| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/13/2008 11:51:27 AM |
Well, I doubt there are many married people on a dating site- and so all the answers here are negative
There are probably some married people on here Guru, who knows
And a lot.....especially on the forums that have been married before.
They are now single ....and looking to date again.
So, how could it be biased????
If they have taken away negative feelings from their marriages, then so be it.
All that really means is that they are 'stuck' in non forgiveness, which is indeed a road to negativity and anger. I pray for them.
The original poster asked if anyone got back with an EX. He did not say if they were married or not,
Did you love somebody, and then get back with them?
Simple question, many answers.
There is a helluva lot of negativity both in here...and 'out there' my friend
That is why so many humans are stuck and ready to guard their fortresses so ardently , when there isn't even a war going on.
C'mon people...life lives.
``````````````````' Kimbo ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/13/2008 12:44:28 PM | I have been married twice to the same woman.
It could have worked if she would have stopped lying to me.
Now she feeds me for my giving her sex..
I will not be exclusive with her though.
I do what I want . any time I want.
Next week I will be camping with a 24 yr old gal while at a hippie gathering.
The ex knows about this. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/13/2008 2:56:56 PM | | Yeah I have and it didnt work out. The second time around was just like the first time around execpt the excitment of a new relationship was not there. If you ask me its not worth it an X is an X for a reason. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/14/2008 2:33:46 PM | Chaps tick ~ you said a mouthful in 6 little words !
MOST HISTORY IS NEVER GOOD REPEATED
I know this NOW....I guess I have really always known....but that doesn't mean it stopped me from thinking I was woman enough to CHANGE....history.
Three months ago I ended a 10 month relationship that was "ON FIRE".... in a really good way  .. . .but there were issues that couldn't be resolved and it had to end....sad thing about it....it was just as firey ending it !
After all the stress and BS from breaking away.....you know what I did...((come on pond,yanno!))
YES ~ you got it.... I ran back to the EX that I was with prior to meeting this guy!!!!
I had been in an on again off again relationship with him for 4years.
He's sorta of the "fall back"....as horrible as that sounds I have to admit that it's true.
When every other guy I date doesn't work out I always run back to him....and the fool always takes me back too!!
We have been through a lot together....and I know that he loves me....would give me the world ((on his terms of course...lol)) but this time the FALLBACK....isn't going to work.
The reason ????
Well, the guy I just ended the 10 month relationship with CHANGED ME!!!
Changed me a lot.....even though we are not together anymore I am not ashamed to say that he was really,really good for me!
He loved me in a way no other man has ever loved me....he gave me...I mean really gave me his heart and soul....I was never so "real" in a relationship as I was with him....and the relationship taught me that I was just "comforatable" in other relationships .... that I wasn't really living in the moment of it!
Well, after spending time back in a relationship with the EX....I have finally come to terms with the truth that he is never going to be my "MR. BIG" and that I need to let him and the history of "us" GO !
I am not going to stay in a relationship just because it is "comfortable"....I am never going to accept anything less than AMAZING.....and I don't think the EX should either!
So, I'm going to tell him thanks for always being there for me....thanks for always having my back....but MOST HISTORY IS NEVER GOOD REPEATED....and we BOTH deserve BETTER !
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:05:41 AM | After being separated for two years, the ex and I somehow ended up together again. He asked me to lunch to discuss divorce terms and moved back in a month later. We have an adult daughter in a wheelchair which was a major incentive for both of us. He was the breadwinner, I was the at home mom so money was an issue too. I wish it could have worked but I found I had too much anger behind his behavior of that first two years apart.
It seems I could forgive but not forget.( I was always watching my back and trust was gone for good.) | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 6/19/2008 10:49:42 AM | just as big!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! but alas so was his head some things never change....never again anne summers do one of similar size but without the personality defects lol  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/22/2008 5:53:23 AM | | Biggest mistake of my life!! I was married to him for 14 years separated for 2 1/2 it didn't work out he's the same A-HOLE I left some things never change. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/22/2008 10:33:33 AM | Denis Leary said it best. "Dating an ex is like finding spoiled milk in the fridge and putting it back in the hope that next time it will be good"
I dated ex wife three times before propsing and twice after divorcing (marriage was five and a half years).
An ex is attractive because they are someone you KNOW and feel comfortable with. No matter how good some things are, the cause of a past breakup will almost ALWAYS reappear.
If it is a deal breaker and neither party will change. It will end same way.
Choices are FIX the problem,, accept the issue, or stop trying. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:34:49 PM | I was skimming through looking for success stories myself looking for a glimmer of hope and u showed me! thats all i needed!  | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/22/2008 1:54:48 PM | I did. He hoovered me successfully 5 months after our break-up. He took me to the Caribbean for Christmas and we spent January in idyllic bliss. On a Tuesday night, after I got home from his place (I had already moved out) he phoned to tell me how much he enjoyed every minute we spent over the past four days. On Wednesday morning, he phoned to cancel our plans for the upcoming weekend and I didn't hear from him again for two weeks! No phone, no email. We are in our 50's BTW.
*One* of the issues over which I left him, was an addiction to cheating and the other was mental instability - bipolar and BPD. I don't regret getting back for that last time. It really was wonderful while it lasted AND it drove home the closing truth. He will always cheat and he will always be insane. As much as I hoped it could change, I learned that it wouldn't. The last time didn't hurt so much. The prevalent feelings were disgust and sadness. I wish him well. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/22/2008 2:59:55 PM | If you broke up once, there was a reason for it .
Unless one or both parties change, it'll be the same the second time around.
I don't like the idea of going back to someone I've already broken up with anymore.
He convinced me he wouldn't hurt me again.. and .. he did. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/22/2008 6:11:26 PM | UGH.. yup..
We were seperated for over 3 years.. and decided to take a "family vacation". We took our children on a spring holiday.... hmmmm Things got a little cozy one night when all of them were sleeping.. the sea shore.. the moonlight.. ya know.. Stupidly, he mentioned the girl friend i thought he had stopped seeing.. during an intimate moment.. that ended any and ALL thoughts of recconciliation.. he was cheating on her.. with me
There were some good things to come out of that... Finally i had NO doubt what so ever that i was doing the right thing... and i got the one last son i wanted.. so all of my kids have the same father
Lesson learned:
NEVER GO BACKWARDS.... JUST KEEP MOVING .. FORWARD..
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/22/2008 6:26:30 PM | | Yes, I tilted at that particular windmill once upon a time. I like to think that being young and stupid was my excuse, but the fact is, I knew even when I was doing it that it was a waste of time. We were both very young (early 20s) and too young to have a child together, but there we were. We split up when our son was 9 months old and went our separate ways. She dated lots of guys (you hear this stuff in a small neighborhood), while I basically was too torn (not about her, but my son) to date anyone. Fast forward more than a year and I finally started seeing someone else, when who bumps into us at a concert but the ex. Of course she was shocked that I was with someone else, and all the sudden she was interested again. I thought it over, and decided to give it a try, but in the long run, whatever feelings I had had for her were long gone, and as much as it killed me to realize I wouldn't be with my boy on a daily basis, I had to let her go. Like I said, youth and stupidity. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:17:43 AM | Keep in mind that you are asking a group full of single people about working things out with an ex. Just playing the numbers here, but I'm assuming that the majority here didnt work things out with the ex.
Several people have broken up and reconciled down the road. It all comes down to whether or not they were serious about the original breakup, and if they were serious about getting back together..... | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:31:17 AM | | An Ex is just that for a reason, we learn from each and everything and person , whether they are here for a reason, season or lifetime. If a relationship can not be fixed before the "break up" its just not gonna be. I say move on , up and learn - we will also have great memories and may even keep a friend out of it. Yoyo dating is a definate no no. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 7/24/2008 12:38:19 AM | | I was watching Larry Miller today, and he talked about getting back with exes. He said it's a bit like finding milk that's gone bad in the fridge, putting it back and hoping it will taste better tomorrow. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/14/2008 9:38:51 AM | | honey if it dont work the first time forget it an move on with your life.thats what i did that was 13 years ago.an im happy.Randy | |
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