| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:08:03 AM |
the men who see sex as more than just getting off are indeed out there
Really, lol? Where? Just kidding, I am sure they are out there...I guess, lol! And, actually, I am looking for no attachments, for now, also. I just don't think that love needs to be present to express passion. I have been in love...or so I thought, and my passion was greater than his. I think it is just a matter of personality, really.
if you're one of the women who think that "nice guys" are over rated, that could be your problem.
No..I LOVE nice guys, lol! Unfortunately, they usually are the ones who are ONLY looking for a "relationship". Maybe, THAT is my problem, lol.
Seems to me this is too complicated. Passion comes from emotions, right? Yes..I would indeed have some feelings for a person, but wouldn't have to be love. I say..just enjoy each other, and seeing how much the other is enjoying you would be enough to experience the best sex ever...even without love. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/20/2007 7:48:06 PM | to Lookandlearn... I'd fall over and die of shock in a good way if my grandmother had talked about sex with me because it would mean she was human and not the emotionless **** i took her for. But growing up I was usually the one making my mom say "stop talking about that" to me and not the other way around.
and missy, I think i get ya now. I think i'm in the same boat as you. I can't hook up with a guy who can't string two words together and who says "ugh me want sex" no matter how hot they are. I need to genuinely like the person and be able to have a conversation with them. But those tend to be the sweet guys who want to develop emotions that i'm attracted to. | |
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Jemue
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 12:17:46 AM |
I don't really like sex. It's ok, but it leaves you vulnerable and women I've been with use it for control and power. Better off without it.
Indeed, it is one of the most common weapons used against guys.
Though you are better off without those women, not sex. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 3:30:05 AM | | I can honestly and proudly say that i LOVE sex and which i could have sex every second of every day as that is about how much i think about it. I sometimes think i am a women with a male brain as sex is always on my mind. PEOW PEOW..... | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 6:03:51 AM | | I remember a shrink saying sex is like going to a restaurant, if the food is good, you will want to go back, if it isn't, you won't. Does that mean if the food wasn't good, you are a person who doesn't like to eat? Of course not! And in the same analogy, probably someone who has never had good food eats to live, not vice versa. But as to the original subject, I think it would have to relate to the circumstances. Flaunting it on a profile to me would be just that, flaunting it. Everything has a time and place , IMHO. But to not let the man you are having it with know you like it, can't imagine, though I've always felt actions speak louder than words. Maybe if you aren't admitting you like it at that particular time, it's because you aren't enjoying it at that time? I do think one's feelings about sex are a strong result of upbringing, but by becoming educated, you can get over the negative ones, just as people who may be illiterate can get help and learn to read. But like most things, first you have to want to. Guess maybe I'm kind of thinking/writing out loud, probably making myself clear as mud, lol! | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 6:18:52 AM | | Yes...weebs28..me too. I am still looking for the one who can express that passion, and not get attached..you know, thinking we will be getting married next, lol. I know there are men out there who are looking for the same as me, and yes...sometimes it starts out that way and becomes complicated. Actually, I have found some, but it seems it's too hard to meet in person. So aggravating!! Like this weekend, for example..I only have to work two hours...I am wide open, and can't get ahold of anyone! Tired of chatting...I am going out, with or without them, lol! Tonight!! | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 6:39:52 AM | tchofclas, Your post is perfectly clear to this reader. Some women are afraid to admit a lot of things, even if I may not know just how to respond when one lets me know a sordid fact for her past ...and I didn't solicit the information. If I'm in love w/ her, I'll likely smile and feel to be a little closer for that shared secret.
I believe that some women are afraid to admit that they just might be considered "sluts". It's only when the mud that she's stepped in, or might want us to proceed doesn't smell like just mud ...that I might become wary of her. It's women, who don't admit their likes and dislikes in the b/r ...even if moans would be enough for their likes and nudges for dislikes, that frustrate the hell out of me. I'm w/any woman to learn and know all about her ...even if talking is only part of that equation. If I can teach her something new, great! But I'd love it if a woman learned to speak up more before the fact or during the act. Admitting WHAT they like is why I sense every woman I have had sex w/ is no longer w/me. If she can't trust to empower me, why should feel that sex for her is other than a power ploy? | |
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Jemue
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 6:14:24 PM | I am not afraid to admit that I like sex. In fact I tend to have a very high sex drive. I have gone to adult stores and mostly with friends. We walk around looking at all the different toy, movies, and other fun stuff. I have had many a conversation about sex with all the usual questions, "what's your fave position", "where's the weirdest place you've had sex". I have a couple friends who are actually jealous of my sexuality 
I think that women (and men) should feel open to sharing what they like and don't like. For the women out there that fake orgasm a lot... SHAME ON YOU!! And when I say a lot I mean like 8 out of 10 times. If you are constantly faking it... then how is your guy going to learn how to please you properly? I just don't understand it!
But just because I am open about my sexuality doesn't mean that I am open to having sex with anyone. I prefer to be dating someone and for it to be getting serious before I jump into bed with them. | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 8:23:11 PM | A few observations from my life:
When working with a group of women, complaining that they would have to give their men "some" was totally amazed that women felt this way?, mind you was without which exacebated that total confusion.
A lady I know might have hit the nail on the head in the best bit of advice any man can have, in that all day she did everything with no help or appriciation and lots of agro, and then was expected to get fruity on a night, she wondered why men could not understand that the occassional bit of romance, pinch of your bum, kiss, tender word, and a bit of a hand around the house so you were not knackered, would mean that they would have you dragging them off to bed.
Agree with the formentioned that being or feeling emotionally connected to someone enhances sex, if more men understood this women would be smiling more, and proberbally still not shouting about how great it is, cause sometimes is good to keep some special thoughts to your self to keep that tingle going.
10% of ladies dont attain orgasm, ( dont know how some researcher got this info), naybe this is something to consider, or just be thankfull if your not in that number.
keep smiling
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myrky
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Joined: 4/14/2007
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 9:04:00 PM |
10% of ladies dont attain orgasm, ( dont know how some researcher got this info), naybe this is something to consider, or just be thankfull if your not in that number.
12-15 percent, if we are looking at the same research team. They started by studying identical twins, basically just surveying 1,397 pairs of them.
Anyway.. back to the topic at hand...
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/21/2007 9:30:31 PM | [Penis envy; all women want to be men!]-clark593
OMG!! I haven't heard anything so ridiculous, in years! ROFLMFAO!!!
I think the great feminist author Germaine Greer said it best "I have nothing against Freud's theory of penis envy,
except for his delusion that it is women who suffer from it." Gotta love her! | |
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| why are some woman afraid of admitting that they like sex?
Posted: 4/22/2007 10:11:52 AM | some woman do own up to liking sex lol.. like me lol ***I LOVE SEX*** i cant get enough but hey i dont go around and sleep with everyone.. i only have 1 play partner.. some girls are just shy and also seem to think that if guys know they love sex that they are easy, well most of the guys i know think that. seem to think just because i like sex they can do what they want when they want to me....
GIRL dont be shy if u like it say it, dont even bother caring about what others think be yourself. lol | |
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Jemue
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Joined: 1/26/2005
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