| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 3:07:26 PM | Oh Id rather poke my eyes out with a rusty nail.......you only get one chance with me......always have and always will have that moto....if it didnt work first time it wont the 2nd  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 3:34:38 PM | For a short time but the magic was gone. We were both kidding ourselves and we knew it.
Sometimes in life its just not meant to be and you have to move one. One side always thinks there is hope when there really isn't.
Its up to you what you do but it will be hard. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 4:07:42 PM | | This my seem a strange story. I dated my Ex 3 years ago for around 6-7 months, fell in love everything was great until a message, he confessed to being with someone for 2 odd years and where talking about getting married. We finished until about 6 months ago, we were chatting on msm and desided to meet as mates, but the whole feelings came back and 4 months ago decided to try again. Went on hoilday and he promised me he has changes and only wanted me. Little did i know he had not changed. I was sitting in the pub, while he was arranging a night of dirty fun with his ex.. Needless to say once a cheat always a cheat | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 4:16:28 PM | ~OP~ I've given a second try a time or two. Like others have said ~ what a damn waste of time. It didn't work once, it's not working twice. I'm not saying in ALL cases, just for me. When I'm done ~ stick a fork in me!!!  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 8:38:14 PM | I have. My current Girlfriend in fact.
We were first together when we both were 20 years old and both turned 21 while together.
we ended up breaking up due to a combination of cheating (she cheated on me) and communication issues.
We both however were among each others best loves.
now after 14 years we are back together.
so far everything is working ok, she even moved from southern california (first time living so far away from her parents for her) to oregon.
We both needed to grow up more, and learn more about life and relationships for it to even be feasible. Since then we both been with many other people, many other relationships and are applying the things we learned to our relationship now.
So far we are both pretty happy and things are going well. :) | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:00:33 PM | Take my Mom...Please! badump bump!
After many decades who rolls up unannounced in Dads driveway 2 1/2 weeks after his wife dies with her sisters ex in tow? You already know. I've seen the desire even in myself to look backwards because of perceiving moving forward as difficult...at least for a moment. I have to grow; I want to change not just for relationship reasons, but for life reasons. So, here's Mom in a massive time warp back to a place that seems to offer hope. 6 failed marriages and countless boyfriends...nothing working as if it's just supposed to work because that's what you want. Every day to me is a decision with an action. Among the best things I've done for me was the recovery of my original child likeness. This is change. Sometimes what we are looking for we already have. And I hope you can believe me, but some of the best stuff in us is what we were when we were kids.
If you meet the Buddha on the road...kill his a s s! Like myself, people may look to something they think is greater than them self to make things better; could even be a desire for something magical to happen. Lottery mentality does nothing in way of growth and discovery, but does seem to offer the utopia. We are not all we can be today and all we have to fear, "is" fear itself (Franklin Delano Roosevelt). Fear says go back...should I try to revive the past because it seems love awaits if? I get quiet and ask myself for the truth. The same ground and NEW ground can be covered with another. For me, I must and desire to build in me, and for the spiritually minded the Kingdom of Heaven is in me, not outside me. For me to have a great new relationship I want to work on me...not you.
Never be so sure that this is all there is! There are rocks you will not turn over, but maybe you should...rocks you can want to turn over if you change.
Think about it...6 marriages and step fathers in and out, in and out...whew!
I write for whomever...and me.
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:16:43 PM | xinxspired....I'm just wondering....and I just have to ask...............................................is there a point to that rambling rant somewhere that I missed?
Are you drinking by any chance? | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/5/2008 10:18:41 PM | Like everyone else that has posted, it was a waste of time, so was the second time with the same ex all within the same year , lol should of learned the after the first time. But the break up the final time wasnt really that hard, and infact i was very happy that it happened.
So the moral is, dont do it, most often then not, its not going to work out
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 12:35:10 AM | "She's not mad because you cheated. She's mad because of all the d**k she passed up being with your @ss" 
And no- I would never get back with an ex... I finished 'em for a reason. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:36:49 AM | | I have recently seperated and life me at least is greener on the other side. I almost got back together ans we did have sex, but it felt nasty awkward so, its a no go for me. Burn that bridge but stay really good friends especially if there are kids involved. Co-parent relationship is what is necessary in my case and nothing more. But ya, I would recommend no rebounding as it just kills you even further inside. My 2 cents | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:41:22 AM | ^^^ ClassyfiedAlly;
What XinXspired wrote isn't a rant, they are some of his person thoughts put into words. Albeit, it may leave some of us a little bewildered, I believe he knows exactly what he feels and it's not necessarily relevant to him that we understand what he's written ... i.e. 'I write for whomever...and me.'
But I did gather this sense;
Remember when you were a kid/teen/young adult, and your youthful exuberance propelled you forward ... towards the future?
You grew and moved forward regardless of any fear. You left your security blanket behind and never pinned your hopes on the past.
If only we could be like that as adults.
Bob Dylan (Confucius)
"Ah, but I was so much older then ... I'm younger than that now." | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 10:43:01 AM | | i have and like others have said was quickly reminded of why we were ex's.....once u split its better left alone or else the next break up will prob be even worse or even more BS will happen than the first time | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 11:17:36 AM | OP Are U ready to change, now that your X is gone ? !
I, too, tried taking X's back. They would say, they had changed. I was leery, but would think of our children, & go back. It REALLY is just going back, to the same old crap, that made him an X in the 1st place. I learned. X 4 a reason ! !  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 3:57:46 PM | OP this is a dumb place to ask this question - these people are single - if they'd had a relationship that worked out with an ex or whoever, they wouldn't be here! Duh!!
Doing the same thing over and over while expecting a different result is the definition of insanity.
So just repeating the same behaviours and actions of a past relationship which didn't work, while expecting that it will work is insanity.
The key to getting back with an ex is both must recognize the effort required to fix what didn't work in the past and also to recognize the ways in which they have both changed while apart. They must approach eachother and their relationship in an entirely new way in order to achieve an entirely different outcome.
You must intend to be different (better) if you want a different (better) result. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 6:11:38 PM | OP this is a dumb place to ask this question - these people are single - if they'd had a relationship that worked out with an ex or whoever, they wouldn't be here! Duh!!
^^^ Damn! ... TrialSize, that hurted my feelings.
Just kick me in the nuts why dontcha.
(Nah, on second thought, your right, I needed that ... cause I totally suck) | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:58:58 PM | 'O' ha ha ha forums1
U have Me Thank-U ! I needed that 
Now Darlin' really. I gave Myself the nickname: chamelion I am the 'changer', not they. I can say that, with eXperience. Lol ;)
I picked that name for Me, for 2 reasons.
As the chamelean, I have the ability 2 become my environment, very Piscean, My Moon.
Previous X's acted like They were the King of the Jungle. Therefore, I said, I am the Queen. Therefore, lean became lion.
'Cha' was a Power word I used once, in a Dream, I had, once. I remember It still.
There is a funny country song, something about, 'Girls Lie Too'. I like 2 play it when I am out playin' pool. My friends & English Teacher, call Me jaded. I wink, & shrug.
I DO believe in the 'ability' 2 turn over a new leaf, so to speak.
Hmm,
In the end, I state, I am the changer. Tried it on the eX's. Lol Leopards don't change their spots, nor do lions loose their manes. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 8:08:50 PM | | I am so glad to hear that. Me and my ex broke up after 30 years together. I often wonder if it could ever be right if we got back together. I guess its easy to fall into the same old bs again and as the months go on I am turning into a different person and so is he. I think it is the good memories we want back but to bad the unpleasant memories come with it. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/6/2008 9:58:15 PM | | Been there, Done that, Have the t shirt. My ex husband and I separated and got back together 3 times before he did something that just killed my feelings for him, it was like a light switch turning off, and I was done. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/7/2008 12:13:45 AM | I was very grateful to have a 2nd and 3rd chance with a lady I loved. The breakups weren't caused by arguments, fights, drugs, alchohol, or cheating that I know of, just superficial cliches, misunderstandings, and maybe a fear of deeper commitment (Oh, I have lame fantasies, just ask her, right).
Each of those 4 month periods back together seemed like pure joy and love all over again. Then I got the same cliche short breakup letter. Although after this last "dump me" note....I wonder what was in it for her anyway. 3 strikes and your out. They can be fastballs with someone you just met, or if there is more mojo, you take your three strikes the hardway. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/7/2008 4:12:57 AM | Divorced, then got back together after she and my daughter were in a car crash. Bad move. Move on is what I would tell you, based on my experiences. | |
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