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| Why do girls really care about this?
Posted: 2/19/2008 2:12:34 PM |
as a woman you should be secure enough in your man and your own self to go so far as to take your man to the strip club and pay for table dances all nite long
That's what I'm talking about!
Seriously, thorughout my 10 year marriage, I only rented porn at my wife's suggestion. I didn't need it.
I bought 1 magazine as a gag gift for a buddy, flipped thorugh it and got aroused. Went home, and had really hot sex with the wife.
Now that I'm back on the market, and not getting it anymore, I've picked up 2 movies for myself, but rarely watch them. When I get with a woman again, she's going to have to be okay with the occasional viewing, but it wouldn't take over my thoughts. That's what SHE is for! | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 3:04:06 PM | Watching porn movies or reading magazines is one thing-I'd be more than ok with both of them as I've done it myself-usually with the S/O.
However if a S/O was to visit an adult single's site (where the object is to find someone to have sex with) to watch home made videos, I might have a problem with that.
Most women can feel secure when men are viewing women they're never likely to meet-ever. ......It might be a different story if they were to catch a hot single neighbor
on an adult single's site using her webcam. I might have a problem with that and I feel that I'm a pretty secure person .
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| Why do girls really care about this?
Posted: 2/19/2008 4:30:26 PM | I find it completely unacceptable and offensive. It is a total sign of lack of respect and I don't tolerate it. And don't DARE let me discover you've visited a strip club. I feel this way because if a man is willing to participate in the degradation of women, he doesn't see me as anything more than some interchangeable sex toy, too. You can't POSSIBLY claim to love someone and mean it if you watch that filth. Sex is very special to me and I don't share.
Went back and read some posts...
It has nothing to do with jealousy. So don't write in and say, "It's a control issue. Quit being jealous." It's a respect issue. And please don't call me uptight. Anyone who knows me would laugh themselves silly if I were accused of being uptight! It's simply a personal opinion. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 5:09:13 PM | | well I don't LIKE it when he looks at it, it even bothers me a little bit, but I've never made it an issue, and I would NEVER break up with him for it. Guys look at porn. | |
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| Why do girls really care about this?
Posted: 2/19/2008 5:59:26 PM | | Personally, I can't really have sex with someone that I'm not emotionally intimate with so I'd probably stink at that job, but it's natural for both sexes to look at the human body. As far as "degradation to women" is concerned, that's complete garbage started by extreme femisists who are intimidated by other women. If anything, it is the opposite. Women in this profession probably have more confidence than anybody else. I have respect for people who are this confident. If we're going to go there then I'd say men are "degraded" more than women. They have to perform constantly, usually taking harmful drugs to do so. Not only that, they get very little money where the women can make a fortune. This isn't a slave trading industry. Women do it willing and get rich off of it. We view this kind of work the way we do because of the uptight nature of North American society. The only time it should be a problem in a relationship is if it replaces time with your signifigant other. | |
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| Why do girls really care about this?
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:05:38 PM | The majority of women who have a problem with it are either insecure, extremely prudish, delusional, immature or all of the above. I don't think that they are capable of understanding how a mans mind works. The poster who thinks it's about lack of respect. You couldn't be more wrong. It doesn't have anything to do with that. And the fact that you can defines someone love by what they watch or don't watch is absolutely ridiculous.
Anyway, I've never met a guy who didn't watch or look at some form of porn. I don't care if my guy watches porn as long as it's not illegal or disgusting(kiddie, beastiality, etc.). I have to draw the line somewhere.. haha. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 6:36:01 PM | | I encourage it! Trading porn makes for a good bonding thing. Plus, it's an amazing way to learn about new things to try. | |
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| Why do girls really care about this?
Posted: 2/19/2008 6:38:27 PM | You can't POSSIBLY claim to love someone and mean it if you watch that filth. opinion.
Wow, way to be a judgmental b!tch. Who the hell died and gave you the right to make judgments like that? | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 9:06:37 PM | porn is porn ...always good ..if u are in a relationships or not ...
prolly ppl that are against it are very insecure ..and that sucks for them
i would love to have a bf that i could watch porn with lol
its all about how comfortable u are with yourself and your parner
if after 3 years she wasnt comfortable enought to watche porn with her man or at least let him have his fun..i guess she did a good by breaking up..coz obviously they werent on the same page lol | |
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Posted: 2/19/2008 9:32:21 PM | From the Opost
I was talking to one of my friends the other day and she and her boyfriend of 3 years just broke up, because she caught him looking at porn a few times...
The reasons some people find to break up never cease to amaze!
Or was it maybe merely an excuse she used? | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 4:51:46 AM | | I think the best is when they get mad at you for watching a porn with a girl that actually doesn't even have as nice a body or face as the girl you're dating. They still get insecure and i'm like "if you think I'd pass up you for her you're kidding yourself.. however you're gettin kinda crazy, you know my hand doesn't get this crazy... I miss being single..." | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 7:01:56 AM | | I wouldn't care if he was looking at porn every day! As long as he wasn't having cyber sex or doing anything interactive ie:viewing a live webcam or something. Also as long as he wouldn't then expect me to actually be like the girls represented in porn and act like them etc...Of course if it would take away from the sex life it might become a problem but other than that I have no problem with it. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 7:12:31 AM | I think it depends on the two people involved. If one partner is really opposed to porn, they should voice their concern. If they are not on the same page about something regarding sexuality, they may decide it won't work out. Being too vastly different in how you view sexuality and what is acceptable or not.... its begging for trouble.
On a personal note, porn and masterbation are not a problem unless you withdraw from physical intimacy with your partner in favour of the former. You could always include it in play, or make your own porn (take photos during your intimate times together). I like porn, like watching it with a partner but it can't be the main focus or you tend to lose each other. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 7:18:16 AM | I feel is stems from th ewhole security issue. I don't care if my man watches porn, but if it is cutting into our relatioship (or more to the point our sexlife) then it can be an issue. Some people are addicted to it ... that's where a lot of the probs begin ...
Even still, for some women, it can be hard on a woman with a guy who incesantly looks at other women instead of what I would have to offer ... and put the shoe on the other foot. What worth would one feel if ... | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 7:23:03 AM | Different strokes for different folks. Most guys like porn of some sort, period. We're visual, Porn turns us on. If you refuse to accept this very simple fact about the male mind, you're being naive. That's like us NOT looking if a girl in a short skirt bends over, we can't help it, it's built into us. Don't ask us to change, and no matter how "Good" the guy, there will be some sort of porn that CAN turn him on. Some men simply ignore it, but that doesn't mean it wouldn't be effective if viewed by that man.
Now, you can act like it's a respect thing and all insulted OR you can use that simple fact to heighten your sex life with your partner.
Watching a porn flick with your SO can be a hell of a turn-on for BOTH. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 7:26:10 AM | | I have a serious problem with it! When a man I am being intimate with is prefering porn over me! That is not me on the screen or picture, it's another woman he's lusting after! One of the reasons my 1st marriage broke up! It made me question his desire for me & my sexual feminity? Guys, please be sensitive about your woman's feelings? Thanks! Ms. V | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 7:31:19 AM | I don't mind porn at all. I visit a few porn sites and got some of the guys into those sites and some are hooked on them. And I like watching movies or even making my own  | |
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| Why do girls really care about this?
Posted: 2/20/2008 9:08:37 AM |
I have a serious problem with it! When a man I am being intimate with is preferring porn over me! That is not me on the screen or picture, it's another woman he's lusting after! One of the reasons my 1st marriage broke up! It made me question his desire for me & my sexual feminity? Guys, please be sensitive about your woman's feelings? Thanks! Ms. V
The first thing I see with this post that alarms me is your use of "Preferring". If he Prefers Porn over you, you both need to go to therapy... That means the relationship has problems and Porn was an OUTLET for him, not a CAUSE.
Sensitive to a woman's feelings means not doing something that most of us find natural, stimulating and would like to share those feelings with their SO???
Insecure? OK, did you ever think of hooking up a video camera to your TV and watching yourselves have sex? That's porn and YOU ARE THE STAR...
There's a lot of creative ways to use Porn in the bedroom. It amazes me how many women simply do not understand the male mind... We like to watch, simple, straight and to the point. Porn isn't going away so you might as well get used to it. | |
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Posted: 2/20/2008 3:01:34 PM | Actually DarkDay... there is such a thing to being addicted to porn to the point where regular sex won't do it for a person. Saying blindly this was some outlet is a bit on the ignorant side. You don't know the dynamics.
I understand what makes a guy tick and tend to think more like a guy in terms of porn, group sex... swinging and the like. But thats not to say that any woman who disagrees with me is wrong. Quite the opposite.
But if you had a woman who would rather use "toys" than be with you, then you have a right to just assume. Perhaps that was an OUTLET for your perving every porno site on the net, and the CAUSE was in fact you sucked in bed because once touched by a real life woman you couldn't keep yourself from.... getting off. (No offense intended, but when you assume or use blind statements for everyone and turn it back on someone who might be in the situation where addiction could be the reason, I guess you ask for this sort of response)
If there is imbalance, both need to work it out in one form or another thats acceptable to both, not us in the forum posting world. | |
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| Why do girls really care about this?
Posted: 2/20/2008 3:44:25 PM | cheerymonkey... or whatever...
Who died and gave anyone the right to judge me for MY opinion?
So either I have to be a skanky whore, or I have to be a b1tch...
hmm
I'll take b1tch, thanks. | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 1:28:49 AM | | My niece does nude photoshoots for a living and she is one of the most independant, intelligent and outgoing personalities I have ever known. If any guy told her that she was degrading herself by making $1500 to $2000 for half an hour's work, she would just shrug and say "If you don't like it, don't look at it." | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 10:34:17 AM | "He also said he never had fantasies, and didn't masturbate much. LMAO riiiiight. "
I think all my fantasies would have been about you. You are gorgeous! | |
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Posted: 2/21/2008 3:08:10 PM | pfft!
most men would be shocked at my porn collection.
In my case, I am the one hiding the porn!! I dont hide the fact that I enjoy it...I do hide my extensive hardcore collection....at least for awhile!
thing is....for either sex (I believe) you dont want to be dubbed as desiring every act u watch on porn. personally, if I am doing it in my bed...Im bored watching it!
I wanna see a smiling pornstar blow my mind.....
A guy doesnt want his woman watching a porn with him then thinking she needs a breast job or to do anal to please her man cuz thats what hes watching. How many have watched 1 girl 1 cup/barnyard stuff LOL...and how many would actually be interested in doing it.
I love gangbang porn cuz theres so much always going on....do I want to be gangbanged >>>>HELL NO!!! | |
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