| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/16/2007 10:21:32 PM | (to the OP)
Nope.
Just don't be like that for a racist attitude like you think other races are insults and a blemish to the otherwise pure human race.
You're attracted to what you're attracted to.
You "may" be called shallow, maybe (like say you happen to find the dude of your dreams... but say he's not white. You're screwed). But you're allowed to like what you like. | |
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Atie
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/19/2007 10:01:40 PM | Having a preference for a certain ethnic group, or staying away from a certain ethnic group all comes down to one thing really...
We are attaching certain characteristics to that person based on their group membership.... saying... You belong to this group, so therefore you MUST be like this.
Qualities and traits are HUMAN qualities.
When we attach certain quality to someone because of their group membership/ethnic group, we indeed rob people's right to their individuality.
No, I don't think there is anything wrong with your preferance, but consider what monster you are feeding.... the ugly moster - stereotyping... that same moster that has probably stereotyped you as a latina woman and expects you to be a "certain way".
I personally will not be categorized, and will not choose who I date/not date based purely on one's so called "ethnicity". | |
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:52:43 PM | What the hell does it matter what anyone thinks?
Your preference is your preference.
I grew up in a town in NY predominantly Italian. Parents would influence kids on who they should date or should not.
One of my friends was in love with this Latino girl and she with him. His parents showed their displease. So much that ultimatums were issued. Well ..it eventually broke the two up.
I know this may sounds like something out of west side story but its not.
My friend married a girl that his folks approved of and divorced a few years later. He remarried to another after that and was divorced from that one also.
After his second marriage he found this Latino girl, she also was single. They ended up dating and getting married.
I asked John what happened with his parents. He told me he had a long talk with his mom and dad and told them how unhappy he had been and that he gave up his chance of happiness for them. He told them if this was how it was going to be then he was taking the ultimatum.
Well his parents eventually got over it and accepted that his happiness was more important.
He has a great family now. One to be envious over. What even more amazing is how his mother and father had taken to this woman that they barred from their son, only because she was not white or Italian.
op . After reading this I hope it inspires you to know eventually your happiness can shine threw and be accepted.
Even when others that are important in your life may not understand.
If you continue to worry about what others think you may be to busy worrying, and miss a chance to be truly happy.
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/20/2007 2:00:09 AM | OP asks: is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
I hope not!...lol...I sure is hell don't think it is. I will date women of all types however!
Latino, ohhhhhhh dear....I am a sucker for all of you!...I know another white guy,
lol...and he likes you Hispanic girls as well and as we say, you are truly "hot"
that is what you do to me, you and your skin tone and Latin eyes and your accents...
You are a gorgeous woman....
So, I hope that every Latino woman in the world starts having a preference for us whity boys....
so no no no no, your not wrong...lol... | |
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:21:20 AM |
Does anyone think it is wrong for me to have a preferance for white men even though I'm latina?
Lol - I don't think so. Considering the fact my my mom is Mexican and my dad's a white-ass brit, I see nothing wrong with mixing ethicities. Seriously, if that's what you find attractive, then stick with it. If anyone gives you grief, just tell 'em to worry about keeping their own shite together instead of worrying about yours.
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Atie
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/20/2007 12:32:27 PM | Atie said it best Are you feeding in to sterotype based on ethnicty. Your robbing everyone of the individuality. Are you speaking for all latin women. JUst say your preference. Its been my experience that Latin people are very big hypocrites even to there own people based on ethnicty. Its ridiculous. Everybody here is looking at it one way and not the big picture.
Atie quote:
Having a preference for a certain ethnic group, or staying away from a certain ethnic group all comes down to one thing really...
We are attaching certain characteristics to that person based on their group membership.... saying... You belong to this group, so therefore you MUST be like this.
Qualities and traits are HUMAN qualities.
When we attach certain quality to someone because of their group membership/ethnic group, we indeed rob people's right to their individuality.
No, I don't think there is anything wrong with your preferance, but consider what monster you are feeding.... the ugly moster - stereotyping... that same moster that has probably stereotyped you as a latina woman and expects you to be a "certain way".
I personally will not be categorized, and will not choose who I date/not date based purely on one's so called "ethnicity". | |
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:46:57 PM | | I don't think its wrong for any person to have a preference for any other ethnicity - ironically though - in toronto - I rarely see white guys with other ethnic groups with the exception of asian or indian women. To this date, I've never seen a latina or an african-canadian with a white guy, which leads me to suspect that women from these ethnic groups don't really dig us white guys! | |
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Atie
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Joined: 3/23/2007
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Atie
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/20/2007 9:15:22 PM | [No, I don't think there is anything wrong with your preferance, but consider what monster you are feeding.... the ugly moster - stereotyping... that same moster that has probably stereotyped you as a latina woman and expects you to be a "certain way".]
My monster is called "Physical Attraction", that's it, no sterotyping attached. My father is Mexican and I love hime too death and my two boys are half so to attach a sterotype would be degrating my children and I would never do that.
By the way you guys are great! Love the input! | |
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 4/20/2007 9:50:02 PM | Some people just need to open their minds a bit more.
Ignore that stuff, and get on with your life. You dont need those people or that crap, and there is nothing wrong with it.
I think everyone has a fairly good idea of their purpose in life, as well as what they want in a partner and their friends and how these people fit into that purpose too. There's no point in settling for any less, since it's not hard (just at times disheartening, frustrating or tedious) to find people who fit into your life appropriately.
Then again you also need to keep your mind open. I'm not saying this in a "whiteboys are the only guys" kind of way, but more in the "you are missing out on alot of great opportunities because some of the white guys you've dated dont fit small trivial things you want of them" | |
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:47:14 PM | | You're right pinupprincess...it is a preference! I prefer to date caucasian men as well and when guys ask me what type of guys I like thats what I say. I get a lot of emails from men who are offended that I wont date black or hispanic men. I think a lot of people (men or women) mistakenly assume that everyone should be given a fair shot in dating. Dating/Relationships are NOT like looking for a job or a working environment...you dont HAVE to give everyone an "equal opportunity." I wouldnt be opposed to dating hispanic men but I just havent met one recently that I have been attracted. Anyway, thats just my opinion and im sure I've offended someone with it already. Sorry thats just how I feel. | |
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| Is It Wrong for a Latina Women To Have A Preferance For Only White Men?
Posted: 7/1/2007 12:54:56 PM | Not if I'm the man. Seriously, there is everything right with being with a guy because you and he have common interests and values. Just understand that there is likely to be some cultural differences because he and you come from different backgrounds. As long as you are understanding about that, then you and he can get on.
Perhaps you are just not as interested in your latin culture as other women from your area. But don't be surprised if you meet a latin man who is also interested in the same things as you at your cousin's wedding, and who feels similarly about white women. | |
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