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BayOne
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Joined: 2/15/2007
Msg: 26 | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 9:29:00 PM | Macnews,
I think your theory's absolutely true, but it goes both ways to some extent. I wouldn't respond to a girl I wasn't interested in, and I wouldn't want to be led on by someone who had no interest in me.
Overall, the more people we have to choose from, the pickier we'll all be; and the bigger this site gets, the harder it will be to find someone. That's why more flesh-and-blood relationships result from small groups of people meeting in person, rather than thousands firing messages back and forth online.
Jeremy. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 9:30:15 PM | | I get a response about 90% of the time I send out a message. It's not strictly a numbers game you know. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 9:37:33 PM | Well said messalina21,,,, I don't think it has anything to do with how much mail we get.
it's more or less from whom the male is. Everyone isn't a good fit,,,, | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 9:55:03 PM | | Some of these postings are hilarious....keep up the good work!! The thing that I don't like is this, I've messaged a bunch of women on here and hardly any respond. I may be no Brad Pitt and I'll admit that I am a little overweight, but I am a genuinely good guy. I've got a good personality and a great attitude, so why no responses. Is it just because of the weight? Oh well, life goes on......their loss anyways! | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 9:57:14 PM | | Highly scientific. LOL. Yeah, right. Hey, OP, not everyone is going to be attracted to you just because you write to them. You're what, 19? A whole lot of living to do yet. And if you're online dating, chances are you have a lot of time on your hands, because you can't get dates anywhere else, which is pretty bad, because if you're in school you're surrounded with young single women; can't find a single one there who's attracted to you? I bet not. You have to learn to spot the girls who like you. Yeah, I know, it's hard. Go out and buy Leil Lowndes book 'undercover sex signals', it's on amazon, to learn how girls use non verbal gestures to indicate interest. It works. Just remember to be nice when you meet them, and don't expect anything. No expectations, no dissapointments. Be nice (not a doormat), be friendly, and you'll have a girlfriend in no time. Good luck. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 10:09:57 PM | I'm not sure what was more entertaining - the original poster's wisdom at the ripe old age of 19 - or some of the responses he got! Good entertainment value this evening!  | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 10:16:26 PM | First off, as for the OP's formula? 
okay and there was another forum, pertaining to whining men not getting responses from their e-mails and I just blasted the men who were carrying on like this...
I would leave big boooooo hoooooos...So, for the guys just get this straight
No one owes you anything..especially on here....so deal with it...
Now, lets get this straight though...It isn't just men who do this..no no...
I just politely told a woman, who is one of the more popular type and egotistical
from all of this attention from POF...Anyways I told her, very politely
that I wasn't interested and guess what happened?
I get a rude e-mail back, what a loser she is...lollol..and a sore one! LOL! ...
Why with a few woman, that I have had to reject not just
on POF but also out in world, have become so nasty??? So, this is a problem with
"people" not all people "some people"...
So if you are behaving like this...GROW UP!!!....rejection is part of it....
This is a dating site...not a place to validate yourself or expect people to answer some long winded e-mail that "you" have chosen to e-mail them...it is your choice and since when does someone else have to be forced into, or respond to "your choices"....
again figure it out and as I would say on the other postings...
Oh Booooooooooooo Hooooooooooooooo meeeeeeee meeeeeeee...
and that is for the women who carry on this way as well... | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 10:36:14 PM |
Ok so I've figured out how the girls on POF work. It's quite simple, really. They get lots of mail and are flattered by the attention, so they become more picky than they would be in real life (And forget the reason they're on here in the first place--they're single) So if you're not their ideal guy they won't reply.
So you email every woman whose profile you've viewed? Why not? Could it be they aren't your ideal girl? Sheesh... how picky are you?
In real life they' d be fine with whatever attention they can muster, but on pof they get an inflated sense of their attractiveness to males so only a fourth will reply.
Here's another formula for ya...
(Profile Views)/4 > (Messages)/4 = (You're a Whiny @SS) | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 11:19:09 PM | | What's so bad with Macnews' theory anyway? Geez, you can't suggest anything here that sounds somewhat negative to females without getting ripped to shreds. The general idea of the OP's doesn't sound so far fetched. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 11:21:39 PM | The war of the sexes,what else is new. I try to be unbiased for about 5 seconds.Yes,there are a lot of men are dorks,idiots,morons,pigs,etc.The good news is they can grow out of it,and many do.As for how women pick they potential mate,that is another question altogether.What criteria are they using to find the guy?
For men everywhere here is my little story.I created a profile that was 100% true How do I know?I wrote a number of personality tests from three different sites.I did not lie about my phisical dimentions I had 8 pix posted some were so new still had tags on them.lol.Here is the kicker,it was barely noticed,the email ratio sent versus received was so pathetic that I won't even share it.I deleted the whole thing after three weeks.Interestingly enough most responses came from pretty far.Go figure.Now days If I see a women writes about honest I just want to scream.
Here is a reality check,even though men are the underdogs in the dating game.Most men.Women over 40 have a better chance to get kiddnapped than to get married.
But they still use every filter there is plus invent a few more on this site.
Could they find MR.Right?Sure if he happened to fall on their lap.The reason I know I am right because I have a good selection of books on the subject.If women would pick they clothes as bad as they pick man they would NEVER leave the house.
What can I say I am just such a people's person. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/18/2007 11:48:59 PM | | euromaverick you reckon your opinions are right because you have read books on the subject?i bet all of them were written by men lol.To my way of thinking, when it comes to dating,love and life,learning comes from experience not from reading books.Am i going to sit here and read a book written by a man telling me how to go out and find me a man?Hell, i dont think so!Am i going to sit here and read a book telling me how to have a relationship with a man?Nope, i dont think so.Get your head out of those books and go get in the real world to find out. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 12:02:37 AM | | You are probably right except for the last part..... I am just as picky here as I am in real life, if not more, so since all I have to go by is a profile and photo. Not to mention, I do not think men reply to every email either that they receive! | |
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Rhett1
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Joined: 10/16/2005
Msg: 40 | |
| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 2:21:45 AM | So, the OP has been here for almost a whole month and he's figured out thousands of women...you must have started your research the second you joined up...must be getting a bit tired.
This is your typical "Waaaah, no one is messaging me, begging for a date, it's the fault of every woman on here!" weakly disguised as "scientific".
Okay, to clear one thing up, not every woman on here gets LOADS of messages, so that is ridiculous. You are probably writing only to the ones who look like Angelina Jolie, then getting ignored because they have 8,000 others in line.
I sense a young man with very high standards (which isn't necessarily a bad thing, just don't whine when no one meets them). | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 3:11:03 AM | Heh heh heh hehe!!! My thanks for the merry chuckle, OP.
Things that'll help you get noticed/ignored:
1) Pictures - make sure they are clear, bright and appropriate. Most don't care to see a blurred, dark shot of you holding up a beer in each hand. Nor do most want pictures of various body parts that are normally clothed over.
2) Spelling & Grammar: please don't spell as if you were brought up on Hooked on Phonix. Or never graduated 3rd grade with Jethro & Elly Mae Clampet.
3) Act your age, not your shoe size. This goes for both sexes and the third one inbetwixed.
4) Be civil, use appropriate humor and leave any negativity behind when sending mail. Don't be surprised if you get ignored for the use of profanity, slurs and/or lewdity.
5) If you DO receive mail & find yourself not interested in the person, be kind enough to send a reply even if to state, "Sorry but I don't think we're a match." At least they'll know.
6) Read the person's whole profile before you contact them. Figure if you can live with children, life style, location, profession, religion, color, creed, hobbies, sex, et cetera.
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Just because things don't work out with one or two or a dozen, doesn't mean there tain't someone in the World for you. You'll just have to keep  until you land the right one. Even the US Constitution only guarantees Life, Liberty and THE PURSUIT  of Happiness. 
Go with God & do good things  ,
-TennesseeLine  | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:00:40 AM | Not that i want to stoke the glowing embers, but are we not all here for very similar reasons?
Ok, maybe like me, people find it difficult to socialise due to work or other commitments but i think its not really a good idea to say that males cant get date's hence why we are on here :) | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:05:40 AM | | yaya61 Have you ever heard of common courtesy? If someone takes the time to write you, at least take the time to say no thanks if you don't like their likes or looks. Be a lady, write back. Don't just blow them off. Where are your manners? | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:12:12 AM | I can't say I'm sure what your issue is, but I don't know that I've ever got no response to one of my messages.
Usually, the problem I run into is I find out later they're about 40lbs heavier than they appear to be in their pictures. Why these girls say they're "average" weight, I'm not going to begin to understand.
Anyway, back to the point, you wouldn't think the girls on a dating site would be the pickiest people out there, and in my experience they aren't. Maybe its the way you're speaking to them. Try and tone down the "I wanna marry you's" and the "I wanna wear your skin for a night on the town," and see if that doesn't improve your results. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:24:50 AM | Macnews......sweetie, I think you posted in a frustrated moment of feeling rejected and that is a BAAAAAAD time to post! Lots of healthy attractive women who might have been attracted to you just witnessed your diatribe here in this public forum .......is this the image you wish to project.......BE CAREFUL......... Anyone who contacts you NOW, I would have to question their judgement annnnnnnnd self esteem. (but that's just me)
I understand, no one enjoys being rejected but honestly, are you really interested in women who aren't totally gaga over YOU? This truly isn't about looks for most of us women, we are VERRRRRRRY forgiving in the "looks" department...men are far more visual then us women (not all, just most).......so I can lay odds that it is NOT your looks they are objecting too.......... Men become sexy and attractive to us by how they treat us. (okay how about let me just speak for me). I really can't tell what a man looks like until we have communication going.
Do you really think this statement you made is true...
."In real life they' d be fine with whatever attention they can muster"
Boy, that was certainly a very telling remark and probably the "kiss of death" kind of comments that might have you thinking ohhhhhhhh let's see.........APOLOGY?
I get positive attention no matter where I go however, while in my chosen profession I might meet some really nice men, I don't mix business and that kind of pleasure so it would seem your final statement is not accurate either. I know my gifts and I certainly am aware of my weaknesses so "an inflated sense of attractiveness to males" is pure hogwash! I knew my worth before I came here.
Plain and simple truth here Macnews....If you allow all the attention on POF to "make you".....then be prepared to allow all of the rejection to "break you".......
don't give strangers this much power honey!
Diva
TennesseeLine ...MARRY ME?? | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:33:29 AM | there are just a lot more men on dating sites; so of course standards will be higher.
Highly scientific formula? I think not. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 4:52:47 AM | I haven't been on the forums for a while, and now I remember why....
First, that poor OP....he got shredded by the opposite sex....which is usually the case for any male who singles out the opposite sex.....
Guess you learned your lessson there didn't ya.....
Sortal like the ol saying, "Cant say something nice".....
But it works both ways as far as responses to anyone that post ..
You will find people who are smart enough to understand that there is a comment here to be read, but , most will not comment to your comment, instead, they will pick you apart by gender, and intelligence....or lack there of.......
Then they start attacking other people who reply instead of replying to the OP.
Thats why I just read them anymore, cause the minute I reply, there will be someone more intelligent than me, that will shoot first, without realizing what the heck they were even aiming at.......
The war of the sex's lives on, and even funnier when you see it on a site where the "Idea" is to meet the opposite sex........lol........... I love it...!!!
Now to the OP.....Here's your reply .........
Your 19 years old, your comments are being read by mostly older people than you, and like that ol saying goes to_ "children should be seen and not heard".......
Take that for whats its worth........... Oh to be 19 again.......... | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:02:06 AM | | well i have been here 1 week today. and i pretty much met a real nice guy in the first day or so. I have not met him in person yet but we have been talking for hrs every night and text each other a few times during the day and he has been nice. Not planning on marrying him or anything but he seem like a really nice honest (well here is hoping) guy. Im no pamel anderson or any other georgous guy but he replied to my message and i always reply to messages i get not that i get many it usually takes me messaging a guy to even get a respose. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:09:28 AM | Two issues here, the history of the world and men understanding women.
imo, the world and all its problems is a "man" made debacle, caused by ego, power, $$$, murder, control, church and even state.
If the world revolved around Mother Nature instead, we might have a little more harmony.
Women are Mother Nature and if men understood that, personal ego and control would not become a problem.
However men should not offer their power to women in return for a date. Mother Nature can sense it immediately.
y3maxx | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/19/2007 5:16:39 AM | | well i know i am not much to look at but i was happely married for all most 35 years. And its kind of shadow of people that go for just looks but if that is what you want great me i would like to get to know the real person no matter what they look like as they would be the one i look to maybe have a lasting realtionship and if not we could still be friends. | |
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