| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 9:57:12 PM | It seems that the opposite of "admitting that they like sex" would mean that they overtly deny that they like it, and I haven't met many women that do that. So, I think what you really seem to be asking is, "why don't more women speak freely about their sexual experiences?" And, that might be because it can be kind of obnoxious. It's probably something more prevalent in younger women, as they come into their own in matters of sex, and are learning about all of the things they can do and trading experiences. But, when you're actually in a long-term relationship with someone, it's kind of nice to know that only the two of you know the dirty little secrets that occur behind closed doors. You might be surprised at the number of women who appear demure and tight-lipped about sex, who are wildcats in the sack. But, what a joy for her partner that he's the only one that knows such things.
Edit: It's kind of like the difference between a girl going topless or revealing all of her "assets" as much as legally possible, and the girl that wears a sleek dress with a subtle slit all the way up the side, showing leg - but leaving the rest to the imagination. There's much more mystique in the latter. Not so much in the former. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 10:19:00 PM |
......and admitting to likeing sex does not say to guys "i'm easy,come get me now
actually, that's what most guys are led to believe...take it from me, I'm a guy, 95% of my friends are guys, and out of that, 70% would think exactly that. It's just how their brains work...I don't blame them...I blame porn...yup, you heard me. Porn...
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 10:40:40 PM | It seems that women do like sex but do not like many of the men they do it with or the way some men do it with them especially if the man only wants to do it once. They also seem to often tolerate bad sex or sex done badly, more than men do. But then I may be wrong cause which man really knows what women really want or really enjoy? Do women really do (on a consistent basis)?
Bottom line: Women like sex when they feel that they are equal participants in the act else they feel used but sometimes some women seem to tolerate being used for sex when they hope this will lead to a relationship or commitment. Why some women do that amazes me cause women do not really need men except for sex. Who can make sense out of Eros though? Not even Eros!!!!! | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 10:44:33 PM | | I don't think it's a matter of being afraid of admitting anything. I think it's more a matter of something for me to know and you can try to find out, kinda deal. Think of Mona Lisa. Which is more alluring? | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:14:01 PM | I sometimes wonder if the problem isnt that women are afraid of sex (I dont think they are) but rather they have to play defense on sex because males tend to push so much for it.
If a woman on here for example states her interest in sex then I dont doubt she would be hammered with emails asking her for sex from guys.
But if a guy says he is interested in sex what else is new LOL
So I think women are just guarded about their feelings on this subject simply because they get so many negative responces to them if they do say they are interested. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:26:40 PM | Perhaps some women simply choose to be discreet about it... They don't feel that's something they need to advertise to the masses. There are men who feel the same way , although maybe it's assumed that men's sexual drive is usually greater than women?
All I know is that when women hit their 30's, it's like a switch is turned on and the off switch is broken. I suppose by the time most of us reach our 30's, we're more comfortable in our skin, confident in who we are and our hormones are raging! It shouldn't be a secret that the majority of us enjoy sex, love receiving and giving affection. So do we really need to announce it? Or maybe that's just an attention-seeking tactic for some women...
When I'm involved with someone, we'll learn all about what each other needs and for me, he's the only one who needs to know... | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:27:17 PM | I don't think that women are afraid of admitting that they like sex, it's just information that is shared with people that you're comfortable with; in an appropriate situation with appropriate people. There is a time and place to discuss intimate details of one's life and sharing it with just about anybody no longer makes it intimate.
IMO, people express themselves and share when they feel safe and comfortable.
Perhaps some women simply choose to be discreet about it... I agree! Discretion is valuable.
Just in case you got the wrong impression, I love sex, but I certainly wouldn't put it on my profile!! ha ha (any more than I would put up that I love my vibrator). lookandlearn, I love you! Thanks for your honesty and sharing...lol | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/14/2007 11:40:52 PM | Some guys are intimidated by women who like sex. Or want it. Or need it. Doubt you'll be seeing any of them admitting it, though
There might be some truth to that . . . women liking sex seems to have an INSTANTLY knee jerking effect that:
~She is EASY . . . .
~She sleeps around
~She has no values/morals
~Wh0re
actually, that's what most guys are led to believe...take it from me, I'm a guy, 95% of my friends are guys, and out of that, 70% would think exactly that
The statement quoted ^^^^seems to be the general consensus among men.
VERBAL expression of sexual need = NORMAL
Frequency of ACTION of EXPRESSING need = NEGATIVE implications
I for one . . . VERBALLY express that I do have sexual needs . . . . that is why I have my BOB’s . . .
Best of luck,
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/15/2007 6:05:31 AM | bliss92
And really, who doesn't like sex? A very small percentage of the population, I'm sure.
That is such an interesting one. I think if you do your homework you'll find that it isn't actually as true as you think. There are too many factors to take into consideration. If the woman is valued and seen as an equal and has a giving man, then she probably will, but sadly there are many who aren't.
In my 20's I hated sex. It hurt, I never got any pleasure and I was married to the guy. Hey ho. Later - that changed (new man new experiences) but at the time no I didn't. I have a friend who hasn't had sex in the last 14 years of her marriage - not her choice, but her husbands, he's just not interested. I have been in a relationship where the guy also wasn't in the slightest bit interested. I have had many dire sexual experiences where I could easily have said - that's it I'm done with it. I am sure I am not the only one to feel like that, and have heard more than a few women say - 'I'll be glad when I'm old and don't have to do this anymore'.
There is actually a lot of pressure surrounding sex, the world is having a wonderful sex life and if I'm not I'm a freak. So no, many don't admit to not liking it, in the same way that many don't admit to liking it. Generally, if you like something you pursue it. Why on earth would a guy not misinterpret that?
But it's a bit like the old saying about 'it's always the quiet guy'!! So maybe the one's who don't TALK about it all the time are the ones doing it!
(And tiffish - thank you - reciprocated!!) | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/15/2007 6:15:49 AM | For some women sex is the " Grand Sacrifice ".
If they admitted they liked it, they couldn't beat us over the head with it our whole lives !
I've never seen it fail.
A woman can be laying on the floor begging, " Give it to me ! Give it to me NOW !"
Then, an hour later it's, " You're the one who just has to have it ALL THE TIME ". | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/15/2007 6:24:29 AM | | i'm not afraid to admit that I like sex and I talk about it probably too much even at work. The thing is that i know what kind of reputation this gets me with people who know me on a superficial level. I happen to not care but I'd understand why a woman would want to keep it to herself. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/15/2007 6:30:31 AM | For years females have been conditioned to believe that sex is for men and that they are at the beakon call of men in regard to their sexuality. I was raised thnk God in the era of free spirit, burning your bra and free love. While I did not go crazy I did have the freedom and support of a society who trashed the norm of women not expressing their sexuality and acting upon it. Women love and desire sex just as much as men but it is our ppre conditioning that holds them back from expresing this.
I am far from promiscuous , only someone worthy of my desire shares tt intamacy with me be it a one night stand or a lasting relationship. I am sensuous andthe men who chose me know I am because I reflect that in my conversation and interaction with them. But they also know I am a classy lady and am not about free sex with every man I meet. LAdies you have to throw away the stereotypes we were raised with and show the man you are with that you are also human and you do desire all those pleasures just as he does. WHen you do and yucan freely expres your sexuality you will experience a joy and pleasure you have never known. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/15/2007 7:24:35 AM | Well kiki the prudes lost out and the thread survived.
..........do guys like woman who admit to like sex and don't mind talking about it or do they like woman to keep their mouth shut and not say a word about sex? As I said earlier it's a plus but maybe other's will agree, openly talking about and admitting to liking is one thing, having a trucker mouth is another.
Some guys do it, and I am sure it's not a turn on for the women eather.
I think it is great that woman talk about liking sex but just like men there can be a point were it's not welcome. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:01:35 AM | ^^^
Really? with just anyone or is there a criteria?
Personally yes I do, but it very very very much depends on who its with. There are some guys I would rather stick pins in my eyes first than go there with! And there are guys I have fancied but in the sack it has been the biggest self centred yawn fest on their part imaginable. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/15/2007 8:52:11 AM | Can I ask why you feel that the world needs to know that you like sex? I frankly couldnt care less about your sexuality and I am sure that most people dont either. Does that in some way imply that I dont like sex, because I dont feel the need to share that information to anyone that will listen?
Maybe I will start a thread entitled Why do some women feel the need to share information about their sexual habits that I dont care about?
Why is that there is an automatic assumption that because I dont feel the need to share personal information about my sex life that I am a prude or somehow hate sex?
I am frankly amazed at how quick some people are to make a snap judgement that most women are so f*ucked up about sex and are comfortable in their knowledge about women and their sexuality that they do not hesitate to make these claims of sexual disfunction because someone starts hypothetical thread.
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