rwcul
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Joined: 12/4/2006
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 4/22/2007 10:07:51 AM | DrugstoreCowboy is right on... slow down, sweetie you are only 18... With age comes knowledge. I know you've heard that before but it is true. I was married 22 years and now have been on my own for 2. Actually I love it! You must find happiness within and love for yourself before you can be loved or love someone!
Sex is not love ~~~~ love however generates the most heart ful-filling sex out there. Just wait... you will see, your day will come.
When you get down and out and feel alone, go get your nails done, get outside in the sunshine and read a good book. Enjoy live. Get into school if you aren't already. Meet friends. Find some real life groups - not the internet to meet people, you are way to young for this.....
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Posted: 4/30/2007 11:51:59 PM | | hi just looking and i think you are good looking they must be blind out there if you want to talk that is ok thanks | |
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Posted: 5/2/2007 12:12:16 PM | What if the person we were meant to be is with someone else
or in another country or was looking the other way when we
walked by or was the guy you accidently tripped and thunked (is that a word?) with a PDT in the bookstore and after helping him up and brushing him off and apologizing profusely you're too embarassed to talk to him anymore? (that may or may not
have happened to me...but Im just saying)
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newmn
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Joined: 3/12/2007
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 5/2/2007 5:52:58 PM | | It is a common feeling when you are single to feel a need for someone. i am working on being O.K. with myself. until I find it good to be by myself I probally won't atract any one. I have been told by a gal I was desperate.Damn If I will continue to be this way. So it is me time and all the stuff I have to do. | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/12/2007 9:01:47 AM | | Well, what you are doing here is comparing yourself to your friends. You are not your friends. You have to accept that. You don't have the same taste in men, you have your own path, so you have to stop with the comparing and work on yourself, and your kind of guy won't appeal to them necessarily. You have to figure out what's right for you instead of giving up. We never will give up even if someone says "I give up". And don't sabotage yourself by saying you are going to be a slut or sleep around. Many of us say that because we are angry with our lack of results and it seems like having sex is easier, but you know that is not what you want. | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/12/2007 2:57:44 PM | I have been OK with myself for 6 yrs now.
I am so damn awesome I am getting on my nerves .
Every year spring rolls around and I think about meeting someone new and how wonderful it would be to be in a relationship.
Every year fall rolls around and I go into hibernation for another winter alone .
for the first couple of years after my divorce my new found freedom was very satisfying and liberating
now it just sucks | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/12/2007 3:20:57 PM | Hi Mel my name is Bill. I know the feeling but I guess its a little different for a guy. If a guy isn't sleeping around very much his friends may suspect he's gay or something. But then again if he is the women think he's a man-whore. What I can't understand is when I e-mail women it seems as if I'm pulling teeth or something in order to get them to respond. Finally I just give up it just to hard to get a mutual response. The other thing is I see twenty five women who view me and I will be damed if one will e-mail me. Its all one way or if its not the person is totally incompatible. In my opinion better to have slept around then not to have slept with anything at all life to short ! | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/12/2007 7:27:47 PM | I work in a place where there are over 100 women, and maybe 10 of them aren't married or involved with someone. Every day I look at some of them and say "who the hell would love her, and if SHE can find someone, why can't I?" I mean some of these women are downright mean and obnoxious! One is mean, obnoxious, HATEFUL, and weighs 350 lbs, and she is married!
I don't know the answer. Every time I think I've found "the one", something or somebody else takes him away, but I keep on keeping on, hoping for a miracle. | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/13/2007 4:33:28 AM | I feel the same way i have on one to love and all my mates are marryed and have kids but i feel like i have been left behind and that there is on one for me so at times i feel low so what should i do as i what to love some one and for them to love me backand i am 39 yrs old   | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/13/2007 5:44:22 AM | Well you are not on your own. I have been on my own for a long time as well. Have met a couple of men, who want loads of money and a good set up, or just sex
Isn't there men out there who can appreciate that womans needs can be different??
Iwould love great conversation,lots of laughs, to hear of my partners dreams and aspirations....and all the above mentioned rolled into one.
To be honest I have never been lucky in love,and maybe its time to accept that I'm a singleton.So if there are any sane, happy and thoughtful people out there who read this, Hope things for you are beter | |
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Posted: 7/13/2007 6:06:12 AM | :roll u know wat i used to stress myself out with that question too, heres wat i think honestly, some people are meant to be alone cuz i'd have a boyfriend buy now, so ya stop being a baby and get over it, if i can handle 4 yrs of being alone w/o that emotional connection and feeling of belonging just endless nites of one nite stands with guys saying anything they can to get me into bed and then avoid my phone calls with no explaination of why they just fell off the face of the planet... then anyone can handle being alone, besides i work 2 jobs i got no time for a man. later....... heh heh. suck it up lil princess its a long way ahead down this long road we call life.......
p.s. u just gotta develope this feeling where u just dont care about being alone, weigh out the pro's and con's of being with someone money wise, living situation, and all that good drama relationship probs that we just all love, hey maybe thats why im single i want to live a free life : | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 2:06:35 PM | i no exactly were ur comin from chick, me x finished me last march e was i wanker n cheated on me, he was my 1st love too which made it even harder. wen e finished me i thought my life was ova n i too started sleepin with lads, i used go out round town n take lads bk co i missd that feelin of bein wanted n loved. i then realised that they didnt want me just using me n i am too good for that, as r u!!! ur ur own person n if ppl dont like that **** um.
i still think now i feel like i going be alone all me life cos i feel me mates are prettier than me but i aint bothered, we just gotta think that one day mr rite will come along n sweep us off our feet. keep ur chin up hun!!! i ad a hard time too wi lads, they all either fukd me off or gone bk to their x which makes me feel like wots wrong wi me!!! but i now that i a nice person so everyone else can **** off haha!! keep ur chin up hun, x | |
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Posted: 7/15/2007 2:33:03 PM | Your 18. Guess what, most 18 year olds feel like that a good part of the time.
Even when they have boy friends and girlfriends they feel out of place and out of step.
Ever 18 year old has raging hormones and changing bodies.
My advice is go and do the things you enjoy that other people your own age like to do.
Go places that boys go to do things.
That is how I met most of the people I dated.
We had stuff to do and stuff too talk about afterwards.
Sometimes you need to go places and do things you have never done before.
It can be scary but fun.
If you hang with a small group every one is always dumping someone for someone else.
At 18 being with just one person will stop you from seeing what the world has to offer.
Sex should be special and don't do it to be liked.
Most boys will be gone quickly if you had sex so they would like you.
They like the sex. You is a maybe.
Real friends will be around for ever. I am an old man compared to you and I still have some of my friends from when I was 18.
Hope some of this helps.
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/25/2007 6:05:06 AM | Think of your problem like this.
"you will never win. unless you play."
It will come - maybe not even from this sight. But, consider this place as a "grooming" tool. After all, where else can you talk to so many women -without spending a dime.
Sierra~ | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/25/2007 12:58:22 PM | | hey, its very simple - if you're lonely - its coz you're not attarctive to peoeple, and I dont mean just the looks (although they are important too) So instead of complaining about eternal lonelniness - figure out what is it that you need to change. Its not easy to see or to change - but it needs to be done! Good luck to all of you lonely people out there - inlcuding myself lol ( at least Im aware of my shortcmings by now, with some help ;) ) | |
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Posted: 7/29/2007 1:27:31 PM | | I feel exactly the same. I spent 4 years with a man and I ended up splitting up with him because I knew he wasnt the one. I then got with another man a couple of months later which was way to soon and ended up ending it with him becasue he attacked me on a night out and police who saw tried to make me press charges. I now have been on loads of dates and all I keep getting is men who arn't over their last relationship/are immature/just plain weird. I keep thinking of just giving up totally but then I just say to myself that they arnt the one. I dont think its anything personal against you that these things keep happening, and I do think that sometimes you just have to think positivly. Negative vibes just attract negative thing I think. I hope everything turns out ok for you. xx | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/29/2007 2:17:07 PM | OP, honey...
I know where you're at... When I was your age many, many, (oh, so many...) years ago, being part of a couple, knowing that there was one person out there who not only could love me for who I was but would love me because of who I was, was of the highest importance to me. Years later, after a number of failed relationships, I realized that being alone was far preferable to being in the wrong relationship. That's when life really started to get good. I began using all that time I wasted on fretting about being in a relationship on things that really made me happy on my own. If someone were to come into my life now, they'd find someone who wasn't dependent upon them for happiness, which takes a lot of pressure off of them, and makes it better for everyone all around.
Hey newmn, loved your post, loved your profile. Shame you're so far away... | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/29/2007 2:33:07 PM | Girlfriend..... you are young. For the sake of the Goddess GET SOME SELF ESTEEM. You are worth soooo much more than what you do to yourself.
If your friends are going after your men, get some new friends and if guys are dumping you and calling you names you're better off without them.
Ramdom sexual encounters will not help you gain self acceptance, only you can do that. At the tender age of 18, it is not necessary to get involved, this is the time to explore who you are and what you want out of life. Learn to love yourself first my young friend. Love will come soon enough and it will be much better to be involved with the right rather than wrong person.
Don't be so anxious to get involved with a relationship, people can smell that a mile away and for most... desparation is the stink of death. Good Luck to you.
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