| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/18/2007 5:23:26 PM | | Yes missy the men who see sex as more than just getting off are indeed out there. It's funny because I'm the opposite of you in that i'm looking for no attachments and i seem to find the ones who get attached. I can say that if you're one of the women who think that "nice guys" are over rated, that could be your problem. | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/18/2007 5:42:03 PM | kikirnw (OP),
That's a ridiculous question. There's no stereotype that women won't 'admit' they like sex (ie they'll say no if the question is asked). Many women will say, "I like sex, BUT [insert phrase to promote goody-goody mindset]". Some women are afraid of admitting that they like *eroticism* or the craving of sex... they don't want to 'sound like a slut', and have been conditioned that way most likely. Usually due to guys having sonic hearing in bars over loud music if a woman were to utter such words. :) | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/18/2007 6:53:41 PM | When I was younger I was more embarrassed to talk about sex. During my marriage I had very little interest due to being in a verbally abusive relationship. Being sworn at and put down isn't a very good form of foreplay.
But since I hit 50 and out of the marriage....my sex drive is the strongest I have ever experienced. But sadly there is no one in my life to enjoy  with. I have never had a one night stand and don't believe in them...especially at my age! So frustrating..........
So I keep hoping I will meet someone who will accept me and love me and be thrilled once we hit the bedroom  | |
|
| |
trikki
|
Joined: 1/29/2007
Msg: 105 | |
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/18/2007 7:09:25 PM | Sex = Awesome
But I know some people, girls and guys, who are so nervous when it comes to having sex that they can't enjoy it because they're all paranoid about being shitty in the sack. Therefore, they don't like having it bc it stresses them out.
That'd suck, I can't really imagine life without it, I'm kind of a sex fiend. haha, oh well, better than being a crack fiend or something.  | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:06:35 AM | [But I know some people, girls and guys, who are so nervous when it comes to having sex that they can't enjoy it because they're all paranoid about being shitty in the sack. Therefore, they don't like having it bc it stresses them out.]
This is the exact reason why we need to talk about it. Growing up I had some sexual experiences that well lets say left a bad taste in my mouth. I hated sex, I hated men along with my mentors leading me to think of it as an obligation as part of being a mere woman didn't help. The excruciating pain which became part of the orgasim was exactly a come hither invitation to the ombiance either.
OMG when the pain was gone (it took surgery) it was like being reborn!!!   Not knowing because of lack of info as a teenager and young adult no one to say it shouldn't hurt like that and possibly realize maybe some abuse went on at some time or another (another shame giver) I was in needless pain for a great many years. Talk about it! It is a natural instinct Sex is one of the first things we do when born. Baby boy grabs Tom Thumb and Baby girl goes exploring Treasure Island.  It is nothing to attach shame to or guilt or for that matter obligation, talking to each other and our kids to lets the other know that there shouldn't be pain or shame, that it is so natural priests and nuns have a hard time to stay away, that it is beautiful and be a freaking manx because it is absolutely your right to enjoy sex, maybe we can even stop an abuse or prevent a health issue. And oh my G maybe instint can kick in and we can lose the fear of enjoying something that hasn't been a dirty little secret for most of our lives. Promiscuity comes from mis-adventure, knowledge is power.
Ladies is the 30's that think a switch went off and can't find the off switch, WAIT TILL YOUR in the 40's, there is no off switch and it gets so much better with age you don't want to find one.
In closing YES I LOVE SEX and if a friend or family member says that they don't dig a little deeper something is probably wrong. | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:09:59 AM | I love sex so much I have a boyfriend and a girlfriend. When I wear one out, I go and punich the other one and vice versa.
Once in a while I'll make the "Old man" comment and end up getting slayed 6 or 7 times by him that nite.
Women that are afraid to admit they love to screw normally come from a strict up-bringing that did not allow for expression about sex. She is conflicted between moral / religious / social constraints that she alone will have to break.
Me, I'm a card carrying member of the International Freak Association. :-)
Diva | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 8:14:03 AM | | Maybe some figure that they don't admit to it to much - they feel maybe they won't have to give it up all the time... I dunno, I don't have that problem so i'm only able to answer to the best of my knowledge. | |
|
| |
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 10:25:40 AM | I've yet to find a woman who says she enjoys sex. Check the chatroom sites: the places are packed with randy men any day or night and women busy fending them off
With chat I've found that women go onto them to just that: chat! Men go onto them for totally different reasons, usually to either meet a woman with a view to 'seeing her for fun' or webcam sex etc. The men-only rooms on a chat site are packed because men get nowt from the women much!
Men are conditioned to have a higher sexual appetite. There aren't many men who would openly say "I can take it or leave it" like a lot of women do. It would be like a man saying to everyone "I've decided never to speak again". Women also tend to worry what people think too. The devil-may-care-get-your-kecks-off-now-mate lady is damned rare! | |
|
| |
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:19:05 AM | | I'm interested... for the ones who say they love sex and everyone should talk about it, (genuine question here) how would they feel if their mother or grandmother said the same thing with the same type of language? genuinely interested. | |
|
| |
| |
| |
| |
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 1:55:30 PM |
I'm interested... for the ones who say they love sex and everyone should talk about it, (genuine question here) how would they feel if their mother or grandmother said the same thing with the same type of language? genuinely interested.
Maybe thats why i'm more open to talking about it, my mother and grandmother left it up for the schools to teach me about sex. They never talk about it at all. | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 1:58:32 PM |
There aren't many men who would openly say "I can take it or leave it" like a lot of women do. It would be like a man saying to everyone "I've decided never to speak again".
The only reason we can say that is because we have our "bobs". | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:12:47 PM | well, In all honesty, I LOVE SEX!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
but, because I refuse to talk about it on the computer and with new people i Chat too on MSN------I am known as a prude and that I hate SEX------LOL.............
Like I say on my profile.......
I am not into cyber sex--------I can't type with one hand ------so don;t waste my time!!!!
heh heh! | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:18:48 PM | hi hun, with regard to your thread
as a woman who openly admits to not only liking sex but loving it . i feel sex is not something dirty or something to be kept taboo, After all we are in the 21st century and liking sex does not make u a slapper, tart etc. be proud and say u like sex, lifes to short for giving a damn what other small minded folks think of u
i like sex and am proud to say so | |
|
| |
Jemue
|
Joined: 1/26/2005
Msg: 122 | |
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:18:47 PM |
... It's normal to dig sex.....
Indeed, Freud had an idea that the only bad or wrong sex, was none, the rest was opportunity and preference.
Most organised religions (i.e. Proverbs) have a lot to answer for to women who profess their hatred of sex, though its usually some other deep rooted issue and its the act of sex they focus the pain on.
I find a lot of girls will claim they don't like it, to see more virtuous or playing "hard to get" or what ever the game of the day is.
Though most women have it figured out  | |
|
| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 6:11:45 PM | Kiki looks like there was a need for this thread. I am so glad that the ones who didn't want to talk about it didn't succeed in deleting this one.
This is an awesome thread.
Maybe if they at least read this they might learn something and deny the stigma they have about talking about it and or admitting they like it.
There is a social couth that is associated with the subject of sex and even admitting to liking it.
In many cases this is taken too far and people are shunned and ridiculed for expressing something so wonderful.
What ever their reasons are I am glad some of them had expressed their views so maybe others may understand and maybe even respect their veiw as well.
Again, GREAT THREAD!!
Captain Joe | |
|
| |
| |
Home
login 
I am so thankful that we opened up as it has taught me many insights into why we as women allow the man's open ended commentary of what he wants only to turn that around with control over when, where, & how he gets his. I can honestly say and if my ex was here he would tell you that the game of poon tang power for lack of a better word, never came into play. Mom taught me to let it be play not a full time job no offence to those of you that it is. All sport is practiced and quite frankly the olympics are looking like they may be in my future 