| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/19/2007 9:18:36 PM | Sometimes people change, but it's rare for such a thing to work. My 3rd husband & I lived together for 4 years.
We separated for 3 years & got back together. I was imopressed by what I percieved as genuine changes &
maturity, during the years we were apart. Unfortunately, he changed right back into the lazy immature jerk, I'd
dumped in the first place! Live & learn!! | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:12:34 AM | its always a pleasure reading through these threads and coming across moon fish 
I have been back to an ex again and again and it always ends up back at square one so no more going back for me. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:14:39 AM |
its always a pleasure reading through these threads and coming across moon fish
I have been back to an ex again and again and it always ends up back at square one so no more going back for me.
Good for you.... :D | |
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Kengne
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Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 55 | |
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Posted: 4/20/2007 8:27:37 AM | no.
but maybe its bcuz i've always (ultimately) been the one to end things.
and once i move on, i move ONNNNN.
i find that time, distance and space always clears my mind
and reinforces the reason why i left in the first place.
so nope, never been back to an ex.
but if you feel like he - or you - made a mistake the first time around then def give it another go. just remember - things ended, FOR A REASON. and unless that reason changes or disappears, after the initial honeymoon phase things will prolly be back to what they were before. just be cautious.
K.  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/20/2007 9:50:13 AM | | Biggest mistake in the world to make even if for a one nighter! People once the umbilical cord is severed leave it that way! | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/20/2007 2:45:43 PM | | Been there, tried it, done it. If it didn't work the first time it ain't gonna work the second. Everything may seem rosy when you first get back together. Best behavior, great sex, etc. Then I agree, the honeymoon period ends and then you realize we broke up for a reason. Oh yes, I remember those two-thousand and fifty two reasons now. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/20/2007 3:12:37 PM | | I got back with an ex over and over.... one reason was: it was enticing; another reason was that he'd hijack anyone else coming to date me . ( he was a private investigator and must have had the inside track somehow). The most important thing I have to say about re-dating an ex is don't expect anything to change. I noticed that our ability to stay happy was reduced by every reconciliation. We were initially together 2 or 3 years, split and reconciled for about a year and a half. Then we'd do the same nonsense all over again, but our happily ever after would last only a few months. I guess I (we) no longer had tolerance for the bull. Sometimes you need to reconcile to gain some peace of mind. But beyond that, I think it's wise to assume that reconciliation only serves to delay the inevitable. | |
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Kengne
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Joined: 11/8/2006
Msg: 60 | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/21/2007 9:25:52 AM | hi,
My ex tried to relive our marriage but she was such a perfectionist I couldn't live. Nothing would have changed and I really did not want to go back to feeling inadequet. I do hope you give me a chance to send you an image of me. I did not have one on my portfolio and I know you requested it, however I am trying to protect my son from seeing me on the internet because he is sensitive to me looking.
Please consider sening me a link. If you are not satified I will erase your link from my list.
Hopefully,
Steve | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/21/2007 9:50:04 AM | | I find women are notorious for getting back with their ex. They have this BS fantasy, especially with their high school sweet heart, that he is their one and only, and this thought process comes from being just plain un-experienced, niave, and dumb. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/21/2007 10:00:50 AM | Ya huh, on my 3rd go around with my ex, they say three times a charm, I'm sure hopin so. So far it's been good.
When he and I spilt we remained friends, went for coffee and stuff, so it wasn't a bitter break up, just a "this isn't workin sort of thing."
We were split up for 2 months this time, and both tried seein other ppl, it didn't work out so well. Neither of us felt right about the seeing other people although we were no longer a couple.
We have decided it's our destiny to make each other miserable for the rest of our lives..
Just kiddin, he doesn't really make me miserable, and I even kinda like him this time around..*wink* | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/21/2007 4:01:15 PM |
No children here~ maybe in the future. But for now life isnt that great~ The thing is she is still with the new guy she met. I guess im just having hope that one day well back togather. Also, do you guys think this is for real or emotional attachment. I mean after 7 years could she really get over me that quick?? I know that she wanted that emotional stuf but i guess i wansnt always lovey dovey with her. and now that she can get it from this guy shes with him.....I dont know whats going on. what do yall say?
Urg, How many times are you gonna make this post?  The truth of the matter is no one here really knows what the answer is! She prolly left you emotionaly a long time ago, you are not a lovey dovey person and thats what she wants . This may be a rebound but even if it is, remember she left you for a reason and most likly will not want you back because you can't give her what she needs. But if it's not and he breaks her hart, then she may come to you for comfort and then leave again when she feels better...its sad ..but it happends! I'm not saying this to hurt you but to help you, it will hurt more the 2nd time. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/21/2007 4:36:23 PM | I did it once, huge mistake, think they want you cos theyre not getting any sex at time?!!
never go back,,,,,,, look forward,get busy, plenty new people to meet out there | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 4/21/2007 4:50:01 PM | | An Ex is an Ex for a reason. Never go back. An ex is an ex, and ex's belong as ex'.. any relationship would end before long...that's why theyre an ex.....there' someone out there better for you | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 1/4/2008 6:08:36 AM | Beent here, tried that, didnt work. In saying that, if the ex had even tried a little things could have been different. As it stands now, i dont see her, speak to her or even want to know if she is dead, alive or whatever. She pis.sed me off THAT much.
In saying all that, i dont feel bitter towards her anymore, i just dont 'feel' anything now which is good. Im glad it ended, pity about the way it ended though but c'est la vie and all that crud.
Laterzzz | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:24:35 AM | I agree with most of the prior replies, probably not a good idea (although, hey, go ahead if you want, its human nature to ignore 50 people saying "no way" to do what you want ).
On the flip side, I'm sure it *can* work. I could certainly perhaps see running into someone at say your 25th reunion, that you dated for 6 months at age 17 (when you both were probably lacking maturity), and hitting it off together - 25 years is a long time, lots of growing and experience in between, you aren't the "same person" you were in your teens...
However, if you "recently broke up", probably not. And even then, once people are in their mid-20's they probably are pretty set in their "general character makeup", and don't really change. Not so sure I'd consider the woman I was dating at 25, because chances are she's still pretty much the same in a lot of ways. However, the girl I had a crush on in HS at 15, and hung out a lot with? Hmm... well, she's married with kids now (according to classmates.com ), but even if she wasn't I'm sure she's a lot different than she was then - then again, by 18 I didn't like the person "she had become" anyways . | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:32:23 AM | Sorry, but just have to answer your question with a few of my own...
If it didn't work the first time, what would make you think it would work the second... or third... or however many chances you give? Why waste your time that way??? Just how many gluttons for punishment are there out there??? 
I feel grateful for being born with enough sense to know that if a relationship is bad enough for me to walk away, I STAY AWAY !!!  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 1/4/2008 9:36:06 AM | | duh, I'd think that people who got back with their ex-s successfully, wouldn't be on here telling their story, would they?.. Most likely than not they are not on a dating site (and I mean - if their reconciliation was truly sucessful!). | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 1/4/2008 10:09:05 AM | I must be a glutton for punishment..hehe
i normally have a 3 times rule on the third if we split its for good.
But i'm think why try a second or third shouldn't it work the first time around if its ment to be? | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 1/5/2008 5:24:52 AM |
Burn me twice, shame on me. Burn me 3 times, what am I fecking retarded or what
Hey....that was me, I was retarded!!
I have two characteristics that are both my greatest asset and worst liability...I'm trusting and forgiving. Sometimes good, sometimes bad.
However, there would be no amount of begging, telling me he's changed, etc., that would EVER cause me to believe my exboyfriend again much less want to be back with him.
Once a scumbag, always a scumbag. NOW I get it!! lol | |
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