| Ex's pictures
Posted: 4/23/2007 7:18:41 PM | simple was with of three of my ex's for years went we broke up
put everythink in the bin every time wedding pics etc..... it does help
in the long run to get over them j x | |
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| Ex's pictures
Posted: 4/23/2007 7:22:35 PM | Not a dumb post at all!
I take all the pictures of exes and put them in a strong sturdy duffle bag which is buried somewhere under thousands of pounds of other stuff in my storage locker.
Sometimes I look back for a laugh, but the good times remain in my mind. That is what I try to hang on to.
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Posted: 4/23/2007 7:32:22 PM | | hey i hear ya on that i keep all the naked one, hehe | |
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Posted: 4/23/2007 7:40:34 PM | Personally, I have gone two routes in my life. The first was to have a huge bonfire after the end of a relationship, burning everything that reminded me of her. This action I regretted much later. That relationship was part of my life, part of me.
Gaining age and wisdom, with a later relationship ended, the bonfire temptation reared it's head but I did not give in to it. Instead, I packed letters and pictures in sealed envelopes and boxes. Like the part of myself that I sealed off, I knew it was there. I did not open those envelopes or boxes again until years later, when I was ready to face that part of myself again. Then, I realized I had gotten past grieving and could carry the positive forward and forgive the negative. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 5:01:06 AM | | I still have many of the pic's, I see no reason to get rid of them. I spent some of the best years of my life with her. I can not erase her from my mind, seems like tossing her photos would be a waste of time. I think for many people destroying those things is like a way of getting revenge. You either keep them or toss them, then move on. | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 8:36:00 AM | | It's not a dumb post at all. I have 100's of pics in the basement hiding in boxes. Why do you feel the need to do something with them? Out of sight , out of mind for the time being. I have some pics up in my guest bedroom for when my son comes to visit, however that is the only place they are "displayed". Someday I'll pass on and part of my legacy will be those pictures to my son. I just can't be selfish and deny him that by destroying them..........good luck with your choice, I'm sure it will be the best thing for you | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 11:31:39 AM | Like others have said it's not a dumb question at all! I went a bit crazy when I left my ex fiance and burnt / shredded / threw away every single photo, memento etc from our five years together; I literally don't have anything to show for that time and I know that I regret that now. Don't be rash like I was.
I broke up with my last long term partner a year ago and decided to just pack away all of the photos and paraphenalia I had kept. I judiciously edited the photos in terms of ones I wanted / ones I didn't when I'd done being enraged / upset (lol) and they're now in a sealed box in my attic. And there they shall stay until I die, I imagine. I guess I've preserved them so my children (if I ever have any) can see their mum was at once point once a) trendy and b) had dated men other than their dad!
Not sure why I'd want them to know that, but hey ho... | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 5:17:00 PM | elco1980....
Its not a dumb question as other have told you.
I agonized for months and months on what to do with the literally hundreds of pics I had taken of my ex SO and I on our many trips, family get togethers, parties and just our "fun" times together.
Bottom line, these pictures are a part of my past and the many wonderful times we had, so they are still here on my computer and in picture albums. Every once in awhile I will look at them and *smile*.
One thing that pissed me off though, he posted pics I took of him on another dating site!!! Grrrrrrrrrr
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| Ex's pictures
Posted: 4/26/2007 5:06:29 PM | | Mailed everything back to her, photos included. Just to painful to look at them. | |
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Posted: 4/26/2007 6:08:04 PM | | I kept my photos of my ex-husband cause he is the father of my 3 children. He gave me 3 precious angels, regardless how he treated me I couldn't do that too our children I don't look at them & we were married for 18 yrs. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 7:57:02 AM | Just put them aside.
Some day the pain will have faded and you'll still want the happy memories. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 8:22:53 AM | | I agree with you princesa3. Give it some time. I have all the vacation photos and videos of myself and my ex. I couldn't even look at them for the longest time. It has been over 2 and a half years and I think I only looked at the pictures once but think I am now able to do it without getting emotional. I was thinking about giving them all to him but am now glad that I didn't. There are some damn good pictures of me! | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 10:04:37 AM | I built a huge pyr and roasted a dead rabbit over them (she was a veggie).......... | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 10:32:53 AM | | Just dont do anything with them as of yet or you might regret it later on..In time maybe they wont bother you anymore when you look at them and all the wonderful fun times you had..I still have pictures of my x's also, but I just put them away in a box for awhile, and then later on down the road picked them out when I wanted to remember a trip that I had gone on..Now they dont bother me..It would have been ashame to have thrown away a part of a fun memory of a trip that maybe I would have never gotten back there again to take pictures..Anywayz, you cant bring back your age, and the way you looked when those pictures were taken..The expressions on your face at that time, etc etc etc..Just my opinion :) | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 10:41:11 AM | these things are part of your past...some of it was fantastic..some of it was not. Either way you just cant delete or block it out. It is part of you and always will be.
Put the pics away, dont look at them but keep them and as time passes....you will figure out what you want to do.
One day you will be rumaging through some things and come across them and look at them and they will make you smile. Then things will seem to make more sense . | |
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Posted: 4/28/2007 10:43:42 AM | Hang onto them, if nothing else to help you remember what you don't want to get into anymore. That's what I am doing. Plus, later on you'll want them for the memories. Like it or not, she was a part of your life at one time.
Just my thoughts.
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Posted: 4/28/2007 10:45:36 AM | Give them to The family.... or hers.. but get rid of them...... Take new pictures with your animals and friends your job employee, ect.. but get them out of the house....
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Posted: 4/28/2007 8:16:31 PM | if you block her out of the photos -the blocked spot will just remind you of her and how hurt you were/are.
Here's a suggestion: take your favourite cartoon character or actress and digitally edit them onto her - so you can laugh your ass off at the time you spent with quagmire in the dominican, or watching the sunset with bea arthur!
Woot!
Oh yes... save a copy of the original anyhow too! | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 3:01:37 AM | | do whaitI did, hand them back , but take a copy of them first.. memories of happy times never leave you.. I wonder what she did with mine? | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 3:35:18 AM | | Lets see''EXs pictures?..............to EX one out of your life.....get rid of them--let go!..................you will make more photos' in your life again and you will look at all the new ones.......................... | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 9:16:25 AM | | Photo shop her out of the pics.. You can then photo shop anyone else into the pics.. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 10:59:31 PM | | my ex keeps my picturs of me and him stuck to his fridge and wall...and bathroom mirror..i dont mind though, i guess he finds it comforting and he gets to se me when im not around..i wouldnt photoshop her out of your pics though..what if one day you want to look at them and there gone..its part of your life now..keep em and dont wreck em i think that would be a little harsh. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2007 11:13:38 PM | I still have my pics from my wedding and honeymoon and a vacation or 2. My ex has the big album & vacation videos -- which he doesn't want and probably got rid of.
We get along, we're on speaking terms, etc (even though no kids involved), even though it's been a year, the pictures I ahve all have good memories in them.
Do I want to look at them? No.
I boxed up the printed ones, and stored them away. Some day I can decide what, if anything to do with them. Right now, I don't feel I need to take an action.
The copies I have on my computer are still there. I plan to put them back on disks (I think he has the original disks), and then store the disks away too.
The pics are in a place on my computer where I never go. As a matter of fact, I needed one of the scenery pics last week, and had the darndest time finding the album of them!
Time will tell you what to do with them for good. For now, if you're unsure, don't make any unchangeable decisions.
I think that changing faces and sending them to an ex, is a little immature. I wouldn't stoop that low. Just move on....  | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 12:05:31 AM | | I just wanted to try to give u some advice.i hope it will help u figure out what to do with ur exs pic.i have my ex boyfriends pics in a photo album put away in my closet because i could not part with them.the only time i look at them is when i want to remeber the good times we had together so maybe if u put them away it will help u get over her sooner.good luck i hope everything works out for u.pblanca. | |
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Posted: 4/30/2007 9:26:28 AM | | it was a part of your life .....view it as just that. I question why if all feelings are gone you still feel this way just because she is in the picture. | |
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