| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/16/2007 5:43:49 PM | Got one word for you:
Roller coaster
Yep, when it is all said, done and over with, you will likely throw up!
Now if that happens, go ahead and cry now, because that was love… 
But if you haven't yet, don't forget to eat light, you just never know when that moment will come…
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Tramp
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/16/2007 6:57:56 PM | matisse808, you cannot control love, if you do it is not love.
It a feeling not a Thing.
If you go nuts when in love, happy, the rose bloom by themselves, ....you are at peace...yes, as some one before me said, you really know when it is gone. | |
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Tramp
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:04:53 PM | Sorry about the mispellings.
"I tend to not love someone who doesn't also love me".
I do not remember who wrote this above.
If you do that, you are not in love, or, do not know yet what love is; cannot measure it, ... it just happens. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:33:32 PM | When you are at peace with whatever that person does ... even if it makes you mad for a momemt. When you want to be with no one else, and no one else makes you feel like you do with that particular person. When at the end of a long day, you want to lay in that person's arms and just melt away. When that person hurts, you also hurt. When they smile at you, your heart melts. When you're willing to make sacrifices and not feel resentful. When you're away from them, you can't wait to see them again. When you can honestly put your own wants/needs aside to please them. When songs you hear, places you see, remind you of them. When you can just be in silence and know that conversation is really going on ... it's just not spoken. When you look at them, you feel warm, safe, secure as if nothing else mattered. When you don't have to have intercourse to "make love". When you can talk to them about ANYthing or about nothing and still get the same feelings inside. When you know you can go on living wihtout them ... you just don't want to. It's having a best friend, a confidant, and a lover all in one person.
If you have to question whether you are in love or not ....I'd say you're not. Lust, deep like, strong attachment, whatever you choose to call it. Love is known in the heart. And yes ... tho it may seem "cliche" ... when you know ..... YOU JUST KNOW | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/16/2007 7:59:31 PM |
I usually know...well...if the thought of picturing that person with someone other than me tears me up, then BAM! I'm in love. Hmm… and I would say if you really loved her, that wouldn’t matter. You would trust her. It wouldn’t matter who she’s with because you know in your heart that she’s with you.
You can tell if you are in love if anytime you are near that person your heart pounds very fast. My heart beats very fast sometimes when I find myself within inches of a gorgeous woman at work… I think that’s chemistry, which is different.
I tend to become bloated and gassy um… I' pretty sure that’s something else, too.
I think love is a lot of things rolled up in one… chemistry, desire, affection, sexuality, warmth... all of that for sure… but it’s mostly (and I’m talking here about deep, abiding, romantic love) about knowing, trusting, respecting and honouring each other. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/16/2007 8:10:50 PM | Butterflies in your stomach, a smile on your face when you think about him, a blush
when someone asks, "What are you thinking about?" The thought of how it feels when
he touches you, the gentle kiss on your neck, the wispered words in your and knowing
that you can't wait until you get home to him!  mthr | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/17/2007 6:34:00 AM | I thank everyone who has responded. Lots of great insite. To the one who said I am moving too fast. I don't think so. The one I fell in love with said he loved me too but after a while he realized he still had feelings for his soon to be ex wife. I respect that but we stayed friends. It is so hard for me to be friends when I have such strong feelings for him. We never slept together so its not lust. We have such a strong bond between us its hard to even explain into words. His mother even said for me to be patient and wait. I don't know what to do. I have been meeting other guys and not putting all my eggs in one basket, no pun intended. I have waited several months and I just can't keep waiting. Its a very complicated story. If anyone wants to know more I will share. I know it was love based on answers from this thread. It did not happen over night and we both knew that was something very strong between us that neither one of us expected.
Bonnie | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/17/2007 11:00:38 AM | There's one thing I havn't seen here.......and it's important even if only as a warning.
You CAN love someone.....and even be "in love" with them......and they could STILL
not be "the one". It's very hard to be sure of your feelings, but it's even tougher, but
just as important, to be sure of the feelings of your SO. Believe me.....you DON'T
want to be in a one-sided "love thing". | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/17/2007 12:09:58 PM | Allright, you want a real answer?
Ever heard of the song "All the way" Frank Sinatra...
Should you ever be so fortunate to find that, forget the 'eating light' part...
wink: | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/17/2007 1:05:09 PM | I cant remember who in this post said it
but its heavy chested, its deliriously wonderful, it painful, its a roller coaster, its unnerving and overwhelming, its butterflies and deep sighs .. but most of all u feel a thousand feet tall and they make ya feel so wanted ....ahhhh love | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/17/2007 9:29:41 PM | Love and Infatuation/lust can seem VERY similar and are difficult to tell apart until the following things tip the scales in favour of love:
- You can compromise on things (not your core values though) that you thought you couldn't when you were single because you know it means a lot (or everything) to him and his happiness.
- You don't rely on him to "entertain" you anymore like when you were dating. When you're in love, even sharing mundane, day-to-day things feel right and are satisfying because you are together.
- You can be totally open, vulnerable, and just be yourself without worrying he'll leave you.
- You can clearly see all of his faults, flaws and shortcomings but you want to stay with him anyway. Some of those faults even seem endearing (awww) and cute because to you, that's what makes him unique (if you think this way, you have it bad, - it's true love for sure, lol).
- You can accept and be nice to all the people in his life that are important to him even though they annoy you to no end.
- You can let him live his own life without trying to control him, let him find his joys, and want to be there to support him in all his endeavours.
And lastly, which is my own personal story:
- You can let him say the most difficult thing you ever had to hear in your life. That he's dying and not ever going to recover and that you must get on with your life, find love again, and be happy with another man. If you can promise to do that and let him go with love and dignity and not see him ever again in his last dying months (because that was his wish), THEN THAT IS TRUE LOVE.
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/17/2007 9:59:07 PM | Love (at least the romantic kind) is something that two people create. You both have to have the strong feelings before you can actually get to the point of falling in love with the other person. If one has the feelings and the other doesn't, then you just like them a lot. If it goes beyond that it becomes obsession and stalking.  | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/17/2007 10:05:18 PM | OP, apparently only the good folks who publish dictionaries have a handle on the "practical" definition of what love is, but I don't think any two people out there have the same exact definition of love from an emotional perspective. The ones who come close however, tend to stick it out together, or so it would seem.
As for me, there are a number of ways I can tell I am in love, and it's the absence of those same things that tell me when I have fallen out of love, or the love has died. When I find I am not happy going to sleep at night with her angry at me, or me angry at her, I know I am in love. When I find my thoughts drifting to how something might affect her, rather than how it might affect me, I know I am in love. When I am out and about in town running errands, and I never seem to be able to leave a shop without picking up some silly trinket to present her with the next time I see her, I know I am in love. When I am in a room of a 100 strangers all holding their own conversations, when the noise level is deafening, and the only sound I hear is the soft purr of the breath she takes between her words, I know I am in love. Only had the good fortune to feel that way a few times in my life, but oh what a feeling. Good Luck!
Have fun ;)! | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/18/2007 3:46:56 AM | Is there any such thing as love?
You can love someone but not be in love.
I have never experienced being in love, only lust.
But im sure if it exists and im still giggling with my partner at a ripe old age,
being inseperable, still kissing each other on the cheek before bed
and telling them you love them.
then that will be real love.
and yes, i have a mighty long way to go, before i can tell you when that will be pmsl... | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/18/2007 5:46:54 AM | Many of you have a close or the same belief to what "love" is and it would seem that many of you have mistaken "Lust" for "Love". Lust as in desire, want, long for, yearn and so on. These are feelings you have for someone you crave. They are also, I am ashamed to say, very selfish emotions we get and can be precieved incorrectly. Love is not what you get, love is what you DO.
I met an old lady working in her garden one day and we got to talking. The conversation quickly got around to her garden. There were many vibrant and beautiful coloured flowers and inviting shaded trees to rest under upon the lush green grass. It was a pleasure to see and a joy to be there. It brought on an inner peace and a desire to never leave. "I love your garden." I said expecting the old lady to say thank you. "No, you don't," she replied instead, "you get a feeling of enjoyment from the garden but you don't love it." The old lady turned her friendly face towards mine and saw my confussion and continued saying, "Love is not what you get but what you do." She could see I was still confused so she added, "I love my garden." she said with a smile, "This garden is beautiful and it makes my heart fill with joy to be here. But what if I were to come here to get this feeling but I did nothing to help keep the garden as beautiful as it is? I just come here expecting to have my heart filled with joy and I let the weeds grow and I never water the plants. What if I demand more from the garden and started to take flowers and plants away with me? What would eventually happen to the garden? Would it be the beautiful place as I first found it?" I started to understand the old lady so I let her finish by saying, "I love my garden! Love is what I am willing to do to help keep the beauty and joy I have found here."
The old lady is right! Love is what we are willing to do for someone. If we find someone of beauty that fills our heart with joy we should do all we can to allow them to grow. Same goes for all those we love from family to freinds. Just look at a mother's love as a great example, a mother does not take, she gives and protects. Love is helping and allowing others to bloom and grow. Love is not what we desire. Love is what we do.
But the question to this thread was "How do you tell you are in love".... Well, when you want to DO things for someone. This is also how you tell if someone loves you cos if they just take take take and never give, well, that's a selfish act and not an act of love.
Look in everyone's hearts and you will see there is a garden. (There's a song in that somewhere, lol) | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/20/2007 4:08:14 PM | First you have to understand that "Love" is a lot bigger word than you might think it is. On top of that, like is a pretty good word to start with.
What I don't understand is, why do so many people try to skip over "like"? | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/20/2007 4:45:11 PM | There are moments when I feel it deep within my heart, its almost like my heart swells. Cant really explain it, and it doesnt always happen, but when it does I can feel it internally.
Also when I look at him I just see him as perfect, and I just want to grab him and kiss him! And I cant imagine my life without him in it. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/20/2007 5:23:57 PM | Interesting question . . . When do you know?
Love simply “Dawns” on me like some sort of a “Gotcha” experience. I constantly take a regular assessment of where I am, who I am, and how I am emotionally, as I am a very intuitive person. The notion that I am in love eludes me rarely, almost never flying under my radar screen; most times, I maintain an acute awareness of my feelings, and I track that blip until it finally overwhelms me like a beast on a mission from God.
People speak of the extreme joy the state being in of love brings. My experience is quite different. While in the grasp of that beast, I feel like a rope with a knot in the mouth of an energetic, happy dog, with my emotions being whipped unmercifully against any convenient object. The experience leaves my emotions drained and my soul exhausted as if subjected to a meat tenderizer.
As I age, I have learned to catalogue those experiences in hopes of minimizing my vulnerabilities, but once again I feel chewed upon by my inner beast. It DOES make me feel like an ol' gnawed bone, doesn’t it?
Soup anyone? | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/20/2007 6:01:49 PM | Hey sister
I have recently loved someone to the extent that I allowed abuse in all ways, my fault, loved him so much, to many fairy tales in my childhood saying if you fight the dragons or even love them, good will always win..... doesnt always happen,,,,but still....I hope! | |
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