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Posted: 4/15/2007 1:22:25 PM | Ok...Ok...enough chatter...the solution is as simple as it is all encompassing: YOU NEED TO BE WITH AN ALASKAN MAN! When this happens, all issues about variety, intensity, frequency, etc, will become mute.   | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 1:38:02 PM | Well, there you go, honey! The answer to your dilemma? ? An Alaskan Man.
Just don't blow gas, Dear or she'll ditch ya!  But seriously, OMG! I can't! That's just plain nasty! Never met a guy who did that ever! Yikes, I hope I didn't jinx my luck.
It's great you have such a healthy and high sex drive but men tire out faster than we do. You might have to play by yourself.
As for the creativity, if you want variety then you'll have to initiate it until he gets what you're all about. That's the easy part. The hard part is finding a man in control that you click with. If the chemistry is there you probably won't need to tell him what to do. He'll know and anything he does will drive you wild!
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Posted: 4/15/2007 1:49:16 PM | | Thanks Me Besas!! The hard part is finding a good man period then add one that is in control...lol!! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 1:59:31 PM | The perfectly balanced sex life comes from the one who is your perfect match - your soulmate and cherished love - mutual love and satisfaction will endure.
As for farts - it only means he is comfortable with you and loves ya!! | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 2:16:01 PM | We have a saying up here in Alaska...the odds are good, but the goods are odd.
Pass on by the Alaskan men. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 3:20:07 PM | I'm still very very bummed...oops sorry bad choice of words...lol That you live so far away Badgirl4u2nv....seriously thinking about pulling up stakes and moving..Go West Man Go...lmao.
Yes Sex is great and I have read this entire post but I still think you are not entirely saying what you mean or want help with in this post. Maybe it's just to have echoed back to you what you already know and that is communication is key!! No one is a mind reader so just share what you are feeling and want and I'm sure you will find that Man who wants to see you smile from his efforts. Once WE get to know each other I'm sure it will become very easy to please...lol Ya I know I slipped into fantasy there on the last sentence but hey a good imagination is a great tool to have available....and having a "great tool" available... well you can use your imagination on that one!! lmao
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Posted: 4/15/2007 4:00:09 PM | | thats funny but why do male pee on women in shower grr lol | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 4:18:29 PM | I do like sex and everything that goes with it and I do like it a few times a day...Sex doesn't ruin or hasn't ruined any of my relationships, I do get bored...communication is not my downfall...I've mostly had good healthy sexual relationships...I have been with one guy that had mentioned that he wanted me to start the fun on a regular basis which maybe I am to shy. You're all over the place here, OP. Sex a few times every day is likely going to wear a guy down, no wonder stuff gets boring, sounds like you aren't doing anything with partner but have sex. The guy finds out you prefer sex 3 or more times a day, that's all the poor guy is going to be thinking about. And you are NOT communicating well if you can't tell this idiot that you want him to initiate sex.
Bike Man I think your writing your own book here..lol!! Nope, incorrect hun, it's your book!
Does it really make that much more of a difference for the woman to make her move...Not saying I never make my move, just not as often as the men in my life. sorry just trying to understand your "Sex" thread, it's all over the place! LOL Tell your "dead fish" that you want him to come onto you more. Sounds like it's really this simple. Talk to him. I can't picture a guy prefering his woman to regularly initiate sex. I'm sure there are guys like that, if you are dating one, TALK TO HIM. Personally I prefer reciprocating relationships. You sound like you are choosing the wrong guys with whom to have sexual relationships. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 6:38:35 PM |
sounds like you aren't doing anything with partner but have sex
Not sure what hat you pulled that out of?? I keep pretty active and do a TON of things other then have sex.
Sex a few times every day is likely going to wear a guy down
Speak for yourself on that one!! I have NOT said anything about NOT getting it enough or the guy NOT keeping up.
And you are NOT communicating well if you can't tell this idiot that you want him to initiate sex.
Me and the idiot are not together anymore. NOT because of sex but because of other events in our relationship. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 6:46:56 PM | [quote[I'm still very very bummed...oops sorry bad choice of words...lol That you live so far away Badgirl4u2nv....seriously thinking about pulling up stakes and moving..Go West Man Go...lmao.
HAHAHAHA with your history of what was it? Nasal rape hahaha!! My history of being a nymph and not being able to hold a longterm relationship. It's not a great begining I'm afraid.
I do share my feelings... | |
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Posted: 4/15/2007 9:47:54 PM | [If my man knows hands down that I am good to go at any given moment why is it so important for him that I initiate it too, as much as he would]
Probably for the same reasons that you like a man to initiate it. Guys like a woman to take control sometimes as well. It makes it unexpected for him and more exciting. It is easier to sit back and let the other person take control, but way better if you take the reins sometimes. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 7:52:43 AM | If it gets to be a routine...it takes two to tango!
What is great today may not be so good tomorrow. I find my fav and most important sex organ is the one between my ears. I can figure out the physical aspects pretty quick but that big one....hooowee what a bizarre creature that is. But play that instrument and the rest can be a beautiful orchestra | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 7:55:50 AM | I am gassy therefore I fart...
I do not ask you to smell it though...
for me communication is really important and I like a girl who will talk about what she wants and sometimes take the lead in that department.
Yeah I am still tha man and want to take the lead but often I like to have a clue of what to try with her...
and this makes it so it is not boring for me... | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 8:01:09 AM | | Variety IS the spice of life! | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 8:17:14 AM | OP, I have very little experience with sex, I'll admit.
However, I agree that the beauty of sexuality is the variety, not the routine.
You seem to be satisfied to a point, which in my opinion is a good place to be. You have room for improvement, and enough satisfaction to know it's worth working for that improvement in the first place.
You really should be talking to your lover, since their individual taste is what you're trying to satisfy, while they satisfy yours.
If you both like being taken, then maybe you could designate a signal that says, "you can have me", and hold your passions until you see the signal or decide to give it.
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Posted: 4/16/2007 8:27:27 AM | badgirl4u2nv
I have a similar situation.. I have asked my wife this same question and would like her to initaite sex once in a while.. I think its fun to share that control once in a while. It definitely mixes things up and keeps the sex from getting stale.
Why don't you get some handcuffs and sneak up and bind him to a chair or desk then make him watch you strip and masterbate. I guarantee when you unlock the cuffs your going to have some exciting sex.
Good Luck :) | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 8:40:40 AM | OP, Funny how what I believe to be your main point for ur post has been divurging to the passing of gas and the "marinating" of certain body parts, but I will try to remain true to what I recall being when more your age. After I finally lost my virginity much later than I'd have prefered for that, I found myself growing bored of relationships at or around six weeks. This MO lasted into my 30s.
That was until I hooked up w/a girl on her way to Maine from PA to do her M.D. residency. The sex w/ this good Catholic girl was very 'evolving', but her character remained that of a grapefruit. 1.) She bragged about the number of boys who'd proposed to her, 2.) Lied for being able to swim, even if she and I did an 80-mile canoe trip together in the remote wilds of Maine, and 3.) Treated her mother disrespectfully. The woman, as a widow, put her and two of her siblings through college by cleaning houses and offices. Ungrateful?
This long-distance relationship lasted about a year ...and taught me much for why good sex should not be the only tie to bind. That she finally said that she loved me the last time we were together, I already knew that she loved herself much, much more ...and that our joy ride was over. I'm 51 now, and have been on my own for far longer than w/ any woman has begun to validate me as a person. As I grow even older and wiser, I am ready to considered for other than how big a penis I might have, even if its pleasure in a LTR is a big part of this equation. This also goes for my not being measured as a man for just how thick my wallet may be. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 10:39:08 AM | Not sure what hat you pulled that out of?? I keep pretty active and do a TON of things other then have sex...Speak for yourself on that one!! I have NOT said anything about NOT getting it enough or the guy NOT keeping up...Me and the idiot are not together anymore. NOT because of sex but because of other events in our relationship. Perhaps 0.1% of guys are having sex three times or more every day for any extended period of time with their partner, furthermore only 1 or 2% are either humanly capable of performing or interested in routinely performing that frequency of sex acts for an extended period of time.
When one posts a vague thread topic like "Sex...", there really isn't much else to deduce other than sex is most important aspect of a relationship for the OP. If it weren't, why mention "I am the type that likes it all the time"; a more appropriate thread title might be "I'm shy, help me learn how to communicate my relationship needs to my partner".
Also, my comments are not specifically referencing the OP's problems with one particular failed relationship. I'll go back to Msg1:
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Message: I have been in a couple serious relationships and I find I get bored fast. I find that you fall into the same sex routine over and over and over...I have also been in a few short-term relationships where the sex was great but finding new ideas and inspirations is tough...I am the type that likes it all the time but I like a guy that takes control. A guy can put me in any position at any time and I will make it that much more fun but I have a hard time making the first move...AND...why is it that guys fart in front of you and a half hour later they are trying to get in on a BJ?? There is a pattern where the OP becomes bored in her relationships. I answered the sex question: talk it out with your partner. If he can't provide minimum performance, and that is a dealbreaker, dump him and start a new relationship with a new partner. Often there are compromises made by mature people in relationships that are mutually valued but for differing reasons.
I can't really provide an answer to the farting inquiry: I've never farted in the presence of my partners before or during sex. If I feel like I need to pass wind during sex, believe it or not I'll stop whatever I'm doing. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 10:48:59 AM | Ew, farting
I was waiting for the bus at work and this pilot was standing there and farted
I felt like asking him if he saved that just for me
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Posted: 4/16/2007 11:32:35 AM | | badgirl, if you are sitting around waiting for your man to take control everytime, sex will eventually become routine, because you are giving him total responsibility of the actual sex act. They figure you like it that way because you haven't shown them anything else, so they do what is familiar. Men appreciate a woman who is creative and assertive in bed. I've never met one that complained about it. If both partners play a part in initiating sex, you will have a more satisfying and less boring sex life. Think about it, if you are willing to be allowed to be bent into any position and am always willing to have sex, you really can't be too shy, so don't let those negative voices get inside your head when you start to initiate sex. What could be the worse thing he could do? I doubt he is going to refuse a sexy woman's advances. Plus it is an ego boost for him... you think he is so sexy you can't help yourself and want him now. Men can't read our minds, so they are happy when we let them know what we like. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2007 2:43:08 PM | djsendsasmile: I think I will chalk it up to one bad experience, only one man in my life has ever made an issue of it. Maybe it's a rejection issue that I haven't really been made aware of until that point or maybe it was just me wanting to be innocent in the same breath. I'm not really sure. We'll see in any relationship I may have in the future, I'll have to pull up my socks and brave it. I like someones idea on here about a phrase or sign...then I don't have to come out feeling aggressive.
Perhaps 0.1% of guys are having sex three times or more every day for any extended period of time with their partner, furthermore only 1 or 2% are either humanly capable of performing or interested in routinely performing that frequency of sex acts for an extended period of time.
Are these facts? I think I have dated the whole 0.01% of men that are fully capable of having sex 3 times a day and sometimes even more!!
When one posts a vague thread topic like "Sex...", there really isn't much else to deduce other than sex is most important aspect of a relationship for the OP. If it weren't, why mention "I am the type that likes it all the time"; a more appropriate thread title might be "I'm shy, help me learn how to communicate my relationship needs to my partner".
Because it was the basis of THIS topic does not make it my main priority in a relationship. I can grasp the other events that take place in my relationships, this just happened to be one event that I wanted others opinions on. Everyone expresses themselves differently and your words are obviously not ones I chose to use but it still made the same point!!
If he can't provide minimum performance, and that is a deal breaker, dump him and start a new relationship with a new partner.
I would never dump someone because the sex life needed some spice and nowhere was it posted as a deal breaker for me. He could have been the most amazing lover and drive me wild but there is a point when you start following the same routine. Still enjoyable, just the same day-to-day. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 12:27:08 AM | It's all about finding someone you *click* with and have that hot chemistry with and be comfortable to be yourself around. I've noticed that younger guys are pretty good if you want sex more than once a day. Guys your/our own age are hit & miss and usually want sex, or just a bj if they've been drinking which can be a waste of time usually. Older guys are good at pleasing a woman as long as they get a little sumptin' sumptin' in return too. But that's just my experience with men. And showering with a man is such a turn on for both people involved! Hot, wet, slippery, clean... Well you get the picture. hehe
I was fortunate to find an attractive, charming, intelligent (for the most part, lol) Aussie 3 years my junior who is as sexually charged as I am. We both love sex and had no problem waking each other up with it or in the middle of a Sunday afternoon while cuddling in front of a movie. If the mood hit us, we got our groove on. It's about not being shy to initiate what feels good for each other. Some days he would take me in the living room and most days I'd wake him up about an hour before the alarm clock was set to go off for a little wake up call of my own. He loved that! We always would start our day off with a smile. 
Chemistry, passion & good communication make for a good relationship and a great sex life with that special someone.
As for passing gas... We had this rule that if you were gonna pass gas, do it in the bathroom! Or at least in a different room! I had a friend who didn't fart in front of her bf for nearly 2 years of their relationship! Now that's dedication. I think it has to do with one another's comfort level with each other and themselves. And if gas escapes in the heat of the moment, you can always just giggle or ignore it and carry on! We're only human!
Now if only he wasn't back in Australia. *sigh* | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 6:52:46 AM | | It has to be a communication thing just reading through this. I know when i find myself in the act I am completely wishing I could lead the scene like bad girl is wishing and willing for but my head spins with what is she going to say how is she going to repsond questions. I find that even after diologue not in the bedroom there is a strong inhibition to take that step of faith and do the new thing | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 7:11:43 AM | you know badgirl
i was reading through this forum and it seems many and maybe even more had comments aimed at you for your great sexual appetite and openness to talk about it rather than your question at hand. to me as a healthy gentleman that would never excrete bodily functions in a womens precense i think all fo us as men would dream of your type as a partner and yet it definitely intimidates many. those men it intimidates definitly have issues stemming form outside the bedroom and need to look at putting those issues aside and be fulfilling to their partner what ever that may be and those women who seem to be softly throwing darts also have their issues on the matter and quite frankly probably have sex issues period. In short we are all slightly different in our sexual approaches and when we come accross the path of one who has it together and ours is not as good we either evy, learn form or look to drag down. so good for him whoever your him is and hope you find that him who is what you need as i know it is a shame to end up with a partner who reads form a different book when it comes to the sex life | |
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Posted: 4/18/2007 9:13:52 AM | cooaach : Loved your posts, kind of the response I was looking to hear...thanks!!  | |
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