometimes I do wonder though...........
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