| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 10:39:37 AM | I've not read all the responses in this thread so I may be repeating someone. I've thought about whether dating sites are any different than the real world. I think that if you're going to meet someone you will - wherever. One thing on dating sites is that it's easier to be brave. I'm sure guys message women who they'd never have the courage to approach in real life. I'm actually quite shy, though noone who knows me would agree with that because I'm very good at bluffing. But if I like a guy I am one of those women who actually avoids them. It's about not wanting to risk rejection.
But back to the topic of replying to messages - how easy do you think it is to send the 'thanks but no thanks' message to a guy who from their profile looks like you will have nothing in common with them, or they are 20 years older than you, or they live 200 miles away? It's much easier to not reply. I was brought up to be polite and I always reply and just try not to give any further encouragement.
The other thing that seems to be mentioned a bit in here is the rating of photos - I didn't even realise that option was there so was oblivious to the fact that people had been rating my photo. I was admittedly pleased when a few people had given me very complimentary scores, though fairly bemused as I wouldn't class myself as a 10 on looks and consider my personality to be my strong point.
Even if some women are here to get their egos stroked, and plenty of men the same - so what? | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 5:51:25 PM | massalina2 thank you so much I finally figured out why I'm single....because I'm so ugly  & I thought it was because I was not rich or famous. Now I know what I have to do only e-mail women that are 250 lb + then hopefully I'll get a date fall in love & get married. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:11:39 PM | I sort of agree with macnews. I also think that the women that say they want a good honest man will drop him if a good looking stud makes contact with her. The good honest then takes a back seat.
My Opinion !! | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:21:24 PM | whitedahlia .. SPEEKS THE TRUTH ... I would just say that is very hard to wnat to even email a guy who says Hi, how are you ? and thats it ... lol ... and it gets worse if you do answer and email 2 or 3 times and he says Im horny ... YUCK ... not a turn on ...  | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 6:37:47 PM | I think you may have soemthing there ebcuase its aboutt he same for me. And some ill respond as being emotionally unavailable sucha s saying they jsut got out of a relationshipa nd aren't ready... Tehn why do they ahve a personal ad ona dating site? Or say that they don;t want to sound shallow then say soemthign incredibkly shallow like you are too short. And I am the same hight or 3 inches shorter. Its ture many women in online dating become idealists and shallow. They get an infalted egho becuase they don;t list their weight and they got the facespace angles Meaning you only see the top half orf them and a picture of them from certain angles that makes them look good. And when you see them in person they got a bulging belly or bad teeth. In person these women arte a lot less judgemental becuase you cna clearly see all of their flaws. I think that people need to treat others with kindeness and respect and should nto be idealists as nonone is perfect especially these judgemental ladies. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 7:55:42 PM | | Each individual person will have their own formula. More attractive men who write good emails(physically and mentally) will get a higher proportion of responses and less attractive men and those that write stupid things will get a smaller proportion of responses. Men who tend to go for women out of their league will also get fewer than men who go for their own level of attractiveness. And people who **** on the forums (myself included) can expect to get fewer responses too LOL. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:02:16 PM | | 90% OF THE GUYS i GET A RESPONSE FROM ONLY WANT SEX--so therefore if you take 100 responses and subtract 90 for the pig factor--then that leaves 10. Out of those 10 responses 5 live in another part of the country so now I am down to 5 responses. 2 out of the five refuse to post a picture or share a picture which now leaves me with 3 responses out of 100. Now--out of the 3 responses, 2 of them are 25 years younger than I am and want a mother/sex partner. Ok--so now there is one response left and I do respond to him only to find out that he is "technically" still married. So from a woman's view--we are technically doing worse than you guys ! | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:12:52 PM | Oh great, Einstien.........
when looking for free sex men are never ususally fussy and would jump at the offer from almost any woman, and the statement about women wanting any attention they can get is ridiculous,
Believe me it does inflate a womans sense of her own attractiveness when losers and men with your IQ message them, in fact it as the opposite effect........
However women who are looking for a relationship would be considered stupid if they took up with the first loser who or any loser who emailed them.
Wisdom is what rules the day with most women looking for a partner and the fact that most of the guys dont have any respect for that or women in general and ist shows believe me, is the reason your not getting responses.........
I have hidden my profile and only take part in forums, after four months I have no interest in meeting anyone of this site, receiving emails making phone or nay other contact.......
I am sure their are decent intelligent guys out there but they out numbered by shallow men like you........ | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:14:15 PM | haaaaaaa well i aggree with what ya say  well dont forget or i may be wrong but a man of the world ok a millionaire friend told me that these days ???? ITS A WOMANS WORLD  oh come on fellows ya know its true my lass said this morning ooooh ever so poshly DARLING youve got ya working boots on the WRONG FEET ????? i said i KNOW they should have been on YOURS    lol chris xxxxx | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:21:30 PM |
brokenheartsunite wrote: 90% OF THE GUYS i GET A RESPONSE FROM ONLY WANT SEX--so therefore if you take 100 responses and subtract 90 for the pig factor--then that leaves 10. Out of those 10 responses 5 live in another part of the country so now I am down to 5 responses. 2 out of the five refuse to post a picture or share a picture which now leaves me with 3 responses out of 100. Now--out of the 3 responses, 2 of them are 25 years younger than I am and want a mother/sex partner. Ok--so now there is one response left and I do respond to him only to find out that he is "technically" still married. So from a woman's view--we are technically doing worse than you guys !
Yeah, a lot of guys are stupid when it comes to talking about sex way too soon. I used to be that way myself somewhat. When I started writing a Brazilian lady back in 1999, I waited about a year before I talked to her about sex. I didn't ask for pictures of her in a bikini or in the nude. When I went to see her in 2001 I got to see her both in a bikini and in the nude. After breaking up in 2002 (neither of us wanted to relocate), we've remained friends to this day. And we don't talk about the intimate moments we had (which weren't bad at all!) together. I don't ask her about any sexual moments she may have had with boyfriends after me. Now that we're not together anymore, it's really none of my business. It all boils down to respect. It goes the other way as well. Unfortunately, too many North American women don't respect guys who aren't at least 5'10". In fact, some are downright nasty to height-challenged guys. "Nasty to"; however, "getting nasty with" would be a welcome change for a lot of height-challenged guys, many of them who have to lie about their height just to get a woman to meet them in public.
And I've seen some of the posts by some of the guys here. If your e-mails are as poorly written as your forum posts are, no wonder you're not getting any responses from women on here. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:33:09 PM | My...my...aren't you full of yourself? Tk....get a clue...take a break from height issues and start looking at the heart issues......height means nothing....if a guy is an A hole.....height won't hide it to someone with an ounce of sense..... Just sayin.. L~  By the way - look pretty good in that bikini... | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/25/2008 8:35:49 PM | No i think ur wrong the reason i'm on here is because i don't go out 2 bars..not
because i'm Single.I have been always picky not only on pof i respond to interests
that we both have in common and a attraction both are really the Key! | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/27/2008 4:50:07 AM | | Well I for one dont get 20 messages at all. The ones I do get are most the time a great distance from me. And very rarely do I get asked out. We exchange a few emails and then nothing... ....... So u havent figured this lady on POF out yet..... | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:03:26 AM | I have a better idea, tell them to piss up a rope and get off POF .. and go back to the bar hopping .. I've had better luck there anyway ..  | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:21:28 AM | Obviously none of you have read my book!!!! Very nice cover and titled Women Period. It consists of two well written pages.
Index
Chap 1 ...trying to figure out women.
pg 1 This is harder than I thought!!!
Chap 2 ....Giving up on trying to figure out women.
pg 1... Ok I have now giving up on trying to figure out women.
The End.
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:22:43 AM | [quotwe]In real life they' d be fine with whatever attention they can muster, but on pof they get an inflated sense of their attractiveness to males so only a fourth will reply.
Sorry macnews, but you are wrong!! In real life I am not fine with whatever attention I can muster. There are a lot of men in my line of work; but I am just as fussy off line as I am on line about the kind of guy I want to be with. For me to converse with 5 out of every 20 guys who messages me, would mean conversing with 10 out of every 40 by your math and 25 out of every hundred. I'm sure any attractive woman on here has easily received more than 100 emails; but I doubt any is coversing with 25 guys at the same time!!!! If they were, maintaining those conversations would be like a full time job!!! It has nothing to do with ego; and everything to do with the reality that most women are just looking for one special guy not an entire club of men!! It just isn't possible to engage in conversations with that many people; let along actually meet them!!!!
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/27/2008 5:59:34 AM | I am a new girl here on this site, and i must say that i have met plenty of kind considerate men, but i will say i do not agree OP with your scientific formula... as i do chat with the ones i may be interested in... also i do get as much attention if not more in my*realworld*, as my work and life deems this.
If i meet someone here, or in the real world, it is no difference for me, i believe that there is a bit of chemistry felt here.... as much as the real world, and worth investing time with some one you*feel* you wish to continue with.
The reality is that we are all human beings with a need to be accepted as to whom we are, and if in the process we do connect, great! If not, well then ego aside, we continue on in the path called life> :) | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/27/2008 6:13:57 AM | Did you ever try reading a profile to see what they are looking for?? If that is you then you will probably receive a response.
I respond to everyone who messages me. Probably only 1:20 have actually read or care to read my profile. | |
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| I figured out the girls on POF
Posted: 4/27/2008 6:14:37 AM | GEEEZ!!!! I am glad you enlighned me on the percentage thing. LOL, Now, should I messege, the first twenty I see on Here? Or, should I pick the ones that I would like to have a relationship with? The bottom line, is we all like attention, and we all could put a fake pic up there and get it!!!! In the end, those that don't really want to meet ,will not. Those that really want to meet someone, will probably do it at the local funtions or the local pub. Everyone is selective, men and women, everyone has their own taste.
I was in a club with five hundred people last night, only two there, that I really would date for a realtionship. I got picked by a few women, none to my choosing!!!! That's why we explore these other possibilties, LOOKING for PERFECTION, for our Taste.
You give up a lot of charma here, no matter what kind of Pofile you post.
Have you ever noticed, Women like men that attract women, This encompuses much more than a look or a few words. It requires, confidence, charm, success and chemistry, and yes something that is appealing to one's eye. All of which is very difficult to achieve with a pic and profile. I am meeting a few people on this site and some , seem to have what I am looking for. but, Like the club scence, some do not.
My suggestion is to quit worrying about the number of hits amd concentrate on what you want in a relationship and partner. | |
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