| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/19/2007 11:37:49 PM | Hmmm...here's what cyber sex means by a definition I found online...
Cybersex, computer sex, internet sex or net sex is a virtual sex encounter in which two or more persons connected remotely via a computer network send one another sexually explicit messages describing a sexual experience. It is a form of role-playing in which the participants pretend they are having actual sexual relations. In one iteration, this fantasy sex is accomplished by the participants describing their actions and responding to their chat partners in a mostly written form designed to stimulate their own sexual feelings and fantasies. Cybersex may also be accomplished through the use of avatars in a multiuser software environment.
Cybersex sometimes includes real life masturbation. The quality of a cybersex encounter typically depends upon the participants' abilities to evoke a vivid, visceral mental picture in the minds of their partners. Imagination and suspension of disbelief are also critically important. Cybersex can occur either within the context of existing or intimate relationships, e.g. among lovers who are geographically separated, or among individuals who have no prior knowledge of one another and meet in virtual spaces or cyberspaces and may even remain anonymous to one another. In some contexts cybersex is enhanced by the use of webcams to transmit real-time video of the partners.
Cybersex is sometimes colloquially called "cybering". Channels used to initiate cybersex are not necessarily exclusively devoted to that subject, and participants in any Internet chat may suddenly receive a message with any possible variation of the text "Wanna cyber?"
Now why would someone want to have cyber sex...for fun maybe? There are many ways of having sex. Sex isn't just about penis inside vagina. If it is, then there's no gay sex then, or oral, anal, or whatever. I agree with few of you....maybe the guys/girls are ugly and know you won't put out if you meet. Maybe they're shy in person.
Here's a good reason for some people that cyber, it's better for a long distance relationship. Imagine all the soldiers in Iraq, without computers and cyber sex, they'll be banging all the Iraqi chicks. YOu think?
If you don't like talking to these "freaks" then close the page. See the little "x" in the upper right hand corner? Yeah, that one...click it... | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/20/2007 8:26:20 AM | I have come to realize...that creeps like that..are not only trying that with me..but
all the other women bother talking to them. They are sex addicts. Probably
addicted to porn..movies, mags, internet, strip clubs. Those sort of men are just
plain nasty.  They are just evil evil evil !! I want a good man
From now on....I'm going to be VERY particular who I even talk to. It's not worth
the aggravation....Those Pervs are a complete waste of my time. Thanks for the
eduacation. Since I'm recently single. Things have really changed. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/20/2007 12:57:20 PM | | ok for one .... its not only us "men" that do this .. some women do too ..... and second of all .... do people consider every little bit of sex talk "cybering?" ..... i look at it this way there are alot of people that i will say are really .. conservative and shy when it comes to their own sexuality. . is Prudish a word? lol .... anyway i was just talking to someone recently about when getting to know someone over the phone or internet or what ever .. sex talk comes up of course if your interested in someone ... your going to want to know what pleases them .... . there is more than one area of getting to know someone .... one is for who they are hobbies and all that good stuff then there is the intimate details and its called communication .. personally you can call me shallow or an ass or what ever you choose but the bottom line here is ... there is going to be eventually sex talk ... because . if interests go that far i am going to want to know as well as let them know what pleases me ... and the shallow part .. i would hate to have almost everything in common with a woman and find out after its too late that i would then have a lousy lover too .... that doesnt work for me . .... but i do see the ladies point about the cybering not that i do it myself .... but all sex talk isn't cybering ...some of it is getting to know someone .. ... and i know the difference and ... i also heard comments in the past just because i made jokes of an adult sexual nature that one woman accused me of having sex on the brain all the time .... and that wasnt right ... they were merely jokes and it didnt mean anyone had to act on them .... and ladies i have heard the horror stories of the men coming onto a woman ... and .. "i want to do this to you and i want you to do this to me .. and yadda yadda lol ... i know but my point there is a difference .. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/23/2007 6:27:27 AM | Yes every single one of us wants cyber sex....forget real sex...too stimulating. We all want cyber sex...you got us.
Give me a break. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/23/2007 7:06:43 AM | Yeah there are gentlemen left.
They want to Cyber because there obiviously been in a drought to long due to being ugly and out of shape or nerdy. so Cyber is there out let to get a real woman to talk to them.
that or if your young. I did it when i was younger or with a long distance girlfriend. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/23/2007 10:13:48 AM | I haven't noticed that, actually. And I even looked at your profile thinking maybe there is something in there that attracts them. Found nothing. Your profile looks good.
I seem to scare off the weirdos these days. Or just not pay any attention to them. The majority of folks I hear from understand I'm on here for friends, and seem to respect that.
One way to rid yourself of them, though, is to change your settings to "must not be looking for..." and click on those you don't want to hear from. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/23/2007 10:21:21 AM | umm sorry but this thread is really sexist
im a guy and i have never ever wanted that bs cyber sex crap
thats for losers and wackers
i dont know whats with ppl these days that they cant even jerk off in private anymore
everyone seems like they have to advertise theyre deviant acts and everything is open for public debate
certain aspects of our lives should b kept private
all this talk about infringement on personal space and privacy rights is just a sham for people to put forth whatever flips into their pea brains it seems | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/23/2007 1:57:44 PM | | Please don't include me in with "all" the guys. To me it's a cheap thrill... but being that you mentioned this. I have meet a few women that I dated "asked" me to talk dirty to them on the phone. Doesn't this apply too? | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/23/2007 2:11:00 PM | OP, let me clear a few things up for you;
1) Not all guys are looking for cybersex. The majority of men have no use for it.
2) The guys who are engaging in cybersex are for the most part not having it with other guys. So who do you suppose they are engaging in it with? What does that tell you?
3) Most would fail to see how the fetish of another would interfere with your search for a "decent guy" so much so that you felt the need to post about it, without also questioning how it is you keep finding yourself where you are in a position to attract so many of this undesirable type.
4) Some people need to learn not use generalizations so easily, as most people find it very irritating.
5) You are one of those people who need to learn this.
Hope that helped! Good Luck!
Have Fun :)! | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/23/2007 5:41:52 PM | | Please don't include me in this as I think cyber is a total waste of time and effort. Also, I have been approached by women for this and again, notta. With me, if I can't feel it, taste it, or smell it, its not for me. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 10:53:24 AM | 1.) Not all men are like that. I've actually met some pretty decent ones online who remain very dear friends to this day. And NONE of them have ever tried that with me.
2.) If a guy does try to initiate cyber sex with me, the only thing he's going to get is my cyber foot in his cyber a**.
Anyone care to chat? | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:41:55 AM | The true gentlemen are out there continually trying to impress women who keep on pigeon-holing them into the "only wanting cybersex" category.
Maybe if the OP were to stop categorizing people based on a negative outlook on the online community, she might actually get the end result of what she wants...a "real" date.
And before anyone says it - no, I'm not a true gentleman... | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 11:46:47 AM | | Not all guys are like that at all, I'm sure not. The whole idea of cyber sex or phone sex is weird to me. I only want the real thing but I only want that from one person, the one I love and that loves me, now if I could just find her..lol | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 12:57:34 PM | i don't even know what that is. sex is something that a man and woman can only do in person. this so called cyber sex, or for that matter phone sex, is not sex at all.
Umm no. Ok let me explain to those that need clarifiacation.
First off, some of you people REALLY need to open your mind.
Masturbation can be considered a form of sex.
Sex with one's self, and don't deny it, EVERYONE DOES OR HAS DONE IT AT ONE POINT IN THEIR LIVES. It's a part of life. There's nothing wrong or unhealthy about it, so for those that think there is, GROW UP & start maturing!
Now look at it this way.
If you are someone that masturbates then fine. It's all fine, fun and dandy, but isn't sex much more fun & enjoyable when shared with someone?
That's where the concept of cyber and phone sex comes from.
Here's an example:
Let's say Jane is regularly having sex with John (whether they're in a romantic relationship or FWB [friends with benefits] doesn't matter).
Now John and Jane don't have the luxury of seeing each other anytime they please for whatever reason(s). Sooo, whenever either of them are feeling "in the mood" and is going to pleasure themselves, they decide to contact the other (through whatever means...phone or computer) and engage in their phone or cyber fun.
It's not that much different than masturbating on your own, BUT it's a lot more enjoyable because there's someone to share in it with. It's more stimulating (at least mentally, if not physically as well [remember, the mind controls the body] ).
Whether you're on cam with someone and can watch them/they can watch you (definately stimulating to those with voyeuristic tendancies), or you're on the phone with someone, the fact of the matter is that it's not just you alone engaging in the activity. There's someone else to help stimulate you. They can tell you (or even show you) things that help stimulate you.
Also remember this. There are certain types of people that enjoy being watched. It's one of the reasons that you have men & women in porn/adult movies & magazines.
Knowing someone's watching excites them. It stimulates them sexually. Some men & women will blatently do naughty things if they know they are being watched. Sometimes if someone knows one of their neighbours is watching them through a window, they'll pretend to not notice they're being watched and will get undressed, etc.
Some people do it (go on display as they're being watched) just be be naughty and have a little fun/excitement in their day, whereas some will do it because it actually turns them on.
Some people actually do have that kind of character, and there's nothing wrong with that. Life is too short to be uptight and prudish. Big deal, we were all born naked and in reality were supposed to walk this earth naked.
We all know what the male and female body parts look like. 
Here's another example: Maybe you have a fetish for something. Reading about it or hearing about it turns you on. Well that person can talk to you about it whether it's online or on the phone and that in itself will help stimulate you; moreso that just you thinking/imagining about it on your own.
It's just like how people can read stimulating material or hear stimulating things and get turned on. Some women read romance novels and get turned on. Some people read "adult type" literature (raunchy stories) and get turned on.
I've had conversations on the phone before with women that were sexually aroused, and I've helped stimulate them and bring them to climax. It wasn't a big deal to me. Sometimes I was in the mood too, sometimes I wasn't but I'm comfortable with my sexuality.
Nobody is saying they wouldn't have been able to reach that point on their own, BUT, obviously it was more sexually gratifying for them to hear someone talk dirty to them, as opposed to them just laying there by themself and having to imagine things.
Sex (no matter what form) is USUALLY more fun & enjoyable when shared with someone. We all know (especially men) that having a partner isn't always possible, don't we?
Therefore, isn't something better than nothing? Isn't sharing in it with someone. in whatever way possible, better than enduring through it completely alone?
See that's the problem with alot of people. People are so spoiled with always having to get their way, that they can't find alternate ways of finding contentment.
I've had conversations with some women that haven't had sex in a long time and were craving it, YET, they wouldn't pleasure themselves.
I was always taught to "make do with what you have in life". "Try to be content with what you have" (at least until you can get better). Well that goes with everything in life, not just sex but I'm going to use it as an example here. If you're sexually aroused and need fullfilment (man OR woman) then MAKE DO WITH WHAT YOU HAVE. If you don't have a parnter you're sexually involved with then hey, you were given two hands weren't you? LOL
Life's to short to go about depriving one's self of their needs.
What's wrong with masturbation?
It's the safest form of sex there is!
You can get it anytime & anywhere (well, anywhere to a certain degree ) you so please. You don't have to depend on anyone else for it.
You know you will be pleasured AND climax/orgasm.
Plus, it's as safe is safe gets, no STD's or pregnancy to worry about.
none of this is possible doing "cyber". that is just sick. if a man tells you he wants to "cyber", dump his ass and keep looking. he's not a man, he is a freak.
Get out of the caveman era dude and stop labeling people.
Different strokes for different folks! (pun intended )
I'm not saying for eveyone to go and approach strangers for random cyber sex. But there are some that get turned on by the idea of sex with someone random. It's not just men that have done so (random sex) throughout time. Women have as well.
At least the phone/cyber concept adds safety & convienence.
Yes, obviously it's not as enjoyable as engaging in sex with someone in person. It's more enjoyable than masturbating on your own though. I guess you could say it's in the middle of masturbating and having sex with a partner in person.
To each their own.
I'm just trying to show different perceptions of things and educate those that suffer from a lack of an open-mind. Those that are unable to "think outside the box" or the "norm".
Some people are into anal sex. Personally, I'm not, but I'm going to knock those that are. Same with those are are into BDSM, not my cup of tea but I'm not going to sit there and start calling those that are, "FREAKS", "BOZOS", "SICK", "PERVERTED" or label/belittle them in anyway way.
I'd expect that from an immature little 12 yr old that didn't know any better. Not a grown 50 yr old man!
Some people like to have sex in public with their partner. Hey if that's their cup of tea then fine. Others are into fetishes, cheers to them. Whatever makes them happy.
If people kept more of an open mind, and used their time more productively, instead of attacking others with preferences different than their own; this world would be a much better place. There would be less hatred.
We'd have less crimes, hate crimes especially and more in harmony throughout society AND in the world we live in.
 &  to all
oh and p.s
to the OP, no, not everyone guy is into cybersex. if that's not your cup of tea then just keep searching.
REGARDING THE MEN AND WOMEN (BELIEVE ME THERE ARE WOMEN TOO) THAT ARE INTO CYBERSEX. CYBERSEX IS NOT MEANT TO REPLACE SEX WITH A PARTNER IN "REALITY" BUT TO SUPPLIMENT SEX, OR LACK OF SEX UNTIL A PARTNER IS FOUND.
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 2:34:56 PM | You give true insight into your lack of accomplishment with your line:
"Are there any true gentlemen left?"
gosh .. I dunno Anglefish, "Are there any true ladies left?"
If you have to ask, it's because you've blinded yourself to the world.
"Yes, of course there are true gentlement left"
You're just too picky to see them, most likely blinded by your list of 'demands' in a good mate.
If you're asking questions like that, then should you bump into a 'true gentleman' you won't notice him because he's not tall, dark, rich and handsome. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 2:43:42 PM | If a guy does try to initiate cyber sex with me, the only thing he's going to get is my cyber foot in his cyber a**.
Is that some type of foreplay?  | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 2:56:06 PM | | I have to side with the guys on this one.....saying all men just want cyber sex is like saying all women have 5 pd. warts on the end of their nose's....you don't have a wart do you?.....anyways....that is my 5 pd opinion....lol | |
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Posted: 4/24/2007 4:21:38 PM | | I once had a g/f who rang me up one day, she was at work and couldnt stop thinking about me or wait to get home. Yes, she was feeling horny and she told me so... plainly! Yes I found it a turn on that my then g/f was thinking about me like this, wanting me, we didnt cyber, i DONT cyber but I have to say, a g/f letting me know how much she wants and loves me is fantastic. It did give me an insight and understanding of why people do it. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/24/2007 4:50:30 PM | There are ALOT of gentlemen on this site! I've never, to this date (and I've had another profile on here before) been contacted for cyber sex. I'll tactlessly copy and paste a few things you've written on the forums that will give out the WRONG impressions:
READY AND WILLING "Why did I think it would? I'm going out and getting me some tonight!!" April 24
HOW LONG HAVE YOU GONE WITHOUT SEX "3 years. And it was not fun" April 23
PEOPLE WHO HAVE A BACK UP PARTNER "My last relationship ended last October and I haven't gotten any since. Yes, I have considered contacting him to "dust the cobwebs" but I don't want to stir up anything with him again either. So I choose to go without. Whether I feel this way 6 months from now? oh God, please don't let it go that far!!!" April 21
Sorry, just being honest.
I don't talk about sex on here for a GOOD REASON! | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/25/2007 9:31:11 AM | | The answer to this should be obvious ... NO COMMITMENT! Like duh peep ! LOL.. men hate to commit .. u get all the benefits of "sex" and none the issues on teh web . | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/26/2007 12:06:53 AM | I admit that I tried cybersex a few times, and I have to say, it's not all it's cracked up to be. I mean, typing in your words, and then waiting a few moments for the other person to respond? Crazy stuff--not to mention highly unfulfilling! Words on a computer screen will never replace a real woman! I definitely prefer the real thing--and even then with the right woman! Besides, what if the person you're having cybersex with is not who you think he/she is?
And by the way, there are plenty of women out there who are into cybersex as well. | |
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| why do all guys want cyber sex?
Posted: 4/26/2007 2:38:56 AM | | Personally tis not my thing .. i prefer "hands on"... web sex is nothing but plastic to me ..a nd I have avibrator that will give me better results! | |
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