| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/29/2007 2:52:44 PM | I share the same problem as you mel, however, 1) I don't go around sleeping with anyone, randoms included, and 2) instead of dwelling on the problem, once in a while I get out there and enjoy the single life. Stay out late with friends watching a movie, taking a friends kids out so they can have an evening alone, washing my truck, walking the dog, and just doing things for ME! 'cause you know, once you finally have someone in your life, your "alone" time will come far and few.
It's not that there ISN'T someone out there for you, perhaps You, or your ideal Mate, just isn't ready in life yet, and still has a little more learning to do. I know, it sucks being single/alone, but most of the post'ers are correct on here, do NOT go out hunting and searching for love. The best kind just "happens" when you are least expecting or looking for it.
The worst thing you can do for your own self esteem is to sleep with randoms, or to sit at home and dwell on things. It's summer time, get outside, enjoy some air, even if its not so fresh in the city, and do things that make YOU smile. When you have learned to love yourself, then others find you more interesting, and will take that extra step to go out of their way and introduce themselves to you. Who knows, one of those people might just be 'the one'!
CowTrucker
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 7/30/2007 6:24:17 AM | Yeah well Mel, I've been told I was too young to be worrying about finding someone too but I'm 25. Many of the people I went to school with are now married with kids. Yeah it can be very depressing and make you jealous to have to hear about it or encounter attarctive women you'd liek to know but can't because they aren't single. it's like "Great you're happy, but I don't want to keep hearing about it!" LOL.
I think you cans till meet people even if youa ren't comfortable with yourself because it's happened to me before. that whole 'must lvoe yourself first" thing is a cliche and isn't always true. people like you for who youa re and if they don't then it's their loss. then you just move on to someone else or just wait patiently.
Just look at tme I've been single for a very long time. I've been on this site for nearly three years now and i've only met a few friends. I just had to keep facing the fact that I was too young, not good looking enough for them, and we just weren't comaptible. Even though i've had my heart ripped out and stomped on multiple times that doesn't make me give up!
I've been told multiple times on here that i was shallow for not wanting tos ettle and by only liking women I was physically attracted to but if it's not gonna work it's not gonna work. I sued tog e tmad because of ignored e-mails on ehre and I still do but let's face the facts if they don't think we're compatible they waren't going to reply even though i consider it extremely rude not to. I did take the time to write them and i almsot always write people back. Only several cases in the past when I didn't. Those who were polite enough to actually respond to my messages have gotten to see that I'm a pretty nice guy so i've made some great friends and hope to make more and who knows waht else will happen!
Women have also told me that i'm going to make a woman very happy someday and I'm still waiting LOL.
So keep your chin up and never give up Mel!!!!
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 9/5/2007 3:39:19 PM | | Yah tyger. I heard the same thing. Well I'm 51 now and married once. The next time I'll be more careful but will there be the next time? I know she won't find me so I have to get out there but being shot down so often in my life, I feel like giving up! The lady who most likely never finds me would be counting her blessings about now. But I'm all hot air too! | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 9/5/2007 5:15:40 PM | Do not feel bad you are not alone, I still wonder if someone is out there for me as well, I am one of those rare guys that women think do not exist any more and I am constantly getting hurt with relationships, I am a very careing honist and very trusting guy and puts his heart out in relationships and I think that women are taken back that there is someone this nice and do not know what to make of it..... So I can feel for your pain and heart break......  | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 10/7/2008 5:32:30 PM | at least youve had realationships ive never been in a realation ship im 19 and all ive had is one night stands and after a while ya crave for somethin more hell it gets worse ive been on this site for months now and no interest ive not even reaceived one message im starting ta wonder weather my personality is just bad or am i just butt ugly i cant tell few god its good ta voice that sorry for anyone reading this my bad i just needed ta let that out  | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 10/7/2008 9:15:02 PM | | First you must be happy all by yourself, you cant expect anyone else to be responsible for your happiness. People can smell desperation a mile away and it is a turnoff. You must come to terms with the fact that it may never happen and be ok with it. And just so you know, your gf's may have bf's or husbands, that does not mean they are happy. They might envy you your freedom! | |
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| Why does it feel like there is no one out there for me???
Posted: 10/7/2008 11:11:01 PM | i am looking for a good man no matter where he is and im kinda heartbroken cause all there looking for is either sex or nothing..i been hurt one too many times too cause i am a bigger girl too and that is the reason why i can't find anyone either cause no one likes bigger girls now a days they all like the smaller ones  | |
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