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Joined: 4/21/2007
Msg: 476 | |
| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/27/2007 12:32:56 PM | ok, I didn't read all the pages for this thread.
Why do most people in the forums sound so bitter? Everyone has had a bad experience not just online in person as well. Get over it. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/27/2007 1:12:40 PM | ^^^
Are you crazy? You're talking crazy.
People expected to get over the fact that someone hurt them? That they made a bad choice? Expected not to be bitter and mean and hurtful? Expected to act like responsiblity-taking, sane adults?
/sarcasm
What?
Oh wait... Sure it does SOUND crazy and all, but that doesn't mean it shouldn't happen. | |
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EC22
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Joined: 4/25/2007
Msg: 478 | |
| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/27/2007 1:29:45 PM | They won't give average looking girls a chance, no matter how ugly they are themselves.
Women do the same thing. I have emailed plenty of average looking women and got no response. The bottom line is both many women and men can have unrealistic expectations. Both women and men can think that they are a 10 when they are really a 4.
You have a very negative view of women,and our right to have standards son.Why shouldn't we be picky?I'm sure you are...let's flip this around to the guys' court for a minute.You surely would reject a girl over a few extra pounds on her body,her hair color,her looks...you wouldn't settle for someone who looked like Rosie O'Donnell if you could choose somebody who looked like Pam Anderson would you?Didn't think so....why then would you expect any less from us
I wouldn't date a woman that I'm completed unattracted to, but she doesn't need to be a beauty queen either. There is a difference between not dating ugly people and not dating anyone who isn't a 10. The first example is reasonable. The second example is unrealistic. I would date a 6 that has a good personality, common interests etc. Personally I wouldn't reject a woman just because she is a few pounds overweight. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/27/2007 1:56:31 PM | Well......I took a huge block of time to read all the comments on this thread (and was very entertained).....the different insights here are invaluable when looking at it from a societal point of view, but I have a more "fluff" sort of comment to make......
I looked over some of the profiles of the guys who say they are not having much luck and........all I can ask is....WHY?? 
Alot of them are very nice looking and extremely articulate, no matter what their viewpoint is on this thread.....
Seriously though, let's face it, we all have different ideas on what constitutes our own reality. That's why the forums are so popular anyway...the chance to express our own and hear others' point of view and maybe hopefully learn something about human nature as a whole.....
Oh wait....maybe it's just the chance to argue and fuss about something.......
Either way, you gotta admit it's interesting at least...lol
I think that the more diverse and open minded someone is when talking to prospective dates/friends/etc.... the more enriching experiences they will have in the dating world.
Most everyone has something important to offer the right person... | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/27/2007 3:29:58 PM | Oh booo to the inflated sense of attractiveness. Some men just don't put the effort in, so we, in return, don't either. I answer everything that is not crude or obnoxiously short (i.e. Whats up). Besides there are men that don't answer messages but there aren't hundreds of women complaining about it, who cares...let it roll of your back. No analysis needed.
I don't know, I just love the Grinch, lol | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/27/2007 7:54:39 PM | | he does have a certain point I have never once been messaged on here my profile was up beat and happy I messaged women based up reading their profiles alot of them did not even have pics got very very few responses. I have had alot more luck making fun of mocking and insulting the women then being a good person. I know it has entirely to do with my looks because I know I am not that good looking to women. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/28/2007 6:31:58 AM |
In real life they' d be fine with whatever attention they can muster, but on pof they get an inflated sense of their attractiveness to males so only a fourth will reply.
Unfortunaltly It's all easy for someone to place too much attention on their first impressions of a potential date on that first message. I would hope that in messages I send that I keep things general but not too general. In all fairness though it's up to the girl you can't make them like you and if they do get a lot of attention they may just skip a few posts otherwise they'd end up spending all day on here and not enough time actually dating! Hell even I've done it and I'm not usually choosy. Unluckily for me, I then met that girl in real life through some kind of coincidence which was a bit uncomfortable - luckily I don't think she recognised me! Best thing is to make sure your profile is honest, up front but down to earth. (Not like a friend of mine who put "Basically I am the man" on his profile. Lol) | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 3:56:34 AM | actually, lookswise, the guys on pof are not as attractive as the ones in real life are, so the attention isn't really that flattering. there is a certain grossness to the people here. so its actually disgusting to receive email from people you are not attracted to. and then if they write uncouth things that's even worse. sometimes it gets to you don't even want to look at your mail.
I just checked your profile and you are a 19 y.o. youngster....
how would you like to receive email from little old ladies that want your body?
is the visual doing anything for ya yet? didn't think so. but i'm sure you can resist their charms. :) | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:17:14 AM | Not always true! My brother prefer's bigger women and I have African friends who will not even look at a slim woman!!
J | |
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Diva64
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Joined: 2/3/2007
Msg: 487 | |
| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:34:57 AM | | Sovereign, WTF are you talking about??? just whom are you responding too? Did you post this in the wrong thread?? | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 4:44:19 AM | god i cant believe what i was reading but hey it passed a wet and miserable morning lol .... lighten up people ... i do reply to all mail but out of politness and it can be misread that i fancy the guy so i make it plain in a nice way that i dont ,,, to many serious people about ,, chill and be nice to each other it amazing how good you will feel   | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 2:30:40 PM |
In real life they' d be fine with whatever attention they can muster, but on pof they get an inflated sense of their attractiveness to males so only a fourth will reply.
hmmm....something to think about huh? Maybe a statement like this calms the male ego...I don't know... good luck out there | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/29/2007 2:36:17 PM | | huh.... wow... oddly enough every female I've mailed at this site has mailed me back... even if its only a one line thank you e-mail... maybe one of us is writign on another POF? and 20 females a day? not sure bulk mailings are the way to go.. just my personal take on it... | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 5/30/2007 5:16:43 AM | | john1747: good luck to you there is someone out there that will appreciate that you are very good looking and have an interesting array of skills. Just be yourself. Thanks, for me I am working more on friendships than relationships. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:52:13 AM | I say when you become "picky" yourself, you won't need to message 20 girls to begin with and expect a limite reponse! You can carefully choose people to message based on their profiles, personalities, values, beliefs, lifestyles... those that you deem to be compatible with you, and see how it works out? You're more likley to get a response from similar minded people if you take your time to hunt them out first.
But yes, if you're looking for attention, then it's definitely a numbers game. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:54:12 AM |
"Nobody expects perfection on these sights...just a compatible suitor(hence filling the profile out honestly is the first step to connecting you to someone on your wavelength).If being "picky" makes me a stuffy **** in your eyes than that's ok...I can live with that title proudly...as long as my discretion leads to happiness in the end.
Nicely said! My thoughts exactly. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 6/8/2007 12:58:13 AM |
"I have had alot more luck making fun of mocking and insulting the women then being a good person."
Wow! Check out the class there...
And men wonder why girls are nasty and B09*)*#$ with them.. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 6/8/2007 1:11:37 AM | Hi!
I have to say that it is very hard to get a reply (even when all you want is a chat / talk). | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 6/8/2007 1:45:02 AM | well wot i can say like yr sence of humour suppose fmls can pick and choose well fellas can as well am i brain sdamaged hope not its not a case of rejection more a case of p.of, for f.m but are f.m looking for something that isnt there the perfect male YES I ADMIT IT  | |
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orac
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Joined: 10/11/2006
Msg: 498 | |
| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 6/8/2007 2:14:53 AM | Totally agree with the Author
There are alot of woman on here that are not much really. I mean if they were to walk into a bar most men wouldnt look twice at them.
But because they are on POF they suddenly get allot of attention ( a whole lot more then what they would normally ) and so start to get an inflated opinon about how attractive they are. They start thinking they are all that, but infact they are very average in the looks dept.
Consequently if you are reasonably good looking dude, you are better off finding a woman nomally then using the online thing, as you will get rejected by woman really that are by normal standards well below you in the looks dept.
The online thing is good for practise or if you are going through a bit of a slow patch.
But I think for a good looking or reasonable looking guy you can do alot better and meet alot more forthcoming and attractive woman by normal means.
Just my opinion. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 6/10/2007 6:25:51 AM | Now that someone has figured out all the girls on POF , we can all go home..... .Oh nevermind we are home  | |
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z0d
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Joined: 6/18/2007
Msg: 500 | |
| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 7/4/2007 8:44:13 AM | | The secret? Be yourself. My profile is an exact reflection of my personality. Don't put up just any old BS, and don't throw around a lot of BS in your emails, and you'll do awesome. And this works even here in the OC, one of the most unforgiving, competitive markets anywhere. | |
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