| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/14/2008 9:44:53 AM | Nope, I can honestly say I never have gotten back with an ex. To me that would
just be too much drama. If we broke up, there was a reason. We just weren't meant
to be. Moved on. Period. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/14/2008 10:17:47 AM | never give a second chance.
if someone let you down before, they are likely to let you down again.
if something didn't work out before, they are likely never will.
the past is history, the future is unknown, the present is a gift, so treasure it. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/15/2008 12:29:12 AM |
Has anyone got back with their EX after dating with others? How was it the 2nd time around?
Yea I got back together with an ex twice. The first time we were both in our teens, and the first breakup was just silly. The second breakup was just brutal. I said I'd never do that again, but...
Then I found a soulmate in my twenties, and we were together for just over 2 years before she lost her mind (her words) and dumped me without reason. Just dumped me. Now, I didn't really "date" in the meantime, but fooled around a little, and 2 months later we got back together. I bent my rule about "ex means ex", and we managed to get another 4 years out of it (2 while engaged and living together) before it all blew up again.
The first breakup was not so bad, just hard to deal with 'cause there was no reason. The last breakup was devastating cause there was no fighting to hold on. We both just walked out. I tried for a while to get her back after a cooling off period, but that failed and I'm glad it did. In retrospect, I think a 3rd breakup woulda killed me dead.
My rule of "ex means ex" will not be bent again in the future for anyone. I've been to the hurt locker and I don't wanna go back, ever. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/15/2008 1:08:04 AM | I can understand and appreciate what everyone is saying on this post, but what do you do when, after the breakup and significant time apart, you realize you may have made a mistake? After a great deal of honest reflection, I realize that my actions and reactions contributed, if not entirely caused, the numerous fights that led to our eventual breakup. Instead of blaming him, and thinking we would fall back into the same old patterns, I'm tempted to try again, but this time with a bit more understanding and patience. But where is the line between changing yourself for a man ( which I never want to fall into) , and modifying your behavior to show a greater respect and understanding of the other person's perspective?
And is this showing maturity...? or desperation?
any thoughts? | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/15/2008 7:32:55 AM | | This is an interesting thread. the message seems clear...DON'T. I too have tried, and found out the exact same. Even though people can change...it just doesn't change what went wrong. Maybe we are wiser, and can identify the problems quicker, but whatever the case...it will statistically likely end up in the same state. DON't Waste your time, or compromise your self-worth. The hurt isn't worth re-living. trust me. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/15/2008 7:42:47 AM | | I did, but it was a high school boyfriend. We got back together and got married. Unfortunately, he died 5 years later. That was 30 years ago. However, we were happy until the day he died. I guess I'm in the minority. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/15/2008 7:42:58 AM | I was seeing a chick for a while and we broke up, and got back together a few months later - we were at a party and it turned out we still had feelings for each other.
I don't regret it, but it ended badly a while later. I'd have been better off not hooking back up with her again.
It hasn't happened again with anyone else, and I don't expect it to. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/15/2008 7:54:48 AM | There's a book called: It's called a break-up because it's broken. I'm not telling you to read it. I just like the title - pretty self-explanatory IMO
There's a reason you all broke up in the first place, most likely it won't work out again.
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/16/2008 3:24:23 PM | | I never get back with a ex before because it seems like when they have sex with someone else they are no longer desired and it kills things. I like fresh un-picked fruit. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/17/2008 12:51:14 PM | tried it a few times with now ex husband-dah no brain moments eh.
it didn t work although when you have been together a long time it does become habit.lol
a bit like breakfast.
each time it s worse, but we soon forget why we chose to get rid in the first place and find ourself back where we started.
advise-defo move on and allow yourself time to heal.
then you can enter a new relationship whole.
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/18/2008 1:03:16 AM | | ive gotten back with ex's and things after sometimes can work out for the better then before........im not sure how to explain it, but after dating others that i have not done....but i can imagine it would be rough.... | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/18/2008 4:30:07 AM | I would never go back to an ex.
For me once the relationship has broken down then its time to move on.
In cases of broken trust, lies etc then I cant see that I could forgive someone for that.
Once a liar/cheat then always a liar/cheat to me. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 8/18/2008 4:44:41 AM | | Hell no! When it's done, it's over.... and I don't look back. Sure, there may be a time I look back and wonder how that person is doing, but that's all. I don't wish any men of my past ill will. I wish them much happiness in fact! | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 12/3/2008 7:22:49 PM | Even though I didn't date my ex as long as you had ..after we broke up all I thought about day in and day out was him.. nonetheless our paths crossed just recently and to be honest he still had me scratching my and wondering how I could have ever been with such a stone wall to begin with. For your sake I wouldn't bet to much on it ... the reason (or lack thereof) you broke it off in the first place probably still lingers.. Anyhoot... if you do decide to go back... I wish you the best!
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 12/3/2008 7:33:17 PM | | No, I never have. By the time the thing was finished, it was either one of two things....either I had done everything in my power to try to keep it together and finally accepted that it was no good for either of us, or I was rejected in some way and I accepted his decision. Either way, I'm all the way in....or it's over....not that it makes it any easier at the time. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 12/3/2008 7:34:07 PM |
She got with a new guy a week later.
Ewww. That's bad news. Mine was a five year relationship and we reconnected 6 months after the break-up, which was my instigation and yes, I loved him very much when I left. It lasted a month before he repeated what I had left him for and I am grateful that he did it so quickly instead of waiting until I moved in again, which I was almost ready to do.
That she could move on so quickly into a new relationship is a very bad sign of a very bad partner. I am sure that you are struggling right now with the loss, but persevere. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 12/3/2008 8:07:21 PM | I did once but I didn't break up with him because he was a jerk or anything. Nice, handsome, and hardworking fellow who treated me great and with great respect. I moved away to go to school for a couple years and was still pretty young so wanted to be single. I had started to date a guy who turned out to be a complete jerk. Shortly after I graduated, I broke up with the jerk and a family member told my ex the situation so he rushed to the city to essentially save me and tell me he still loved me. We got back together immediately. The thing was, I was a mess after dating this jerk for a year. I found out my childhood sweetheart was going to ask me to marry him and it scared me so I broke up with him again and moved away. I was going through a very self-destructive phase and knew it. I would have only hurt him if I stayed and he wouldn't have moved on. He deserved better than that.
In this case, if I had of stayed the same person I was, we could have got back together and probably been very happy but I changed. The rest of them, I broke up with for a reason so unless they profoundly changed, there is no chance. If anything, I'm more firm in my stance when it comes to the areas I broke up with them over. | |
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| Anyone got back with their EX before??
Posted: 12/3/2008 8:07:51 PM |
Go ahead, give it a shot. See you back here in a month when it doesn't work out again. Then you can give advice on these same threads.
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