| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/10/2008 7:30:50 PM |
For example; Would it bother you if...
A woman instists on paying her half of the date?
Liked to drive 1/2 the time?
Made more money than you?
Would rather try to solve and issue herself before she would accept help?
Just curious about what men think on this...
Want to pay for half the date? Cool.
Make more money than me? Fine.
Want to do things for yourself? Good.
Want to drive half the time? Only if you're a good driver. Good drivers are harder to find than unicorns. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/10/2008 10:26:33 PM | I have been with a clingy woman who became independent, and an extremely independent woman who was so independent that she only called me basically when she wanted sex or was otherwise bored.
Strong independent women don't bother me particularly, I just prefer to be with someone who isn't so clingy that they can't operate on their own, and isn't so distant that I feel like a 7th thought. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/12/2008 7:30:28 AM | | I have no problem with any of the things OP mentioned. But if strong woman means one that says she doesn't need men in every other sentance, or continually puts down things men like, then forget it. Men should not be required to castrate themselves just to please women. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/21/2008 10:48:46 PM | I love emotionally strong women , who doesnt . I have met strong woman , but they always introduced themselves as sentimental, caring if anything ( she was a paramedic, just to let you know) .
Also noticed woman who introduced themselves as " strong" are usually deeply selfish , highly insecure , very egocentric and crumbling under the weight of chip on thier shoulder
And why the stress on Independant , arent all adults independant or supposed to be ? Any women into late 20s still getting allowance from mummy?
I am not trying to piss on anyone , just the truth that a strong woman should be able to handle like a lady if you are . | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 12:19:52 AM | ^^^^ kinda like this choice profile:
******** : looking for a short,fat bald guy
O.k. here is what I'm looking for: I'm looking for my future husband! Please do not apply if you are, angry, short, bald, have summer teeth, have a gaggle of children to pay child support for all from three different woman, hair growing out of your ears, on your back, a unabrow, a donelap belly, out of shape, on viagra, had a vasectomy, want to go dutch on all the dates, cheep, non-talkative,and make me decide where we should go for all our dates, agree to meet on the first date then back out and come up with a lame excuse like someone died in your family, obnoxiously text all day long to me like you have nothing better to do. There, that should about cover it.
First Date: Let's meet at Burger King | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 1:16:21 AM | | op, those 4 points you made sound reasonable, and i dont see them as a turn off, the lady can still be romantic, loving, passionate and love you very deeply. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 1:35:14 AM | They usually are the only kind I date.
Weak moronic women are a turn off.I know lots of men like them, but those guys are usually the macho dom types with very sexist views about women in general.
I could care less if a woman makes more then me or has more education. Someone usually does make more money. Why does it matter who?
I only care if I'm attracted to the woman and how she makes me feel when I'm with her and when I'm not. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 9:06:21 AM | Posted By: Ross PK on 4/22/2008 4 20 AM
Subject: Are strong independent women a turn off?
Message: Yeah, because it's more of a masculine characteristic than a feminine one.
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Huh? Is this guy saying that to be strong and independent is more of a masculine characteristic than a feminine one?
Even if it is statistically valid, does he think it matters in particular cases? If he hooks up with a woman, does he really prefer that she be weak and dependent?
What century are we living in? | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 12:41:38 PM | It depends.
I think it's great if a woman is strong and independent. I don't mind if the woman insists on paying her own half, changes her own oil fixes her own car etc. As long as she doesn't make a big deal about it or throws it in my face. In my experience many women I've encountered who deem themselves independent had big chips on their shoulders. They're overly defensive, constantly having to justify themselves incredibly stubburn, selfish, egocentric, and insecure These are the same Independent women who boast on about how they don't "need a man" this a huge turnoff. Men don't want to hear that sort of thing. and they wonder why they keep scaring guys off.
Nothing wrong with being independent and strong.
as long as she isn't a b*tch about it. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 1:23:41 PM | For example; Would it bother you if...
*A woman instists on paying her half of the date? Not at all. What has worked in the past is taking turns paying. Not keeping score, but trying to be fair.
*Liked to drive 1/2 the time? No problem, want to drive more?
*Made more money than you? Not unless she makes it an issue.
*Would rather try to solve andissue herself before she would accept help?
Willing to try to sovle your own problems, great.
Rufusing to accept help? Depends on the situation.
There is a difference between being independent and feeling the need to constantly prove your independence. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 1:40:44 PM | it's the type of indepence that's important.
i have met some people who use their independence as a barrier to keep others at bay; a protective wall to keep themselves from getting hurt. which can also kill a relationship before it's even had a chance to grow.
cultural upbringing is important too. some cultures seem to be more "traditional" in their male/female attitudes, and men growing up in such cultures will often find independence a bit unattractive.
you're best bet is to be yourself and wait for the right guy who isn't afraid of independence, rather than settle for someone by pretending to be someone you're not. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 1:43:32 PM | There is a difference between being independent and feeling the need to constantly prove your independence.
And hilariously, all the self proclaimed "strongly independent" women are the latter. | |
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| Are strong independent women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 2:41:48 PM | Like singer james, i bet he gets all the girls cause of his looks, wish i had good looks
Ha, I only wish......hey, I read about you in another thread in Ask A Girl. You're the whiney guy! | |
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| Are strong independant women a turn off?
Posted: 4/22/2008 7:39:47 PM | | Hmmm.... I'm strong, independent, but I still like to rely on a guy who gives an equal share of the same traits. Besides, isn't it a little tough having car sex if the female is doing the driving...? | |
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