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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/28/2008 7:32:12 PM | Gestures are acknowledgment, romantic or not, implied or not. no one anywhere wants to have any type of relationship family, friend, romantic, platonic, work where they are not acknowledged for their contributions.
my grandfather said something to my uncle once when he was having marriage problems. "women always want to be courted" i think there is some basic truth to this statement. not to say that has not cause other problems in OUR lives. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:15:39 PM | The time couples spend wooing each other - can ultimately keep the flame burning. Your relationship should be your priority. I believe that couples should take the time to do small meaningful things for each other.
What would that look like for a man?
She meets you at the door…hot bath waiting….dinners is ready….would you like to have dinner in bed honey you look tired…..a long deep massage…followed by a night of passion.
What would this look like for a woman? Well the same thing silly….
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:18:40 PM | I've got to agree with this. Even though gestures (and even little gifts) are nice sometimes, the most important thing you can give in a relationship besides love and trust is time.
Your relationship should be your priority. I believe that couples should take the time to do small meaningful things for each other. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:55:06 PM | | Why does it have to be one or the other. Why can't you make spending time with her a priority AND do little romantic gestures to make her feel good? If you know it makes her feel good to get flowers or what not, and you supposedly love her, then why wouldn't you want to do these things? If you feel unappreciated for the other things that you deem more important, then communicate that. But don't hold the rest of the gestures hostage because of that. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/28/2008 8:56:57 PM |
I certainly care about my g/f and her feelings.
Thats why they're needed. It's important to your g/f. If it's important to her happiness and the success of your relationship, it should be important to you.
Even if it seems silly or meaningless, it means something to HER... so just smile and do it anyways. Is this really a battle worth having? Pick wisely. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/29/2008 9:21:29 AM | I think the idea of romance is different for everyone...flowers are nice but they die...chocolate is nice but it'll make me fat...candlelit dinners make me uncomfortable..
i think romance is just having a good time with someone..doing different things.
a guy took me offroading the other day and then took me to this litle spot overlooking the city and we sat and talked....that was romantic, fun and memorable.
remember that women want to feel special...but theres no sense in putting in any effort if she doesnt return the favor. I think if you really like someone romance just happens naturally. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/29/2008 10:22:21 AM | Kitten, are you sure all the other gals out there are on the exact same page as you are, or are you just extremely cheapre,
lifeofleasure, ya im one of a kind. not like alot of women simply becuaes i know whats important and what isnt. A true love relationshiop is not based off money or what a person can and cant do for ya. its stickly whats each has in their heart for the other. When poeple realize this i belive there will be alot less divorce and broken relationships. cheap... ya, a diet coke and the park is a nice way to get to know somenone. no need for a fancy restaurant. no need for exp flowers and crap. Each others time is all that is needed. And yes there is alot of women who use men for thier money and I think that is very very sad. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/29/2008 11:11:54 AM | I agree that we each have our own perspective of "romantic gestures". To the OP, if your g/f's idea of "romantic gestures" is different that yours, you have a decision to make because ultimately you are on a slippery slope. One of you will need to make some changes or compromises.
I recently had a gentleman I've dated about two months ask to take me shopping to "buy" me something. I told him absolutely not....that type of thing makes ME very uncomfortable. He then told me about two women he had dated who were, within weeks, frequently asking him to take them shopping and buy things for them including jewelry, rings, etc. I was flabbergasted! While that's not what makes me feel special, it obviously was what made these other two ladies feel that way.
This same man fixes Eggs Benedict with fresh fruit and freshly baked scones for my breakfast when I visit. Once when I arrived he had appetizers and a beverage waiting for me because he knew I would be tired after my trip. We were driving down the road one day talking about different restaurants and I mentioned one that made a fabulous blackberry cobbler and mentioned that it was one of my favorite desserts. When I arrived for the next visit, he had blackberry cobbler coming out of the oven and French vanilla ice cream ready to be scooped on the hot cobbler. He dances with me in kitchen when a beautiful song comes on the stereo. He holds me for hours as we shares thoughts and stories. He sends me an email or leaves a voice message to tell me he misses me and can't wait to see me again. In my world...those are romantic gestures. These things take time and thought....listening and catering to my wants, needs and desires. He treats me like a princess. Is that romantic? In my book, YES.
Taking 2 minutes to order or pick up chocolates or flowers does little to convey true romance in my book. ...but hey, that's just my opinion.
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/29/2008 11:48:40 AM | You are correct its the littel things you do that make the differance. If you love someone you wouln't think any different. Leave love notes. Its the small things that we do that are important and will be remb. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:17:09 PM |
Well, my friend, the whole point is not if YOU see the importance in them, but for the LADY who feels the importance in them.
A true show of wisdom if I've ever seen it. Gifts and gestures are always for the enjoyment of the person receiving them. Nothing more, nothing less.  | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 5/29/2008 12:54:19 PM | I too agree with artigirl - it isn't about the giving - it's the value your partner places in the receiving. Those gifts are physical manifestations of what she sees as your love for her - this is HER perception and the value she places in these things.
For myself it isn't about the physical gifts (I've never been materialistic and don't need or want expensive gifts) it's about the sweet gesture made to let me know I am in his thoughts (just a simple card can really make me melt).
What can she give you that will remind you that you are in her thoughts and in her heart? What do you value? | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:08:11 PM |
it isn't about the giving - it's the value your partner places in the receiving. Sometime I read these things in here and think that if everyone is thinking these things, then I am going insane. How can you say something so terribly mercenary and manipulating?
I think it's depressing to read that "things" impart "value." This is pathetic. I don't want to be in her thoughts all time of the day. This would be an obsessive issue. I value a sincere thank you when it is deserve. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 6/6/2008 7:12:39 PM | | andal, its not about having to do these things ..its more about wanting to do these things because you love your partner. If your girlfirend did not let you know she loves you then you would still be complaining. lol. | |
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| Romantic gestures .... Why are they needed ??
Posted: 6/6/2008 11:55:21 PM | small or large gestures are all part of romance. They may not be all that to men because they were raised to be in charge, women are like Flowers they require more attention and if she is inportant to you..... A small Gesture such as a card or flowers on a spert of the moment should be worth it .....
It shows You care... and keep a relationship content ,Alive
Midnight
I need to make a correction.......
"men are raised to be in charge" Not all men it depends on how you were raised or culture too..... to some buying flowers , ect are a waste of money n time because the larger things are more inportant.... | |
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