| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/20/2007 10:14:53 PM | I firmly firmly firmly believe that love is a SHARED experience. I've only ever been "in love" when also I've also believed that I was loved in return. For me it's about experiencing real acceptance, believing that someone treasures me and REVELING in that feeling, because I treasure him too. But part of treasuring him, is knowing that he treasures me. If you see what I mean.
The rest is infatuation, lust, excitment, anticipation, longing for intimacy, whatever. But to me, the depth of feeling and bonding that we call "love" CAN'T be felt by just one person in a relationship, at least in its genesis. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:37:07 PM | I met someone on here, and had a great time.... even chatted awhile before we met.
I felt as if I was living a dream... (ever been there?)
Anyway, I was able to make it thru the night...Dancing, talkin, drinks... (if this is what star struck is like for celebrity fans... I concede!) And went home on a cloud, continued to chat on-line the next days.... Then I felt my hear sink, as she vanished from POF one night. Not sure if it was love or something else... but Iwas Happy! 
For me below, is as close as anyone can describe the feeling of real love.... And I have never been that deep in love myself yet!.
Title: Have You Ever Really Loved A Woman?
To really love a woman
To understand her - you gotta know her deep inside
Hear every thought - see every dream
N' give her wings - when she wants to fly
Then when you find yourself lyin' helpless in her arms
Ya know ya really love a woman
When you love a woman you tell her
that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
Cuz she needs somebody to tell her
that it's gonna last forever
So tell me have you ever really
- really really ever loved a woman?
To really love a woman
Let her hold you -
til ya know how she needs to be touched
You've gotta breathe her - really taste her
Til you can feel her in your blood
N' when you can see your unborn children in her eyes
Ya know ya really love a woman
When you love a woman
you tell her that she's really wanted
When you love a woman you tell her that she's the one
Cuz she needs somebody to tell her
that you'll always be together
So tell me have you ever really -
really really ever loved a woman?
You got to give her some faith - hold her tight
A little tenderness - gotta treat her right
She will be there for you, takin' good care of you
Ya really gotta love your woman... | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:46:42 PM |
The rest is infatuation, lust, excitment, anticipation, longing for intimacy, whatever.
Oh ABN, I am so disappointed you feel that way (or that anyone would for that matter). You say this as though those things aren't also a huge part of being in love and aren't as equally important. or desirable, when you are in love. And yes it is entirely possible to love someone else and not have that love returned, we wouldn't have the term "unrequited love" if such did not exist. It is certainly not the most desirable of situations, but it can and does happen nonetheless. Granted, I will give you that it is far far better thing to be loved, than not, but it doesn't lessen all the nice things that go along with it, in either case. Good Luck!
Have fun ;)! | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:49:18 PM | | BONBONS- If you don't know if you are in love, Then you're not. If you're in love, You will definatly know. There is nothing else in the world like love. Its vaster than anything you have ever felt before. You can have strong feelings for many people, But love is a different feeling. Just relax and give yourself time, If you try to rush into love with just someone, You will never BE in love. Just let it happen. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:54:56 PM | | I need (two) things: an amazing physcial desire for them (chemistry), and similar life activities. Also, you can write down the good and bad things about the relationship, and if you see a huge good list, and a short bad list, then it may be true love. But if the good list only includes "awesome sex", and the bad list has: he won't take me around his friends, he says he is busy alot, he calls me when he is drunk late at nite, he is dirty and smelly, he lists "video games" and "hanging out" as his interests on POF (and he is over 18 assumedly), he has a lot of "female friends", won't let you change the channel, demands food when he gets home, says "WTf did you do all day", then it probably isn't love. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/25/2007 4:42:44 PM | | I just knew cuz of the fact that noone had ever treated me the way he does before. It was the most wonderful feeling I had ever felt. I think about him 24/7 and want to talk to him and be around him ever waking min of the day. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/25/2007 4:46:59 PM | | Also we met on this site and talked for 12 hrs straight and didnt even know that much time had gone by. We found out we had so much in common and still to this day after 6 months still find things we have in common every day. Not to mention we think so much alike all the time. Now that is what I consider REAL LOVE! | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/25/2007 4:50:38 PM | | Imagine spending the rest of your life with him, day in , day out.....and don't lie to yourself . Imagine all the possible ups and downs that can happen in Life, and imagine spending them all with him. Imagine, the worse possible thing that could happen, would you still be there for each other. Know, that you cannot change them, do you love them for waht they are? If you can see that, than maybe you have love. There are lots of different kinds of love, but it takes a special one to make a life long partner. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:42:01 PM | | It's hard to tell at first. A lot of men excite me because they are exciting. Once the initial newness wears down (usually takes 3-4 months), I will be able to tell if the excitement is still there. I'm sure I could rule him out after the first meeting, if he isn't right for me. Many guys have nice ways and this is confusing. I find sometimes when I really get to see how the person acts and how they treat others, they turn me off completely. | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/25/2007 6:47:10 PM | When two people love each other, they come together - WHAM - like two taxis on Broadway.
~Stella from “Rear Window” | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/30/2007 6:39:49 AM | Well I personally don't believe in falling in love Sure theres chemistry, attraction ,mutual lust,compatibility,friendship and affection which all are described as love but loving someone is a slow process which requires the will and time to really know them.
I have a theory that we can only LOVE ourselves And people that become a part of us
most of the answers on here i dont think describe love i think they are more a description of one or a combination of the other things i mention the one that stood out was
You'll know you are in love when everything he does stops being less cute and more annoying but you still can't see being without him./her
And hears another one
When you are at peace with whatever that person does ... even if it makes you mad for a moment. When you want to be with no one else, and no one else makes you feel like you do with that particular person. When at the end of a long day, you want to lay in that person's arms and just melt away. When that person hurts, you also hurt. When they smile at you, your heart melts. When you're willing to make sacrifices and not feel resentful. When you're away from them, you can't wait to see them again. When you can honestly put your own wants/needs aside to please them. When songs you hear, places you see, remind you of them. When you can just be in silence and know that conversation is really going on ... it's just not spoken. When you look at them, you feel warm, safe, secure as if nothing else mattered. When you don't have to have intercourse to "make love". When you can talk to them about ANYthing or about nothing and still get the same feelings inside. When you know you can go on living wihtout them ... you just don't want to. It's having a best friend, a confidant, and a lover all in one person.
in short I dont think we can ever know that we are in love . till one day when all that other stuff is in the past then we shall know if we have been in love | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/30/2007 8:16:40 AM | Here's a few thoughts on love that I find to be the closest words can come to describing, the indescribable
Love is that which is without condition, without limitation, and without need.
Because it is without condition, it required nothing to be expressed. It asks nothing in return. It withdraws nothing in retaliation.
Because it is without limitation, it places no limitation on another. It knows no ending, but goes on forever. It experiences no boundary or barrier.
Because it is without need, it seeks to take nothing not freely given. It seeks to hold nothing not wishing to be held. It seeks to give nothing not joyously welcomed.
And it's free. Love is that which is free, for freedom is the essence of what God is, and love is God, expressed.
Unfortunately VERY few people really understand love. They say "I love you" but don't understand the meaning of t he words. The understand what it means to NEED another, to WANT something from another, and they're probably willing to give something in return for what they NEED/WANT. But this is not love... it's a trade off. Next Feb 14, get a card that says "I trade you very much!" Cause that's what most of us are doing. You make my dinner, and I'll go to work and buy the food. You hold me, and I'll hold you back. I'll buy you a ring, and you'll have sex with me.
Even if you manage to eliminate need from you relationship(s), you will probably still struggle with expectations (I know I do.) This is a state in which you have an idea that someone else in your life is to preform in a certain way, is going to show up as who you think they are, or who you think they should be.
Like need, expectation is deadly. Expectation reduces freedom, and freedom is the essence of love.
When you love someone, you grant them total freedom to be who they are, for this is the greatest gift you give them, and love always gives the greatest gift.
The butterflies, and heart pounding stuff a lot of people have written about here, sound more like fear and anxiety than love. Fear of rejection. Fear is the opposite of love.
LOVE JUST IS
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/30/2007 9:51:28 AM | | I know...sometimes I think I'm in love with "being in love"...so many different types of love..it's confusing...I find the "crazy in love head over heels love-sick" kinda love the hardest...painful but deep | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 4/30/2007 11:43:16 AM | | I have found that kind of love to be lust nothing less nothing more . not to say that true love cannot be built on lust . but all im saying is that you get those feelings when a relationship is new and you cant love what you dont know and you cant know someone fully for some time | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 5/10/2007 5:45:46 PM | (I have been here before) It is a feeling you get...
when you see her,
when you smell her,
when you touch her,
when you hold her,
when you hear her,
and when you miss her..... that you would do anything for her. 
Because when she is there with you..... you find a new you, you did not know. 
...and when she is not there..... you are miserable, and feeling lost from her leaving for more than a day. But you are anxious for her to return so you can be the other guy, you forgot you can be.  | |
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| How can you tell if your in love?
Posted: 5/10/2007 5:51:31 PM | I believe it's different for many people. We are all individuals so our experiences are naturally going to be different. The initial things are the same: the giddiness, the butterflies... that goes without saying.. The true meaning of love? Isn't that the million dollar question!!!! | |
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