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| rdy4it Review
Posted: 5/6/2005 5:44:21 PM | Hhheeeeyyyy rdy4it
Boy oh boy, good you came to see the good doc when you did, cause buddy, ya need some help.
You rprofile is barely registering a pulse. Its scant, you have hardly anything there for people to see.
So this is what I suggest for you....
First, your headline.
LOSE "Lookin for miss right"
As this probably is one of the most used lines ina headline in POF. You blend in. And that is a bad thang.
First, it would really help you (and me) out tremendously if you looked at previous posts as you may very well pick up lots of helpful hints and suggestions.
Please consider this: Your headline is designated to catch peoples attention.
None of this "Nice guy/gal seeks..." stuff. Boring!! Get creative, get crazy! Have fun with it. Try to think of what would catch YOUR eye, to hold your attention enough for you to go reading further of someones profile.
About your Pictures:
Actually, you might need to only use two, your first one and the second, with your baby in the pic with you. The girls will really like that! Advantage: YOU! Keep them as is, change nothing! lol
And thanks for being honest about the "drugs" question. You should get a point for that atleast.
Ok then, next is "Dating Interests".
"Outdoors, cars and Having Fun" just isn't gonna cut it.
This, I think, is the one biggest boo boo most people make. This is where you really show your stuff! What are you interested in? Its that simple really.
Perhaps you like reading. DONT PUT READING! Be more specific as "reading" is too friggin general. Anything general i sopen to interpretation and more than likely backfires on ya.
For example, let's say you actually put in there, "Movies".
Another general and very broad interest.
Think a moment, will ya? How many movies do you suppose has been made since turn of the century? Now of all those movies, how many different variations and genre do you think there are?
If you think about it, the different varieties are staggeringly high. Do you really like all of those differences and varieties? I am gonna bet "no". So be specific. You like horror over comedy? Maybe chick flicks versus guy movies of shoot-emn-up bang bang movies. Whatever the case, be specific. This is a very important key that may unlock your future happiness should you meet someone!
"Dinner". Yeah, there is a real specific interest too. Wanna even start to imagine how many different types of dinners and foods and scenarios there are? One would geta headache just trying. Again, specifics!!!
Generally, there are a few "industry standards" to avoid. Well, maybe not avoid, just be more specific.
TV/Movies
Dinner/cooking
Camping
Music
Reading/books
Computers
Always ask yourself, "what about 'em". Then fill it in some as to what you like about them, or what variety or what have you.
And my other tip is, be sure to have lots of things listed. 8 or 10 is what I would go with.
Why?
Its the shotgun theory, for those who hunt. You see, a shotgun shell has many tiny little pellets generally called "buckshot". When the gun is fired, these buckshot spread out as they fly through the air towards the target, ensuring larger coverage and thus, better chance at hitting something.
You are the gun. Your interests are the buckshot. And the more you list (and specify) of interests, the better chance you have of having something in common with someone else that will, thusly, create a hit! Then an e-mail is sent and before long, you are at the beginning of a nice relationship.
"About me"
This section is where you can tie in all in. This is THE place you want to express yourself as to who you are. What your attitude on life is like. Maybe expand some more on your interests too.
Tell about yourself, stay positive. Don't go referring to the ex or please do not go on and on about what you do not want from a person or what you do not like. This is a bigas* turnoff and it can be best left for later, after the first contact e-mail.
Remain focused on yourself and what you want. End this section with who you seek. What kind of person. Again, stay away from the negatives of who you do NOT want and so forth. Stay positive!
And finally, the "First Date"
Ok Dude, Here's the deal. Whether we like it or hate it, this is where we can either seal the deal or seal our fate.
We HAVE to take charge here, and indicate what we would like to do on the first date. We have to take control, it is expected. None of this "maybe", or "might" stuff, no no. Don't be tentative. And don't write "whatever the lady would like". No no. Oh sure, sweet thought and nice gesture sure. But guys, let's have a contingency plan at the very least. Because odds are she will be expecting you to take control and will invariably say "I don't know, what would you like to do?"
Save time and save face here brothers! Take control, make the call!
Just don't go writing "sex" or some BS like that. First date dude! Let's keep it gentlemanly, ya know?
Ok, thats it. | |
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| QuietLiving Review
Posted: 5/6/2005 5:51:48 PM | aaawww, thanky gentlespirit! And I agree, I should get a commission or somethin! ha ha
ok, on to the next review....
My next vict.... I mean my next profile is to the lovely and talented QuietLiving, who says in her headline "I Got Love On My Mind"
Well, atleast you are honest. And that in itself is unique.
About your pictures, the first one is wwaaayyyy too blurry. Lose it. The second is a better and more close-up shot of you.
"Dating Interests"
You have "Looking for that someone special". So how does thats omeone know what you have to offer in the way of interests? You have nothing listed. nnnooottthhhiiinnnggggg!
But thats ok, thats why I am here. To offer a few tips for ya.
This, I think, is the one biggest boo boo most people make. This is where you really show your stuff! What are you interested in? Its that simple really.
Perhaps you like reading. DONT PUT READING! Be more specific as "reading" is too friggin general. Anything general i sopen to interpretation and more than likely backfires on ya.
For example, let's say you actually put in there, "Movies".
Another general and very broad interest.
Think a moment, will ya? How many movies do you suppose has been made since turn of the century? Now of all those movies, how many different variations and genre do you think there are?
If you think about it, the different varieties are staggeringly high. Do you really like all of those differences and varieties? I am gonna bet "no". So be specific. You like horror over comedy? Maybe chick flicks versus guy movies of shoot-emn-up bang bang movies. Whatever the case, be specific. This is a very important key that may unlock your future happiness should you meet someone!
"Dinner". Yeah, there is a real specific interest too. Wanna even start to imagine how many different types of dinners and foods and scenarios there are? One would geta headache just trying. Again, specifics!!!
Generally, there are a few "industry standards" to avoid. Well, maybe not avoid, just be more specific.
TV/Movies
Dinner/cooking
Camping
Music
Reading/books
Computers
Always ask yourself, "what about 'em". Then fill it in some as to what you like about them, or what variety or what have you.
And my other tip is, be sure to have lots of things listed. 8 or 10 is what I would go with.
Why?
Its the shotgun theory, for those who hunt. You see, a shotgun shell has many tiny little pellets generally called "buckshot". When the gun is fired, these buckshot spread out as they fly through the air towards the target, ensuring larger coverage and thus, better chance at hitting something.
You are the gun. Your interests are the buckshot. And the more you list (and specify) of interests, the better chance you have of having something in common with someone else that will, thusly, create a hit! Then an e-mail is sent and before long, you are at the beginning of a nice relationship.
In your "About Me" section, wweeeellll, it can be better. MUCH better.
This section is where you can tie in all in. This is THE place you want to express yourself as to who you are. What your attitude on life is like. Maybe expand some more on your interests too.
Tell about yourself, stay positive. Don't go referring to the ex or please do not go on and on about what you do not want from a person or what you do not like. This is a bigas* turnoff and it can be best left for later, after the first contact e-mail.
Remain focused on yourself and what you want. End this section with who you seek. What kind of person. Again, stay away from the negatives of who you do NOT want and so forth. Stay positive!
Your "First Date" is pretty good and fairly original. Keep it.
Thats it for now. | |
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Joined: 4/20/2005
Msg: 354 | |
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| QuietLiving Review
Posted: 5/6/2005 8:11:04 PM | | Thanks jack mack...I will go back and put more effort into my profile.. | |
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Dulcet
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Joined: 4/25/2005
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| Dulcet review
Posted: 5/6/2005 10:18:51 PM | Thanks big guy, but umm I think that you might of gotten a little off track at the end. Or you have so many that they all ran together. LOL
**Tell about yourself, stay positive. Don't go referring to the ex or please do not go on and on about what you do not want from a person or what you do not like. This is a bigas* turnoff //Remain focused on yourself and what you want. End this section with who you seek. What kind of person. Again, stay away from the negatives of who you do NOT want and so forth///**"Dinner". Yeah, there is a real specific interest too. Wanna even start to imagine how many different types of dinners and foods and scenarios there are? One would geta headache just trying. Again, specifics!!!
I do not have anything in my profile about an ex. Nor did I put any dislikes in my profile.
I dont think there was anything about dinner in mine either. LOL But I get what you are saying about the rest of it. I am too vague and general. I will get right to work on it. | |
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| Dulcet review
Posted: 5/7/2005 4:32:16 AM | Dulcet,
Yeahhhh, perhaps I did go off the deep end slightly and you're right. Sometimes it does all seem to just merge into one big profile! lol
Plus I hate repeating myself to those who have the same mistakes and omissions as many others I have reviewed.... so I now use (since yesterday) a template for each section. So if somebody has something bland and generalized, say in "Interests", instead of me spending time writing to them and explaining (yet again explaining to another person) the same thing I have dozens of times before, I simply copy and paste. hehehehe, ain't I stinker!!
Thanks for understanding and getting the gist though. Yes, be more specific and it will pay off for ya!
JM | |
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| Dulcet review
Posted: 5/7/2005 6:39:56 AM | | Did i miss my turn ????? dam !!!!!!!!!!!!! | |
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| rcj1158 Review
Posted: 5/7/2005 8:08:38 AM | Hey Jack,,,
Thanks for the tips and review.. Nice to see constructive criticism without personal trashing... Never realized the perception of the words the way you pointed out... Honestly, I didn't give it a hellaofalotathought....Thanks again.. Anyone reading this who hasn't been though Dr Jack's review... You should!!!! and NOW!
Ron | |
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| I'll review your profile and give ya some dating advice
Posted: 5/8/2005 5:05:29 AM | Thanks Jack!
Great advise.. will get busy and work on my profile some more,,, may I state in it , that this is my week point????? LOL Selling was never a strong point ...All in fun! I will now get busy, and try to expand my wants....
Thanks again,, and your doing a wonderful job here. | |
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| I'll review your profile and give ya some dating advice
Posted: 5/8/2005 5:57:26 AM | Hi there Jack,
Would you mind taking a looksee at my profile, Ive been reading up on your posts and have changed my profile a few times, ( I think I might be on the right track.... I hope) would love to get your insite, and yes before you say it I know I dont have a pic, but if and when I pass along my msn addy I have pics there. So hit me, dying to read what you think, but be nice Im a leo and dont like having my ego bruised JK, lol, no really I can take it.
Thanks a million
Tia, | |
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| Time for Mr Gummischuh review.
Posted: 5/8/2005 8:23:22 AM | What a name! lol
Ok, about your headline, "Hello out there :) "
Nice, but too plain and unimaginative.
Please consider this: Your headline is designed to catch peoples attention. To grab 'em by the scruff of the neck, to capture both their curiosity and imagination.
What is it that catches your of others profiles? Thats a good start.
None of this "Nice guy/gal seeks..." stuff. Boring!!
And yours reeks of "Niceness". Come on guy, Get creative, get crazy! Have fun with it. And remember, Try to think of what would catch YOUR eye, to hold your attention enough for you to go reading further of someones profile.
About your pic, it's kinda dark and your pose is not exactly the most warm and friendliest. Find another one.... and fast! And is it really gonna kill ya to smirk, smile, chuckle or something along those lines? Find a pic that shows this as well.
"Dating Interests"
b-o-r-i-n-g!
"Meeting new people and making new friends"???
If you put nothing here that shows what interests you, how will people know what you're about much less if you and they have anything in common???
This is where you really show your stuff! What are you interested in? Its that simple really.
Perhaps you like reading. DONT PUT READING! Be more specific as "reading" is too friggin general. Anything general i sopen to interpretation and more than likely backfires on ya.
For example, let's say you actually put in there, "Movies".
Another general and very broad interest.
Think a moment, will ya? How many movies do you suppose has been made since turn of the century? Now of all those movies, how many different variations and genre do you think there are?
If you think about it, the different varieties are staggeringly high. Do you really like all of those differences and varieties? I am gonna bet "no". So be specific. You like horror over comedy? Maybe chick flicks versus guy movies of shoot-emn-up bang bang movies. Whatever the case, be specific. This is a very important key that may unlock your future happiness should you meet someone!
"Dinner". Yeah, there is a real specific interest too. Wanna even start to imagine how many different types of dinners and foods and scenarios there are? One would geta headache just trying. Again, specifics!!!
Generally, there are a few "industry standards" to avoid. Well, maybe not avoid, just be more specific.
TV/Movies
Dinner/cooking
Camping
Music
Reading/books
Computers
Always ask yourself, "what about 'em". Then fill it in some as to what you like about them, or what variety or what have you.
And my other tip is, be sure to have lots of things listed. 8 or 10 is what I would go with.
Why?
Its the shotgun theory, for those who hunt. You see, a shotgun shell has many tiny little pellets generally called "buckshot". When the gun is fired, these buckshot spread out as they fly through the air towards the target, ensuring larger coverage and thus, better chance at hitting something.
You are the gun. Your interests are the buckshot. And the more you list (and specify) of interests, the better chance you have of having something in common with someone else that will, thusly, create a hit! Then an e-mail is sent and before long, you are at the beginning of a nice relationship.
"About me".....
Lose this and do so fast!!! "But also open to the possibility of a relationship. I make a great friend and can be friends with anyone. Now to quote something a good friend of mine posted in the forums one day: "Hey Dude's profile is almost a lie in itself! Because it says nothing about the real man. He's quick witted, he's compassionate, he has incredibly sexy eyes and he smells so good! Trust me on this one, the man makes you day dream of spooning... hubba!""
WTF are you thinking? This makes no sense not to mention the fact you are quoting other people that, up to this point in your profile, sounds more interesting than you!
I really don't get your profile much at all. It is basically all over the friggin road.
" Once you get past the self-deprecating humor, you will soon learn that I'm a raging egomaniac. Nah, that's not true, either"
Is this your attempt at humor? It failed. The bunny died. The train derailed. It didn't work!
No offense here man, but this has got to be one of the poorer thought out and written profiles I've ever seen.
I am not going to review the rest of your "About me" section, instead, I will go the high road here.
This, for you, is what I suggest:
"About me"
This section is where you can tie in all in. This is THE place you want to express yourself as to who you are. What your attitude on life is like. Maybe expand some more on your interests too.
Tell about yourself, stay positive. Don't go referring to the ex And please do not go on about what you DON'T want or what you are NOT looking for in a person. This is a bigas* turnoff and it can be best left for later, after the first contact e-mail. Negativity, Its a big 'ol waste of time that can be better served talking more of yourself.
Remain focused on yourself and what you want. End this section with who you seek. What kind of person. Again, stay away from the negatives of who you do NOT want and so forth. Stay positive!
I noticed you don't have a first date section written. I suppose this makes sense sense all you seek is strictly friends.
Thats it for now. | |
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| Surfs up for Surfer chick (Review time)
Posted: 5/8/2005 8:36:25 AM | Surfer chick.... Surfs up!!
Your headline, "Only NORMAL men & surf freaks need apply"
uummm yeah. Lose it. It's a wipeout of epic porportions. lol
As you would see in my previous posts throughout, Your headline is designed to catch peoples attention. To grab them by the scruff of the neck, to capture both their curiosity and imagination.
What is it that catches your of others profiles? Thats a good start.
None of this "Nice guy/gal seeks..." stuff. Boring!! Get creative, get crazy! Have fun with it. And remember, Try to think of what would catch YOUR eye, to hold your attention enough for you to go reading further of someones profile.
"Normal", "Surf" and "Freaks" may attract the attention of those you might not wish to associate. Try again.
About Your Pictures:
Keep your 1st, 3rd, 7yh & 8th, lose the rest. The others are either too distant, too dimly lit or you are with a crowd of other people, a definite no-no.
"Dating Interests"
ha ha ha "NOT grossly overweight men", you serious? THIS is an Interest of YOURS? As in avoiding these types of people? Thats nuts and it is insulting not to mention exposes a certain element of your personality or perhaps casts a certain light that may not be true of you.... shallow narrow-mindness. This, along with "surf freaks" and "normal", does not make the best first impression. My best advise.... wipe 'em out!
Other of your interests include broad examples such as "cooking" & "Music". Be more specific or lose it entirely.
The other interests that has me a bit perplexed, is your interests in "fit" and "average" men. So by chance should you meet a guy and really go for him, you'd still hold interests in guys despite being in a relationship? Is that how they do things there in British Columbia??Cause DAYUM!!
Your "About me" section almost hangs a complete 10. Ok ok, maybe hangs eight and a half.... ha ha.
Its ok, a little more specifics about you and your general attitude and as you started, going a little more in detail about a few more of your interests would help.
Definitely lose "No need to be more sensitive than most women. Just well rounded,"
How about replacing it with the sentiment you expressed like "Don't try to impress me, Just be you!"
"First Date", I like how you handled that. Made a suggestion (golf, a definite unique way to go) and then asked if they had a better suggestion! Good job there!
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| You are up, Rio!
Posted: 5/8/2005 8:43:29 AM | Rio time!
Hey Rio,
There in the UK eh? Well, lets see what we have here.....
Whew, your profile definitely needs work!!
About your profile. Sucks, lose it! As I have written in a lot of other reviews, Please consider this: Your headline is designed to catch peoples attention. To grab them by the scruff of the neck, to capture both their curiosity and imagination.
What is it that catches your of others profiles? Thats a good start.
None of this "Nice guy/gal seeks..." stuff. Boring!! Get creative, get crazy! Have fun with it. And remember, Try to think of what would catch YOUR eye, to hold your attention enough for you to go reading further of someones profile.
Your Picture is ok, but I'd get a few more on there if you could. Watch the lighting too, make sure you find something light. The pic you have now is a little shady (shadowy).
"Dating Interests"
tsk tsk tsk, this is so general and broad. Never leave things open in interpretation!
This, I think, is the one biggest boo boo most people make. This is where you really show your stuff! What are you interested in? Its that simple really.
Perhaps you like reading. DONT PUT READING! Be more specific as "reading" is too friggin general. Anything general i sopen to interpretation and more than likely backfires on ya.
For example, let's say you actually put in there, "Movies".
Another general and very broad interest.
Think a moment, will ya? How many movies do you suppose has been made since turn of the century? Now of all those movies, how many different variations and genre do you think there are?
If you think about it, the different varieties are staggeringly high. Do you really like all of those differences and varieties? I am gonna bet "no". So be specific. You like horror over comedy? Maybe chick flicks versus guy movies of shoot-emn-up bang bang movies. Whatever the case, be specific. This is a very important key that may unlock your future happiness should you meet someone!
"Dinner". Yeah, there is a real specific interest too. Wanna even start to imagine how many different types of dinners and foods and scenarios there are? One would geta headache just trying. Again, specifics!!!
Generally, there are a few "industry standards" to avoid. Well, maybe not avoid, just be more specific.
TV/Movies
Dinner/cooking
Camping
Music
Reading/books
Computers
Always ask yourself, "what about 'em". Then fill it in some as to what you like about them, or what variety or what have you.
And my other tip is, be sure to have lots of things listed. 8 or 10 is what I would go with.
Why?
Its the shotgun theory, for those who hunt. You see, a shotgun shell has many tiny little pellets generally called "buckshot". When the gun is fired, these buckshot spread out as they fly through the air towards the target, ensuring larger coverage and thus, better chance at hitting something.
You are the gun. Your interests are the buckshot. And the more you list (and specify) of interests, the better chance you have of having something in common with someone else that will, thusly, create a hit! Then an e-mail is sent and before long, you are at the beginning of a nice relationship.
"About me"
"Hhhmmm tough one"???? WTF? Are you saying you were a tough one?
Ok, so here is some more tips for ya!
This section is where you can tie in all in. This is THE place you want to express yourself as to who you are. What your attitude on life is like. Maybe expand some more on your interests too.
Tell about yourself, stay positive. Don't go referring to the ex & and please do not go on about what you DON'T want or what you are NOT looking for in a person. This is a bigas* turnoff and it can be best left for later, after the first contact e-mail. Negativity, Its a big 'ol waste of time that can be better served talking more of yourself.
Remain focused on yourself and what you want. End this section with who you seek. What kind of person. Again, stay away from the negatives of who you do NOT want and so forth. Stay positive!
"First Date"
Talk and laugh? Eh, it's ok I suppose. But talk where? And about what?
it really helps us guys out a lot if you give us a clue what you might consider. You see, it would be dreadful for all involved if you were the type who expected a nice dinner and maybe some dancing, but we took you skydiving instead because all you said was "whatever he wants".
That may make for a bad first date especially for someone who is terrified of heights. ha ha.
So all I am saying here is help us out just a bit. Give us a direction in which to go. Clue us in on what you would really like to do on the first date. We'll take it from there, I think we'll be able to handle things from that point! | |
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| Kyrie's Review
Posted: 5/8/2005 8:50:36 AM | KyrieElise,
Your time has come, please step into the docs office and have a seat!
First thing I looked at was your headline.
"Sweet Friendly and Fun" just doesn't work for me. Seems too sweet and well.... bland. Its what I call a "blender" as it may well blend into all the many other profiles out there that have the same or similar headline.
But hey, thats why you're here. For some advice.
So here goes...
Your headline is designed to catch peoples attention. To grab them by the scruff of the neck, to capture both their curiosity and imagination.
What is it that catches your of others profiles? Thats a good start.
None of this "Nice, sweet, friendly guy/gal seeks..." stuff. Boring!! Get creative, get crazy! Have fun with it. And remember, Try to think of what would catch YOUR eye, to hold your attention enough for you to go reading further of someones profile.
Your pictures, lose the second. The rest are nice and you have quite the pleasant smile.
Dating Interests:
Oh noooo, not again!
As I have advised in the past, This, I think, is the one biggest boo boo most people make. This is where you really show your stuff! What are you interested in? Its that simple really.
Perhaps you like reading. DONT PUT READING! Be more specific as "reading" is too friggin general. Anything general i sopen to interpretation and more than likely backfires on ya.
For example, let's say you actually put in there, "Movies".
Another general and very broad interest.
Think a moment, will ya? How many movies do you suppose has been made since turn of the century? Now of all those movies, how many different variations and genre do you think there are?
If you think about it, the different varieties are staggeringly high. Do you really like all of those differences and varieties? I am gonna bet "no". So be specific. You like horror over comedy? Maybe chick flicks versus guy movies of shoot-emn-up bang bang movies. Whatever the case, be specific. This is a very important key that may unlock your future happiness should you meet someone!
"Dinner". Yeah, there is a real specific interest too. Wanna even start to imagine how many different types of dinners and foods and scenarios there are? One would geta headache just trying. Again, specifics!!!
Generally, there are a few "industry standards" to avoid. Well, maybe not avoid, just be more specific.
TV/Movies
Dinner/cooking
Camping
Music
Reading/books
Computers
Always ask yourself, "what about 'em". Then fill it in some as to what you like about them, or what variety or what have you.
And my other tip is, be sure to have lots of things listed. 8 or 10 is what I would go with.
Why?
Its the shotgun theory, for those who hunt. You see, a shotgun shell has many tiny little pellets generally called "buckshot". When the gun is fired, these buckshot spread out as they fly through the air towards the target, ensuring larger coverage and thus, better chance at hitting something.
You are the gun. Your interests are the buckshot. And the more you list (and specify) of interests, the better chance you have of having something in common with someone else that will, thusly, create a hit! Then an e-mail is sent and before long, you are at the beginning of a nice relationship.
"About me",
So, you seek friends and thats it? Thats great and good that you pointed it out..... at the very end of this section.
I think you need to work a little more in this section telling more about yourself. Your attitude and maybe a little more on your interests and such. It'll give people a good idea of what you're about and may give em a thought that they have something in common with ya.
"First Date"
So if you only seek friends, why bother filling this out? Lose it in it's entirity otherwise you are giving mixed signals.
Ok, thats it for now. | |
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| ontario_woman review
Posted: 5/8/2005 8:56:19 AM | ontario_woman
Thanks for dropping by.
Ok, on to work. Your headline, "Seeking that Special Somebody", doesn't work for me. Needs more "oomph!" more uniqueness. Try again.
Remember, Your headline is designed to catch peoples attention. To grab them by the scruff of the neck, to capture both their curiosity and imagination. What is it that catches your of others profiles? Thats a good place to start.
Your pictures: Lose the second and the third. I never am comfortable with people who feature pics of their children in any situation. Perhaps your intent was to convey that you had kids. The question of "have kids?" sorta takes care of that.
"Dating Interests"
"I like to sew and read in my spare time"?? Thats it? Nothing else? ever?
This, I think, is the one biggest boo boo most people make. This is where you really show your stuff! What are you interested in? Its that simple really.
Perhaps you like reading. DONT PUT READING! Be more specific as "reading" is too friggin general. Anything general i sopen to interpretation and more than likely backfires on ya.
For example, let's say you actually put in there, "Movies".
Another general and very broad interest.
Think a moment, will ya? How many movies do you suppose has been made since turn of the century? Now of all those movies, how many different variations and genre do you think there are?
If you think about it, the different varieties are staggeringly high. Do you really like all of those differences and varieties? I am gonna bet "no". So be specific. You like horror over comedy? Maybe chick flicks versus guy movies of shoot-emn-up bang bang movies. Whatever the case, be specific. This is a very important key that may unlock your future happiness should you meet someone!
"Dinner". Yeah, there is a real specific interest too. Wanna even start to imagine how many different types of dinners and foods and scenarios there are? One would geta headache just trying. Again, specifics!!!
Generally, there are a few "industry standards" to avoid. Well, maybe not avoid, just be more specific.
TV/Movies
Dinner/cooking
Camping
Music
Reading/books
Computers
Always ask yourself, "what about 'em". Then fill it in some as to what you like about them, or what variety or what have you.
And my other tip is, be sure to have lots of things listed. 8 or 10 is what I would go with.
Why?
Its the shotgun theory, for those who hunt. You see, a shotgun shell has many tiny little pellets generally called "buckshot". When the gun is fired, these buckshot spread out as they fly through the air towards the target, ensuring larger coverage and thus, better chance at hitting something.
You are the gun. Your interests are the buckshot. And the more you list (and specify) of interests, the better chance you have of having something in common with someone else that will, thusly, create a hit! Then an e-mail is sent and before long, you are at the beginning of a nice relationship.
"About me"
Well, kinda short. And doesn't really say as much about you as the person reading would like. Between that and the lack of interests, one doesn't feel they have much in common with you and thusly, will go on to the next profile.
Tell ya what you may need.
"About me"
This section is where you can tie in all in. This is THE place you want to express yourself as to who you are. What your attitude on life is like. Maybe expand some more on your interests too.
Tell about yourself, stay positive. Don't go referring to the ex & and please do not go on about what you DON'T want or what you are NOT looking for in a person. This is a bigas* turnoff and it can be best left for later, after the first contact e-mail. Negativity, Its a big 'ol waste of time that can be better served talking more of yourself.
Remain focused on yourself and what you want. End this section with who you seek. What kind of person. Again, stay away from the negatives of who you do NOT want and so forth. Stay positive!
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| You are up, Rio!
Posted: 5/8/2005 9:06:13 AM | @Jack and everybody else: Re Camping and Dancing
I want to add my 2 cent's worth on the word camping and others like it. Granted a lot of people camp but a lot of people don't. Ones that don't and ones that do have a good chance of not being a good match. I think any word that separates the population 50/50 or more is a good word for a profile. The key here is that you need to have a lot more words then just camping for your interests but I wouldn't say loose it, just add more. Personally I use the word camp to do searches, for me to be interested it needs to be in there, I also use danc, not misspelled it's the root for dancing and like to dance. It's another 50/50 word but we are now maybe down to 25% of the population. Add not smoking and age and wanting kids, we are getting down to 1% and I'm starting to be interested. All these words are not very selective in themselves but taken in unison they start to mean something. | |
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| Last-Chance review
Posted: 5/8/2005 9:10:02 AM | Last Chance time
Headline "Nice guys finish last!."
Eh, tell us something we DON'T know!
Not too original or creative. Try again. Get jiggy wit it if you must. Just be original and uniquely you!
Remember, Your headline is designed to catch peoples attention. To grab them by the scruff of the neck, to capture both their curiosity and imagination.
What is it that catches your of others profiles? Thats a good place to start.
On to your pictures.
Jeez, you got a lot of 'em. Ya know, something struck me as odd here. No, not YOUR picture... ha ha, but rather you have a lot of pictures where you looked to be hunting & fishing, yet in your dating interests, there is no mention of hunting or fishing. What gives?
Back to about your pics, keep the 2nd picture only. Lose the rest. Why?
Well, for one, you have a picture of you with a kid when he/she was born.... with the mother.NOT a good move here. It will be easily assumed it's yours, despite your claim later in "about me" to the contrary that it is your sister.
The other pics of hunting and fishing, though us guys can appreciate them, most women will not. You are pictures with a dead animal in which it is presumed you killed. Again, bad move.
Your "Dating Interests"
"Camping", too broad and general. What specifically of camping? Could fishing be included in that? lol
and ha ha, I get the idea you like to travel! ha ha, usually I'd suggest lose the "travel, more travel and a lot more traveling", but its funny so I say keep it in there!
Perhaps in the "About me" section touch on a little of some of the places you have traveled too. I have to guess one place was somewhere in Africa!
Your "About me" section flowed pretty good until it hit rocks on your third paragraph. Lose it all. It sounds like you are not only alone, but lonly and sad. Not very attractive aspect of yourself to put out there. Too negative. Shy away from stuff like that. Most of this could also be explained in eventual e-mails and further conversations with those interested.
"First Date"
Sucks. Sorry guy, but it does.
Here's the deal. Whether we like it or hate it, this is where we can either seal the deal or seal our fate.
We HAVE to take charge here, and indicate what we would like to do on the first date. We have to take control, it is expected. None of this "maybe", or "might" stuff, no no. Don't be tentative. And don't write "whatever the lady would like". No no. Oh sure, sweet thought and nice gesture sure. But guys, let's have a contingency plan at the very least. Because odds are she will be expecting you to take control and will invariably say "I don't know, what would you like to do?"
Save time and save face here my friend! Take control, make the call!
Just don't go writing "sex" or some BS like that. First date dude! Let's keep it gentlemanly, ya know? | |
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| Re: jheldatksuedu
Posted: 5/8/2005 9:14:08 AM | jheldatksuedu
I agree totally about the "camping" thing. It is too broad and general of a thing. Some, when camping, fish. Others do not. Some hike, others do not.
This is why I continually to suggest to people be specific. "Dancing", really now. Of all the dances that are out there..... too broad a term.
I am not sure however I would agree with "danc", as many do not know that which you explained and will pretty much assume its a mispelling, which in turn will not look favorably.
Unless of cours ethey'd explain it further in the "about me" section, which would make it more sensible and perhaps show a little additional intelligence of the person. | |
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| clairification
Posted: 5/8/2005 9:18:29 AM | @jack and everybody: Re camping, see my last post
Concerning be more specific; Granted I'd rather see backpacking, that one word is good enough to get me immediately interested enough to do a full read, but I still search for camp because the chance of finding backpacking are real small. People might do it but they just might not think to list it so searching for camp is much better. If you do it, it should be in there. The key in my book is put in as many words as you can think of that describe you and that people might search for. Ok maybe 4 cents worth now. | |
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