| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/13/2007 8:45:59 PM | | Now see you told him that you couldnt change but then you contradicated yourself by saying u "will learn to be more serious and he will learn to be witty"! Oh if life could really be so easy!!!! | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:17:26 PM | so now what happens if it turns out he is actually funnier / wittier than you?
sounds like a good seinfeld episode, eh? | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/13/2007 9:24:15 PM |
he is not and thinks that we should negotiate my attitude
HUH???
I don't 'get it' at all. He thinks "we should negotiate my attitude"?
Huh?
Be yourself | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/13/2007 10:12:35 PM | Sounds like maybe he doesn’t find you as witty as you find yourself..
However I don’t agree with changing a trait that is not harmful and part of your personality. Maybe tone it down a bit but not change it. | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/13/2007 11:30:20 PM | To me, wit is a sign of a quick and sharp mind... sometimes that makes others feel.. well, maybe a little "dull" in comparison..
Should you shine less so he can feel more brilliant?
Really now... | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 12:04:13 AM | HUH???
I don't 'get it' at all. He thinks "we should negotiate my attitude"?
Huh?
Be yourself
Well said.
Myself, I'd very quickly lose interest in any man who, in effect, (maybe I am just reading your OP incorrectly but) any man that asked me to 'dumb myself down' for him?
Just be the you that you are, as others have said...people can try all they want to change someone, but, that never works in the long run anyway, plus...would you really want to pretend to be someone you're not, anyway? | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 12:28:01 AM | OP: I have to ask, ARE you really witty, or is this just your opinion? I'm not trying to be insulting, but I think most people would say "I have a great sense of humor", but how many actually agree with them?
I think I'm witty as hell, yet a friend of mine, who has the sharpest wit I've ever run across, thinks I try too hard and always laughs at me for being a dork...which I am, haha.
My point is, are you thinking too highly of yourself? Is it possible that you are lording it over him how funny you are? Do you look down on him for "not getting it"?
Assuming that you are as witty as you say and it's all the God's-honest truth, I say dump him, fast. He will be a kill-joy all the time. If he expects you to change your humor this early on, what will be next on his list? | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 4:46:38 AM |
OP: I have to ask, ARE you really witty, or is this just your opinion? I'm not trying to be insulting, but I think most people would say "I have a great sense of humor", but how many actually agree with them?
I think I'm witty as hell, yet a friend of mine, who has the sharpest wit I've ever run across, thinks I try too hard and always laughs at me for being a dork...which I am, haha.
My point is, are you thinking too highly of yourself? Is it possible that you are lording it over him how funny you are? Do you look down on him for "not getting it"?
Assuming that you are as witty as you say and it's all the God's-honest truth, I say dump him, fast. He will be a kill-joy all the time. If he expects you to change your humor this early on, what will be next on his list?
It only took 32 replies for ONE to finally inject some real logic here----not just the cheerleading "you GO, gurl......" crap we tend to usually hear in the forums!!
I always wonder when one part of a relationship starts complaining about the other part where the real truth lays---who's version of things are most accurate? Anyone who has to tout themselves as 'witty" or anything else so flattering really makes me wonder what are they really like in conversations or behavior? C0uld it be she's just a pain in the patoot and only thinks of herself as "witty" and him as less so? I'll bet that's closer to reality than described in the opening post here. Wouldn't someone as "witty" as claimed have a snappy retort to something like a "negotiated attitude"?? LOL
OP if this guy doesn't suit your grandiose view of your wit and whatever else maybe you need to find someone more sparkling and up to your own level of engaging banter? You might be doing him a favor as well----I hear a bit of high maintenance here!! | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 5:10:56 AM | | Op, if you're serious about working on the relationship, maybe you shouldn't have a profile up that says you are? | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 5:11:38 AM |
It only took 32 replies for ONE to finally inject some real logic here----not just the cheerleading "you GO, gurl......" crap we tend to usually hear in the forums!!
oh gee thanks JWA, and while I agree it was a good post ....there were a few others who made comments on similar lines so theres no need to negate everyone's comments. Since forums are all about opinions you aren't going to agree with everyone and I find most of the time in the forums, people attack the Original Poster and make negative judgments about them based on a few sentences.
I mean face it, we all crack ourselves up and think we are the funniest people ever so if you are with someone who doesn't share your sense of humour then life isn't gonna be much fun. I just hate having to explain a joke, don't you? | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 7:02:37 AM |
Him: I'd like to negotiate your attitude
You: Me too
Him: Stop being so witty
You: I will when your balls drop
Him: I'm offended
You: You're also officially single, peace.....nugga. | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:17:26 AM | okay i changed my profile to freinds a while ago, i dont thing anything is wrong with friends!!!
as far as the "relationship"" we havent met we are just starting a "relationship"
and yes i am witty, and intelligent ask other people on my favorites list gee!!
okay , 'you are always your worst critic? if this is true i dont think i would be putting
crap out there that i am not uh HELLO????????? I do aprreciate the oppinions, but to the people on page two ? dont judge me if you, dont know me, | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:17:59 AM | | swtnjgirl - you are soo right!! i did give in eh??? | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 12:59:08 PM |
I am very witty and he is not and thinks that we should negotiate my attitude, if i change my self to be someone i am not then i wont be happy , yet if i don't change
then he won't be happy so where is the happy medium?????????????????????????
Then perhaps the conversation should concern humility | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:12:21 PM | [as far as the "relationship"" we havent met we are just starting a "relationship"]
OP:
You haven't even MET this guy IRL?
WTF kind of relationship is it then- email/phone/Im???
Here's a thought- meet the guy in person & let him him experience your 'wit' IRL.
Maybe your 'wittiness' is more entertaining LIVE ? | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 1:43:03 PM | I am very witty and he is not and thinks that we should negotiate my attitude,
This is NOT REAL........FFS................................
How the f u c k do you 'negotiate' humour..............?????????????????
This is either the best post-modern comedy scenario I have ever heard of.....Or we should just kill him and be done with it SIMPLE..... | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 1:52:54 PM | You haven't met and he's already upset with your "wit"? Jayzus, WTH is this thread about then?
Somebody you're emailing doesn't like your "wit." Why keep emailing? BTW, let's see some of that wit on here. Sometimes, one person's "wit" is just not appreciated by another person. | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 2:33:46 PM | yeah i guess you are right?
if hes wanting to change me over chat or phone! then whats he gonna want to change in real life? he was raised in a strict catholic home, not downing religion, and i ws raised to be me!! he says he can accept who i am , but then is offended at any smart remark i make, and i have to tell him and reassure him it was a joke.
for instance!! after many phone and chat sessions, he said he couldnt wait to meet me and treat like A princess, and i said oh that will be easy because i AM the princess haha , that is when he told me to negotiate,
after reading the post replies, maybe he insecure, where i am confident?? could esteem create a problem in this?? | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 3:02:49 PM |
oh gee thanks JWA, and while I agree it was a good post ....there were a few others who made comments on similar lines so theres no need to negate everyone's comments. Since forums are all about opinions you aren't going to agree with everyone and I find most of the time in the forums, people attack the Original Poster and make negative judgments about them based on a few sentences.
I mean face it, we all crack ourselves up and think we are the funniest people ever so if you are with someone who doesn't share your sense of humour then life isn't gonna be much fun. I just hate having to explain a joke, don't you?
Whoops!! MY apologies forthcoming Ms Squirrly-----you are soooooo very correct in this completely! I slighty disagree that we make negative judgements based upon a few sentences only but c'mon---we all read what we do into something based upon our own experiences. There's simply no way to know exactly what a persons intent is when they post so we respond or react based upon that almost exclusively.
This OP apprears to think she's witty and her b/f is not which is very, very subjective. Her opinion of herself and mine may vary significantly and that doesn't make either of us right or wrong---it's simply our opinion of the same thing. When it comes to humor I'm personally one of the more obscure types and it takes someone equally obscure to "get me". That doesn't make me witty, smart or anything other than "strange" to some people-----which I accept. I don't ask someone to change anything about themselves in order to accomodate me one way or the other.
Perhaps people who self describe themselves like being witty while their partners lack that same quality in glaringly apparent abundance rankle me-----after all we're hearing only one side of this story---as usual. Having known people like this OP and seeing how deluded they can be makes me doubt and reply as I did to this post. Yeah I hate explaining jokes but is everything from everyone really funny? I "get" SNL but haven't found it "funny" in ages---- | |
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Posted: 4/14/2007 3:11:16 PM | | This is a trick question right? Medium is not happy.............. it's dull. | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 3:40:01 PM | Let's distill this topic down to its essence: he asked you to change your behavior and you are trying hard to justify not changing since you are right and he is wrong.
Now let's play with questions...
Can someone change yet be the same? Certainly! When you change, you are still you.
Can someone ask us to change? Yes, people can say anything they want to us.
Do I have to change when someone asks me? No, people do whatever they want.
Should I change when someone asks me? Do whatever you like.
Will I be happy if I change? Try it and see.
Is a request to change...a good thing for me? Now we are getting somewhere!
Are people who change more mature and effective? Now we are getting somewhere!
Does this have anything at all to do with the other person? Now we are really getting somewhere!
The awesomely beautiful Universe presents you with situations constantly. In this case it just happens to be a man asking you to change. Don't you just love how these interesting questions come to you from the Universe? But even more interesting is how you will choose to respond. Let us know what you do. | |
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| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 3:55:35 PM |
I am very witty and he is not and thinks that we should negotiate my attitude
I say negotiate this as I walk away and flip him off
I promised myself I would never allow someone to mold me into what they want ever again. I am who I am if you don't like it...matters little to me. | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 49 | |
| i'm witty he's not
Posted: 4/14/2007 6:47:01 PM | azspenpal:
and yes i am witty, and intelligent ask other people on my favorites list gee!!
okay , 'you are always your worst critic? if this is true i dont think i would be putting
crap out there that i am not uh HELLO????????? I do aprreciate the oppinions, but to the people on page two ? dont judge me if you, dont know me, I take this to mean you don't like someone to challenge you at all.
No, we don't know you, we are taking what you are writing and having to decipher it a little bit. I was simply asking if it's possible that you're not quite as witty as you think you are. The people on your favorites list don't really matter...this is the internet. | |
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