| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 6:25:44 AM | The question on my lips would B why was he so addement that it B in the morning? MB he has g.f. and he could only meet u in morning cos that was only time he could! Think ur self lucky u got out in time! U mite ave met with him n then found out he has g.f. anyway plenty off fish in sea pardon the pun!lol Men eh!Can't live with em ...can't thro em out window! he.he. kidding! good luck 2U!   | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 7:53:26 AM | I was contacted by a bloke I had not even emailed or conversed with, telling me to meet him in his home town. Not only did he tell me which days he wanted me to be there, he also attached the train time table!
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 8:00:51 AM | | if you were interested in meeting, what's the big deal over driving and hour and a half?? some things are worth it, life is about compromises and meeting each other half way and not just in driving distance, judy in fla, (waiting for someone to ask me to drive that distance) | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 8:49:41 AM | | Hello Astrea . 60 miles just to have a coffee? is he deranged? How ridiculous.. I totally agree with you,.. driving for nearly 2 hours just to share a coffee and a few words is scandolous. How dare he try to have you make all the running. I know some of the ladies on here and a lot of the men (not all) think its no big deal for you to do this.. but really.. Why would you waste your time over someone who clearly wants everything his own way. I would have to think carefully about driving such a way for even a dinner date.. at least you would have thought he would have been more generous with his time.. if he expected you to run to him. And this to Thorn.. although you try to satirise the OP post, and are trying to appear ever so clever, and urbane.. I believe you'll find you spelled deign wrongly.. Ha! Astreaa has every right to expect someone to meet her halfway. shes not trying to be a princess... and another thing.. I would have thought it common courtesy to try and meet the lady.. driving alone and breaking down or whatever are still safety issues for women.. if I were a man and I really wanted to meet the lady.. I would go to her.. or as far as I could to cut her journey down.. the potential date sounds like a pompous prat. a little like Thorn actually,lol. good luck OP and dont settle for this type of belittlement. You truly are worth more than that. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 8:59:53 AM | goodewitch,
He did suggest meeting half way. She declined.
"Then he says....well can you drive another 15 more miles to get to the next town. I asked him why and he said ...well that would make halfway more equal !!!!"
She described herself as being a princess. We did not.
I am what I am and noone is going to change me ....I like myself and I love being treated like a Princess ...hey guys...if you don't like being with a Princess, then just lower your standards and I am sure you will find the woman of your dreams and I hope you will be a happy man.
You need to read her entire tirade. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 11:02:55 AM | I can see both points of view but if you had both been talking for a while and got on well., then someone has to take a leap of faith and this is the 21st century so while us females bang on about equal rights, when it suits us we suddenly become delicate little flowers that want the man to do all the running.
A compromise would have been meeting half way and if you had gotten well enough to want to meet in the first place,then perhaps 60 miles and a coffee shouldn't have become such an issue. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 1:14:24 PM |
The question on my lips would B why was he so addement that it B in the morning? MB he has g.f. and he could only meet u in morning cos that was only time he could!
Omg.....you are right celtic beauty!!!!...you should be a detective with your skills!!!....only in the morning means he has a g/f....yes!!!...you totally cracked the case wide open!!!....If he would have suggested lunch, then he wouldnt have a g/f, but only suggesting breakfast or coffee means......HE HAS A G/F!!!!!.....please tell me you are using that head on your shoulders for somthing productive in this world, what you said desrves some major kudos!!!!...
Think ur self lucky u got out in time! U mite ave met with him n then found out he has g.f.
Yes because if he IS gonna cheat, he would drive 60 miles in a town to meet her.....spend money on a hotel room, bang her after a cup of joe, then be on his merry way.....again celtic, i dont know how you became so smart, but you have the OP totally figured out. Im sure he has a g/f, because he only mentioned "breakfast" ....or "coffee"....very key words in the whole cheating game.
quiz for celtic....
I work today at 4pm....i didnt get off last night until 2am....im trying to set up a lunch date with someone...but i can only meet between 12p....and 3p....uh oh...tough one for you celtic....Do I have a g/f?.....I have only set up a three hour window!!!!...this must mean i have a g/f!!!!....do I?....or dont I?....(drama music in background)......  | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 2:27:02 PM | blond and brainy....
I dont think it has anything to do with being a female, male, black, green, white, purple.....
I mean, i dont call anyone dumb BUT....im just saying i think you could strangle her with a cordless telephone......you know what i mean? | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 2:31:52 PM | I am enjoying getting pilloried with messages about cheating in another forum (great to see so many loyal men and women so dead set against adultery...!! yeah right) so I am trying to play the devil's advocate here (however, you can borrow my cordless phone to strangle someone with)  | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 5:26:11 PM | Tell me something Goodewitch.
Is the emphasis supposed to be on what you are going to be doing or is it on who you are meeting?
If the emphasis is supposed to be on who you are meeting then I don't care if they was just meeting to drink water.
The OP has clearly identified herself as a entitlement princess. She did that by saying that if it is for a meal then it would be fine but if it is just coffee then it isn't. So obviously for her it is not about who she is meeting but what is in it for her. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 6:10:47 PM | Hello DRG1301
I meant the emphasis to be on time. I would assume that meeting for a coffee will not be a long meeting.. My complaint was not about only being invited for a coffee rather than a meal.. but because a meal takes longer, you know its maybe worth your while, because you will have that little bit more time to talk and get a feeling for that person.. I dont know how long a coffee meet lasts for everyone, buts its generally no more than an hour at the most for me.. if im meeting friend for coffee. So to clarify my point.. and maybe I didnt explain myself well, (in which case my apologies) I was opposed to the small amount of time that the OP would have had to spend with him.. after driving all that way. Oh c'mon.. look, If i was so busy one saturday that i could only squeeze in a meeting fot coffee with a guy, Id rather ask to see me another day when i had more time to devote to him.. I wouldnt muck him around asking him to drive a fair distance just for an hour or so of my time. you know? And I agree with Sexybabe.. i think it shows more class for the man to meet the lady. say what you like about equality, and whatever, but I would not be impressed with a guy who wanted me to run after him, and thats not me being a Princess either.. please remember that some women arent as independant and go getting as others. Some are quite reticent. Shy even. Thats does seem to be a bit of a crime on here I feel. I would put myself out to do a lot for a man i liked and respected.. but driving miles to meet up for an hour or two wouldnt be one of them. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 6:19:02 PM | Well goodewitch here is a excerpt from the OPs profile if that helps.
It would not be WHERE you go but WHO you are with
Now as far as the guy wanting the OP to run after him.? The only thing the guy was doing was asking her to meet him halfway. That doesn't sound like wanting her to run after him to me.
You have to remember that they had been in regular contact leading up to that meet. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 6:23:30 PM |
And I agree with Sexybabe.. i think it shows more class for the man to meet the lady. say what you like about equality, and whatever, but I would not be impressed with a guy who wanted me to run after him, and thats not me being a Princess either.. please remember that some women arent as independant and go getting as others. Some are quite reticent. Shy even. The OP of this thread definitely is NOT SHY.
You women can't have equality, have your cake, eat it too, and keep an extra slice in the fridge. Only reason I'd make up more of the distance in an internet first-meet is to quell any safety concerns she might have about the meeting venue. It's definitely impresses guys if a woman doesn't assume that "princess" personna, even he indeed is the type to exhibit an over-the-top chivalric personna himself.
The point about meeting about coffee isn't about the time spent drinking the coffee. It's generally implied that if the time spent enjoying coffee together is mutually satisfactory, the date will go on. The subject title "Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!" would be applicable if the OP met this guy for coffee, they seemed to hit it off well, and THEN the guy decides after having the coffee NOT to continue the date. Since this wasn't the scenario, the subject title simply doesn't make any sense, especially in light of the subsequent inane postings of the OP. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 7:11:06 PM | | to drg1301.. I can understand that in your opinion the gentleman asking the OP to meet him halfway isnt unreasonable, thats your opinion, in my opinion I think it not unreasonable,but not exactly a great impression to give. In my opinion, I would think much more of a man that offered to meet me. Opinions differ, and I cant really argue that particular point as it is a subjective thing. For bike man.. My first post here touched upon the safety issue. I would have thought it a wonderful gesture on the gentlemans part to offer to go and meet her, again an opinion. and although you may feel this overly chivalrous. I can only again say that its my opinion, one of many.. and as for equality. just because women have equal rights and equal pay, since when did it really come into relationships as far as men and women are concerned..there are double standards that men are guilty of to, come to that.. and on another level,.. not all women are the same. the same applies to men.. I can only agree with some on here and disagree with others. I dont mind defending my opinions but as they are only my opinions based upon my own experiences and likes. I respect everyones opinion on here, and reserve the right to disagree too. :0 Thankyou | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 7:19:44 PM | | well couldn't you have suggested lunch once you got there especially if things worked out over coffee. My friend with benefits drives 90 minutes here to see me and then spends 90mins to 2 hrs here then 90 mins home...he never complains :) | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 7:27:47 PM | | Just read a gentlemans profile that says and I quote " feminine qualities that attract me are.. independance( but not so independant that you dont appreciate it when a man opens a door for you)" Hmm. and this gentleman admonishes me on my take on equality. Touche'...:) | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 9:37:26 PM | Goodewitch..
Don't ya just love it when these guys put their foot in their mouths!!
I am glad to see that I am not the only woman in this world that just wants simple respect and decency from a man.
Lord knows from what I have seen on this thread it is far and few between !!
To set the record straight for my nickname....I believe it was Bikeman and Thorn that were the ones that originally gave me the title of Princess so I just thought I would amuse them a little by refering to myself as one !!
I could only imagine what they would expect a woman to do for them on a date.
Really now....isn't this whole thing absurd ..over 300 reasons why most people think I should drive over 60 MILES to meet someone for a cup of coffee and since I didn't I now am being ridiculed and some probably want to burn me at the stake or hang me for it!!!
What is this world coming to ......heaven help us
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 10:14:01 PM | | Well, it's lame that he's not into meeting half-way or at least meeting later. Did he give a reason? That being said, 1-2 hours travelling isn't that big of a deal to me. I used to spend more than that going to school or a friend's house when I lived back in Texas. Damn that huge ****ing state. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 10:54:04 PM | This is the quote from your profile on the first date: [ "It would not be WHERE you go but WHO you are with !!!!"]
Here you have made a statement that you are not willing to uphold.
If you are SINCERELY looking to meet someone YOU need to make the effort too. Don't EXPECT the man to do everything. If your not willing to do this then you're not that interest. And in reading your profile you sound more like you are looking for a sugar daddy and there's nothing wrong with that but you should state that in your profile, that way men will know what you EXPECT of them and if they can't or don't want to take care of you they can move on and then you don't have to worry about wasting your Saturdays and THEIR TIME either.
Dating is a TWO WAY street. | |
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| Invited a woman to drive 60 miles to meet for a cup of coffee !!
Posted: 5/7/2007 11:02:58 PM | i wouldnt have a problem driving 1hour or so, to meet for coffee, so he shouldnt have made you...
i would have to travel 3hours just to get 2 McDonalds if i want a burger...eventhough i refuse to eat Macca's......
TEXAS COULD FIT INTO the state of WESTERN AUSTRALIA 3 times!!!
now thats a big state! | |
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