| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 5/2/2007 8:43:30 PM | I love that Kevin, you sound just GREAT until you get down to the "I WILL MAKE THE DECISIONS, BUT NEVER WITHOUT CONSULTING HER AND GETTING FEED BACK ON IT."
How freeking "good of you" to allow her input into YOUR decisions--you are a prince of a man.
My late husband and I made decisions that impacted OUR LIVES TOGETHER with each other--he did not allow me input or consider my wishes--and I did not allow him input and consider his wishes--WE MADE THE DECISIONS TOGETHER. We hashed and rehashed our ideas until we came to a concensus that made us BOTH HAPPY. He did not TELL me what decision he had made. I did not TELL him what decision I made.
WE worked and DECIDED TOGETHER. That is what made a marriage last 20+ years of "happily ever after" and made us still look at each other with "that look" until the day he died. We walked BESIDE each other--no one in front and no one in back. We shared equally in the decisions and no matter what happened, good, bad or indifferent the consequences of the decisions belonged to us both. I was never ever able to tell him "I told you so, you should have listened to me"--well, actually, that's not true, there was ONE time when we disagreed on the kind of refrigerator we would buy, and after debating the issue for a long time, neither of us giving in, I finally gave in and let him buy a side by side with the freezer on one side with ice & water in the door. And a few weeks later when he came home from the grocery store and tried unsuccessfully to put a PIZZA in the tiny narrow freezer on the side and couldn't get it in, I turned to him and said, "YOU SEE, I TOLD YOU THOSE THINGS WERE WORTHLESS!"  He rolled his eyes and we both had a good laugh. The next refrigerator we bought had a top freezer. 
Because we both decided (important) things, neither of us could "blame" the other if things went bad with that decision. We equally took responsibility for failure or credit for success. To me that is what a marriage is--sharing responsibility and joy. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:00:53 PM | Strong woman is the same as a strong man, some-one who isn't confined or limited by
to many definitions and stereotypes and goes about the life on their own terms while
being able to include others - without having to nail them down as, Dependant, submissive,
assertive, etc etc or a whole host of other self defeating mechanisms they haven't learned
to set aside since youth.
Follow you own intuitions mercilessly to feel some spaciousness inside yourself to consider
and then to 'act' rather then re-act, is an act of great strength.
I guess strong people Women/Men are the types whole value a sense of personnel liberty
and work towards cultivating that voice rather then the outward drone and mantra of
the media and media-ocher world.
Strong women are also women who can Bench-press 180Ibs. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 7/1/2007 5:07:31 PM | For me the kind of men that seem to run are those that dont deal well with women who challenge them intellectually and make them feel ineffectual.. men have such large egos, and cant stand a partner who "tells is like it is"... I always try to be diplomatic, but no man likes someone who is intelligent enough to get a strong hold over them... not all men -- some men prefer to feel dominated-- they like the mommy image, but most I meet are intimidated because I'm educated, published and have career goals.
They are also intimidated by a woman who owns her sexuality. What they dont get is that strong woman still want a home, and to be loved like all the others out there. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 8/27/2007 6:42:46 PM | She doesn't blame her partner, friends or family for her problems.
She is forgiving and helps those in need.
She is independent and thinks about how her decisions will affect her in the future. She's not judgemental but has rock-solid good sense.
She's the kind of person people look to for advice and comfort.
She has the pride to know inside that she is a strong person, but the humility not to toot her own horn.
She's a thinker and learns everyday from her realtionships and experiences.
She is postive and doesn't dwell on negatives in people or in life. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/3/2007 8:12:26 PM | Well said howsitgoing? I think you're a helluva man......thank you.
A strong woman isn't afraid to just be herself...... She's her own best friend and willing to change what needs to be changed for the better. She can stand up and take on any challenge she wants and she can fold and sit down and cry all in the same afternoon. She makes sure what needs to get done will get done, with or without the assistance of another. She is aware that a partner in life is also important, but she doesn't need to hide her strengths/weakenesses from the one that loves her. If she must carry on alone she can.
She's gentle, loving, tender, kind.........but threaten her desire for a peaceful, fulfilling life with her loved-ones........ANYBODY..........GET THE HELL OUT OF HER WAY!
A strong woman doesn't ask for the garbage that enters her life.......but she's strong enough to deal with it and move on. Without being to religious here..........GOD MADE MAN, THEN WOMAN, AND CALLED US ALL HUMANES.
Everybody has it in them to be what they want to be and do what they need to do.....even if you have come from disfunctional back grounds, had a nervous break down, been in prison, etc..........YOU have the strength and ability to move in a postive direction. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/4/2007 4:11:28 AM | | Gentle and kind , not a ball breaker.Her own person, happy in her skin.A deep thinker.Happy alone or in a relationship.She does not need anyone else to validate her.She is aware of her intrinsic value as a human being.She has her own interests and friends,She has self respect and self worth.She does not sacrifice her integrity or dignity for any one, male or female.She gets an education and has a career chosen for fulfillment and joy as well as money.She does not aspire to be what the world or men expect her to be, she is uniquely herself.She is not a slave to fashion or diets but keeps herself healthy because it is her own interest and for her own benefit.She is steadfast in her ideals, morals and beliefs, but is capable of change if necessary.She listens to others uses the golden rule and tries to practice empathy and compassion whenever possible.She considers others feelings but also her own.She is steel inside a velvet cushion. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 7:04:20 AM | I have described myself as strong - both grandma's and my mom were strong.
Overcoming obstacles against all odds
Standing up against wrongdoing and living by positive example
Still loving, laughing and laughing despite terrible things that would put "non-strong" people in a mental hospital
Following what you KNOW in your heart to be right, even when everyones tells you to do otherwise
NEVER giving up
Strong is not abusive, strong is not bitter, strong can sometimes be about not giving up even when your nose is below water. That is strong. Sometimes strong needs a little tenderness, it is draining.
One grandmother suvived the Kansas dust bowl and depression, the other was a southern belle farmer and my mom survived polio AND walked. I am of Scottish and German heritage. It's in my genes and upbringing. Hope that helps. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 7:59:58 AM | a strong women is one who do not need a man to complete her, who can do everything here self and can handle herself in a guy dominated environment. It’s not the housewife type who can’t do anything on her one, always need a man to fix stuff and make the dissections. It’s also the type who can stand in the light and not in the shadow of her man. But if necessary is the silent force behind him. Yes she is the type that can run here own show and do not let anybody tell her otherwise, if you’re not the strong type you can find it difficult to be around such a women. But I’m proud to be one !!
With regards Barbara | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 9:32:28 AM | The following might help some people with the semantics...
A strong person works out every day to keep their body in shape... but a person of strength builds relationships to keep their soul in shape.
A strong person isn't afraid of anything.... but a person of strength shows courage in the midst of their fear.
A strong person won't let anyone get the best of them.... but a person of strength gives the best of their self to everyone.
A strong person makes mistakes and avoids the same in the future... a person of strength realizes life's mistakes can also be unexpected blessings and capitalizes on them.
A strong person wears a look on confidence on their face... but a person of strength wears grace.
A strong person has faith that they are strong enough for the journey... but a person of strength has faith that it is in the journey that they will become strong.
I used to say that I was a strong personality... after finding this I am proud to say that I am a person of strength. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 9:43:05 AM | Usually it means she's not very good looking.
When I'm in a restaurant or in a crowd, and I hear some women talking and projecting their anger about men behind me or outside of my field of vision, I hear the "strong and independent" phrase get tossed out. I think to myself, and this isn't all that fair to be honest, that "Hey those women probably aren't very good looking"
Then I turn and look casually and there it is, it's usually a woman who isn't very good looking who says she doesn't need men and how much she has to offer and how men are weak compared to her.
People usually try to project the very thing they are not. If a man said "Hey I'm a strong person", it would sound stupid. Because men are expect socially to be strong. It sounds just as stupid coming from a woman. Because projecting what you are not, regardless of your gender, is a bush league move. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 11:42:34 AM | I am a 'strong woman', I have confidence in myself and build confidence in those around me or who enter my life. A strong woman can survive anything, understand anything and any person, she will not sit back and wait for life to bring her life, she'll go out there and achieve it, she will shoulder crisis and carry them to the point of rescue,but a strong has learned warmth and offers it with confidence, she understands compassion and love with her strenth,she is aware of her sensuality as a strong woman.
Strong women are not feared, I have found strong women, like myself , are loved for their strenth in all braches of life.
Fear not OP, strenth is not always a domineering word, strenth can be gentle.
Here is a thought for you. Would you rather have a wek woman that has no ideals, follows you like a puppy and cannot hold an intelligent conversation? | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 12:22:18 PM | | I've had the privledge to have known several strong women - they all had one thing in common - they had to be strong - they were thrown challenges they could either rise up to me or be overrun by them. You also knew they were strong since they all said that once in a while they wished someone else would do the rowing. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 12:22:39 PM | Gazingatmars wrote
She doesn't blame her partner, friends or family for her problems.
She is forgiving and helps those in need.
She is independent and thinks about how her decisions will affect her in the future. She's not judgemental but has rock-solid good sense.
She's the kind of person people look to for advice and comfort.
She has the pride to know inside that she is a strong person, but the humility not to toot her own horn.
She's a thinker and learns everyday from her realtionships and experiences.
She is postive and doesn't dwell on negatives in people or in life.
This is a true strong woman..........I think I'm moving to Canada...LOL | |
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Posted: 9/7/2007 12:38:41 PM | Personally, I think of myself as a strong woman. I don't break in the face of adversity, but I also for the most part act with decorum and kindness to those around me. I live by example, and I treat everyone with kindness and respect, even if they hurt me or are rude. Because to me those people need more kind words, not less of them.
I guess to me a strong woman, is someone that is happy and pleased to be a woman, someone who is comfortable enough in true feminism, someone who embraces their nurturing tendencies without being whiny, bitter, or self serving.
Being a b*tch is just being a b*tch. Being an ass-hole is just being an ass-hole. Instead of adding to the world's lack of manners, why not try and "be the change you wish to see in the world."
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Emmy | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 1:07:53 PM |
I guess to me a strong woman, is someone that is happy and pleased to be a woman, someone who is comfortable enough in true feminism, someone who embraces their nurturing tendencies without being whiny, bitter, or self serving.
Being a b*tch is just being a b*tch. Being an ass-hole is just being an ass-hole. Instead of adding to the world's lack of manners, why not try and "be the change you wish to see in the world." I agree! A strong woman can do both.
I was fortunate enough to have had a relationship for two years with a strong independent woman. She and I were always able to say what we meant to one another. She was both feminine AND competent. She was comfortably sexy with me, while taking leadership roles in charities, and the things she believed in.
Really strong women are not to be avoided. What are to be avoided are women who simply think that being b*tchy makes them strong. Wrong!  | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 1:08:19 PM | | Independent thinker. Speaks their own mind. Owns their own business or is a leader in their industry.Not shy.Doesn't always need a man to do things for them. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 1:28:06 PM | The first thing that comes to my mind, regarding a gal saying “strong woman” is ..... argumentative.
The same thought some to mind when I read “I speak my mind”.
The very second they say this >>> “men seem to be intimidated by a strong woman”
I say “no - they are just of zero interest to me”.
Who in their right mind would want a bit@cy argumentative female friend - much less a girl friend.
My first wife (married 16 years) had a controlling bit@h as a best friend. She drug her poor husband around by his nose. She conviced my wife to go the a female shrink - to learn how to be more "assertive".
My wife must have misunderstood what she was being tought - she thought it meant - get drunk every night and pick fights. | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/7/2007 1:35:48 PM | sorry about your bad luck there ron9, but you're letting it cloud your judgement on what a truly strong woman is....
you're getting her confused with the b!tches.... | |
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| what does the term a strong woman mean to you?
Posted: 9/8/2007 8:26:00 PM | I think women who go around screaming they are a strong woman, are usually saying I've been kicked around before and they're not going to let it happen again (well they say it anyway). It's a kind of fake warning.
Normally the same women who fall for the next player who tells them whatever they want to hear, and then turn into teenage submissives. That's a generalisation so don't bite my head off. But seriously if I hear the big razzamatazz from a guy, I think, fear ridden and has issues, must prove strength by disempowering someone else. I get the same vibes from women who do/say the same.
As has been said before here, strong women/men are busy getting on with life, not tooting a horn they wish they had? | |
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