| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/23/2007 7:03:25 AM | People I do have a question and I do understand where a lot are coming from with thier posts on this. The question is this. Now if a person states they are divorce or they are widowed in what part of that do they become not single. it has been my understanding that if a person goes thru the proper state of the LAW and receive the papers stating that they are no longer attached to the one they had been bound to by a wedding then they were in fact single again. Now I said I understand from the posts that it is felt that they have lied to some degree. Yes to a small fraction of the meaning they have but then again they haven't. They are no longer attached legally to the one they had been married to. So with the papers in hand they are according to the papers my mother and father as well as my brother and sisters had they were by law single in the terms of not being married any longer. I realize that there may be bagage from the marriage and there may be other factors involved from the past marriage but generally speaking they are single. Now a person that is separated is a different matter. that word alone says it all. until the divorce is entered into and aquired then they are still married even tho they are still going for the divorce. This is my opinion on this one. I have one sister that is separated and has been for over fifteen years. she would tell you in a heart beat she is single and then tell you that she remains married just so she does not have to worry about entering into marriage again. This is the same for her ex as well. I personallly don't agree to this but it is not my life and I am not involved so what ever works for them and the ones they are involved with. Now if a person states they are single and are still married just trying to and excuse this just aquire booty then I feel they should just state they are after an intimate relationship and be done with it. I have read several profiles of ladies that have stated they are married and they are looking for a meeting with either ladies or guys for that reason alone. In my profile i state long term and I choose that for a reason. I came to the site for the forums and a friend told me of the site and she has since met a guy here at POF and they have been together for quite a while now. last accounts I had it has been over a year and almost a half now. she came for friends and met him and it has become more and I wish them well on it. I as stated use long term leaving it open. Since I am not opposed to going into a long term relationship. I am by no means dumb enough to back off from one if things are going well. Either way if it never works out i still have a friend that I would never have had had I not met this person. Being single and never married does have a few advantages. to name one is I take my time no matter what and I am sure as to what I am seeking. I am also very picky as to who I write. I admit that when writing to a lady I have never written to before that I sometimes get lost as to what to say but I deal with it. I am as well the same in person at times. believe me on this when a lady gets to know me and I them then they would wish for the time when i was somewhat shy and lost for words. sorry for the rambling people have a good one.
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/23/2007 12:28:12 PM | Moundpuppy ... and others.
Where my observations comes from is in the actual POF form that is filled out.
The POF form itself differentiates between single and divorced and seperated and widowed etc etc.
It is very clear that it is not up to individual beliefs or interpretations.
Just fill out the form; honestly; it's not that hard. There will be plenty of time and occasions for people to explain their belief systems.
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/23/2007 12:53:01 PM | "if a person goes thru the proper state of the LAW and receive the papers stating that they are no longer attached to the one they had been bound to by a wedding then they were in fact single again. Now I said I understand from the posts that it is felt that they have lied to some degree."
The legal definition, and of single is never married = EVER.
If you are widowed or divorced, all documents (especially tax dept. paperwork, passport etc.) must be filled out with your marital status being widowed or divorced.
If you file legal document and list yourself as another other than your legal marital status it is fraud. | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/23/2007 1:16:27 PM | I have sinned. I have been married before and I have willfully filled out an official POF form incorrectly. I shall now go hang myself from the tree behind my home – assuming, of course, that I have a home and have not lied about that as well.
Oh, the shame ... 
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:12:35 AM | I thought the title of this thread was "Single (never married at all) men over 45". At least that's what I was posting about; my personal experiences with some men over 45 and single for their entire lives. How did the discussion devolve into lying about marital status?
I know I am just a hillbilly boy at heart, but confirmed bachelors are probably not the type with which to look for a long term relationship. But then again neither is a liar! :-) | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 8:03:48 AM | | Timothy...........I don't think the label 'confirmed batchelor' really fits guys in a dating web site. Most of us (I am one), that are 45+ and never married clearly state that we just haven't met the woman that we want to spend our life with. If I were dead set against marriage, ( I hope to get married some time - preferably sooner than later) I wouldn't be taking up space in a dating site. | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 8:45:18 AM | CG, why not contribute to the thread before throwing out one liners?
Quite often two or three thoughts are discussed in a thread....this one has two going....
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Experiences of single men who have never been married and
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the true defination of single and comments on that.
To try and control the conversation on a forum such as this is like arresting a pedophile for having binocoulars.
I'm just glad there are some people out here that are ignoring the jabs and telling us what they are really think .
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 9:02:49 AM |
CG, why not contribute to the thread before throwing out one liners?
I did, Tuka, contribute to your thread in the early pages of it in the same way that I usually do with threads that strike my interest -- offering my comments as best as I could. When the thread went down the second path (as you've noted) relating to my own preferences in how I fill out my profile, I guess I 'lost it'. Apologies I suppose are in order, and I will admit that it was not the wisest thing to do. In my own defense, I'll say that I don't lose it that often, but there comes a time (I believe) with everyone in issues that become 'personal' that they reach a point when they've just had enough. In hindsight, I guess following my own preachings and backing out of the thread and simply not reading it further would have been the best idea. Not much we can do for things already written (or said) though, is there ?? ... except to say 'sorry'.
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 1:53:15 PM | Personnally I think single and divorced are one and the same.
I totally disagree with that!!!!!!
That would be like saying widowed/widower are the same as single.
Single means never been married..
Divorced means had a marrage and it ended. Who's fault is another story. | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:52:34 PM | Some people just enjoy their independence in life and get engaged with life that surrounds them, and don’t feel the need to get engage with just one person…I think.  | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:59:20 PM |
"they reach a point when they've just had enough"
I have.
My right hand is a better partner than most of these women.
I'd rather play pool than****with this stupidity. | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 5:00:32 PM | | You should probably check your inbox immediately. My guess is that it's jam-packed with women wanting to meet the man behind such deep thoughts. | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/24/2007 7:53:35 PM | For those of you just above my post that find it worthwhile to post that this forum has become not worthwhile to them, why on earth would you continue to post?
That I do not get....
It is called freedom of speech.... whoops opinions | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:47:35 AM | | Actually CND Guy....you are quite funny and interesting to me. Your comments have given me a different perspective on the use of "single". Someone mentioned the government definition and while I agree with them...I'm glad we don't always have to follow government procedure! It seems to me that at some time after divorce, you can be single again. Tuka | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:58:13 AM | Darling, some people are bored and when they return to a thread to see if anyone has told their story and it's boring....they are disappointed and tend to get flip.
To me, there is no real point in getting critical over something you cannot change or if it is no longer interesting but many feel slighted or gypped if they aren't taken seriously, some respond with humor....some with bordom, some with anger, most just change threads.
Life is too short to be snippy on the net...too bad so many are snippy. But then....it tells you quite a bit about their true nature.
It's my theory the internet forums are like talking to a person who has had a few drinks....their inhibitions are lowered, they will speak as they really are. Very scintillating behavior at times....I love to read body lanuage and cannot do it here so forum "talk" is a study in itself....I guess that's why I'm here too. | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/25/2007 1:46:06 PM | seems that my question caused a problem amoung some of the posters. Excuse me but I will not go and get off trac again. no worries since I am well over 45 and never married and from what i have seemed to find out i am single to the bone. ok nuff said later
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/25/2007 2:06:09 PM |
I have sinned. I have been married before and I have willfully filled out an official POF form incorrectly. I shall now go hang myself from the tree behind my home – assuming, of course, that I have a home and have not lied about that as well.
oh fess up cdn guy, we know you are living in a cardboard fridge box on the side of the highway with a pigeon for a pet. There's no trees back there.
Say after me... D-I-V-O-R-C-E-D....c'mon you can do it! Its really not such a stigma anymore...honest. Besides you know what they say about those dreaded single never married people. *shivers* | |
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| Single (never married at all) men over 45
Posted: 4/25/2007 2:21:36 PM | OK, OK, you win.
I am d-d-d-d ... d-d-div-v-v-v ... div-v-v-v ...
I was once m-m-m-m ... m-m-mar-r-r ... marr-r-r-r-r ...
What ?!? ...
I can say it. I just can’t type it. Honest.
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| why do people remain single at all?WTF?
Posted: 4/26/2007 2:17:14 PM | I have remained single because of women just like you;those that will apparently just "settle "to be married.They will marry anything just to keep from being labeled single,an old maid,etc.If you are so happily married,why are you posting?Or,if waiting until you were 31 was so wise,WHY are you no longer married? There you go.
WTF kind of question is that to even ask? have you matured enough to settle into yet ANOTHER marriage? Go ahead and marry 3 or 4 times until you get it right.
Better yet WAIT until you are sure it is the right one/time AND only then take the leap.
That would at least keep your number of marriages to a minimum. I doubt that.
Perhaps not.You read as if you are unable to live alone AND happy.SAD SAD.
Hey I know-maybe you should never marry at all and have a bunch of street urchin kids that ALL have a different last name.That seems to be the newest trend among women like you. | |
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